What is wrong with Virgo men....

What is up with Virgo men and the silent treatment....for no reason! No argument no disagreement they just close up and stop talking. I think they are bi polar

You found a good one! Me I just cut mine off today........ he didn't even acknowledge my birthday yesterday! My dad is a good virgo very reliable, kind and so on!

Have you ever thought that maybe his cellphone is cut off and he can't respond to you? That would be my first assumption. I just read your story on the other thread....

Um no his company pays for it and he makes more than enough money to cover a cell bill even a large one. I actually thought of that so I emailed him to tell him I was through to ensure he got it...No response!

It hurts bad one day he's very sweet like he was at least trying and the next day nothing....

Oh well. I'm not sure what to say about that. For some reason, I don't think you two were even serious.

You know I thought that until he made the comment a month ago we that we were together and why as I with him!

I'M not like that.....hmmmmmm.....perhaps he just dosen't feel like devulging anything, or is thinkin' something deep, thru? That's usually the only time I am 'silent' as you put it; when thinking/responding in general, it dosen't take me long, but to actually ponder something it can take a minute; ask him. archer, if you think we aren't capable of violent reactions.....whoo, you've got AAAAAALLLOOOTTTT to learn yet.....I can be a storm when someone pissess me off, but I've usually go my emotions in check, or don't take anything too seriously.

I care about this man deeply I could see myself with him for the long run because of who he is on the inside! He had a tragic family situation a few months ago and I really tried to be by his side I know everyday is hard for him

It was a process he didn't even want to be intimate until the right time....which was like 3 months after he said that...he was the one that wanted to wait...shocked the hel out of me

....heee hee I wish he had. No he didn't he just said why are you with me. you could be with tons of other guys why me......I'm like with you— "Whatchu talkin bout Willis?

I don't know. He sounds somewhat indecisive to me. Perhaps he doesn't know what he wants. It doesn't sound like you know what you want either

Know I'm sure what I want. I've told him in every way I know how...More by actions but also with words!

In fact that's one of the characteristics he said he values in me...I see what I want and I go after it no matter what!

Sounds like the last Virgo I was "with." He would make references as though we were together.

Amazing huh— It's like they think you're toys today they want to play with you tomorrow they don't!

He hardworking, caring, extremly family oriented, funny, respectful....can be sweet. He's just a very special person. All the important things I look for in a man and I admire him and his tenacity. I feel safe with him, comfortable...it's weird

I can see that now that it's too late. Right now for him he is dealing with a lot of grief and life right now is an adjustment period for him...I understand that and have told him that however that is not a reason to lead someone on or just up and act as if they don't exist one day.....it sucks and it hurts! I feel as if I did something to him

Thank you I appreciate that! I believe he's just ignoring me...😢 he owns his own company so unless he fired himself I think his employment status is not in jeopardy. I do feel bad that he didn't even care enough to respond to my politely worded kiss off email. You just have to ask why fine one day why silent the next....and on my birthday who would have thought it! You show someone you're heart and think they'll protect it instead they stomp on it and glue to the bottom of their shoe so they can walk on it everyday!!!

Menaremyserious: he just said why are you with me. you could be with tons of other guys why me......

This sounds familiar, be careful because if he thinks you are too good for him and he trying to figure out why him when you can have anyone then he might be afraid of you hurting him and he will move on. It's like well this is too good to be true kind of thing so, then they make the decision that it's over so they don't get hurt.

This sounds familiar, be careful because if he thinks you are too good for him and he trying to figure out why him when you can have anyone then he might be afraid of you hurting him and he will move on. It's like well this is too good to be true kind of thing so, then they make the decision that it's over so they don't get hurt.

That sounds like him....however where he is at in his life now I feel like he's too good for me..but hell I didn't let that get in the way. The worse part is he decides this on my birthday! MY BIRTHDAY.....he obviously did not think that one through...you don't ever screw with a law student on her birthday especially one who is an only child...Can anyone say breach of contract lawsuit!

***however where he is at in his life now I feel like he's too good for me..but hell I didn't let that get in the way*** It's funny that you say that, because for some reason, my ex-virgo made me feel like he was too good for me. It's a crazy mind game that will drive us women mad because we don't understand why they just stop communicating and block us out of their lives and I think they don't no what to say or they are afraid of what they say may upset us so, they say nothing!!

I guess I'm hurt more because it was my birthday...if it wasn't that occasion for me I wouldn't be that upset because he's having a tough year he had a tragic loss so him dropping out is not something new...he told me he tends to withdraw. So it's not out of the ordinary. It's just I would think he would think more of me than to just ignore me on my birthday....that's what hurts most of all!

