Aquarians, do you think we Virgos are ridiculous?

I don't think Aquarians actually HATE anyone (?) but do you find us Virgos to be RIDICULOUS? We may have some things in common, but do you just think we should chill out more, be less serious, etc? (it's not easy!) If you DO think we are ridiculous, please don't just say yes but explain in Virgo-gratifying detail!

mm lets see, i have known 8 virgos in my 32 years. and no your not ridiculous. i've noticed that with women, loyalty to friends is not so important as it is to lovers. i've seen that twice. most of the female virgos i know are funny,intelligent and blunt. i like that.

now the men, i only dated one, it ended ok but not great. but he was a decent guy, intelligent, a stickler for the rules, considerate, a clean freak, likes things organized, and blunt.

my fiance has a virgo friend, he is a good guy too. loyal, reliable, and fun to be around.

oh and my godmother is a virgo. love her to death.

oh and i dont know any overly serious virgos. but i think the guys are more serious than the women though. but once you get a couple of beers in you its party time. 🙂 so no you dont need to chill out or be less serious, well i dont see you guys that way.

i think virgos and aquarians are similar on the level that we both keep our walls up and are not big on expressing emotions..i have some virgo friends and am currently dating one and what i noticed is that they are not very spontaneous, very traditional with planning things out and doing stuff ahead of time (which makes it so hard to actually hang out with them lol)..virgos keep themselves busy because they do not like to feel like they are wasting their day..it not a bad thing but i think virgos should loosen up a bit and relax 🙂 go on some last minute planned trips that are fun haha

Posted by iksentricbeauty
they are not very spontaneous, very traditional with planning things out and doing stuff ahead of time

I beg to differ because I'm very spontaneous. I will let my hair down any time. BUT...the only time I am not is if a guy contacts me @ say about uh......9 or 10:00 to hang out? Hell no. I'm not going. 😛

BTW, how's the Virgo doing? Has your situation gotten any better?

Perhaps we Virgos need to learn the Aquarian detachment a bit and then maybe we would stop worrying so much? But I have to say that we Virgos are caring people (we are rather like Cancers, who also of course worry a lot) and there is often a fine line between "detachment" and "just not caring" and we don't want to stop caring! Perhaps like Cancers we often care too much or especially about things that may not be that important in the end (good sense of perspective - how to get one? - help, please!) But it does seem to me that we Virgos often have an awful lot of hassle in our lives (like I feel like I am buried under a ton of trouble sometimes!) and I must say that can sometimes make it hard to see the funny side of things!

Yessir, very much so. I dont know that many, my mom was a virgo and so is my brother inlaw. Both have/had controlling tendencies, do as i say/do. My mom had a thing for details and i hated that. An example, she wanted hot milk in her hot tea, if u didnt boil the milk 1st she would notice and make u remake it. Gosh, that always got to me big time, i wanted to scream, 'u want tea or a bubbling volcano?' My brother inlaw is the worst, nothing is ever good enough, im apparently not good enough for his brother, as if his brother is a persian prince or something. And virgos are good at pretending, acting like they like u when they dont. U keep acting and i'll keep it real, thats how the relationship with my brother inlaw is. He fake smiles, i snarl/growl.

Sorry to hear about all your bad experiences with Virgos but we do try...we are trying ("VERY trying" sometimes I guess you would say lol!) We just need to be chilled out but not everybody can or will do that for us.

It's funny actually because that "acting like they like you when they don't" sounds more like Gemini or Libra or even (I have to say) Aquarius to me.

I've got a feeling this "control freakery" must come from feeling that you had NO control growing up: I'm not sure if people would describe me as a control freak (certainly nobody ever has to my face) but yes Virgos are sometimes known for this and in my case if it's true I would say that I did not have much freedom or control when growing up, especially as I was the youngest in the family and therefore the least important! Perhaps that pattern is common for Virgos (?)

I really haven't been paying attention to who is what except close family and friends so I'm not sure if I ever experienced the Virgo grace.

Some of us have the control issues too so don't worry about it... I find it easy to remind myself that I can't fix the world, I can't fix what doesn't want to be fix or doesn't consider itself broken, I can't control things that don't directly impact me and I have to focus the control on daily operations. Say to yourself several times "free will" in the back of your mind whenever that control starts to affect another person. Sort of a reminder that we can't control others as well.

As for the mysteries of the Aquarian Detachment... I have no clue what we do or how we do it, but it doesn't always seem to stop us from getting hurt. The problem is, there are many times we actually do secretly care but for one reason or another need to separate ourselves from it.

