When a Virgo accept an apology?

I was thinking that when I can accept and apology and when not? And come to conclusion that I can accept an apology from someone in two conditions:

1. First if you prove me wrong. Do a convincing argument with me and prove that it was my mistake too, if you did something wrong then I did something wrong too, or you were trying to say something else but I perceived it wrongly etc.. I won't even ask an apology from you, instead of it I??ll say sorry to you if I'm convinced of my fault.

2. Second if you accept honestly that you have no excuse for what you did but you are missing me badly, want me back and promise to not do it again. If I'm convinced about your love and sincerity then I??ll accept your apology at once with a crystal clear heart.

Now the background of this thinking process is that my friend is asking an apology from me, want be back as friend but I'm not accepting it. Long story short: my friend hurt me deeply, we broke up, he disappeared for 2 months, then came back and started sending me emotional forward messages, called me and asked me to be friends again. He was in a very chill and cool mood and that's what made me fuming with anger that I was extremely hurt, thinking 24/7 what he did for last 2 months and he came back in such cool mood as if nothing happened at all. If he give any justification or explanation for what he did instead of sending me emotional messages or if there was some hint that he is as sad & hurt as me, or missed me as much as I missed him then I would consider accepting his apology but his style of asking apology just killed all chances for him.

What about you Virgos? When do you accept apology and when not?

why would someone apologize to YOU if YOU were wrong?

virgos are fucking nuts. thanks for proving that you're all self-righteous assholes.

Posted by caligula
why would someone apologize to YOU if YOU were wrong?

virgos are fucking nuts. thanks for proving that you're all self-righteous assholes.

And how do you know if it was me who was wrong or vice versa?

By the way question is not about why would someone apologize to me, because he is already apologizing to me, question is about if I'm ACCEPTING his apology or not. And when a Virgo accept an apology and when not.

And one thing more, I asked this question from Virgos only.

lol! wuuuuuut?

Posted by itsnoteasybeingavirgo
I was thinking that when I can accept and apology and when not? And come to conclusion that I can accept an apology from someone in two conditions:

1. First if you prove me wrong.

given your clarification, yup, you're all psychos

Posted by itsnoteasybeingavirgo
I was thinking that when I can accept and apology and when not? And come to conclusion that I can accept an apology from someone in two conditions:

1. First if you prove me wrong. Do a convincing argument with me and prove that it was my mistake too, if you did something wrong then I did something wrong too, or you were trying to say something else but I perceived it wrongly etc.. I won't even ask an apology from you, instead of it I??ll say sorry to you if I'm convinced of my fault.

I can understand what you are trying to say. First of all it takes a lot to make a Virgo angry. And even if they are angry they will think thousand times before showing their anger to you. Virgos are perfectionist and they hate to make mistakes so if your make them realize that they made some error in showing their anger to you then yes, they will feel so embarrassed and ashamed and instead of asking apology from you they will start apologizing to you.

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2. Second if you accept honestly that you have no excuse for what you did but you are missing me badly, want me back and promise to not do it again. If I'm convinced about your love and sincerity then I??ll accept your apology at once with a crystal clear heart.

I read this passage on net about —How to Apologize to a Virgo??

http://www.ehow.com/how_2178968_apologize-virgo.html<BR>
1. Apologize sincerely and explain what happened, even if you think it makes you look bad. They value the truth above all, and they know that nobody is perfect.
2. Do something fun, silly or even goofy. It doesn't have to be a trip to Disneyland, but anything that involves a lot of fun, silliness and laughter will do the trick.
3. If there's an issue to be dealt with, sit and talk about it. Look for ways to make sure it doesn't continue to be a problem. If possible, ask for their help with it. They'll be glad to do whatever they can.

Point no.1 just explain what you are saying. All what we want is sincerity and truth. Otherwise we knows well that nobody is perfect.

Posted by itsnoteasybeingavirgo

Now the background of this thinking process is that my friend is asking an apology from me, want be back as friend but I'm not accepting it. Long story short: my friend hurt me deeply, we broke up, he disappeared for 2 months, then came back and started sending me emotional forward messages, called me and asked me to be friends again. He was in a very chill and cool mood and that's what made me fuming with anger that I was extremely hurt, thinking 24/7 what he did for last 2 months and he came back in such cool mood as if nothing happened at all. If he give any justification or explanation for what he did instead of sending me emotional messages or if there was some hint that he is as sad & hurt as me, or missed me as much as I missed him then I would consider accepting his apology but his style of asking apology just killed all chances for him.

It is natural that you wanted an explanation of his bad behavior and his absence (TRUTH) or some hint that he missed you as much as you missed him (SINCERITY). And when you find that both of these things are lacking in his apology then you refused to accept it.

Posted by itsnoteasybeingavirgo


What about you Virgos? When do you accept apology and when not?

"Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."

I totally follow this advice. I can accept an apology from a friend one or two times as everybody deserve few chances but if a "friend" hurts me over and over again, then a pattern is starting to develop and its best to END with this type of person by not accepting apology because they don't care about you.

