Aquarius Disappearing Acts

I am a Cancer woman that met an Aquarius online in Oct. We emailed for a few days and move up to texting shortly after. I was in the process of ending a relationship of 7 yrs, which I informed the Aqua of up front. He told me because he felt we had chemistry and seemed like we've known each other for months instead of days, it was going to get confusing because he was starting to like me. Pretty much from the beginning he started texting daily, every few hours he'd ask how I was doing and what I was doing. About a week after we started texting I was gong on vaca with my girlfriend he told me not to forget about him, the entire time i was on vaca he was sendig me texts and he even called me for the first time. I was really overwhelmed at how persistent and comfortable he was calling me pet names even told me he missed me even though we had not met.

The speed of communication continued until after we physically met. The chemistry was incredible, to say we were attracted to each other is an understatement. Immediately after we met, he text me saying he liked me and wanted to know if I liked him and when he could see me again.

A little background, he's divorced said his ex cheated after he transferred jobs and move to another state and took a drastic pay cut. He has since moved back after the divorce and now works two jobs and has very little time. He came to visit me a few times in between his jobs. After the first visit right before Thanksgiving, i noticed his texts were fewer and fewer. When I asked him what was going on he said work was really busy (he's in retail) and he hasnt been getting much rest, he then said he can tell I like to be in control of most things. I was totally confused, there were two incidents when i asked him if he wanted me to leave the tv on when we started smooching he said yes, I turned the tv off a few minutes later anyway because i got a little nervous about our intimacy. Another time we was getting a little more touchy feely then I was comfortable with and I kept moving his hands. Ever since then he's been distant he went from texts every 2 hours to some days I dont hear from him at all, just when I have him out of my system he'll pop up with a text that says "Hey Remember Me?", if I am short it ends there, if I am more welcoming he'll start to text more and more. When I asked him if he was done trying to move forward with us he said "not necessarily".. I am totally confused, as a Cancer I like to know what to expect. He i

He's a douche, don't settle for that.

Thanks August, I feel the same at times then I allow him to suck me back into the madness.. Guess my issue is I was so overwhelmed with how aggressive he was in his pursuit of me in the beginning, once I let my guard down seems he backed off..

You are right tiziani. I knew from many years back a Cancer/Aquarius match was usually not a good one. I was hoping since we are in our 40's and he has been married things would be a little smoother, guess not..Thanks for replying.

Since this is an astrology board I will actually included what is going on a little more...

Yes he is most likely stressed out... Aquas are going though Pluto Square Uranus... Aqua ruled Uranus and although pluto is in Capricorn it has a large effect on Cancers as well because it is the other sign in the square.

Cancers are going though some major changes... alot of moving in some way... business maybe, job, house, or so on... that is the general theme... even moving on with your life maybe...

Aquas is more of identity... they have also as I have been noticing having financial issues and because they are pleasers often they feel guilty about not having money or spending money on gifts for christmas... even more so if he has kids this could be an issue... I would not doubt he is busy trying to work as much as he can to make some extra cash. I how ever know it is not that important to a cancer to have stuff more of a love and affection... even more so consistence.

There is a alot of nervous energy and when you are short with him he does not feel like it is working so you have at times baby the confidence of air signs... often depends where there are at in over all karmactic development but I have met ones far along and still have anxieties. I have dated many aqua's seem's to be my thing actually... so "you forgot about me" or "remember me" or "you never ask about my day" or cock extremely confident attitude... compliments to be overly charming to impress...

I am not saying it could not work out with any 2 signs but he needs to more mature and up front with his feelings... be careful as a cancer as many waste all there time chasing or staying to long in relationships because they are needed... and have issues letting go... aka your past relationship...

he should be feeling better by about January mid... but will start at the January... but at the end you may see him or you come on strong... as they have some good influences coming or there with Jupiter in Leo until August...

Best of luck tell me how I did...

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chicken extremely confident attitude... is C O C K Y...

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PiscesMoon2, I think you nailed it. I am going through my own changes with finances and trying to find my way regarding whether to physically move.I also sense my Aqua covers up a lot, one day he wanted to see me on his lunch break he told me to text him when I was on my way as he would be napping in his car because he was so tired. When I arrived I had to knock on his window to wake him up, I got in and sat with him with tears in my eyes only imagining how little rest he gets. Of course he blew my show of emotion off as being silly and said it was no big deal and just life.

