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Aqua man flipped the script? Disappeared...
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No, he is not done with, he is just recovering from his extreme openness 🙂 its not easy for aquas to say, what he told you....
just contact him with some fun and nice stuff, be gentle and wait patiently, until he recovers 🙂
just contact him with some fun and nice stuff, be gentle and wait patiently, until he recovers 🙂
Posted by starloveruh oh. how so?
They are a nightmare in one to one rships... I was with two of them
Lol
Great for humanitarian work and group work
Posted by aquanibHow did he not get enough in return?
Yea, you fucked up. He reached out for you and didn't get enough in return. Two days in a row contact was him checking it out if maybe you'd come around to what he was saying. I guess you didn't.
Because she didn't bring up what he said while he was drunk?
Posted by aquanibI'm using my phone and had a typo lol. I was asking because it seemed like OP did give enough by her at least saying "okay"Posted by lagyaalidk all the details of this, but this is imo just a classic example of aqua making a move, getting not enough in return, then pulling back when analysis was done and the realization setting in there will be nothing out of it. Plus the the drunk talk and embarrasment stemming out of it....
How did he not get enough in return?
Because I didn't bring up what he said while he was drunk?
Or maybe he just doesn't want to get attached to someone that needs to be told "no other men"....makes sense, yes?
#edit erm...you are not the original poster. Why are you talking in 1st person like the op?
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Posted by aquanibThanks for the reply. So you're saying because in those two days of contact I didn't confirm rather or not I was on the same page as him?
Yea, you fucked up. He reached out for you and didn't get enough in return. Two days in a row contact was him checking it out if maybe you'd come around to what he was saying. I guess you didn't.
I just figured he was drunk and did not mean what he said...
Posted by Pandora101Oh so I'm guessing aquas aren't ones to spill their feelings huh? This is my first aqua guy so I'm still learning.
No, he is not done with, he is just recovering from his extreme openness 🙂 its not easy for aquas to say, what he told you....
just contact him with some fun and nice stuff, be gentle and wait patiently, until he recovers 🙂
Posted by aec90Are you serious?? 🙂 🙂Posted by Pandora101Oh so I'm guessing aquas aren't ones to spill their feelings huh? This is my first aqua guy so I'm still learning.
No, he is not done with, he is just recovering from his extreme openness 🙂 its not easy for aquas to say, what he told you....
just contact him with some fun and nice stuff, be gentle and wait patiently, until he recovers 🙂
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what are his other planets? and what are yours?
Posted by Pandora101HisPosted by aec90Are you serious?? 🙂 🙂Posted by Pandora101Oh so I'm guessing aquas aren't ones to spill their feelings huh? This is my first aqua guy so I'm still learning.
No, he is not done with, he is just recovering from his extreme openness 🙂 its not easy for aquas to say, what he told you....
just contact him with some fun and nice stuff, be gentle and wait patiently, until he recovers 🙂
what are his other planets? and what are yours?
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Sun:Aqua
Moon:Leo-Trine:Venus-Opposition: Neptune
Mercury: Capricorn
Venus: Aquarius
Mars: Pisces
Me
Sun: Leo
Moon: Scorpio
Mercury: Virgo
Venus: Cancer
Mars: Taurus
Posted by sultrykittyThanks for the link.
http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/aquarius/venus-in-aqua-men-6606569/?p=6
I'm thinking maybe I should just let it go. I know he was drunk and he's taking back what he said so he probably didn't mean it and that's why he disappeared...
Posted by aec90How did you respond to all this OP?
Met an aqua guy a few months ago and things were going well. Last week we were out bar hopping with some friends and he got drunk. A man was hitting on me and told me "fuck him". "I don't own you and you're free to do what you want but I'm letting you know that if you talk to other guys it's going to hurt my feelings. I like you a lot and there's no one else. You're my baby". He eventually tells me to look at him and pulls me closer and said, "can we stop? let's stop playing games, it's just you and me okay?" I just said okay.
The next day we didn't really talk about it. He then contacted me two days in a row and then went silent on me. Eventually I ran into him and he said he was just joking about saying fuck the other guys and then said he didn't think it was a good idea to go to this formal event together that he had asked me to attend with him weeks ago.
We haven't talked since last week. I guess he's done with us.
Things were fine between us before he got drunk, we event spent 4 days together before this. I'm just very confused...
