Are Virgo men always like this?

I'm talking to a Virgo man, and the conversation and flirting was v 100% for two weeks (we've known each other a year and I've always caught him staring at me and he gets jealous when I date other men), and then we planned to meet up. Since then the communication has gotten a bit rubbish, although his work has been really busy!

I messaged about our meet up and he said he has too much work and that we will reschedule (which is fine) and now communication seems to be a lot better than it has been the past few days.

Is this classic Virgo, or is he just not interested?

Thank you!

He's been hurt before and I think he's interested, but I think he's wary and being a bit of a Virgo about this. How can I show him I am genuinely interested?! Please help!!

Try calling him instead of texting. Don't chase, if he's genuinely interested in you, he'll call.

I'm not sure calling is the right option, I've never called him before and he's never called me! I'm not sure we're There yet

Yeah!! In person it's totally fine. Online...leaves a lot to be desired. He replied to a group chat we're both in but not me...annoying!

As a Virgo man, let me say that I do enjoy being chased. That may not be a unique Virgo trait, but where @MissNguyen said not to chase... I wouldn't agree with that.

But don't chase TOO hard. I like to feel desired, and being chased makes me feel comfortable with you, but being clingy is a turn off.

And if he's been texting just fine, then calling doesn't make sense, either. I love texting all day with my crush, but talking on the phone would be weird and awkward. If he's bored with texting and wants to call, he'll either call you or ask you to call him. That's obviously not the problem.

Here's the problem. You were very flirty for 2 weeks, then you made plans to meet, then he disappeared. You called him out on it, he got flirty again, but still no definite plans to meet up.

Based on that, he likes flirting with you, and likes the fantasy of it going further, but for some reason doesn't think that the fantasy is going to really work. Are you sure he's not in a relationship with someone else? If you're sure that he's not, then why might he think the fantasy wouldn't work?

BTW, when someone says they have too much work for you, that's total BS. I work 14-16 hours a day, 7 days a week, and I have no problem texting my crush. There's no way that he can't find a few minutes when he gets up, before bed, at dinner... something! So this is not a good sign.

Posted by csdude55
As a Virgo man, let me say that I do enjoy being chased. That may not be a unique Virgo trait, but where @MissNguyen said not to chase... I wouldn't agree with that.

But don't chase TOO hard. I like to feel desired, and being chased makes me feel comfortable with you, but being clingy is a turn off.

And if he's been texting just fine, then calling doesn't make sense, either. I love texting all day with my crush, but talking on the phone would be weird and awkward. If he's bored with texting and wants to call, he'll either call you or ask you to call him. That's obviously not the problem.

Here's the problem. You were very flirty for 2 weeks, then you made plans to meet, then he disappeared. You called him out on it, he got flirty again, but still no definite plans to meet up.

Based on that, he likes flirting with you, and likes the fantasy of it going further, but for some reason doesn't think that the fantasy is going to really work. Are you sure he's not in a relationship with someone else? If you're sure that he's not, then why might he think the fantasy wouldn't work?

BTW, when someone says they have too much work for you, that's total BS. I work 14-16 hours a day, 7 days a week, and I have no problem texting my crush. There's no way that he can't find a few minutes when he gets up, before bed, at dinner... something! So this is not a good sign.

That's all very true! We've known each other a while and there was a lot of drama when we got together in the past (we didn't cause it). I'm moving away soon, and I think that might be a part of it.

Haha, he is genuinely very busy. He's not one to talk when he's sleepy either, from what I can gather, everyone that works in the same place is just sleeping/working at the moment because it's a really busy period unlike the rest of the work year

Posted by TomSawyer
He's measuring if you're a ho or not.

Try this: don't date other guys if you're interested/investing time into him.

Or don't tell him about it.

Oh do you think? He always gets incredibly jealous when I mention other guys I'm seeing/when guys hit on me. A friend saw him giving a guy who was flirting with me a 'back off' look the other night, so that feels nice haha.

Posted by annaharris111111
Haha, he is genuinely very busy. He's not one to talk when he's sleepy either, from what I can gather, everyone that works in the same place is just sleeping/working at the moment because it's a really busy period unlike the rest of the work year

I don't doubt that he's busy, but don't let your desires get in the way of logic.

The simple truth is that ANYBODY can find time to text their crush. He's not working 24/7... he has a break for meals, he goes to the bathroom, he lays in bed a few minutes before going to sleep. At some point in the day, he has time to text you, even if it's just to say "super busy, but wanted you to know I'm thinking of you!"

The fact that he doesn't means that he's not thinking of you.

And, well, the guy eats, right? At some point in the day, regardless of how busy he is, he eats at least lunch and dinner. Both are perfectly acceptable times for him to say, "I don't have a lot of time, but would you like to meet for a quick bite to eat?" Even if you said no, he would have tried.

The fact that he doesn't means that he's not all that excited to see you.

Believe me, this is a HARD lesson to learn, and one I have to teach myself constantly!! I hate to realize it for myself, and I really hate to say it to you. But the simple fact is, if someone isn't making an effort to talk to you or be with you then it's not because they're busy, it's because you're lower on their priority list than other things.

Posted by csdude55

Posted by annaharris111111
Haha, he is genuinely very busy. He's not one to talk when he's sleepy either, from what I can gather, everyone that works in the same place is just sleeping/working at the moment because it's a really busy period unlike the rest of the work year

I don't doubt that he's busy, but don't let your desires get in the way of logic.

The simple truth is that ANYBODY can find time to text their crush. He's not working 24/7... he has a break for meals, he goes to the bathroom, he lays in bed a few minutes before going to sleep. At some point in the day, he has time to text you, even if it's just to say "super busy, but wanted you to know I'm thinking of you!"

The fact that he doesn't means that he's not thinking of you.

And, well, the guy eats, right? At some point in the day, regardless of how busy he is, he eats at least lunch and dinner. Both are perfectly acceptable times for him to say, "I don't have a lot of time, but would you like to meet for a quick bite to eat?" Even if you said no, he would have tried.

The fact that he doesn't means that he's not all that excited to see you.

Believe me, this is a HARD lesson to learn, and one I have to teach myself constantly!! I hate to realize it for myself, and I really hate to say it to you. But the simple fact is, if someone isn't making an effort to talk to you or be with you then it's not because they're busy, it's because you're lower on their priority list than other things.

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Hmm, he's not really an online communicator and people always complain about how he rarely replies etc. So I'm not overly offended especially knowing how busy he is with work!

Same here, @MiZLeo, with my most recent Pisces crush (who I haven't spoken to in several weeks now). She kept saying she was interested, just too busy to reply to me or see me. I accepted that for a short period, then I kept seeing Snapchat Stories with her out with friends, at the county fair, etc. Wait, I thought you didn't have 30 seconds to send a text, but somehow you found time to talk to your other friends? That's when I realized that I'd been suckered, yet again.

Maybe this guy is different, I don't know. But literally every time a girl has acted this way with me, it's not because she's super excited to hear from me, it's because she's not that interested but wants me on the backburner... just in case.

I've noticed two types of Virgos. Those you need to chase because they're too shy to even function properly in front of you and those who go hard for it once they're sure you're the one. Either way, i think both types would like to know if you're interested.

It would do no harm to reach out from time to time, in a lighthearted manner, just to know how he's doing.

He is not interested.

I do genuinely feel he has some level of interest in me though - there is more to the situation but I obviously don't want to put it all online! I just wondered if it was a Virgo thing that they can be bad at communicating. IRL is totally fine and going really well, it's just Online that is annoying