For some reason I also think there my be some other ladies he is communicating with, maybe not in a sexual way but when he does have free time and is not resting I feel that is the time to come be with me. I do sense the nervous energy when we are together almost like he is unsure of himself but puts up a wall of confidence from time to time. The "remember me" comment irks me to no end, since he is so busy and I've read Aquas like their space I fall back on consistently texting him or calling him and let him contact me mostly. At times when I do I get very dry texts asking how am I today or he'll do his disappearing act.

You definitely nailed it regarding how he feels when I am short with him, when I finally pressed about why he disappeared this last time, he gave me his "I've been super busy on both jobs and working 7 days a week with barely any rest" he also said instead of me enjoying his company when he does come see me, I talk ish to him. Which he may think I do because I'm frustrated with the lack of time, I try to be peaceful but him stopping over for an hour for kisses and cuddling at 430am is just a tease.

I know I need to cut my ties to prevent myself from getting into full blown anxiety but the feeling of how I feel when we're together makes it so hard.

Ahh come on Piscesmoon2, i was looking forward to your feedback.

I think you do need to be careful... it this works out for you... it may work out later next month... at the end... I would say have an open... conversation with him about it before you make your final choice... There is a bit of an thing where they maybe another person... Aquas are going though alot and be careful with the online thing... Be careful about getting sucked in... last thing you need is to waste another 7 years on a guy that does not work out.

I always feel like I am jumping off a cliff when I do this... I think because it is an astrology board more people should try to remain objective and apply transits if they know how not just sun signs...

There is a change he will come running back next month though... just make sure you are the only one in the picture... Aquas like attention sometimes in unhealthy way... meaning from more then one person or someone that will give it to them.

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Are you sensing there is someone else from my comments or just in general? I feel there is, I asked if he has a "special friend" meaning FWB when we first starting chatting he said he didnt know about a special friend but has friends that have expressed their interest in a relationship with him. What really threw me is how much he talked about how geninue and natural our first communications where and how it would get confusing since I had a b/f. I deep down think there is someone else, which hurts even more because he put sooo much pressure on me to make time for him initially got mad when I wouldnt let him come to my house in the wee hours of the morning or on his lunch break. Thanks for your advice, I need to get far away from him..I guess like Tiz said I just have to take the positive in the short time we interacted and be happy with that.

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Ahh come on Piscesmoon2, i was looking forward to your feedback.

Thank you...

I do this for the people I see on here that really seem like they want answers... If you really want you can message me with your birth chart and I could see what I can... May give you a better idea...

Me personally have had a hard time... dealing with some of my natural astrology and semi open psychic stuff... People often think I am weird but often weirdly right...

Often people don't even say thank you... although I am not saying I am always right... 🙂

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Thank you, I will tell I dont know much other then the time of my birth and I am on the Cancer/Leo cusp..

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Thank you, I will tell I dont know much other then the time of my birth and I am on the Cancer/Leo cusp..

I think you should run... if it was me... that is what I would do... I would take the time to recover from my old relationship first... and not jump right into another.

I know other aquas... I know 2 others girls are kinda playing a few guys and lined it up with a transit that seems to be common in aqua's... Now not all aqua's will do this but the ones that are tested will... I had another that is dealing with his jealous issues... Actually accused me of hitting on his gf when he was wasted... he just felt threatened... All my friends where there... I never once talked to the girl out of line... he ended up saying sorry but I don't like drama people in my life... I am only 30 and his gf was 42... She also was far from my type... So it was just one big mess I don't know if they are still together but they are fighting really bad... and that was about the 3rd time he got wasted and tried to pick fights with guys around her for no reason... The guy did not realize his friend was my BF of 20 years so my friend kicked him out of his house... because he knows I am not like that...

There is a good chance is all I will say... I do also know a cancer that asked me for advise that I think should leave a man but she just will not... eventually I believe it will not work out and she is wasting her time... but that is up to her... We are still great friends... I don't try to beat her over her head about it. She is a big girl and I will be here for her if something goes wrong to help her get through it.

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Yes I had a prior experience with an Aqua that did that started seeing me and at least one others, I had no clue until I saw a toothbrush in the bathroom sink. I swore Aquas off all together after that, until 2 months ago. I can tell you I did see he needed validation more than 3 times, he has asked if I still wanted him or if I was still feeling him after I told him he irked me. Maybe it was related to his wife cheating or just how he is. When you say there is this "thing" are you referencing another relationship, possibly someone he is getting to know similiar to how he was with me?

