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Aqua girl playing games?
shouldnt have ignored her.
@cappy - right on
@nats - yea, you get back what you put out there. if you only wanted friendship and to get to know her better at this point, what was there to get over? seems you started the game and now that she won't play with you, your feelings are hurt. sincerely apologize for being a pr*ck and hope she accepts it. then learn the lesson. what you did is no way to treat a friend, family member, or a love interest.
@nats - yea, you get back what you put out there. if you only wanted friendship and to get to know her better at this point, what was there to get over? seems you started the game and now that she won't play with you, your feelings are hurt. sincerely apologize for being a pr*ck and hope she accepts it. then learn the lesson. what you did is no way to treat a friend, family member, or a love interest.
if you wanna be friends be friendly. dont play games.
shaks has much wisdom.
Well thats bullshit because she can ignore me and play games and take forever to get back to me on something, stand me up whenever she feels like it and theres all these excuses about 'its because aquas are detached, shes feeling u out, etc etc' well i dont care SHE is the rude one. NOT ME. See when I ignore her for ONE day she flips out but then she can ignore me for several days and the more I try and get her attention the more she tries to ignore me?
I DO ONLY want her friendship. I was ignoring her to get over her because in the process of 'wanting a friendship and getting to know her' I developed feelings and i KNOW she felt something too she even told me she liked me and was a bit obsessive when we'd talk. She'd talk to me EVERY SINGLE DAY and she'd flirt all the time and compliment me like every single minute and send me "sexy" fotos of herself and email me and text me raunchy things and now its when SHE feels like it. So I was trying to get rid of those feelings so I could just be her friend and not have any 'hidden' intentions etc.
But I guess its okay for her to act that way and no one else. Guess she just thinks shes 'too good for me'. Pft.
I DO ONLY want her friendship. I was ignoring her to get over her because in the process of 'wanting a friendship and getting to know her' I developed feelings and i KNOW she felt something too she even told me she liked me and was a bit obsessive when we'd talk. She'd talk to me EVERY SINGLE DAY and she'd flirt all the time and compliment me like every single minute and send me "sexy" fotos of herself and email me and text me raunchy things and now its when SHE feels like it. So I was trying to get rid of those feelings so I could just be her friend and not have any 'hidden' intentions etc.
But I guess its okay for her to act that way and no one else. Guess she just thinks shes 'too good for me'. Pft.
@Nats: Problem is: 2 wrongs don't make a right. You're RIGHT when you talked about how UNFAIR it was to you that this Aqua is always so wishy washy & inconsistent. BUT, if I were her friend & had she wrote this post, I'd be telling her the same thing; you seem to be playing the same games she's playing too. The minute you started entertaining/playing the same games, NEITHER of you no longer had a valid case.
I think you are both doing the exact things to eachother BUT only b/c it's you all's way of protecting YOURSELVES vs. doing so to purposely get under the other's skin. I don't think she's doing all of this to personally torture you, no she's just trying to protect herself by forcing herself to detach from you at times when she feels the stakes are high, that she might be a little TOO vulnerable OR when she feels that you have a little too much control. Frankly, I think you feel/think the same way. And b/c I don't think neither of you are doing these things to spite the other, no one is really more in the wrong.
Point is..what you see is what you get. She might be insecure and/or allow a little bit of PRIDE to get in the way. 1 of an Aqua's biggest fears is giving 50 when the other person is only giving 49. The minute they see someone pulling back and/or changing up on them, they'll run like hell b/c Aquas can't stand something that isn't stable. And I'm sure you don't either, which is why YOU probably play the same mind games the minute you notice her changing up on you.
If you want to be "just friends" with her, that's fine, BUT sheeeeesh give it some time. It may have only taken you 5 days to "get over her" but whose to say that she won't need longer than that to get over you?! Sometimes women either want you ALL the way or NOT AT ALL & this may be the case with this Aqua.
Plus, we ALL know that starting over as friends AFTER 2 people came from a level of having feelings for 1 another almost ALWAYS is a challenge/damn near impossible. And especially if the process of allowing each person to FULLY DETACH is rushed.
She's not being as consistent b/c sometimes Aquas are ONLY 100% available/consistent when they are comfortable with someone/have feelings for them. If you don't want her as a girlfriend, don't expect for her to treat you and/or give you the same time/energy the way she would persay you guys were still dating & allowing things to go as far as it can go. Unless an Auqa is damn near in love with you, it's HARD to pin them down
I think you are both doing the exact things to eachother BUT only b/c it's you all's way of protecting YOURSELVES vs. doing so to purposely get under the other's skin. I don't think she's doing all of this to personally torture you, no she's just trying to protect herself by forcing herself to detach from you at times when she feels the stakes are high, that she might be a little TOO vulnerable OR when she feels that you have a little too much control. Frankly, I think you feel/think the same way. And b/c I don't think neither of you are doing these things to spite the other, no one is really more in the wrong.
Point is..what you see is what you get. She might be insecure and/or allow a little bit of PRIDE to get in the way. 1 of an Aqua's biggest fears is giving 50 when the other person is only giving 49. The minute they see someone pulling back and/or changing up on them, they'll run like hell b/c Aquas can't stand something that isn't stable. And I'm sure you don't either, which is why YOU probably play the same mind games the minute you notice her changing up on you.
If you want to be "just friends" with her, that's fine, BUT sheeeeesh give it some time. It may have only taken you 5 days to "get over her" but whose to say that she won't need longer than that to get over you?! Sometimes women either want you ALL the way or NOT AT ALL & this may be the case with this Aqua.
Plus, we ALL know that starting over as friends AFTER 2 people came from a level of having feelings for 1 another almost ALWAYS is a challenge/damn near impossible. And especially if the process of allowing each person to FULLY DETACH is rushed.
She's not being as consistent b/c sometimes Aquas are ONLY 100% available/consistent when they are comfortable with someone/have feelings for them. If you don't want her as a girlfriend, don't expect for her to treat you and/or give you the same time/energy the way she would persay you guys were still dating & allowing things to go as far as it can go. Unless an Auqa is damn near in love with you, it's HARD to pin them down
What exactly do you want from her?