Posted by vanballmoosWell I'm missing some parts but well he said you're my "number 1 and only that I'm seeing" and he turned to me asked me if I'm the only one that he's seeing. I turned my head away and he said, "seriously? Look at me I'm asking you a question" and I started to laugh (nervous laugh) and I said hes my number 1. He said that he thought I was lying to which I said I wouldn't lie to him. Later on is when he pulled me closer, kissed me, stopped and said let's stop playing games and said "It's just us two okay?" and I said, "okay".Posted by aec90How did you respond to all this OP?
Met an aqua guy a few months ago and things were going well. Last week we were out bar hopping with some friends and he got drunk. A man was hitting on me and told me "fuck him". "I don't own you and you're free to do what you want but I'm letting you know that if you talk to other guys it's going to hurt my feelings. I like you a lot and there's no one else. You're my baby". He eventually tells me to look at him and pulls me closer and said, "can we stop? let's stop playing games, it's just you and me okay?" I just said okay.
The next day we didn't really talk about it. He then contacted me two days in a row and then went silent on me. Eventually I ran into him and he said he was just joking about saying fuck the other guys and then said he didn't think it was a good idea to go to this formal event together that he had asked me to attend with him weeks ago.
We haven't talked since last week. I guess he's done with us.
Things were fine between us before he got drunk, we event spent 4 days together before this. I'm just very confused...
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Posted by DontWant2FitInDid you just see OP's update? She laughed at him when he was spilling his feelings to her. On top of that he said she's he's one and only, OP on the other hand just said he's her number one. At no point did she say she wasn't seeing other guys. I would've gone silent on her too. I would think she's not on the same page as me/not that into me. Now I would've handled it a little better than OP's guy, but can you blame the poor man?Posted by aec90Let him go. Grown men should be able to communicate their feelings without going silent on people. But in my opinion canceling events is a sign you should block his number.
Met an aqua guy a few months ago and things were going well. Last week we were out bar hopping with some friends and he got drunk. A man was hitting on me and told me "fuck him". "I don't own you and you're free to do what you want but I'm letting you know that if you talk to other guys it's going to hurt my feelings. I like you a lot and there's no one else. You're my baby". He eventually tells me to look at him and pulls me closer and said, "can we stop? let's stop playing games, it's just you and me okay?" I just said okay.
The next day we didn't really talk about it. He then contacted me two days in a row and then went silent on me. Eventually I ran into him and he said he was just joking about saying fuck the other guys and then said he didn't think it was a good idea to go to this formal event together that he had asked me to attend with him weeks ago.
We haven't talked since last week. I guess he's done with us.
Things were fine between us before he got drunk, we event spent 4 days together before this. I'm just very confused...
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Not only did he spill his feelings, which is embarrassing as it is, but then to have the girl he likes laugh at him-that would hurt.
Are you sure hes not seeing anyone else?
I ask cause your a scorp moon like myself. And when i feel like someone is full of shit i respond with nervous laughter and in the same way you would.
I ask cause your a scorp moon like myself. And when i feel like someone is full of shit i respond with nervous laughter and in the same way you would.
Posted by DMVI'm the same way as you, but this time it was because he was just so close to my face and I have hard time being vulnerable on the spot like that = nervous laugh. In this particular instance I just thought he was drunk and was talking out of his ass period.
Are you sure hes not seeing anyone else?
I ask cause your a scorp moon like myself. And when i feel like someone is full of shit i respond with nervous laughter and in the same way you would.
Posted by DontWant2FitInYea I didn't mean to laugh at him :/Posted by vanballmoosWhoa...no wonder the poor guy disappeared. We don't play second to anyone.Posted by DontWant2FitInDid you just see OP's update? She laughed at him when he was spilling his feelings to her. On top of that he said she's he's one and only, OP on the other hand just said he's her number one. At no point did she say she wasn't seeing other guys. I would've gone silent on her too. I would think she's not on the same page as me/not that into me. Now I would've handled it a little better than OP's guy, but can you blame the poor man?Posted by aec90Let him go. Grown men should be able to communicate their feelings without going silent on people. But in my opinion canceling events is a sign you should block his number.
Met an aqua guy a few months ago and things were going well. Last week we were out bar hopping with some friends and he got drunk. A man was hitting on me and told me "fuck him". "I don't own you and you're free to do what you want but I'm letting you know that if you talk to other guys it's going to hurt my feelings. I like you a lot and there's no one else. You're my baby". He eventually tells me to look at him and pulls me closer and said, "can we stop? let's stop playing games, it's just you and me okay?" I just said okay.