And it's not that Aqua's fake when we are nice to someone that we can't stand... I think we are just civil and respectful. Not liking someone doesn't seem to justify being mean to them or to ignore them. Detachment play here too. Listening to out intuition is a biggie too. If it's border line, we might actually try to hang out with someone we dislike to see if there's something in common. You still have to get through life.

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Posted by iksentricbeauty
they are not very spontaneous, very traditional with planning things out and doing stuff ahead of time

I beg to differ because I'm very spontaneous. I will let my hair down any time. BUT...the only time I am not is if a guy contacts me @ say about uh......9 or 10:00 to hang out? Hell no. I'm not going. 😛

BTW, how's the Virgo doing? Has your situation gotten any better?

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oh boy i have to update you on that sitatuation RealTalk lol no time to type it out now, i'm off to work..to be continued later!

Looking forward to it!

Posted by virgodog58
there is often a fine line between "detachment" and "just not caring"

This. Most of the time I can care less...*dust*

With regard to this archetypal Virgo business about making lists, planning, not-being-spontaneous etc. I will tell you how it is for me. Yes I do often make lists but the purpose of this (as it is I should think for other Virgos) is as it were to "empty the mind of its anxieties" (by writing them down) so that I feel much calmer and clearer and more positive when I have done this. It is also to be able to "see the wood for the trees" (understand what is really important and what therefore should be prioritised). But although I often make a detailed list of what I intend to do the following day (again, helps to calm the mind before going to bed)in fact I do NOT feel obligated to follow my agenda if I really don't feel like it or especially if unexpected things happen to disrupt my plans I do NOT go into nerd rage/meltdown over it but am usually quite philosophical about it and just reschedule "the things left undone" to be done as soon as possible. So I guess what I am trying to say is that for me at least having a plan is NOT a "cage" or a "prison" but rather a "safety-net" or "insurance policy" which in fact can then leave me feeling free to act more spontaneously if I feel like it. If SOMEONE ELSE has set my agenda though (e.g. a boss at work) and things go badly wrong then in that situation I WOULD be a lot more anxious as firstly I hate to let other people down and secondly of course ultimately my job might be in danger.

Posted by WaterCup
And virgos are good at pretending, acting like they like u when they dont.

Not hardly. If I don't like someone they will blatantly know it because I won't fuck with them. Point blank period. I don't do fake.

Usually it's the other way around. Usually.

Aquaquinn i'd beg to differ, to me, if i dont like u then u dont exist, meaning i wont bother with something that doesnt exist. It takes a lot to get me there though so the world is not yet extinct, lol- only a few joined the Dodo birds

RealTalk, my brother inlaw is like that, i've seen him smile to ppl's faces then talk bad when they've left. I dont know his moon or other planets, but he is definitely a virgo. My mom on the other hand had a chartful of leo and i didnt notice that with her so much. Like i said, i dont know that many virgos, only these two and what they both have in common.

Posted by RealTalk
Looking forward to it!

for RealTalk get ready haahha..??_8 months in dating this virgo gal and still no topic of commitment brought up on both our parts, crazy right?! the last time i saw her i went to her house for a little bit before heading off into philly for a going away party. the sexual tension was insane because no one was home but the two of us in her room. NOTHING happend lmao and her body language made it seem like she wanted something to go down. Of course I didn't do anything about it because i had to leave really soon to make it to the party. SMH! after that she pulled away from me for a good week and a half (hot and cold). now we are back to talking to eachother again but the vibe is different (i guess because we haven't communicated consistently for almost two weeks). i really want to tell her how i feel and ask her if she would consider being my girlfriend, if not now then sometime down the road. I can't read her at all and i dont think she can read me either. We both keep our walls up and there is so much emotional/sexual tension between us that neither of us want to express verbally. and honestly, i'm getting tired of all this push/pull going on, ughh i'm at the point of giving up and just stop putting effort..theres no balance between us i feel like i'm always the one trying to make plans ARGHHH lol end rant

hmm i have several virgo friends they range from typical control freeks to a ball of fun! one virgo friend controls everything...drives me nuts. I dont hate him perse..i jsut dont enjoy feeling that his way needs to be the way. live and let live man..just dont impose your way of life on me. it sucks! other than that i think its usually the other way around. virgos cant stand us~!