Is it that you want her to remain giving you the same energy/time as "JUST FRIENDS" the same way she was when you guys were more than that? I hope not, b/c the 1st rule of Aquas is that we are VERY hard to pin down! It takes the average Aqua a LONG time to actually start emotionally attaching to someone & actually giving someone our undivided attention. So if anything happens that shakes up that process or stability, her FIRST instinct will be to run before she gets further attached & ends up regretting it.
When an Aqua (or hell, some women PERIOD) make up their minds about what they want from a man (whether it's just friendship, a relationship, sexual partner, etc.) they don't like to be told that what they want is not within their reach.
And from what you shared, it seems like you are NOT okay with things going past a friendship level. So if what you want is different/LESS than what she wants, understand that she's probably being wishy-washy b/c she might see you wanting LESS (or anything other than what SHE wanted) as REJECTION. And from what it sounds like, all of her behavior seems like the typical behavior of an Aqua who NO longer has any incentive to give her all/continue on doing the same things like she was when her being with you & allowing her feelings to take off were actually a possibility at 1 point in time.
If you want to just be friends, give it some time. Not everyone can "Get over someone" as quickly as you can. And if you ignore her for a long period of time, that NOT ONLY sends the signal to her that you're not interested in a relationship with her BUT ALSO that you are NOT that concerned with friendship either. After all, even "regular ole friends" don't ignore eachother. Communication is important in ANY union, whether it's friendship, relationships, marriage, or hell even with those we only have sexual relationships with.
It may be easy for you to ignore her & yet rebound by coming back a week later BUT everyone doesn't necessarily work that way. To some people, ignoring/rejecting them is unforgivable & not something they can overcome/run back to a few days later, if at all
Is it that you want her to remain giving you the same energy/time as "JUST FRIENDS" the same way she was when you guys were more than that? I hope not, b/c the 1st rule of Aquas is that we are VERY hard to pin down! It takes the average Aqua a LONG time to actually start emotionally attaching to someone & actually giving someone our undivided attention. So if anything happens that shakes up that process or stability, her FIRST instinct will be to run before she gets further attached & ends up regretting it.
When an Aqua (or hell, some women PERIOD) make up their minds about what they want from a man (whether it's just friendship, a relationship, sexual partner, etc.) they don't like to be told that what they want is not within their reach.
And from what you shared, it seems like you are NOT okay with things going past a friendship level. So if what you want is different/LESS than what she wants, understand that she's probably being wishy-washy b/c she might see you wanting LESS (or anything other than what SHE wanted) as REJECTION. And from what it sounds like, all of her behavior seems like the typical behavior of an Aqua who NO longer has any incentive to give her all/continue on doing the same things like she was when her being with you & allowing her feelings to take off were actually a possibility at 1 point in time.
If you want to just be friends, give it some time. Not everyone can "Get over someone" as quickly as you can. And if you ignore her for a long period of time, that NOT ONLY sends the signal to her that you're not interested in a relationship with her BUT ALSO that you are NOT that concerned with friendship either. After all, even "regular ole friends" don't ignore eachother. Communication is important in ANY union, whether it's friendship, relationships, marriage, or hell even with those we only have sexual relationships with.
It may be easy for you to ignore her & yet rebound by coming back a week later BUT everyone doesn't necessarily work that way. To some people, ignoring/rejecting them is unforgivable & not something they can overcome/run back to a few days later, if at all
Yea your exactly right Krysrenee with everything you said. Well I ate my pride and emailed her not long ago just basically telling her to stop playing games, eat her pride and talk to me because im doing the same and I wanted to talk to her and I assumed she wanted the same so why couldnt we just drop the game playing and the competition of ignoring who for the longest and just act like 2 mature adults and be cool again with each other. I also told her that I accept that when I ignored her email and text last week it probably set her off but I had my personal reasons for doing so and whatever those reasons were, im over them now and I want to talk 2 her etc etc.
Then I ended it with "Im really hoping to hear back from you. xx"
Ahhh I hope she replies!! Or else my stalkering nature will kick in lol
Then I ended it with "Im really hoping to hear back from you. xx"
Ahhh I hope she replies!! Or else my stalkering nature will kick in lol
lol Well she might respond. OR she might not. She probably WILL respond, but just won't respond immediately, even if there's technically nothing stopping her from responding the minute she reads your email.
I think this girl just feels a sense of rejection. No girl (even if we don't really want to be with you either) wants to be told that a man only wants to be "just friends" with her. We hate hearing this b/c we're selfish lol & b/c things happen. Feelings can sometimes get involved & there's nothing WORSE than knowing UP FRONT that you'll be turned the other way if you start emotionally attaching to someone all over again. A woman can handle, "Let's go with the flow," BUT Aquas are really only interested in long-term commitment so I'm sure the minute you told her that a relationship was no longer in the cards, she probably felt it only NECESSARY (& for her protection) to start doing some damage control & start emotionally detaching from you. After all, who'd want to continue to let their feelings grow for someone who made it known they are doing the EXACT opposite (moving on)?
If she doesn't respond right away, that doesn't mean that she never will. She might purposely make you wait b/c in her mind, her making it so that YOU'RE the 1 waiting on her/needing her is her way of gaining back some of the control. Aquas hate turning their emotions on (the ONE thing we avoid doing at all costs) all just for the sake of turning right back around & being warned to turn them back off. It's like "UGH! If only that person knew how much of me it TOOK for me to start having feelings, he'd be an idiot to make me regret it!"
It's a good thing that you were straight up & told her exactly what you wanted. Now the ball is in her court. You've told her that you've surrendered to the game playing so now she's gonna have to decide whether she can actually HANDLE being "just friends" with you. And since Aquas are STUBBORN (you have NO idea) & will allow our pride/ego ALONE to keep us from going back to someone we feel rejected us/played games with us, don't be surprised if you don't hear from her for a long time.
I think this girl just feels a sense of rejection. No girl (even if we don't really want to be with you either) wants to be told that a man only wants to be "just friends" with her. We hate hearing this b/c we're selfish lol & b/c things happen. Feelings can sometimes get involved & there's nothing WORSE than knowing UP FRONT that you'll be turned the other way if you start emotionally attaching to someone all over again. A woman can handle, "Let's go with the flow," BUT Aquas are really only interested in long-term commitment so I'm sure the minute you told her that a relationship was no longer in the cards, she probably felt it only NECESSARY (& for her protection) to start doing some damage control & start emotionally detaching from you. After all, who'd want to continue to let their feelings grow for someone who made it known they are doing the EXACT opposite (moving on)?