The next day we didn't really talk about it. He then contacted me two days in a row and then went silent on me. Eventually I ran into him and he said he was just joking about saying fuck the other guys and then said he didn't think it was a good idea to go to this formal event together that he had asked me to attend with him weeks ago.
We haven't talked since last week. I guess he's done with us.
Things were fine between us before he got drunk, we event spent 4 days together before this. I'm just very confused...
Not only did he spill his feelings, which is embarrassing as it is, but then to have the girl he likes laugh at him-that would hurt.
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My question is, why did he contact me the next few days then? This is what makes me think that he was just drunk and didn't mean what he said.
He was drunk, he meant what he said, and now based on your reaction he's either regretting that he was that open to you, or taking the time to consider whether you're worth opening up to again.
Ball's in his court.
Ball's in his court.
Its not easy for a scorpio moon either.
I rarely believe these outburts of love especially if this is "new" behavior for the person.
It makes me suspicious. I revel in consistent behavior.
Im sure OP took everything he said in but it probably came off as unexpected.
I rarely believe these outburts of love especially if this is "new" behavior for the person.
It makes me suspicious. I revel in consistent behavior.
Im sure OP took everything he said in but it probably came off as unexpected.
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He was drunk, he meant what he said, and now based on your reaction he's either regretting that he was that open to you, or taking the time to consider whether you're worth opening up to again.
Ball's in his court.
If he feels that way (either one) then why did he even contact OP twice after the fact?
Posted by vanballmoosPosted by sultrykitty
He was drunk, he meant what he said, and now based on your reaction he's either regretting that he was that open to you, or taking the time to consider whether you're worth opening up to again.
Ball's in his court.
If he feels that way (either one) then why did he even contact OP twice after the fact?
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To test the waters. Aqua will take one step forward and two steps back if he feels like he went too far. It's classic.
Posted by GiveMeAqua
I have to agree with the others, it's not easy for Aquas to open up. Granted most of us have a hard time opening up, but I've noticed with Aquas it can make or break you depending on how you respond go them. The nervous laughter may have been perceived as being laughed at from where he stood. From the sounds of it you didn't take what he said seriously and I'm sure, he sensed it when you kinda blew him off.. My ex Aqua is a lot more open about the deeper feelings he hides when he's had a few.. I think what he told you was honest. Liquid courage, ya know. It's not too late, if he truly wants to be your one and only. Send him a text and ask him if he really meant what he said, tell him how You feel. Just don't go into it with any expectations, it will be up to him to decide if he feels you're worth any more emotional investment.
Thanks.
I really do care about him though. It was weird right before this mishap my girlfriends said she thought he was falling for me because she said she watches how he interacts with me, but who knows now lol.
Do aquas really give up that easily though?
Posted by sultrykittyThanks for all the insight sultry 🙂Posted by vanballmoosPosted by sultrykitty
He was drunk, he meant what he said, and now based on your reaction he's either regretting that he was that open to you, or taking the time to consider whether you're worth opening up to again.
Ball's in his court.
If he feels that way (either one) then why did he even contact OP twice after the fact?
To test the waters. Aqua will take one step forward and two steps back if he feels like he went too far. It's classic.
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I didn't bring up what he said when he reached out to me but I was still receptive and my usual self. Wasn't that enough of a green light for him?
Posted by SagiScorpExactly what i was thinking.
Aqua said "let's stop playing games". That means he's been playing games up until that point, and expected you to immediately do a 180 and take him seriously? While he was drunk, too?
I don't blame OP for being caught off guard and being a bit skeptical.
Maybe he was serious, maybe he wasn't, there are arguments for and against that. But if he wasn't drunk and playing games before maybe this thread wouldn't have existed.
Call him out on it OP, and depending on his response make a serious decision. Honestly, he seems immature as all hell to me, but it's your decision to continue pursuing this or not.
He always wasnt believable in the past. Cause if he were, she would have no problem giving him those feelings back.. Now he wanna stop playing games.
How is she supposed to know.
Posted by SagiScorpI think he meant for OP to stop playing games. She was the one who looked away and then laughed at him when he was asking her a serious question.
