Aqua advice needed

Hey

I have been posting here for a while regarding my Aqua ex and our break up which happened in September last year.

A friend of mine at work who sits next to my ex asked her today why me and her don't talk anymore.

According to him she got quite upset and had tears in her eyes and said she didn't want to talk about it.

I am off to India in three weeks to visit a temple in the Himalayas and one thing I wanted to do is to go as pure as I can, so I have stopped drinking, smoking, and am getting cupping done to get rid of the toxins in my blood.

Another thing I wanted to do was to reach out to people and set some things right, or atleast talk about them, one of those people being my ex as we work together.

I have spoken with an Aquarius lady friend and she says that maybe my ex is confused or still has some unresolved issues. I asked my friend if its wise that I ask my ex to talk and we can clear up some bad blood and at least be civil at work. My ex has blocked me and does not contact me at all.

My aqua friend said this is a bad idea as my ex has retreated to her shell. She also said my ex will come round eventually, when she is ready.

My intentions of talking to my aqua ex are just to clear things up - that's it!!!

So the question do I attempt to contact her or shall I leave it and let her contact me.....

I appreciate the advice given by my friend but just wanted a few more opinions on the matter.

Thanks in advance and enjoy your weekend if it hasn't already started.

Leave her alone. If and when she is ready she will come to you.

Posted by DiamondAce
Aquas probably won't contact you and will eventually pick herself up and move on without ever contacting you. If there was deep pain that was inflicted by you unto her, she'll never look back. For me, I cut off all contact with someone who hurt me badly. What's the point of pretending to be friends? If it was something where it just didn't work out, I would need space at first then if I ever see you around, I'll say hi but not go into details of how I'm doing because it's no longer your business as we aren't in a relationship anymore. It sounds cold but why keep sharing deep feelings with someone you're not in a relationship with? I share my deep thoughts and feelings only with the man I'm with.

So, you are saying that if, after an initial breakup, she would share some feelings (like Im tired of being alone, after 6 years of loneliness and that she is radically changing her life) and from time to time say things like I miss you and feel like we belong together, but then no date, no long conversations, no nothing like before.... what is this? I rarely initiate conversations, she usually pokes me, like 'checking in' into my life, at least once a week. I did not hurt her, I over pursued her, when she said she doesn't want a rs.

PS: how do you feel about the notion of time? Is 4 months of what I said earlier long for you?

@Happy_Aqua yes thats right. She went back to her ex and its as far as i know nothing has changed. I have reached out enough to her and got nothing back.

I am surprised that if she has moved on why is she still affected by me. She could have easily said that me and her have fallen out, these things happen etc.

From the sounds of it she still has some sort of unresolved issue towards me. I thought you Aquas dealt with emotions via logic and move on

Already done the letter @happy_aqua and had nothing back which led me to move on, meet others and start a bucket list of things I wanted to achieve.

Yes I agree its second hand information, but from what I am told, I can believe to some degree its true, just because of the way I get the answers, I know how she behaves and acts etc.

Now finding a way is all good, but at the same time, being a Leo I need to respect certain boundaries and not be too pushy as well, You aquas want your space.

"And yes, to some extend I can deal with emotions through logic, but when I feel something deeply the logic goes out the window and I just feel...." - what exactly—??

To me its not even about getting back together anymore, its more about just sorting out unresolved issues and both of us just being happy.

Its crazy though just how much she has blocked inside her, I think that lid on the jug needs to be opened and she just needs to let it all out.....

@iFemme - So what would help her... ignoring it and being distant.

I understand we work together and both have moved on, what I don't understand is her reactions to my name, is she hurt by me or not over the break up?

When my mate asked her if we were together she got tears in her eyes and said she did not want to talk about it because its personal.

So how can I help with clearing things for her? I would like both of us to benefit assuming this goes ahead

You can help her by leaving her alone. Everybody is telling you this, yet you want to hear something else. There are still feelings in there. She doesn't want to bring them up because they still hurt. Stay away. She will let you know when she is over them. It's very simple!

Fair call compy. I need to tame the Leo stubbornness.

Thanks for the input Happy Aqua. Much appreciated

Lol Aqua females are savages but sooo sexy!