If she doesn't respond right away, that doesn't mean that she never will. She might purposely make you wait b/c in her mind, her making it so that YOU'RE the 1 waiting on her/needing her is her way of gaining back some of the control. Aquas hate turning their emotions on (the ONE thing we avoid doing at all costs) all just for the sake of turning right back around & being warned to turn them back off. It's like "UGH! If only that person knew how much of me it TOOK for me to start having feelings, he'd be an idiot to make me regret it!"
It's a good thing that you were straight up & told her exactly what you wanted. Now the ball is in her court. You've told her that you've surrendered to the game playing so now she's gonna have to decide whether she can actually HANDLE being "just friends" with you. And since Aquas are STUBBORN (you have NO idea) & will allow our pride/ego ALONE to keep us from going back to someone we feel rejected us/played games with us, don't be surprised if you don't hear from her for a long time.
I know you probably hate hearing about how "typical Aquarians are," BUT honey all of what you've shared, in regards to how she's acting is how the typical Aquarian woman acts when 1. She's been rejected OR 2. Isn't really feeling someone YET (keyword).
All the inconsistency, wishy-washy, hot/cold & "mind games" are all things MOST people complain about when they 1st meet an Aqua. It's just that most people get so confused & feel so mentally toyed with that they end up running for the hills before that Aqua even gets the chance to allow herself to attach to that person.
And since Aquas are VERY aware of how this about them easily turns off others, that is why it takes us so long to attach emotionally. We will NOT allow ourselves to attach to ANYONE unless we are damn near 100% SURE that 1. We trust them 2. That our feelings for that person are actually genuine (a mix of logic AND emotion vs. lust) & 3. That persay we wanted things to go further in the future, it'd be possible. Without any of those 3, an Aqua will NEVER be able to transition over until OFFICIALLY giving you her undivided attention for a long period of time.
It seems like you were RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE with her. She trusted you enough to open up to you & to allow herself to start emotionally attaching BUT NOT enough yet though to where her pride/ego would still be okay giving you "HER ALL" unconditionally & for a long time. That's why it was so easy for her to pull back just as easy as it was for her to jump in. You were right in the middle; you weren't all the way "in" yet.
And hey, I'm sure you got used to her being totally consistent & being 100% down to give you her undivided attention. BUT don't forget though that she probably ONLY showed you that side of her b/c she thought things would progress past friendship. Now that a relationship is out of the question, SHE probably believes in her mind that she'd be a complete FOOL to continue giving you "special treatment." Trust me, she was probably like this in the beginning; you just may not have noticed it. Now that you guys are back to square 1, the original "detached" persona is coming back out. And it's gonna STAY that way until 1. She cuts you off completely OR 2. You earn her trust back
All the inconsistency, wishy-washy, hot/cold & "mind games" are all things MOST people complain about when they 1st meet an Aqua. It's just that most people get so confused & feel so mentally toyed with that they end up running for the hills before that Aqua even gets the chance to allow herself to attach to that person.
And since Aquas are VERY aware of how this about them easily turns off others, that is why it takes us so long to attach emotionally. We will NOT allow ourselves to attach to ANYONE unless we are damn near 100% SURE that 1. We trust them 2. That our feelings for that person are actually genuine (a mix of logic AND emotion vs. lust) & 3. That persay we wanted things to go further in the future, it'd be possible. Without any of those 3, an Aqua will NEVER be able to transition over until OFFICIALLY giving you her undivided attention for a long period of time.
It seems like you were RIGHT IN THE MIDDLE with her. She trusted you enough to open up to you & to allow herself to start emotionally attaching BUT NOT enough yet though to where her pride/ego would still be okay giving you "HER ALL" unconditionally & for a long time. That's why it was so easy for her to pull back just as easy as it was for her to jump in. You were right in the middle; you weren't all the way "in" yet.
And hey, I'm sure you got used to her being totally consistent & being 100% down to give you her undivided attention. BUT don't forget though that she probably ONLY showed you that side of her b/c she thought things would progress past friendship. Now that a relationship is out of the question, SHE probably believes in her mind that she'd be a complete FOOL to continue giving you "special treatment." Trust me, she was probably like this in the beginning; you just may not have noticed it. Now that you guys are back to square 1, the original "detached" persona is coming back out. And it's gonna STAY that way until 1. She cuts you off completely OR 2. You earn her trust back
I CANNOT stress to you ENOUGH that Aqua women are VERY particular/careful when it comes to who they'll start lending their emotions/feelings/heart to. It takes us SO freakin' long to finally allow ourselves to emotionally attach b/c our biggest fear is investing in something all for NOTHING!
And when we finally realize that us opening up backfired on us (you may not see it as a loss, but I promise you SHE does), we even FURTHER justify why we used to be so cold, wishy-washy & inconsistent to begin with. Being that way is our COMFORT ZONE. And if someone is "good" enough to take us OUT of that zone, we almost have the mentality that that person BETTER not make us regret it. And any time an Aqua woman has to start forcing her feelings to go BACKWARDS for someone vs. forwards, it's ALWAYS a HUGEEEE blow to us.
My point in saying all of that is: Don't be surprised if it takes her a LONG time to "move on" or "get over you." Once an Aqua is FINALLY freakin' emotionally invested, it's JUST AS HARD for us to detach the same way it was almost TOO HARD for us to attach to someone.
In order for us to agree to things going back to "normal" again, we would've had to have gotten completely over AND past the situation. Aquas are so good at using inconsistency to make SURE their emotions don't start over-powering their logic. And once our emotions take over, it's almost like we're lost & don't know how to go back to how we used to be again. BUT oh boy, when we finally do start detaching, it's almost like the other person would have to start ALL OVER AGAIN to regain that Aqua's trust again.
Her not being responsive right now is moreso b/c of an inner battle she's dealing with right now moreso than it being b/c she's trying to personally torture you. Whereas you might be able to jump 5 steps & go back to step 4 the minute things get rough, Aquarians have to go back to STEP 1 all over again, which means you can FORGET about it if you're expecting for her to still give/treat you the same. Good news is, you can ALWAYS regain her trust back; it'll just take you longer the NEXT time more than it did the 1st time.