Aqua said "let's stop playing games". That means he's been playing games up until that point, and expected you to immediately do a 180 and take him seriously? While he was drunk, too?
I don't blame OP for being caught off guard and being a bit skeptical.
Maybe he was serious, maybe he wasn't, there are arguments for and against that. But if he wasn't drunk and playing games before maybe this thread wouldn't have existed.
Call him out on it OP, and depending on his response make a serious decision. Honestly, he seems immature as all hell to me, but it's your decision to continue pursuing this or not.
Plus that whole dis invite.
I woulda pulled the plug right then and there.
Hes an indian giver when he gets upset.
No time.
I woulda pulled the plug right then and there.
Hes an indian giver when he gets upset.
No time.
Posted by DMVNo he's been sincere/honest in the past. He's told me he's liked me before. Sent me messages just saying thinking about you, saying how he enjoys spending time with me. All these things sober. I was just caught off guard because he's so cool and collected, seeing him getting upset about other guys and spilling his feelings and going on about them all night (this conversation about his feelings was over the course of an hour) just threw me off.Posted by SagiScorpExactly what i was thinking.
Aqua said "let's stop playing games". That means he's been playing games up until that point, and expected you to immediately do a 180 and take him seriously? While he was drunk, too?
I don't blame OP for being caught off guard and being a bit skeptical.
Maybe he was serious, maybe he wasn't, there are arguments for and against that. But if he wasn't drunk and playing games before maybe this thread wouldn't have existed.
Call him out on it OP, and depending on his response make a serious decision. Honestly, he seems immature as all hell to me, but it's your decision to continue pursuing this or not.
He always wasnt believable in the past. Cause if he were, she would have no problem giving him those feelings back.. Now he wanna stop playing games.
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I have no problems giving him those feelings back but as I said before it's just hard for me to be vulnerable, always have been that way. For example, a month ago he said how he liked me and instead of saying I liked him back my idiot self just said "I know". I liked him a lot then but I'm just a very guarded person unfortunately.
Posted by aec90Posted by sultrykittyThanks for all the insight sultry 🙂Posted by vanballmoosPosted by sultrykitty
He was drunk, he meant what he said, and now based on your reaction he's either regretting that he was that open to you, or taking the time to consider whether you're worth opening up to again.
Ball's in his court.
If he feels that way (either one) then why did he even contact OP twice after the fact?
To test the waters. Aqua will take one step forward and two steps back if he feels like he went too far. It's classic.
I didn't bring up what he said when he reached out to me but I was still receptive and my usual self. Wasn't that enough of a green light for him?
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It could be.
What I noticed about mine is that he doesn't like when girls act like they're expected to when it comes to guys. And they're extremely perceptive. So he may be avoiding you to avoid you asking about that night. And to see if you're going to blow his phone up. It may take a while before he feels like enough time has passed and the "event" has blown over. Once you've gotten to that point, he'll start to be like he was before--IF he feels like you're worth trying again with.
Always be yourself though. If he cares about you, anything that might annoy him about your reactions will be overlooked.
Edited: and yes, they *will* give up easily if they are worried that you might hurt them. Even if they're head over heels.
Posted by DMVWould you want to go to an event with someone who you didn't think was into you? I know I wouldn't.
Plus that whole dis invite.
I woulda pulled the plug right then and there.
Hes an indian giver when he gets upset.
No time.
If I told a man that I liked him a lot and I wanted to see just him because I'm not seeing anyone else (be exclusive) and he laughed at me I don't care if he even said he loved me in the next breath I would be extremely skeptical about how he felt about me. I'm not taking you as my date if I felt you weren't into me. Why set yourself for that? That would just be putting salt into the wounds.
Posted by SagiScorpSounds like OP and her guy are two peas in a pod. They're both really into each other but despite the obvious signs they're unsure about how each other feels and if they can really trust each other. Fear of rejection or getting hurt seems to be holding both of you both back. When you ran into him what was his body language like? Hearing the story is fine, but body language also can give us a lot more insight as well.Posted by aec90Oh? If he's made himself clear multiple times, what are you doing pushing him away? Do you not trust him or something? I'm confused now.Posted by DMVNo he's been sincere/honest in the past. He's told me he's liked me before. Sent me messages just saying thinking about you, saying how he enjoys spending time with me. All these things sober. I was just caught off guard because he's so cool and collected, seeing him getting upset about other guys and spilling his feelings and going on about them all night (this conversation about his feelings was over the course of an hour) just threw me off.Posted by SagiScorpExactly what i was thinking.