Posted by iksentricbeauty

Posted by RealTalk
Looking forward to it!

for RealTalk get ready haahha..??_8 months in dating this virgo gal and still no topic of commitment brought up on both our parts, crazy right?! the last time i saw her i went to her house for a little bit before heading off into philly for a going away party. the sexual tension was insane because no one was home but the two of us in her room. NOTHING happend lmao and her body language made it seem like she wanted something to go down. Of course I didn't do anything about it because i had to leave really soon to make it to the party. SMH! after that she pulled away from me for a good week and a half (hot and cold). now we are back to talking to eachother again but the vibe is different (i guess because we haven't communicated consistently for almost two weeks). i really want to tell her how i feel and ask her if she would consider being my girlfriend, if not now then sometime down the road. I can't read her at all and i dont think she can read me either. We both keep our walls up and there is so much emotional/sexual tension between us that neither of us want to express verbally. and honestly, i'm getting tired of all this push/pull going on, ughh i'm at the point of giving up and just stop putting effort..theres no balance between us i feel like i'm always the one trying to make plans ARGHHH lol end
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Lmao!! Nah...honestly I don't think 8 months is a long time. I was dating a guy for a year before any topic of commitment was brought up, he brought it up in the very beginning but that was it. Me, I didn't say shit about anything...hahahaha, so it's not unlikely for her to be dragging her feet.

You guys haven't had sex yet!!!!! WUT—?? She probably wanted you to go in for the kill!! & you didn't get the hint!!! So now she probably thinks you don't want her, hence the pulling away. Plus you're rushing because you had to got to a party? Shiaaaatt! I would've been like oh hell no. What's up with that?

I know she has pretty strong feelings for you though. Not speaking for all Virgos but if I'm with someone for 8 months my feelings are spot on for them. I remember you saying she wasn't ready for a relationship because she was in school. If she's really focused on that then yeah she probably just

Dammit dxp!!!!! Probably just needs to focus on her studies. But in essence I do believe you should express to her how you feel & go from there. It's eating you alive right? Lol, I know how that can be...sheeeesh! But you have to be patient with the Virgos. Most of us are more than a handful to the 3rd power 😛. But I know you care for her so I wish for everything to go well.

@RealTalk...I knowwwwwwww I shouldn't have been in such a rush to leave her that night UGHH! lol I just felt that it was really bad timing..and yeah we haven't had sex yet :O!! when i say we both have our walls up we REALLY have them up its ridiculous! haha..right now we are not talking as much to each other, cold vibes between us (i think we just need to recharge ourselves)..i have a lot of things going on right now in my life that i'm trying to deal with but i don't go a day without thinking about this virgal lol, corny right? so RealTalk, as a virgo how long before you actually committed (if u did) to the guy u mentioned above? what made you finally trust him etc..?..i'm leaving the ball in her court now to contact me because i am worn out from putting all the effort all the time...and i agree if she's come this far of 8 months into dating me then i must be doing something right? lol it is eating me alive that i haven't told her my feelings and what i truly want from her..i don't wear my heart on my sleeve and dislike feeling vulnerable!! ahHHh!

Tell me about it. No that's not corny at all. When you love someone it's natural to think about them often. Yeah it's best to let her do more initiating now & when she does just let her know what's up.

I still have not committed because he is young & I don't think he can handle me. He's all over the damn place (gemini), so sometimes we are on then off, then on again. It's insane. I hate him & I love him too damn him! But yeah, my trust is not completely there for him yet. It's really hard for me to trust people as it is, but it's a long process for me. I also waited a year before telling him how I felt but still never said "I love you". Didn't want to do that but I did anyway because I couldn't take it anymore, so sometimes it just takes time. Just be patient hun, it'll work out.

haha wow he's a gemini? they are all over the place hahah one of my favorite signs that i get along with 🙂 thats awesome though that you finally told him how you felt! i'm trying to be patient still haha i just hope she hasn't lost interest in me with the way things have been going lately

w/ virgos, it's just the narrow-mindedness, hypocritical and naggy traits i personally dislike. only b/c i'm so broad-minded n can't stand one-sided thinking n i hate when they can be so against something -- yet they do it themselves!

but in turn, i do like how most have natural maternal instincts to take care of people. that's nice. and they're networking and working habits i can appreciate. u should check out myaquariusvirgo.com. it's just about those 2 signs 🙂

Posted by iksentricbeauty
haha wow he's a gemini? they are all over the place hahah one of my favorite signs that i get along with 🙂 thats awesome though that you finally told him how you felt! i'm trying to be patient still haha i just hope she hasn't lost interest in me with the way things have been going lately

He's a nutjob, but that's my babe. Nah...I doubt it. You'll be fine. 😉

haha thanks RealTalk 🙂 i'll keep u updated on things, let me know how its going with your gem!