Question is: Are YOU patient enough to "Wait?"
And when we finally realize that us opening up backfired on us (you may not see it as a loss, but I promise you SHE does), we even FURTHER justify why we used to be so cold, wishy-washy & inconsistent to begin with. Being that way is our COMFORT ZONE. And if someone is "good" enough to take us OUT of that zone, we almost have the mentality that that person BETTER not make us regret it. And any time an Aqua woman has to start forcing her feelings to go BACKWARDS for someone vs. forwards, it's ALWAYS a HUGEEEE blow to us.
My point in saying all of that is: Don't be surprised if it takes her a LONG time to "move on" or "get over you." Once an Aqua is FINALLY freakin' emotionally invested, it's JUST AS HARD for us to detach the same way it was almost TOO HARD for us to attach to someone.
In order for us to agree to things going back to "normal" again, we would've had to have gotten completely over AND past the situation. Aquas are so good at using inconsistency to make SURE their emotions don't start over-powering their logic. And once our emotions take over, it's almost like we're lost & don't know how to go back to how we used to be again. BUT oh boy, when we finally do start detaching, it's almost like the other person would have to start ALL OVER AGAIN to regain that Aqua's trust again.
Her not being responsive right now is moreso b/c of an inner battle she's dealing with right now moreso than it being b/c she's trying to personally torture you. Whereas you might be able to jump 5 steps & go back to step 4 the minute things get rough, Aquarians have to go back to STEP 1 all over again, which means you can FORGET about it if you're expecting for her to still give/treat you the same. Good news is, you can ALWAYS regain her trust back; it'll just take you longer the NEXT time more than it did the 1st time.
Question is: Are YOU patient enough to "Wait?"
Well i dont know if im patient enough. I guess taking this whole 'break' as a reason to help me get over her will be good. So yea i will leave it in her hands and i've still got it stuck in my head that im getting over her so when she DOES come back (if she does) then i'll probably be sweet and have no feelings attached.
Should I chase her?. The reason i told her i didnt want a relationship was because i was scared lol of her reaction or what she'd think or maybe she'd think i was way off and getting too keen on our friendship and her and i was scared that would have freaked her out and made her back away.. ughh im so indecisive. OFCOURSE if she had said she wanted more than a friendship I would have been willing straight away lol but what she might have been thinking and her reaction scared me enough to not tell her that thats what I would have wanted if she was cool with it.
So yea if she doesnt respond to me by tomorrow should I chase her over the weekend or just let it go until next week and if i dont hear from her say by wednesday should i call or text or email and be like wats up i miss u?? LOL uughh I should never have gone googly eyed for her or started flirting etc in the first place. Look where its landed me!!
Funny though I have another aqua friend who used to like me and I used to flirt with her and semi 'string her along' I know its bad but to me it was harmless flirting but then I guess she got over it and we didnt speak for a while (i got into another relo) and then we slowly started speaking again and now shes my go to girl when I've got issues with this aqua. And now were super good friends and she calls me every sunday morning without fail soon as shes woken up to chat lol its so easy to have a friendship with an aqua but a relationship uughh you guys are completely DIFFERENT. Its like you gotta tick off a mental checklist you guys have and to me that behaviour is somewhat odd because as a gemini im very easy going. You like me, i like you, lets be together lol. No tests, no nothing and I guess what ruined it for me was was I caught feelings for her without knowing how SHE really felt because she never mentioned or she kept them under wraps VERY well almost to the point i thought she didnt like me 'in that way' and because her hot and cold behaviour confused me so it gave her ALL the control of the situation which left me wanting to know what was going on and at the same time making me fall for her more!
Should I chase her?. The reason i told her i didnt want a relationship was because i was scared lol of her reaction or what she'd think or maybe she'd think i was way off and getting too keen on our friendship and her and i was scared that would have freaked her out and made her back away.. ughh im so indecisive. OFCOURSE if she had said she wanted more than a friendship I would have been willing straight away lol but what she might have been thinking and her reaction scared me enough to not tell her that thats what I would have wanted if she was cool with it.
So yea if she doesnt respond to me by tomorrow should I chase her over the weekend or just let it go until next week and if i dont hear from her say by wednesday should i call or text or email and be like wats up i miss u?? LOL uughh I should never have gone googly eyed for her or started flirting etc in the first place. Look where its landed me!!
Funny though I have another aqua friend who used to like me and I used to flirt with her and semi 'string her along' I know its bad but to me it was harmless flirting but then I guess she got over it and we didnt speak for a while (i got into another relo) and then we slowly started speaking again and now shes my go to girl when I've got issues with this aqua. And now were super good friends and she calls me every sunday morning without fail soon as shes woken up to chat lol its so easy to have a friendship with an aqua but a relationship uughh you guys are completely DIFFERENT. Its like you gotta tick off a mental checklist you guys have and to me that behaviour is somewhat odd because as a gemini im very easy going. You like me, i like you, lets be together lol. No tests, no nothing and I guess what ruined it for me was was I caught feelings for her without knowing how SHE really felt because she never mentioned or she kept them under wraps VERY well almost to the point i thought she didnt like me 'in that way' and because her hot and cold behaviour confused me so it gave her ALL the control of the situation which left me wanting to know what was going on and at the same time making me fall for her more!
Hang on a sec.
You said you wanted to be friends.
She tests the water by sending a text.
You ignore it - hardly friendly.
You ignore her again when she messages you.
You don't explain to her that you need to feel "safe", you just assume she's a mind reader and knows what it is you need.
Talk about bullshit, immature behaviour. Is it any wonder she's likely to play games back or just not bother with you?
You either be friends, or you don't. But playing dumb games is the BIGGEST way for her to think you're an idiot and have absolutely nothing more to do with you.
*sigh*. Games. They are so pathetic.
You said you wanted to be friends.
She tests the water by sending a text.
You ignore it - hardly friendly.
You ignore her again when she messages you.
You don't explain to her that you need to feel "safe", you just assume she's a mind reader and knows what it is you need.
Talk about bullshit, immature behaviour. Is it any wonder she's likely to play games back or just not bother with you?
