GemiMay
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Cap is torturing our daughter
Posted by -Capriquarius
Tipical alcoholic behavior - making yourself a victim propably out of guilt. And your daughter and you should cut off emotions. By making you react he gets what he wants - attention. Nothing what you will say will get to him. You should stop reacting.
He is her DADDY! She knows he is spoiled high maintenance (her words) brat with low consideration for others but he can make her feel sorry for him and she IS! Saying I don’t care anymore but crying!
He is the strangest item that you can’t say anything really bad about him but at the same time you can’t say anything good either!
Fucked up combination! Putz!
Everybody - either - OR. He is - neither! 🤦♀️
He just wants someone to take care of him.. right now it’s just a big wahhhhhhhhh fest. It’s not your fault, ignore him. Oh maybe block him!
Your daughter needs to not put up with his shit. My kids had to do the same. Because when someone will not take the blame, they blame others. He’s made his bed & gets to lie in it. Treating your child this way is horrible. & why exactly would they want to spend time with you when you act like that?
Your daughter needs to not put up with his shit. My kids had to do the same. Because when someone will not take the blame, they blame others. He’s made his bed & gets to lie in it. Treating your child this way is horrible. & why exactly would they want to spend time with you when you act like that?
Posted by PuzzlePieces
He just wants someone to take care of him.. right now it’s just a big wahhhhhhhhh fest. It’s not your fault, ignore him. Oh maybe block him!
Your daughter needs to not put up with his shit. My kids had to do the same. Because when someone will not take the blame, they blame others. He’s made his bed & gets to lie in it. Treating your child this way is horrible. & why exactly would they want to spend time with you when you act like that?
I am thinking if I didn’t leave him he wouldn’t torture her. I would scream at him but he is so sure of his ‘super goodness’ that nothing can change that!!
If only he lightened up with his hysteria - she would be his best friend.
Again - he is Cap - is this his fault or his placement stronger than himself?
Posted by -CapriquariusPosted by GemiMayPosted by -Capriquarius
Tipical alcoholic behavior - making yourself a victim propably out of guilt. And your daughter and you should cut off emotions. By making you react he gets what he wants - attention. Nothing what you will say will get to him. You should stop reacting.
He is her DADDY! She knows he is spoiled high maintenance (her words) brat with low consideration for others but he can make her feel sorry for him and she IS! Saying I don’t care anymore but crying!
He is the strangest item that you can’t say anything really bad about him but at the same time you can’t say anything good either!
Fucked up combination! Putz!
Everybody - either - OR. He is - neither! 🤦♀️
Yes I understand exactly what she feels, because I have alcoholic father and he's exactly like this ( even tho he's not drinking). I do sometimes feel sorry for him, but I stoped accepting he's shitty behaviour and I cut myself from a toxic relationship between him and my mum. It's the only way. Try to talk to her insted of him. You will see results way faster, because those people seem have no interst in reflecting on themselfs and have reality check. Maybe she should try therapy. Being andult child of alcoholic is common problem and it's nothing shameful to consult it with specialist.click to expand
Oh. I am not talking to him at all!
Only to her. And we gossiping. Lol
It’s hard to explain how different his alcoholism than ‘regular’. He is a drinker. He is having it as his only entertainment. He is quiet. Non confrontational. Good food and drinking in front of TV - his LIFE! That’s all he wants to do.
So was his father who lived until 95 and died a healthy man. But he was ‘dying’ all 30 years I knew him. Starting exactly at age of his son now.
So you can’t really blame anything on him except nothing was done. He told me once ‘I don’t beat you’ and I said ‘I don’t beat you either!’ So how is THAT an accomplishment?
So our child has not suffered from his drinking. He was funny drunk. Not showing being hammered or slurring - just smiley happy dude!
You know? Is there damage if he never embarrassed her (because he didn’t go anywhere much). Because he was funny - her friends liked him. He never stormed into her room asking WTF is going on? There weren’t any problems!
Have you seen this kind?
Posted by GemiMayPosted by PuzzlePieces
He just wants someone to take care of him.. right now it’s just a big wahhhhhhhhh fest. It’s not your fault, ignore him. Oh maybe block him!
Your daughter needs to not put up with his shit. My kids had to do the same. Because when someone will not take the blame, they blame others. He’s made his bed & gets to lie in it. Treating your child this way is horrible. & why exactly would they want to spend time with you when you act like that?
I am thinking if I didn’t leave him he wouldn’t torture her. I would scream at him but he is so sure of his ‘super goodness’ that nothing can change that!!
If only he lightened up with his hysteria - she would be his best friend.
Again - he is Cap - is this his fault or his placement stronger than himself?click to expand
My Cap father was not like this. You don’t need to protect your daughter she has her own relationship with him, and it seems they have to figure that out.
Posted by -CapriquariusPosted by GemiMayPosted by -CapriquariusPosted by GemiMayPosted by -Capriquarius
Tipical alcoholic behavior - making yourself a victim propably out of guilt. And your daughter and you should cut off emotions. By making you react he gets what he wants - attention. Nothing what you will say will get to him. You should stop reacting.
He is her DADDY! She knows he is spoiled high maintenance (her words) brat with low consideration for others but he can make her feel sorry for him and she IS! Saying I don’t care anymore but crying!
He is the strangest item that you can’t say anything really bad about him but at the same time you can’t say anything good either!
Fucked up combination! Putz!
Everybody - either - OR. He is - neither! 🤦♀️
Yes I understand exactly what she feels, because I have alcoholic father and he's exactly like this ( even tho he's not drinking). I do sometimes feel sorry for him, but I stoped accepting he's shitty behaviour and I cut myself from a toxic relationship between him and my mum. It's the only way. Try to talk to her insted of him. You will see results way faster, because those people seem have no interst in reflecting on themselfs and have reality check. Maybe she should try therapy. Being andult child of alcoholic is common problem and it's nothing shameful to consult it with specialist.
Oh. I am not talking to him at all!
Only to her. And we gossiping. Lol
It’s hard to explain how different his alcoholism than ‘regular’. He is a drinker. He is having it as his only entertainment. He is quiet. Non confrontational. Good food and drinking in front of TV - his LIFE! That’s all he wants to do.
So was his father who lived until 95 and died a healthy man. But he was ‘dying’ all 30 years I knew him. Starting exactly at age of his son now.
So you can’t really blame anything on him except nothing was done. He told me once ‘I don’t beat you’ and I said ‘I don’t beat you either!’ So how is THAT an accomplishment?
So our child has not suffered from his drinking. He was funny drunk. Not showing being hammered or slurring - just smiley happy dude!
You know? Is there damage if he never embarrassed her (because he didn’t go anywhere much). Because he was funny - her friends liked him. He never stormed into her room asking WTF is going on? There weren’t any problems!
Have you seen this kind?
Well in some parts Yes that reminds my father. My father is bit more aggressive and I sometimes think that he's brain got damaged from drinking because he doesn't think rational.
I mentioned therapy because that would help her to live with him on good terms. She would sort out her emotions, stop feeling guilty when she doesn’t have to without cutting him off from life.
You know, the fact someone is good because he didn't hit you or he's happy drunk or the fact he's calm it doesn't mean anything tbh. My father never hit me, nor my mum and he was also good person because never ended up in jail or cheated on her. So what since the trauma happened still and I don't concider myself normal person.
All that doesn't mean people have to stand someone's behavior only because they are good people. That's just my opinion.click to expand
Thanks. Very appreciate your input.
So please tell me what do you consider being trauma?
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