Aqua said "let's stop playing games". That means he's been playing games up until that point, and expected you to immediately do a 180 and take him seriously? While he was drunk, too?
I don't blame OP for being caught off guard and being a bit skeptical.
Maybe he was serious, maybe he wasn't, there are arguments for and against that. But if he wasn't drunk and playing games before maybe this thread wouldn't have existed.
Call him out on it OP, and depending on his response make a serious decision. Honestly, he seems immature as all hell to me, but it's your decision to continue pursuing this or not.
He always wasnt believable in the past. Cause if he were, she would have no problem giving him those feelings back.. Now he wanna stop playing games.
How is she supposed to know.
I have no problems giving him those feelings back but as I said before it's just hard for me to be vulnerable, always have been that way. For example, a month ago he said how he liked me and instead of saying I liked him back my idiot self just said "I know". I liked him a lot then but I'm just a very guarded person unfortunately.
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Posted by aec90So you are the one playing games. How many times does he have to put himself out there?Posted by DMVNo he's been sincere/honest in the past. He's told me he's liked me before. Sent me messages just saying thinking about you, saying how he enjoys spending time with me. All these things sober. I was just caught off guard because he's so cool and collected, seeing him getting upset about other guys and spilling his feelings and going on about them all night (this conversation about his feelings was over the course of an hour) just threw me off.Posted by SagiScorpExactly what i was thinking.
Aqua said "let's stop playing games". That means he's been playing games up until that point, and expected you to immediately do a 180 and take him seriously? While he was drunk, too?
I don't blame OP for being caught off guard and being a bit skeptical.
Maybe he was serious, maybe he wasn't, there are arguments for and against that. But if he wasn't drunk and playing games before maybe this thread wouldn't have existed.
Call him out on it OP, and depending on his response make a serious decision. Honestly, he seems immature as all hell to me, but it's your decision to continue pursuing this or not.
He always wasnt believable in the past. Cause if he were, she would have no problem giving him those feelings back.. Now he wanna stop playing games.
How is she supposed to know.
I have no problems giving him those feelings back but as I said before it's just hard for me to be vulnerable, always have been that way. For example, a month ago he said how he liked me and instead of saying I liked him back my idiot self just said "I know". I liked him a lot then but I'm just a very guarded person unfortunately.
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Posted by missmissyNow that i got the rest of the story. I digress.Posted by DMVWould you want to go to an event with someone who you didn't think was into you? I know I wouldn't.
Plus that whole dis invite.
I woulda pulled the plug right then and there.
Hes an indian giver when he gets upset.
No time.
If I told a man that I liked him a lot and I wanted to see just him because I'm not seeing anyone else (be exclusive) and he laughed at me I don't care if he even said he loved me in the next breath I would be extremely skeptical about how he felt about me. I'm not taking you as my date if I felt you weren't into me. Why set yourself for that? That would just be putting salt into the wounds.click to expand
OP is the one who is stalling and causing him to feel insecure.
Posted by missmissySounds like OP and her guy are two peas in a pod. They're both really into each other but despite the obvious signs they're unsure about how each other feels and if they can really trust each other. Fear of rejection or getting hurt seems to be holding both of you both back. When you ran into him what was his body language like? Hearing the story is fine, but body language also can give us a lot more insight as well.
Well after what he told me I kind of just went off and did my own thing with the girls. Guys kept trying to come up and talk to me and my friend said he was watching all night and looked upset/pissed when the other guys were trying to talk to me. Later on he came over to where I was and sat down next to me and put his hand on my back but it was time for us to go so we left. My friend also said it was clear he was trying to get my attention and that he looked like a sad puppy dog when doing so.
Posted by missmissyI totally agree. I put myself out there for someone and also took back an invitation.Posted by DMVWould you want to go to an event with someone who you didn't think was into you? I know I wouldn't.
Plus that whole dis invite.
I woulda pulled the plug right then and there.
Hes an indian giver when he gets upset.
No time.