You either be friends, or you don't. But playing dumb games is the BIGGEST way for her to think you're an idiot and have absolutely nothing more to do with you.
*sigh*. Games. They are so pathetic.
agreed my aquarian friend 😆
She responded!!!! lol. She emailed me this morning with a "Hi, not much what about you, how are u?" and we've been emailing back and forth since so I guess she isnt that angry afterall OR my email to her telling her that we both need to stop playing games and ignoring each other etc hit a spot and she realises that im right. Either way, im glad at least were contacting each other.
Now i've got to work on just playing it slowly and easy. Now that i've got some experience in how to deal with her 🙂
Thanks for the replies anyway guys & a special thanks to Krysrenne!! 🙂 i'll prob be back in a week posting up about an issue with her haha.
Now i've got to work on just playing it slowly and easy. Now that i've got some experience in how to deal with her 🙂
Thanks for the replies anyway guys & a special thanks to Krysrenne!! 🙂 i'll prob be back in a week posting up about an issue with her haha.
That's good that she responded. I guess now the key is to be honest with her, persay she ever brings up the little situation where you both were "playing games."
As YOU said, you gave off the signal that you didn't want anything more than friendship with her EVEN THOUGH your emotions were saying something completely DIFFERENT/OPPOSITE. And that's what I meant when I was saying that she could've been doing the same to you. Her ignoring you wasn't b/c she wanted to be a jerk; if anything it probably KILLED her to ignore you b/c deep inside, I think she really just wanted to talk to you BUT b/c of that fear of rejection OR taking the risk of liking you more than you like her, she played the "role" & succeeded in making you atleast THINK that she wasn't even thinking about you.
Remember, she can't read your mind. So if you want to put some distance b/w you 2 in the FUTURE b/c you get scared again, you might as well be HONEST or hint to her exactly WHY you're being distant. If you don't tell her, she's just going to USE HER IMAGINATION & we ALL know that when you give a person the chance to use their imagination or "GUESS" how someone else feels, they'll probably get things all wrong/twisted.
Simply ignoring her will NEVER send the message that you WANT her. And even though pride would stop the average person from being honest about why they are/aren't doing something, it's WORTH giving honesty a try even if that means you showing her that you are ok with being vulnerable sometimes. She'll respect you more if she sees that you can put your pride down & be honest at a time when MOST people would've easily let their pride get to know. And once she sees that you can't swallow your pride, neither will she b/c of her OWN pride!
The minute you opened up even a little bit & acknowledged that your actions didn't necessarily reflect how you really felt about her (example, you sort of admitted that you ignoring her was more of a mind game), it lowered her DEFENSES a little bit, thus that's the reason why she contacted you again.
NOW, the KEY in keeping her around is in you being consistent. Now that you've already told her that you're done with the mind games (whether she continues to play them or not) you've got to STAY DONE even if 1. She gets distant again OR 2. You get scared again. Don't tell her you're really done with the games unless you really mean it!
Goodluck!
As YOU said, you gave off the signal that you didn't want anything more than friendship with her EVEN THOUGH your emotions were saying something completely DIFFERENT/OPPOSITE. And that's what I meant when I was saying that she could've been doing the same to you. Her ignoring you wasn't b/c she wanted to be a jerk; if anything it probably KILLED her to ignore you b/c deep inside, I think she really just wanted to talk to you BUT b/c of that fear of rejection OR taking the risk of liking you more than you like her, she played the "role" & succeeded in making you atleast THINK that she wasn't even thinking about you.
Remember, she can't read your mind. So if you want to put some distance b/w you 2 in the FUTURE b/c you get scared again, you might as well be HONEST or hint to her exactly WHY you're being distant. If you don't tell her, she's just going to USE HER IMAGINATION & we ALL know that when you give a person the chance to use their imagination or "GUESS" how someone else feels, they'll probably get things all wrong/twisted.
Simply ignoring her will NEVER send the message that you WANT her. And even though pride would stop the average person from being honest about why they are/aren't doing something, it's WORTH giving honesty a try even if that means you showing her that you are ok with being vulnerable sometimes. She'll respect you more if she sees that you can put your pride down & be honest at a time when MOST people would've easily let their pride get to know. And once she sees that you can't swallow your pride, neither will she b/c of her OWN pride!
The minute you opened up even a little bit & acknowledged that your actions didn't necessarily reflect how you really felt about her (example, you sort of admitted that you ignoring her was more of a mind game), it lowered her DEFENSES a little bit, thus that's the reason why she contacted you again.
NOW, the KEY in keeping her around is in you being consistent. Now that you've already told her that you're done with the mind games (whether she continues to play them or not) you've got to STAY DONE even if 1. She gets distant again OR 2. You get scared again. Don't tell her you're really done with the games unless you really mean it!
Goodluck!
Playing mind games/hard-to-get can be fun & a thrill SOMETIMES, BUT eventually someone has to draw the line SOMEWHERE.
You putting up your pride to temporarily protect your feelings in the moment may temporarily benefit you BUT clearly it's not worth having all the pride in the world IF it's just going to cause you to lose someone/something you REALLY CAN'T afford to lose.
Crazy thing is, I think you guys REALLY like eachother. After all, that's when a person's defenses/insecurities/fears come out the most--it's when they like someone more than they expected that can cause hesistation. And now that you know she knows how to live by the "Two can play that game," remember that persay this happens again.
Next time, find a way to be ok with being vulnerable vs. sending her the signal that you want nothing to do with her when deep down you REALLY want her! And I say that b/c her doing that to you didn't feel very good, so don't do that to her. B/c if you do, NOW YOU KNOW that doing so could potentially lead to you guys losing eachother when in reality, you both deep down want eachother so bad!
And even if she continues to play the same games, that doesn't mean that YOU have to. If things don't work out, it'll still suck BUT ATLEAST you'll know that you left the situation being true to your emotions & doing your best to prove yourself to her. And if she messes that up, it'll be HER loss, not yours. BUT, if you BOTH continue playing these games, it'll always be YOUR LOSS too!
