Posted by Infinite8Posted by cvurkoPosted by Infinite8Posted by cvurko
When i get hit by a wave of feelings i just close my eyes and patiently analyze every one of them until i reach the source of it. I try controlling my actions and try not to do sth stupid "under the influence". Sometimes i am successful, others - not so much. If i think letting the emotiona flow would be constructive, i open the gate, but i often disappoint myself for doing that afterwards.
This last year i was pretty low on energy and a lot of atuff happened so i had moments in which i was very u stable and dysfunctional. Otherwise, and in general im quite in control.
So at your worst, you say nothing? You try not to react?
Zero reactions in front of people. If it is unbearable i react when im alone (either i hit/break sth or i cry). When its not so extreme but still pretty hard i just enter a quasi-meditative state and try to figure out the problem, understand the situation and set my mind in a way which can help me overcome the obstacle.
Ahhh yes, I recongnize my husband in those reactions.
He has improved as he got older, in trying to express himself. But the process was funny, because he went from not saying a thing (bursting suddenly and enexpectedly) to having verbal diarrhea (perpetuated by his need to learn to express himself and by his Aqua moon, Gem mars and Libra Pluto ?).
Now he is in a phase where he is learning to slow down the process and the mind. Analyzing as you do.click to expand
Posted by Rindaroo
Oh & writing/journaling helps a lot. Sometimes I find my feelings there ?