When I was 8 I punched an older boy in the pool who was bullying my then 5 year old cousin. That felt sooo amazing!
He called the lifeguard, but even he was keeping an eye him and thought he totally deserved my fist. No regrets 💪

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Isn't that just FWB?

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Posted by sweethearts
Your lady doesn’t sound adventurous which is what you are. You’ve set the weekend up for the things you like. What does she like? Do you like the things she does for fun? I imagine her idea of fun would be shopping maybe movies and eating out. Would that type of weekend away thrill you? Probably not!

As most here have said, it doesn’t sound like you’re compatible.

So the question really is… do you want to be with someone that it sounds you really have no common interest with?

But one could also shop, eat out, Netflix AND relax during a weekend getaway...

The question is...what exactly does the OP do out there, that she doesn't enjoy? How is his driving? Attitude towards other drivers? Is he going to party till early hours, like a 20-something? I would get more specific details from her if I were him.

OP said that this is the time to go out to farmers markets etc, nothing about partying like 20yo. Just out. Like out of the house.

An entire planet's worth of outside! 😁

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Can there be a compromise? Like some weekends you go alone/with friends if the weather is good, some weekends you go together.
Or she doesn't go out AT ALL?

Posted by spiritofjosh
What’s weird is in the past I would go off just because it felt comfortable to, but I actively worked on that because I mean, it was just something I had to do. Since then (2 years) I have been way more open and easy going, supportive of whatever she wanted, and let her be her. But with her it’s like she has this toxic side she refuses to acknowledge and fix which I can’t stand around to deal with anymore.

Unfortunately the issue at hand is that if this is one of her phases of emotional and mental regurgitation and will come wandering back again when she doesn’t feel so angry then I’m afraid of being a sucker. She has the best good side but the worst bad side and the good side is what always lures me back….if that is what she ends up trying to do which i’m doubting at this point. Anybody else have similar experiences?

It just "is" she has her emotional and mental issues.
It just "is" that you can't stand around to deal with it anymore.
It just "is" that you don't want to be suckered back in.

Let's wrap it up. Things do not align here well enough to continue, so why bother?
If she works on her personal stuff. Great, she can hit you up in the next chapter. If not, you tried your best. Love is not enough to make it work

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Language is already gender neutral.

Not all of them

Portuguese for one comes to mind immediately

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Spanish too. Some words go automatically to masculine form

I knew one couple, very loving, good match. Leo offered what Cancer needed. Cancer needed to go back home to finish PhD, and broke up due to long distance. Have high hopes they will get back together in future

Why do you want to know what to expect?
She is not a healthy partner at this point. Let it go for now and work on herself.
If she thinks you stink while you supported her, then let her think that, easier to let go and probably for the best.

Boyfriend? How long have you been seeing eachother?
This is just lalatalk, don't take him seriously

Ineffable. Collectors item baby

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Posted by sweethearts
Your lady doesn’t sound adventurous which is what you are. You’ve set the weekend up for the things you like. What does she like? Do you like the things she does for fun? I imagine her idea of fun would be shopping maybe movies and eating out. Would that type of weekend away thrill you? Probably not!

As most here have said, it doesn’t sound like you’re compatible.

So the question really is… do you want to be with someone that it sounds you really have no common interest with?

But one could also shop, eat out, Netflix AND relax during a weekend getaway...

The question is...what exactly does the OP do out there, that she doesn't enjoy? How is his driving? Attitude towards other drivers? Is he going to party till early hours, like a 20-something? I would get more specific details from her if I were him.

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OP said that this is the time to go out to farmers markets etc, nothing about partying like 20yo. Just out. Like out of the house.

Aqua:
Me sitting on other side of couch, "why do you sit so far? Can you not come sit closer, let's hug." 👽

Cancer:
"I think I'm a-sexual. I'm not interested in the physical anymore."
Me: "dude, you have two partners and had a threesome few days ago."
Alllllllright then...

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Posted by Maxian
Maybe she doesn't have as much spoons as you have and energy resources run out quicker. Or something else is going on in her life? Is she a homebody?

Personally my Leo bits can't compromise on loving, passionate, intimate and adventurous sex life. So no. You're not the a-hole on that part, just difference in sex drive and maybe not compatible. Doesn't mean that can't be fixed and atleast some effort?
That's for you to decide if you can live with that.

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Ehm okay... yeah sure you don't HAVE to tell your partner everything, but the essential things you would want your partner just to come to you. That's quite basic imo.

I will be happy to talk to her for ya!

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@Gobbie damn! Why you delete? Was it a corps

TMI but pretty much, yes.

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My condolences

@Gobbie damn! Why you delete? Was it a corps

Posted by Gobbie
Issue no.1: That's how most Cap women are. I've said it here on dxp before more than once. You're not going to have great, satisfying sex with them no matter how attractive they are.

Agree! Heard before it's very plain and you need to do all the chasing.

Maybe she doesn't have as much spoons as you have and energy resources run out quicker. Or something else is going on in her life? Is she a homebody?

Personally my Leo bits can't compromise on loving, passionate, intimate and adventurous sex life. So no. You're not the a-hole on that part, just difference in sex drive and maybe not compatible. Doesn't mean that can't be fixed and atleast some effort?
That's for you to decide if you can live with that.

1. Following my dreams and doing what makes me happy.
2. Same answer.

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