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Posted by itsnoteasybeingavirgo

2. Second if you accept honestly that you have no excuse for what you did but you are missing me badly, want me back and promise to not do it again. If I'm convinced about your love and sincerity then I??ll accept your apology at once with a crystal clear heart.

I read this passage on net about —How to Apologize to a Virgo??

http://www.ehow.com/how_2178968_apologize-virgo.html<BR>
1. Apologize sincerely and explain what happened, even if you think it makes you look bad. They value the truth above all, and they know that nobody is perfect.
2. Do something fun, silly or even goofy. It doesn't have to be a trip to Disneyland, but anything that involves a lot of fun, silliness and laughter will do the trick.
3. If there's an issue to be dealt with, sit and talk about it. Look for ways to make sure it doesn't continue to be a problem. If possible, ask for their help with it. They'll be glad to do whatever they can.

Point no.1 just explain what you are saying. All what we want is sincerity and truth. Otherwise we knows well that nobody is perfect.

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but virgos don't know how to apologize sincerely as the OP has revealed.

in your response to #1, you said that the virgo wants an apology from another person because the virgo lost his/her cool. again, wtf?!

I feel shame.

Posted by aishid

Posted by itsnoteasybeingavirgo


What about you Virgos? When do you accept apology and when not?

"Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."

I totally follow this advice. I can accept an apology from a friend one or two times as everybody deserve few chances but if a "friend" hurts me over and over again, then a pattern is starting to develop and its best to END with this type of person by not accepting apology because they don't care about you.

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I agree with you completely "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."

Shame on me for I was being fooled by this person many times. He hurt me countless times, disappeared and then came back as if nothing happened, no explanation, no promise that I won't do this again. Yes, you are right, a pattern was developed that he can insult me; hurt me whenever he is in bad mood. And when that phase of bad mood passes and he is in good mood then I have to accept him back without asking any explanation for his bad behavior. It was crushing my self-respect since long and at last that point came when I said to myself —Enough is Enough??.

Posted by caligula
in your response to #1, you said that the virgo wants an apology from another person because the virgo lost his/her cool. again, wtf?!

I suspect that you've completely misread the OP. Don't worry though, I'm sure that you'll be forgiven for it.

Posted by caligula
lol! wuuuuuut?

Posted by itsnoteasybeingavirgo
I was thinking that when I can accept and apology and when not? And come to conclusion that I can accept an apology from someone in two conditions:

1. First if you prove me wrong.

given your clarification, yup, you're all psychos

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Says the girl with a Lily Allen video in pink frames in her profile. Oh, yeah, we are the ones who are nuts 🙂

Posted by itsnoteasybeingavirgo


I agree with you completely "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me."

Shame on me for I was being fooled by this person many times. He hurt me countless times, disappeared and then came back as if nothing happened, no explanation, no promise that I won't do this again. Yes, you are right, a pattern was developed that he can insult me; hurt me whenever he is in bad mood. And when that phase of bad mood passes and he is in good mood then I have to accept him back without asking any explanation for his bad behavior. It was crushing my self-respect since long and at last that point came when I said to myself —Enough is Enough??.

Did you give him any reason to do that?
I had done the disappearing act a few times with my Aquarius (who was a completely self-centered psycho, among other things) but only after I've been told that she never wants to see me again and a lot of others insulting things. Yet, I was the one apologizing later, which I shouldn't have.
So, did you do anything to trigger that reaction?

If someone has a problem with you, they have the option of either addressing the problem directly (with the intention of resolving it) or leaving you alone. Why waste time trying to decipher what set him off? Nobody should have to babysit an adult.


{By the way, isn't Virgoan snark supposed to be the stuff of legends? Surely we can all strive to deliver better retorts than "no u"? I'm not trying to be critical, of course, I'm merely attempting to contribute to your ongoing quest for self-improvement. ^_^}

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Did you give him any reason to do that?
I had done the disappearing act a few times with my Aquarius (who was a completely self-centered psycho, among other things) but only after I've been told that she never wants to see me again and a lot of others insulting things. Yet, I was the one apologizing later, which I shouldn't have.
So, did you do anything to trigger that reaction?

Well he does like this all the time and with everyone. He has double standards for him and for others. If you called him and he didn't answer then he was busy but if he called you and you didn't answer then he will get annoyed. if you ask for hang out and he refused because he is busy then it's a valid accuse but if he asked you to hang out and you refused because you are busy then he will get annoyed and in this annoyance he will stop talking to you and stop answering your calls and messages for months till he get sorry from you multiple times. He actually likes to have king-slave kind a relationship in which other person act according to his moods.

I am a Virgo, It is easy for me to forgive someone but to take them back is hard. I can get rid of someone and leave them alone forever and not think twice about it. If someone keeps hurting you, leaving you, and lying to you then you need to leave them alone and carry about on your merry little way to someone who won't do those things to you or you will forever be held captive by this person who makes you miserable, forgive them and move on. I dont know what it is but we love to hold onto people who hurt us -- oh no i know what is it, its the fact we always want to help people and we think we can fix them. YOU CAN NOT FIX HIM, leave him alone and don't apologize, stop hurting yourself more and worrying yourself and overanalyzing like we always do. What Sign is he?