Wtf goin on here virgoman and exvirgogalfriend

Long story short...have this girl ...knew since i was 12...we met by almost fightin...i was cool with her cousin...she became my closest friend...my ole guy bf's brother was someone both of us knew...she had a friendship with him and they had history together... throughout the years her and I had issues goin on but we never solved em we just lefted them alone...we have stopped talkin to eachother periotially because it had started pissin me off how dumb she was bein...i lived with her in 06 ,helped her out with bills and cleanin her house...she called one night after i got off work ...told me i had someone playin on her phoneand told me she wanted me out her house(so im like wtf)Well time went by and we got back intouch ....still the same stupid butter...recently though...virgo gal and I fell out got back around eachother then virgo man moved back in the area ...so one day i went to her house and a few minutes later he came ...him and i began seein eachother from there...but her and i got more problems from there...he and i had problems from her...a few nights ago she called me and wanted me to hang out(which I had not done in a month with her)...He was there we were supposed to drank somethin and chill(just enjoy eachother)We were playin a game and she decided to stop...she started thinkin and said she was uncomfortable...started talkin bout deep thoughts...I said I did not come here to do this butter...from there we all started puttin all our issues out that had us so spaced...he said he felt his homegul and his lady were cool so he thought we were just gonna all be able to just chill(bests of both world)but then her and I got spaced so now he felt we needed to put it in the air whats goin on here...I then said she began actin funny when i got with him...and we had just started back hangin around eachother from the last fallin out...then I started talkin to him...she wasnt doin much talkin ...normally she would have said somethin to someone ....i put everythin i had to say about the whole situation on the table ...told them if they have somethin to say speak now or forever hold ya peace...she just was lookin...instead of tryin to make this man see that i was tellin the truth about what i was sayin she looked at me like(i want him treetrunk you gone and just let go so i can get him )That is when I said to him and her maybe yall both want each other and yal really dont wanna tell the truth about how yall feel and yall bought me in this bullbutter of yall t

Then I told them since I was causin so many problems by talkin to him..not talkin to her...and they both couldnt understand what the treetrunk i was sayin then i would stay the treetrunk out of both of their lives....he said thats whats up and i got up and lefted...

before i said all of that he said he realized then form the conversation that it wasnt him who caused us to not be friends...he says we both were holdin grudges and all of us have problems...but i said its gonna be me who loses everyone ..no man no friend even though that virgo gal was a frenemy to me not a friend...it has always seemed to be like she was jealous of me .. i have always spoke my mind if i had a problem ...she always would act like she felt bad after anytime i told her that we were not ok....he and i were goin ok until i went down to her house and chilled with them ...my mom says if he is a true virgo and really cares anything about me then he will give me a few days to cool and he will be callin me r comin around other wise he doesnt care...she says virgo gal will be back around to and that the virgo guy will respect me for what i had done by speakin my mind because they respect that ...what I wanted to know here is what does my fellow zodiac brothers and sisters think here...?

1. You're intuition about her is probably right. She's probably jealous of you. And if it's not jealousy, it's definetely SOMETHING!

2. Your mom was right. If your man truly cared about you, he wouldn't let you go that easily. It's noble of him to risk losing you so that he won't cause problems in your relationships with others, but at the same time, it shouldn't have been THAT easy for him to just up & walk away from you either

3. You 2 probably shouldn't be friends at all. There's too much tension. And every time you 2 become friends again, you never take the time to air out your feelings or get things off your chest from before when you fell out the last time, therefore all this tension will continue to build up

4. She may never tell you what's truly bothering her. Just b/c you keep it real & put all your cards on the table doesn't mean that others will, even if you beg them too. Some people take certain feelings/things to the grave. This is something you may have to accept.

5. If you all kicking it together always ends up causing problems, STOP kicking it when all of you guys are present. Spend time with her alone as her friend & then make separate plans to be with your boyfriend, atleast for now OR until you guys can all 3 kick it w/o any problems. Plus, it's not good to have your man around all your friends 24-7/every time you see him, anyways

6. Why are you really holding on to this friendship? What are you gaining from it? Seems like the friendship with her has caused you more pain, drama, grief & problems than it has helped or enhanced your life in any way. If you don't even know why you're friends with her, that's an indication that you shouldn't be at all.

7. She may want him. But if you truly think that's her problem, why do you continue being her friend or giving her access to something you think she wants? You're setting yourself up by doing that

8. Maybe she's the kind of friend that wants you all to herself. She's miserable & unhappy, therefore it literally (and irrationally) bothers her when she sees you spreading out your attention to anyone other than her. And people like this are even worse when the person you're also kicking it with makes you smile & makes you happy.

If you & your man have a great relationship, this probably bothers her b/c that's something she doesn't have & wishes she has.

So perhaps, her anger isn't really towards you personally. It's that you represent the kind of woman that she wants to be. You have the same things she wishes she has, therefore she takes her anger & frustrations out on you when really her problem is that she's lacking self-esteem & the ability to go get the very things she sees that you have

Either way, do something DIFFERENT this time. Instead of jumping back into a turbulent friendship with her, call it quits for right now. Focus on you & your relationship with your man since that seems to be the only consistent & stable thing going on compared to your friendship with her.