Take it slow with her now. Try to regain her trust back just like you probably want her to regain yours. She needs to be showing you that at times when she desperately wants to put up her "WALL OF PRIDE" for protection, that she can actually do something DIFFERENT this time & be vulnerable. I'm sure had she been true to her emotions this whole time (instead of playing 100 mind games), all this wasted time of game playing wouldn't have happened NOR would she have made you want to run away emotionally as much. Be to her & do for her what YOU'D want her to be to you & do for you!
You putting up your pride to temporarily protect your feelings in the moment may temporarily benefit you BUT clearly it's not worth having all the pride in the world IF it's just going to cause you to lose someone/something you REALLY CAN'T afford to lose.
Crazy thing is, I think you guys REALLY like eachother. After all, that's when a person's defenses/insecurities/fears come out the most--it's when they like someone more than they expected that can cause hesistation. And now that you know she knows how to live by the "Two can play that game," remember that persay this happens again.
Next time, find a way to be ok with being vulnerable vs. sending her the signal that you want nothing to do with her when deep down you REALLY want her! And I say that b/c her doing that to you didn't feel very good, so don't do that to her. B/c if you do, NOW YOU KNOW that doing so could potentially lead to you guys losing eachother when in reality, you both deep down want eachother so bad!
And even if she continues to play the same games, that doesn't mean that YOU have to. If things don't work out, it'll still suck BUT ATLEAST you'll know that you left the situation being true to your emotions & doing your best to prove yourself to her. And if she messes that up, it'll be HER loss, not yours. BUT, if you BOTH continue playing these games, it'll always be YOUR LOSS too!
Take it slow with her now. Try to regain her trust back just like you probably want her to regain yours. She needs to be showing you that at times when she desperately wants to put up her "WALL OF PRIDE" for protection, that she can actually do something DIFFERENT this time & be vulnerable. I'm sure had she been true to her emotions this whole time (instead of playing 100 mind games), all this wasted time of game playing wouldn't have happened NOR would she have made you want to run away emotionally as much. Be to her & do for her what YOU'D want her to be to you & do for you!
I love your advice! lol well yea im just going to take it slow and yes be consistent. I just hate when i feel as though im making all the moves etc i feel stupid you know because its hard to get feedback from her. But im much calmer now and i'll take it as it comes.
Now i can start off my weekend knowing that her and i SEEM to be on okay grounds. Yea i think my email to her about quitting the game playing and ignoring each other worked out. I guess she realised that i KNEW what she was playing and i admitted to her i was playing the same game so we were pretty much in the same boat and i said in the email, i want to talk 2 u, i take it you want to talk to me so so lets just drop the whole who can ignore who for the longest and these imature games and talk and be normal again with each other and act like the two adults we are etc etc. So i think by me saying that i was playing games also it made her comfortable to come forward. Phew, lucky i sent that email! lol.
Thanks Krys!. Have a good weekend!!
Now i can start off my weekend knowing that her and i SEEM to be on okay grounds. Yea i think my email to her about quitting the game playing and ignoring each other worked out. I guess she realised that i KNEW what she was playing and i admitted to her i was playing the same game so we were pretty much in the same boat and i said in the email, i want to talk 2 u, i take it you want to talk to me so so lets just drop the whole who can ignore who for the longest and these imature games and talk and be normal again with each other and act like the two adults we are etc etc. So i think by me saying that i was playing games also it made her comfortable to come forward. Phew, lucky i sent that email! lol.
Thanks Krys!. Have a good weekend!!
So its been a few weeks and things are progressing okay I guess. Last weekend she text me and she was in a raunchy mood lol and well we text back & forth from about 5pm-10pm and she was being super sexual and describing all the things she wanted to do to me etc so she pretty much opened up a lot.. Anyway.
After that she ignores a text I sent her about wanting to see her and her excuse was that 'she had been sick in bed for 2 days'. So that was on thursday I think. Saturday comes up I knew what club she was going to for halloween that night because she had told me like 2 weeks earlier about it etc. So I dragged my friends to that club hoping to 'bump' into her loll stalker i know!. oh well.
Im in the club for about an hour and of course keeping my eye out to see if I could see her around HOPING that her plans were to still go to that club. So yea im talking and dancing with a friend in our lil area we had reserved for us and she was standing a few people behind my friend that I was talking to! I noticed her out of nowhere I just happened to look and BOOM she was there! aahh i couldnt believe it!! lol So I played it cool & acted like I didnt see her BUT made myself somewhat more visible so she could see me & I think it worked because after moving around a bit she walked RIGHT past me like right infront and I lent over and grabbed her shoulder I was like EEYYY!!! and she was like OOHH HIIII!!!! (seemed happy but surpirsed to see me) and climbed up to where I was dancing and so anyway we chated for a bit she said she had been looking for her friends so after a bit her friends came around and she introduced me it was her friend (which i think she may also like) and the friend's bf. So then she said she was going to the rnb room cos she didnt like the music of the room i was in (club had 6 rooms) and she goes 'come and find me there' I was like yea okay i'll go up later. So she left, night went on I ended up going for a smoke in the smoking area which happened to be right next to the rnb room she was in. About 30mins after she left me she text me asking 'where r u' I didnt have my phone with me so I took a while to reply but told her i was in the rnb room, wat about her?, she replied almost straight away, said she was also in the same room near the bar. So i went looking for her and found her.
After that she ignores a text I sent her about wanting to see her and her excuse was that 'she had been sick in bed for 2 days'. So that was on thursday I think. Saturday comes up I knew what club she was going to for halloween that night because she had told me like 2 weeks earlier about it etc. So I dragged my friends to that club hoping to 'bump' into her loll stalker i know!. oh well.
Im in the club for about an hour and of course keeping my eye out to see if I could see her around HOPING that her plans were to still go to that club. So yea im talking and dancing with a friend in our lil area we had reserved for us and she was standing a few people behind my friend that I was talking to! I noticed her out of nowhere I just happened to look and BOOM she was there! aahh i couldnt believe it!! lol So I played it cool & acted like I didnt see her BUT made myself somewhat more visible so she could see me & I think it worked because after moving around a bit she walked RIGHT past me like right infront and I lent over and grabbed her shoulder I was like EEYYY!!! and she was like OOHH HIIII!!!! (seemed happy but surpirsed to see me) and climbed up to where I was dancing and so anyway we chated for a bit she said she had been looking for her friends so after a bit her friends came around and she introduced me it was her friend (which i think she may also like) and the friend's bf. So then she said she was going to the rnb room cos she didnt like the music of the room i was in (club had 6 rooms) and she goes 'come and find me there' I was like yea okay i'll go up later. So she left, night went on I ended up going for a smoke in the smoking area which happened to be right next to the rnb room she was in. About 30mins after she left me she text me asking 'where r u' I didnt have my phone with me so I took a while to reply but told her i was in the rnb room, wat about her?, she replied almost straight away, said she was also in the same room near the bar. So i went looking for her and found her.