I guess I'm hurt more because it was my birthday...if it wasn't that occasion for me I wouldn't be that upset because he's having a tough year he had a tragic loss so him dropping out is not something new...he told me he tends to withdraw. So it's not out of the ordinary. It's just I would think he would think more of me than to just ignore me on my birthday....that's what hurts most of all!

Menaremyserious: he just said why are you with me. you could be with tons of other guys why me......

sweethearts_1969: This sounds familiar, be careful because if he thinks you are too good for him and he trying to figure out why him when you can have anyone then he might be afraid of you hurting him and he will move on. It's like well this is too good to be true kind of thing so, then they make the decision that it's over so they don't get hurt.

if someone choose not to get hurt/being a victim/be attacked, then why choose to love? sounds pretty absurd.

I sent an email reminder...I even sent a sms message on my birthday sarcastically saying thank you for the sweet bday message.I'm so luck you're always so nice to me..I got silence as a response

Exactly vgurl why bother in the relationship.....why lead people on...That's when you make people angry and anger makes you want to strike back

don't fret menaremysteries, you never lost him. he will always be with you 'coz that's something that you can call yours -- i pertain to the love you have for him. he will always be in your heart even if he's not there physically, emotionally, spiritually. let go of these negative feelings for it won't do you any good, you are just hurting yourself. stay precious and never lose faith on love. only thing you can do right now is love him from a distance. that so called love both of you have won't die if it's real, i'm so pretty sure about that.

Thank you Vgurl! It just makes you lose faith in love and relationships...you never think that someone will be that cruel to you especially if all you try to give them is support and actions that show you care.

hmms!! that is point, so unlike a virgo or any man in love...perhaps there is need for you to take step or two back and re-evaluate, for this man is kinda weird if he seriously likes you..... and if he does not, then it is always better to let go

Yes that email went out yesterday morning....I hope it makes him cry..If not I'll just ask my dad the psychologist how to screw him mentally!

Exactly vgurl why bother in the relationship.....why lead people on...That's when you make people angry and anger makes you want to strike back

that's normal but it will pass... happy birthday and stay happy always! =)

I never thought 25 would start this way! Thank you 🙂

We were dating about 7 1/2 months....2 months into the relationship he lost a substantial family member(unexpectedly).....I guess I can understand what you're saying vg....but I mean can I get happy bday text something. No one is asking for a parade, balloons a cone hat or anything just an acknowledgement... I guess what I'm saying is if you are feeling like that....why even pursue the relationship...deal with what you need to deal with and then tackle a relationship budon't half a** it!

Thank you virgoangoat!!!! That was really sweet 🙂

And by giving him a sarcastic message isn't going to help. You have to put yourself in his situation. Just give him time to deal whatever he's going through

After the text I sent an email saying I was through and that I felt stupid for ever thinking he could have feelings for me I kindly stated some other things I was feeling then told him to take care!

"perhaps it is one rare one you have..............." ok that's like the 20th time someone has said that after a virgo complaint.....can we all agree that it is AT LEAST 20 and that these people are not individually crazy? lol......

Maybe it's a chemical imbalance...who knows it's like things are going too good and they wake up and say hmmm......what can I do to screw someon up today...I know I can screw up a relationship yup that's it

and then they say wait a minute I can do better than that...let me fix it so she wants to fedex me dirty kitty litter everyday!

think about happy thoughts, menaremysteries. the more you think about him the more you're hurting yourself. don't let anyone control your life especially your own happiness.

both of you need time to think about your real feelings.

it's your birthday, celebrate it with all the people you are presently with family and friends do care and love you. there's so many things in life to be grateful for.

Maybe it's a chemical imbalance...who knows it's like things are going too good and they wake up and say hmmm......what can I do to screw someon up today...I know I can screw up a relationship yup that's it

LOL

Thank you vgurl...I actually just made myself feel a lot better...I sent a mass email with him included of me and my ex(also a virgo) at his bday party this weekend....the picture I think says " I also plan ahead and keep an extra guy for emergencies" Happy Birthday me!!!!

Archer:
you said "virgos are incapable of violent reactions and tend to shrink back:

Not true at all. Not sure about other Vguys, but my life has been filled with fighting and standing face to face. The problem is, I NEVER back down.

I hang out in rough places and before and after my military days I am still known to brawl. I just never START the fights, but they seem to come to me. And because I have a great disdain for stupidity, it makes it even esier to bait the idiots and see how far they can be taken before they start swinging.

To me, fighting is a game, so I don't get that point about the non-violent aspect. But I DO shut people out when I get the mood. Usually due to assessing the relationship, or when I have doubts baout soemthing.