Aqua man ghosted me 2 month now

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You are putting WAY too much energy into him and he isn't putting any into you. I'm sorry- you guys just aren't a match.
So much effort for someone she describes as 'self absorbed and selfish'. I mean...standards please.
I know this sounds horrible but... to complain and put someone's character down on one hand and then on the other do a "woe is me but I just like them soooooo much" is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves.
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I'm scratching my head trying to understand what there is to like...?

Sounds to me like she's more 'in like' with the idea of them being together than him as an individual. i would've walked as soon as he initiated talk of his poor treatment of ex's on their first meeting. Huge red flag.
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Posted by FutureSeeker
Posted by LadyNeptune
Posted by FutureSeeker
You are putting WAY too much energy into him and he isn't putting any into you. I'm sorry- you guys just aren't a match.
So much effort for someone she describes as 'self absorbed and selfish'. I mean...standards please.
I know this sounds horrible but... to complain and put someone's character down on one hand and then on the other do a "woe is me but I just like them soooooo much" is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves.
I'm scratching my head trying to understand what there is to like...?

Sounds to me like she's more 'in like' with the idea of them being together than him as an individual. i would've walked as soon as he initiated talk of his poor treatment of ex's on their first meeting. Huge red flag.
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I think OP wants this guy because he's unattenable. She wants to conquer him.
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Why is it so important for you to make it work with him? Have you already invested so much of yourself emotionally in the last 2 months?

Why excuse his actions as him 'sparing' you? "He didn't have sex with me because he doesn't want to hurt me. He stopped calling me because he doesn't want to hurt me".

Maybe if you slept with him you would get this out of your system and be able to move on..,