Soon as she saw me she said she liked what I was wearing that I looked hot lol so she started dancing kinda on me like she wanted me to dance with her and chatting at the same time I was surpised at how comfortable she was acting so hey I was going along with it! But i was being a bit serious not sure why so anyway I left I told her I had to get back to my friends and i left. About 30mins later she texts me telling me shes having a smoke and coincidently I happened to be also in the smoking area having a smoke! lol and I could see her but she didnt see me so i text her saying i was right behind her while she was smoking, she then text me and told me where she had moved to lol. I went up to her and again pretty happy to see me, started dancing with me pretty sexually & confidently but she didnt seem drunk at all lol. So my friends came inside as well and they were all kinda standing behind me and I didnt introduce her to anyone or vice versa so I was going from talking and dancing with her to talking & dancing with my friends etc. Also a friend's bf's friend who was at the club was tryna pick me up, buying me drinks all night etc and I went to the bar a few times with him, had shots, had a dance etc and she was watching the whole time LOL I could see it from the corner of my eye so anyway I left the guy and went back to her, guy comes back tells me his leaving and to get his number off my friend's bf. I went to kiss him goodbye on the cheek and we ended up pecking once, then he pulled my face in for another one & tried to stick his tounge in but i was NOT feeling it! (he was an aries too lol) so I pecked him and said bye.
So i told her i was going to another room she said okay I left with my friends, she text me again like 30mins later lol telling me where she had moved to.
So i told her i was going to another room she said okay I left with my friends, she text me again like 30mins later lol telling me where she had moved to.
I left my friends again and went looking for her. It was a 3 level club and she was at this dark spot with railing overlooking the main dancefloor so I get there shes offering me some of her drink etc so im drinking and shes all over me grabbing me, dirty dancing on me, etc etc and ofcourse im into it as well! and her friend and bf were also right there dancing together. I dont know if loving to dance & being good at it is an aquarian trait but WOW!! that girl could move & had some HOTTTT moves lol. Sorry for the vivid explanation but we were completely into each other while we were dancing, we werent talking at all, i was behind her and she was grinding on me etc, she was sorta letting me control her. We danced for a while prob like an hour and a bit STRAIGHT grinding loll it was soooo sexy!!. We changed rooms and again she brang herself to me lol and started dancing on me and it got really hot again between us and her back was visible and she was holding her hair up, i was behind her and was blowing on the back of her neck while we were dancing and I went a lil lower and kissed her back (she was wearing an open back cocktail dress) and kinda lightly ran my tounge up her spine towards her neck and gave it a few pecks, she turned her head to face me and like our jawlines were touching we were SOOO close together I was thinking if going in for a kiss but decided not to and yea it was just REAALLLYYYYY HOTTTT!!! so we danced for a while etc moved to a few rooms (this whole time we were with her friends) then my friends were harrasing me about coming back and where had I gone etc so i left aqua went back to my friends hung with them for a while she text me like an hour later this time telling me to go to the rnb room cos she was there.
I felt bad because i hadnt spent A LOT of time with my friends at the club considering it was MY idea to go there so I just stayed with them and didnt meet her. Coincidently again lol I walked past the rnb room she was in on my way to the outside area to have a cigarette, I glanced into the room as i walked by and she happened to be standing at the entrance and she saw me, i looked at her, nodded a hello and kept walking (i was really drunk by this time). So like 20mins later i text her asking where she went because i went to the rnb room looking for her. She said she left because she was about to pass out lol.
I felt bad because i hadnt spent A LOT of time with my friends at the club considering it was MY idea to go there so I just stayed with them and didnt meet her. Coincidently again lol I walked past the rnb room she was in on my way to the outside area to have a cigarette, I glanced into the room as i walked by and she happened to be standing at the entrance and she saw me, i looked at her, nodded a hello and kept walking (i was really drunk by this time). So like 20mins later i text her asking where she went because i went to the rnb room looking for her. She said she left because she was about to pass out lol.
I told her that i wanted a goodnight kiss. She said she was sorry for leaving and 'fuk ur sexy', i replied telling her i was still 'kind of annoyed that i didnt get to say bye but to have a good night x'. She replied saying that not to worry we would hook up but she wants me to also dance for her 'one on one alone sometime?' so anyway we texted a few msgs back and forth she was telling me that I was so sexy and that the dancing we were doing was sexy and she liked it etc, told me she'd tex me the next day. To have an awesome night, be safe and that she was glad we ran into each other xo.
Thats it. Soooo sorry for the LONG post but I just had to get it ALL down lol. What 'level' am I on with her after this? I mean would you guys grind, dirty dance & flirt with someone pretty much all night if you didnt like them? She definately made it a PERFECT night! I stayed out partying till 8.30am!! lol
Thats it. Soooo sorry for the LONG post but I just had to get it ALL down lol. What 'level' am I on with her after this? I mean would you guys grind, dirty dance & flirt with someone pretty much all night if you didnt like them? She definately made it a PERFECT night! I stayed out partying till 8.30am!! lol
You're in!
Now go for it and stop analysing the shit out of it 🙂
Now go for it and stop analysing the shit out of it 🙂
Posted by aquagirl24
i wudnt advise a geminian... gemini women are cool, but men are kinda tramps...
All of them?
Generalising much?
Posted by aquagirl24
i wudnt advise a geminian... gemini women are cool, but men are kinda tramps...
lol hmmm. Her last SERIOUS relationship was with another fellow gemini from June as well and he cheated on her HEAPPSSSS of times and yea she was pretty devastated that she STILL talks about him. Not to me but when we used to be in class she'd be telling the girls of her story with him etc etc.