If I told a man that I liked him a lot and I wanted to see just him because I'm not seeing anyone else (be exclusive) and he laughed at me I don't care if he even said he loved me in the next breath I would be extremely skeptical about how he felt about me. I'm not taking you as my date if I felt you weren't into me. Why set yourself for that? That would just be putting salt into the wounds.click to expand
I totally get the aqua guy
Posted by aec90Well after what he told me I kind of just went off and did my own thing with the girls. Guys kept trying to come up and talk to me and my friend said he was watching all night and looked upset/pissed when the other guys were trying to talk to me. Later on he came over to where I was and sat down next to me and put his hand on my back but it was time for us to go so we left. My friend also said it was clear he was trying to get my attention and that he looked like a sad puppy dog when doing so.Posted by missmissySounds like OP and her guy are two peas in a pod. They're both really into each other but despite the obvious signs they're unsure about how each other feels and if they can really trust each other. Fear of rejection or getting hurt seems to be holding both of you both back. When you ran into him what was his body language like? Hearing the story is fine, but body language also can give us a lot more insight as well.
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Poor aqua 😢
He really does like you a lot. I'm no Aquarius expert but your friend may be right - he probably was starting to fall for you.
I don't think he's done, well at least not that night you saw him. It's a head vs. heart thing for him right now. He likes you a lot but is just guarding himself right now because that's the safest and easiest thing to do. If he was done with you and didn't mean those things when he was drunk and or really truly didn't want you to go he wouldn't have even tried to approach you at the end of the night. Taking astrology out of this if he didn't care at all he would've just told you it was mistake asking you to go and he didn't feel the same way towards you and would'e kept it moving. There was no need for him to come to you at the end of the night-he was probably doing another testing the waters like sultry said.
It's not that he gives up so easiy...i mean hes come at you multiple times.
What is he not doing right? Is it his approach, what he does afterwards? Are you looking for consistency after hia revelations?
Or do you not really like him like that but the attention is good?
What is he not doing right? Is it his approach, what he does afterwards? Are you looking for consistency after hia revelations?
Or do you not really like him like that but the attention is good?
Posted by DMV+1
It's not that he gives up so easiy...i mean hes come at you multiple times.
What is he not doing right? Is it his approach, what he does afterwards? Are you looking for consistency after hia revelations?
Or do you not really like him like that but the attention is good?
Posted by DMV
It's not that he gives up so easiy...i mean hes come at you multiple times.
What is he not doing right? Is it his approach, what he does afterwards? Are you looking for consistency after hia revelations?
Or do you not really like him like that but the attention is good?
I'm not sure. I guess I'm not used to having someone who detached like he is. We don't talk all day every day, which is more than fine with me, but I guess I'm just used to a man being more aggressive.I do really like him thought. A lot actually. I haven't felt this way about someone in a long time. I know he likes/d me I could feel that but when he said all these things drunk I just didn't think he meant what he said (number 1 and only 1/wanting it to be just us). I just thought he was drunk and talking out of his ass. Now that he's saying a week later no to the the event and he was just "effing around" when he said those things I really do think that he's full of it.
Posted by aec90
Met an aqua guy a few months ago and things were going well. Last week we were out bar hopping with some friends and he got drunk. A man was hitting on me and told me "fuck him". "I don't own you and you're free to do what you want but I'm letting you know that if you talk to other guys it's going to hurt my feelings. I like you a lot and there's no one else. You're my baby". He eventually tells me to look at him and pulls me closer and said, "can we stop? let's stop playing games, it's just you and me okay?" I just said okay.
The next day we didn't really talk about it. He then contacted me two days in a row and then went silent on me. Eventually I ran into him and he said he was just joking about saying fuck the other guys and then said he didn't think it was a good idea to go to this formal event together that he had asked me to attend with him weeks ago.
We haven't talked since last week. I guess he's done with us.
Things were fine between us before he got drunk, we event spent 4 days together before this. I'm just very confused...
I don' t he meant it either, I think he just had a few too many. Who wants someone to be drunk to confess their feelings what a mess.
Posted by ShrewdsharpShrewdsharp, I'm not sure if you saw or not but OP said that her guy has told her before, and sober, that he likes her, enjoys spending time with her etc.Posted by aec90
Met an aqua guy a few months ago and things were going well. Last week we were out bar hopping with some friends and he got drunk. A man was hitting on me and told me "fuck him". "I don't own you and you're free to do what you want but I'm letting you know that if you talk to other guys it's going to hurt my feelings. I like you a lot and there's no one else. You're my baby". He eventually tells me to look at him and pulls me closer and said, "can we stop? let's stop playing games, it's just you and me okay?" I just said okay.
