What happens after a Virgo Male withdraws?

So you know this Virgo male thing where they treat you so well, say and do all the right things and everything's perfect, then they disappear to do that typical Virgo thinking thing?

What to expect after that phase?

Will they come back? Do they talk about it? Do they ever initiate another conversation?

What to do beside giving them all the space there is?

Another piece of information: We kinda see each other 3-4 times a week at work. We are both 100% professional about it.

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Posted by LizzyKitty
So you know this Virgo male thing where they treat you so well, say and do all the right things and everything's perfect, then they disappear to do that typical Virgo thinking thing?

What to expect after that phase?

Will they come back? Do they talk about it? Do they ever initiate another conversation?

What to do beside giving them all the space there is?

How do you think and feel about his withdrawal?

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I'm being very patient and understanding. When I texted him and he ignored it for the first time I knew there was something happening, so I didn't text again. He responded a day later apologizing for his behavior and saying he doesn't control it. So I just said it's okay I completely understand. And I only text him work related stuff like working hours, schedule, etc. He responds to those regularly.

I'm a Taurus so I am patient. But I also need the reassurance to know if I should wait for him or move on with my life. I don't know where I stand, and I hate it. I want him to come back.

This has been going for the past 2 weeks. I'm thinking maybe next week I can ask him to join me for dinner, but I'm scared he would ignore that or that it would push him further away from me. I don't know. I can't keep feeling like I'm walking on eggshells with someone who doesn't know what they want. I need to know what is going on and if giving him time is the right thing to do.

So is this some Virgo trait or just a way of any guy who is not serous to act this way?

I think it's more about a person himself rather than about which zodiac sign he belongs to.

Correct I am facing the little bit same issue with my Virgo guy but after reading so many post I think we should take it as their personal choice n should be asking question How to know if someone is serous about us or not.

Posted by Fadnav
So is this some Virgo trait or just a way of any guy who is not serous to act this way?

I think it's more about a person himself rather than about which zodiac sign he belongs to.

Correct I am facing the little bit same issue with my Virgo guy but after reading so many post I think we should take it as their personal choice n should be asking question How to know if someone is serous about us or not.

I don't know. It would be very weird for someone to just withdraw like that after feeling so happy. Maybe it scared him. Many articles and forums wrote about this being a Virgo man trait, but I don't know.

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Posted by LizzyKitty

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Posted by LizzyKitty
So you know this Virgo male thing where they treat you so well, say and do all the right things and everything's perfect, then they disappear to do that typical Virgo thinking thing?

What to expect after that phase?

Will they come back? Do they talk about it? Do they ever initiate another conversation?

What to do beside giving them all the space there is?

How do you think and feel about his withdrawal?

I'm being very patient and understanding. When I texted him and he ignored it for the first time I knew there was something happening, so I didn't text again. He responded a day later apologizing for his behavior and saying he doesn't control it. So I just said it's okay I completely understand. And I only text him work related stuff like working hours, schedule, etc. He responds to those regularly.

I'm a Taurus so I am patient. But I also need the reassurance to know if I should wait for him or move on with my life. I don't know where I stand, and I hate it. I want him to come back.

This has been going for the past 2 weeks. I'm thinking maybe next week I can ask him to join me for dinner, but I'm scared he would ignore that or that it would push him further away from me. I don't know. I can't keep feeling like I'm walking on eggshells with someone who doesn't know what they want. I need to know what is going on and if giving him time is the right thing to do.

All understandable concerns, truly. I would caution you however in thinking there will be a magical signal from the heavens letting you know when to move.

While timing and what he wants is important, it isn't the only consideration here. For your purposes the timing and what he wants isn't even the most important thing. In my experience what you want and need is infinitely more important in these early stages.

Why? Because you are less inclined to ignore red flags...which sad to say I think there are a few here that you would regret not weighing fully.

Often times because of like and the shower of hormones and chemicals that come with that like, we humans have a tendency to ignore or downplay red flags: His communication style sucks, she shuts down when upset, he is really flirty with everyone, she tends to worry all the time.

If you know you need a partner who is more consistent, more in tune with his feelings or who can process emotions more efficiently then I would strongly recommend you to begin to consider to look elsewhere...

Now barring that...if you really do logically think and wholly feel that you and he are compatible and can make something that will last...then you may need to take steps to make yourself more vulnerable by outright saying what it is that you want.

Its scary sure...but at the end of the day, you need answers...you deserve answers...you want to go to dinner because you want to see him...so ask...why deny yourself that? He may agree, he may reject, if he rejects we can take it from there.

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You are very right. I did think about myself, and I thought why should I be molding myself to meet his expectations while he doesn't consider my feelings? It is a bad thing and I am thinking about it seriously. I wouldn't want to deal with that for long.

According to what I heard and read so far about Virgos, it's just what they do. And it matched every single thing written. The last time this guy and I were together, everything was perfect. He hasn't been in a serious relationship for 5 years and he told me he's serious about me. I'm an educated, intelligent, sweet, caring and loving woman who has 4 jobs and is financially stable. He's been trying to talk to me for the past 3 years, and now, suddenly, without any warning, I was all in his arms and we had a very emotional moment. I was crying, he teared up (something Virgos don't usually do) and we kissed so passionately. He didn't even want to have sex with me because he wanted it to mean something (mind you, this is a guy who does casual sex and one night stands). There is no way that this guy just lost interest in a blink of an eye. You know? I'm sure somethings going on in his head and he needs time to sort it out. That's the only reason why I'm still holding onto him. I'm not into guys who play games, I quit on the spot. But this one is different.

I just want to make sure that this is indeed what I think it is...I need help from a Virgo guy who goes through this stuff. An advice, or an explanation. I don't think I can have it from MY Virgo guy just yet.

They are fucking their best friend

Posted by Toti
Mine disappeared for two months and announced he was getting married. There is a great thread heart of a virgo man, I recommend you read it. Very insightful. Just Google it, 581 pages of virgo man experience. Good luck!

Disappeared under what circumstances?