And NZAqua, i cant help but to analyze, specially when my FEELINGS are invovled! lol gem sun, libra moon 😐
Posted by natsPosted by aquagirl24
i wudnt advise a geminian... gemini women are cool, but men are kinda tramps...
lol hmmm. Her last SERIOUS relationship was with another fellow gemini from June as well and he cheated on her HEAPPSSSS of times and yea she was pretty devastated that she STILL talks about him. Not to me but when we used to be in class she'd be telling the girls of her story with him etc etc.
And NZAqua, i cant help but to analyze, specially when my FEELINGS are invovled! lol gem sun, libra moon 😐click to expand
Lol, then analyse away....just don't miss the boat 😉
or the second we let you in some guy turns out to be a real shit so we cut them off
we are very loyal companions as long as u dont piss us off lol
well let me rephrase .... not saying we cheat as soon as you make us mad just saying once you let us down its hard to get back to where we were ... at least with me anyway
Posted by KingofLibras
nats, you will get burned. Aquarius chicks are assholes like that, the second you get too close they will leave you in the shitter and cut off all the ties.
Meow!
Got burned, huh?
Posted by AquarianChild
or the second we let you in some guy turns out to be a real shit so we cut them off
Absolutely!
Posted by KingofLibras
nats, you will get burned. Aquarius chicks are assholes like that, the second you get too close they will leave you in the shitter and cut off all the ties.
Because Aquas are scared of intimacy.. they're in for the friendship but anything more and it doesnt fit their sense of independence..
Yea well I hadnt seen her since halloween weekend at the club. We've emailed here and there during the week last week. Today monday I had to be in the city to attend a Court case for my legal course im doing. The aqua works in the city also and I was somewhat near her so I thought id 'surprise' her and turn up at her work. Mind you this is kinda of stalking since I only know her company name. I googled it LOL, and found out exactly where it was. Got up extra early to make sure id catch her JUST as she was walking into the building. So I get there at 8am and knew that she started work at 9am so she'd be there about 8.30. So im waiting waiting waiting, and BOOM I see her walking towards me with like a half smile half like confused and shocked so she comes up to me and shes I was thinking like omg is that her? is that her? And shes like what are you doing here? I was like waiting for u 🙂 and then I told her I had to go to Court this morning and asked her what time her lunch was? She told me the times then I told her to have lunch with me. She said ok I told her id meet here back there (where I was waiting for her). So I left and she grabbed my hand and like slowly let go as we were walking off in separate directions.. And DAMMNNNN she looked HOTTTTTTTT!!!! lol
So she texts me like 40mins later and shes like babe im in a meeting from 11-4 I cant make lunch 😐 . I told her to try and at least go outside for 10mins after her meeting because today was the only way I was going to be in the city all day pretty much with a lot of free time and it would have been a good oportunity. So she replied saying she'd try. Anyway I didnt hear from her since the morning. I finished Court at 4pm and thought i'll wait for her until 5.30 (when she finishes work) and catch the train back to the area with her. So i walked back to her work, waited for like 45mins outside, text her and told her that since shes finishing at 5.30 i was going to wait for her and catch the train back since I was catching the same train. She texts back telling me shes working back until 7pm.
So she texts me like 40mins later and shes like babe im in a meeting from 11-4 I cant make lunch 😐 . I told her to try and at least go outside for 10mins after her meeting because today was the only way I was going to be in the city all day pretty much with a lot of free time and it would have been a good oportunity. So she replied saying she'd try. Anyway I didnt hear from her since the morning. I finished Court at 4pm and thought i'll wait for her until 5.30 (when she finishes work) and catch the train back to the area with her. So i walked back to her work, waited for like 45mins outside, text her and told her that since shes finishing at 5.30 i was going to wait for her and catch the train back since I was catching the same train. She texts back telling me shes working back until 7pm.
I thought to myself, BULLSH**T! Bcoz shes used the 'working back late' excuse before with me so I wasnt going to take it. I text her back and said that thats fine id be outside until 7 waiting for her (i wasnt REALLY going to though, just wanted to see what she'd say). So she texts back saying that shes really flat out & stressed at work and has to stay back and that she would agree for me to wait for her till 7 but she 'honestly' didnt know what time she'd be getting out. I replied and said, I dont care, if I have to sit outside in the rain (a big storm was about to break out) until 10pm then so be it. She replied asking where I was because the storm was about to break out and she needed to leave beforehand otherwise would have to walk home in the rain. I replied saying I left. She replied back saying that okay she would stay back at work then (okay I was confused then lol). so then I replied saying no im joking im outside so then she writes back saying that shes leaving at 5.30 because of the storm. So I wait for her she texts me at 5.30 saying her friend was walking to the station with us too and she was just waiting for him. So they come, she kisses me hello on the cheek, introduces me to her friend and we start walking. Get to the train station, her friend leaves to get his train and her and I wait for our one and were talking the whole time etc etc get on the train everythings good, conversation is flowing but like I dont know if she was shy or something but when she'd talk she wouldnt turn to face me, she was just talking and looking straight ahead.. I got a bit shy as well and was kinda doing the same lol only here and there id give her eye contact. So I get off at my stop and shes like do you have an umbrella? your going to get wet, and she was asking me all these questions about what bus I catch home and how far it leaves me from my house etc etc. So yea get I off the train kiss her goodbye on the cheek and leave. I text her like 10mins later saying "see fool, it wasnt that scary was it? lol 🙂 byeeee". She replies back like half an hour going "haha thanks for coming be careful and get home salely".
I know and have read a lot of stories about aquas leaving people high and dry but I just feel like as if I can get through her walls then we'd be PERFECT for each other! I just dont understand why shes so scared? I mean afer the way she was acting and dancing and grinding etc I would have thought she'd be more comfortable.. What can I do?
I know and have read a lot of stories about aquas leaving people high and dry but I just feel like as if I can get through her walls then we'd be PERFECT for each other! I just dont understand why shes so scared? I mean afer the way she was acting and dancing and grinding etc I would have thought she'd be more comfortable.. What can I do?
Posted by AquarianChild
well let me rephrase .... not saying we cheat as soon as you make us mad just saying once you let us down its hard to get back to where we were ... at least with me anyway
okay so to you what is 'being let down'? What does that consist of?
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