The next day we didn't really talk about it. He then contacted me two days in a row and then went silent on me. Eventually I ran into him and he said he was just joking about saying fuck the other guys and then said he didn't think it was a good idea to go to this formal event together that he had asked me to attend with him weeks ago.
We haven't talked since last week. I guess he's done with us.
Things were fine between us before he got drunk, we event spent 4 days together before this. I'm just very confused...
I don' t he meant it either, I think he just had a few too many. Who wants someone to be drunk to confess their feelings what a mess.
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Plus, if you say something while drunk that you don't mean that regret sets in immediately and OP's guy said he remembered what he said,so why not have just said he didn't mean it when he had her in person? Definitely when he contacted her again those next few days later?
It's not like OP brought up what he said and he thought "oh crap I didn't mean what I said and she's gaga over me". OP didn't say anything to him about his drunken rant so why the feel the need to back track a week or so later? All of a sudden, "I was just kidding". He could've told her that in person the very next day but he didn't, because he meant what he said.
Posted by aquanibI second this. I'm no aqua expert but just going off human emotions and putting myself in his shoes I don't think he's done. I think he's just very guarded and doesn't want to be made out to be a fool.Posted by aec90He isn't. He genuinely likes/d you.
Now that he's saying a week later no to the the event and he was just "effing around" when he said those things I really do think that he's full of it.
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Do you agree @aquanib?
drunk man's mouth speaks a sober man's mind.
He's sincere, but the distance is his way of grounding himself. He's told you enough times how he feels about you and you just don't get it.
Don't let him stay away too long, girlfriend, out of sight is truly out of mind for an Aqua who doesn't feel valued.
Are you trying to get him to beg to be your boyfriend? To bring him to his knees?
Lotsa luck with that, hun. Not that this is true of you, but If he ever finds out that your motive to be with him is anything but genuine, you will be invisible to him or wish you were.
He's sincere, but the distance is his way of grounding himself. He's told you enough times how he feels about you and you just don't get it.
Don't let him stay away too long, girlfriend, out of sight is truly out of mind for an Aqua who doesn't feel valued.
Are you trying to get him to beg to be your boyfriend? To bring him to his knees?
Lotsa luck with that, hun. Not that this is true of you, but If he ever finds out that your motive to be with him is anything but genuine, you will be invisible to him or wish you were.
Posted by pathfinderNo I'm not trying to get him to beg. After he took back the event and said he was just effing around what else was I suppose to do but bow out? The week before he was telling his roommate about this 5 day trip that he asked me to go on him with so when he from that to nothing I was just blindsided and confused so I thought the only and best thing to do was to let it go. Just didn't know what else to do :/
drunk man's mouth speaks a sober man's mind.
He's sincere, but the distance is his way of grounding himself. He's told you enough times how he feels about you and you just don't get it.
Don't let him stay away too long, girlfriend, out of sight is truly out of mind for an Aqua who doesn't feel valued.
Are you trying to get him to beg to be your boyfriend? To bring him to his knees?
Lotsa luck with that, hun. Not that this is true of you, but If he ever finds out that your motive to be with him is anything but genuine, you will be invisible to him or wish you were.
Do you think my aqua is completely done with this?
Posted by starloverYes, they will push to see how far they can go until you crack. Then call you crazy when you do.Posted by sultrykittyI lived with one for a while....he told me after we split that he had a *death wish* on me....he liked to see how far he could push me and pull me back againPosted by vanballmoosPosted by sultrykitty
He was drunk, he meant what he said, and now based on your reaction he's either regretting that he was that open to you, or taking the time to consider whether you're worth opening up to again.
Ball's in his court.
If he feels that way (either one) then why did he even contact OP twice after the fact?
To test the waters. Aqua will take one step forward and two steps back if he feels like he went too far. It's classic.
The second one was the same. He would flirt horribly with other women to test me
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I attribute it to "unevolved" Aquas, or those who aren't committed to a relationship. Mine hasn't done shit like that for 20 years but it was bad in the beginning.
Posted by busyeyes88well I agree because I was with one aqua man.Posted by starloverThis is so true...
They are a nightmare in one to one rships... I was with two of them
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too bad there aren't any women on this site who have anything good/positive to say about them.
I am happy with who I am now.
Posted by lisabethur8Don't think that's true, m'dear. I've seen (and written) plenty of positive things.Posted by busyeyes88well I agree because I was with one aqua man.Posted by starloverThis is so true...