When she's ready to put her cards on the table, keep it real with you & air everything out, THEN discuss being friends again. But again, accept that she may never do that.

Posted by 24capgal18

...i got up and lefted...

You lefted?



Question: Did you actually graduate 3rd grade, or did they just promote you to higher ones to save you from further embarrassment as each year passed?

Posted by 24capgal18

Long story short...

Long story short would be more like ......


The man I like has befriended a woman I don't like. It pissed me off when I found out about it, so I threw a fit, demanding the two of them to speak their feelings about each other to me. When they didn't, I left (lefted) both of them and now I'm even more pissed off because the man I like didn't chase after me like I expected him to do. Now what do I do?

@24capgirl18 -Check out my answer to this question in Virgo/Capricorn Friendship Gone Sour page #1.

Posted by krysrenee7
7. She may want him. But if you truly think that's her problem, why do you continue being her friend or giving her access to something you think she wants? You're setting yourself up by doing that

8. Maybe she's the kind of friend that wants you all to herself. She's miserable & unhappy, therefore it literally (and irrationally) bothers her when she sees you spreading out your attention to anyone other than her. And people like this are even worse when the person you're also kicking it with makes you smile & makes you happy.

If you & your man have a great relationship, this probably bothers her b/c that's something she doesn't have & wishes she has.

So perhaps, her anger isn't really towards you personally. It's that you represent the kind of woman that she wants to be. You have the same things she wishes she has, therefore she takes her anger & frustrations out on you when really her problem is that she's lacking self-esteem & the ability to go get the very things she sees that you have

Either way, do something DIFFERENT this time. Instead of jumping back into a turbulent friendship with her, call it quits for right now. Focus on you & your relationship with your man since that seems to be the only consistent & stable thing going on compared to your friendship with her.

When she's ready to put her cards on the table, keep it real with you & air everything out, THEN discuss being friends again. But again, accept that she may never do that.

You are sayin exactly what I said...she has told me b4 that she wisheds she was able to express herself more like me...but him and her and i all grew up knowing one another....she had a friendship with him and i was friends with his cousin growin up...so when i lefted ....i said I am gonna stay the fucc out of both of yall lives since it seems that yall have these problems goin on with me and we cant get any understanding....that day i went around there was the first time i had talked,or been around her in a month....i was lettin it go she keeps comin back around pullin me back into this wateful friendship....When you said what am i gettin out of this....i told them that exact statement ....I am not fuccin her...he said then he is not fuccin her...so why is this so crazy....then i just seen her at winndixie...of all lines to stand in she came right next to me in self check out line....But yo

I actually told her that I am not gettin anything out of this except bullshit....its always one incident after another one...then all i have done for her since we been friends ....its just like a house bein hoarded...im cleanin out all the gunk i dont need...this friendship is not meanin anythin to u because you picked all types of people over myself...i have lended money to her and when she gets right never gave me a dime...so i told her that it is no hard feelins we cool but that is why i been keepin my space and i was just gonna holla at ya when ever i see ya...she is pregnant with twins now so i was gonna get her kids somethin ....though why ...she has never done anythin i can think of for me...

so for me that night all 3 of us was there at her house...It was the first time all 3 of us had that talk...i had done a one on one talk with her b4...i had done a one on one talk with him....so when we were all 3 sittin in her livin room he seen that i stated the same things i had done when we had our one on one so what do you think will happen off of my closin statement to him ... i really just had gotten fustrated with the whole situation...we talked about this for hours and she wasnt even woman enough to contribute what she needed to be bein honest about...im sure when i lefted she gave him a mouth full of lies...would it even matter seein as how she didnt say that shit while i was sittin in there...so when i leave why go talkin shit ...so if he believes anything she says then fucc him ...he really didnt have to disturb our shit cuz of her insecure ass....

I had been startin to think into it alot because they kept actin like i was the one who had the problem with the fact that they are friends and they dont like each other but they are cool ...so im like really why do ya ll keep explainin it i said im cool with all of us bein cool with eachother but her and i had just got back ok when him and i gottogether...she tryied to say that we were ok...i let it be known that we were on an every now and again situation and i was around my moms majority of the time.....but she tried to make it seem like it was me with the issues when it wsa all her....i just felt by him knowin her longer than me and him had...i felt he would probable just go on her side...

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by 24capgal18

Long story short...

Long story short would be more like ......


The man I like has befriended a woman I don't like. It pissed me off when I found out about it, so I threw a fit, demanding the two of them to speak their feelings about each other to me. When they didn't, I left (lefted) both of them and now I'm even more pissed off because the man I like didn't chase after me like I expected him to do. Now what do I do?

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correction maam we all been knowin each other...they had a friendship in the past ...when i was younger and i was his lil brother's bff...we all just came back in contact with one another....but her and i have been havin issues