They are a nightmare in one to one rships... I was with two of them
Lol
Great for humanitarian work and group work
too bad there aren't any women on this site who have anything good/positive to say about them.
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It's just that some of the "negative" things are just part of the way they operate and can be very confusing. I don't see them as negative at all, in fact most of the stuff that happens is because they're so sensitive and are trying to keep from being hurt. When you look at it that way, it can become almost endearing.
Posted by busyeyes88Busy I think you must have missed how she laughed in his face when he was spilling his feelings about her and said he wanted to only be with her. I'm pretty sure his ego got hurt and that's why he canceled the trip on OP...Posted by aec90Why om earth would you want anything to do with someone who treats you in this manner?? How old are you?Posted by pathfinderNo I'm not trying to get him to beg. After he took back the event and said he was just effing around what else was I suppose to do but bow out? The week before he was telling his roommate about this 5 day trip that he asked me to go on him with so when he from that to nothing I was just blindsided and confused so I thought the only and best thing to do was to let it go. Just didn't know what else to do :/
drunk man's mouth speaks a sober man's mind.
He's sincere, but the distance is his way of grounding himself. He's told you enough times how he feels about you and you just don't get it.
Don't let him stay away too long, girlfriend, out of sight is truly out of mind for an Aqua who doesn't feel valued.
Are you trying to get him to beg to be your boyfriend? To bring him to his knees?
Lotsa luck with that, hun. Not that this is true of you, but If he ever finds out that your motive to be with him is anything but genuine, you will be invisible to him or wish you were.
Do you think my aqua is completely done with this?
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Posted by aec90Posted by pathfinderNo I'm not trying to get him to beg. After he took back the event and said he was just effing around what else was I suppose to do but bow out? The week before he was telling his roommate about this 5 day trip that he asked me to go on him with so when he from that to nothing I was just blindsided and confused so I thought the only and best thing to do was to let it go. Just didn't know what else to do :/
drunk man's mouth speaks a sober man's mind.
He's sincere, but the distance is his way of grounding himself. He's told you enough times how he feels about you and you just don't get it.
Don't let him stay away too long, girlfriend, out of sight is truly out of mind for an Aqua who doesn't feel valued.
Are you trying to get him to beg to be your boyfriend? To bring him to his knees?
Lotsa luck with that, hun. Not that this is true of you, but If he ever finds out that your motive to be with him is anything but genuine, you will be invisible to him or wish you were.
Do you think my aqua is completely done with this?
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I think you two need to talk. You both are letting your insecurities pollute the good vibes you share. Stop the "effing" around. You two really don't know each other.
The fact that he had to get inebriated to tell you how he felt shows me that he was trying to deaded the blow of possible rejection from you. While You, on the other hand, were feeling insulted because he asked you for exclusivity while intoxicated instead of while sober.
Each of your feelings are valid, but because you don't understand (know) each other, you both go to opposite ends and now it's a stand off -- with both of you feeling rejected.
What both of you need to realize is how great you have it now. Y'all can be 100 with each other since you two don't have to be together for anything other than that you want to be together (no kids, no financial ties, no marital ties, etc.)
TALK TO EACH OTHER.
Posted by starloverPoint taken. 🙂Posted by sultrykittyInterestingPosted by lisabethur8Don't think that's true, m'dear. I've seen (and written) plenty of positive things.Posted by busyeyes88well I agree because I was with one aqua man.Posted by starloverThis is so true...
They are a nightmare in one to one rships... I was with two of them
Lol
Great for humanitarian work and group work
too bad there aren't any women on this site who have anything good/positive to say about them.
I am happy with who I am now.
It's just that some of the "negative" things are just part of the way they operate and can be very confusing. I don't see them as negative at all, in fact most of the stuff that happens is because they're so sensitive and are trying to keep from being hurt. When you look at it that way, it can become almost endearing.
I just see and saw it as dysfunctional behaviour that I wanted no part of
Funny how I went back for second helpings of the torture lol
We live and learn
Not for me. 🙂
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We're all dysfunctional in some way or another, no?
I've always had a way of being able to handle the tortured soul. I have a soft spot for them. But no, I'm not a glutton for punishment and wouldn't have stayed with my SO if that behavior continued. I walked away when it did, and he decided to stop. I guess there needs to be enough incentive for it to change.
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