If there is no agreement of exclusivity, then doesn't he have the right to talk to other people? You should be as well.

truecap that is correct, but I believe in honesty at 42 I just feel people should be open and honest. I was not seeing anyone else because I had just ended a 7 year relationship which was my choice. If I ask if there is someone else its to curve any emotions I may have gotten thinking it was just me. I cant control his actions but I would like to know up front what I am dealing with.

Then be honest and tell him you're not interested in seeing anyone else. See what he says back. You'll be able to tell by his response . Its much better than asking him if he is.

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when we are together almost like he is unsure of himself but puts up a wall of confidence from time to time.

this is sth which has got my attention. i am not speaking about your aqua, but as far as me and other aquas are concerned...we are VERY CONFIDENT people. the only time i behave as you said is when i am caught in the middle of "i like him but this is not going to work" thing...i mean when i like somebody from some points of view, but i KNOW, logically, "intuitionally" that it won't work.

again...i don't know about your aqua, but i like to take a loooooot of time both when entering and leaving a relationship...

what about just doing what you feel like, when you feel like and see where this gets you...if you analise everything and try to anticipate what he wants you to do...you'll lose yourself in this...

good luck

Mz, first thanks for replying. I do see the confident side of him at times, but I have noticed he is more reserved when we are in person talking. I seem to get more info out of him when I asked questions and we are texting.

Funny, you said that. My male friend who is totally not into astrology said the same thing. He feels I am a little rough when it comes to men, and because I tell it like it is, it can be hard to take, because this Aqua seems a little insecurity he breaks up with me in his mind because I wont comply and go along with what he wants a lot of times, then gets sucked back in because I am a challenge and our chemistry. You know the whole male in pursuit of the prey thing. I will keep that in mind. Thanks.

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Mz, first thanks for replying. I do see the confident side of him at times, but I have noticed he is more reserved when we are in person talking. I seem to get more info out of him when I asked questions and we are texting.

Funny, you said that. My male friend who is totally not into astrology said the same thing. He feels I am a little rough when it comes to men, and because I tell it like it is, it can be hard to take, because this Aqua seems a little insecurity he breaks up with me in his mind because I wont comply and go along with what he wants a lot of times, then gets sucked back in because I am a challenge and our chemistry. You know the whole male in pursuit of the prey thing. I will keep that in mind. Thanks.

it isn't about insecurities...it is more like "i don't really like what i see"...

for instance...a couple of years ago i was in a relationship in which i bahaved pretty much as you described...i liked the chemistry, his social position...but i simply couldn't trust him as a man, i didn't like his friends, i didn't feel like introducing him to my family.

it took me some time after we broke up to realise he was my rebound guy after my divorce...

sincerely, i'd advise you to distance yourself from this...always keep in mind that you're ending a LT relationship yourself and no matter what you think...it is not 100% YOU acting here. but again...i don't know either of you, guys...

Mz you are saying based off my behavior his response is due to him not liking what he sees? You are right I should have not allowed myself to get caught up after ending a relationship, my thought process was I was debating leaving and I sought attention online and ended up meeting the Aqua. I just thought it would be a little flirting until I made my decision with my ex but everything happened so fast.

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I was debating leaving and I sought attention online and ended up meeting the Aqua. I just thought it would be a little flirting until I made my decision with my ex but everything happened so fast.

i know...what you're going through is natural...you'll make mistakes along the way[or not], you'll hope and lose hope along the way[or not], all i can say is never forget about yourself...be kind to yourself...heal your soul[a ltr break up is not a piece of cake]and at a moment you'll attract people who don't pull relationship stunts.

this forum is great, but don't take everything people say on here as the TRUTH[including me]...everything is based on THEIR EXPERIENCES, not yours...

Over the last 4 months I have been seeing an Aqua (he works two jobs, been divorced about 2 years from a wife who cheated). He's disappeared on and off during this time (no more then 5 days) been vague with texts but just when I count him out he pops up with a text. We started out texting every few hours, then a month later it was a few times a day, then just a simple hello text.

Fast forward a month later, I had finally had enough though I still like him (chemistry is crazy). I deleted his number and when he text me I ignored him. After two texts I didnt receive any more from him and I missed him. I sent him an email telling a little lie that I lost my phone and receive a new one and needed his number, within 10 mins he texted me his number and we made small talk. The next day I got non-stop texts from him every few hours just like the beginning. He told me he had been thinking about me and seemed very humble. He then said he was sorry he wasn't consistent, which blew me away he usually comes off as a little arrogant, and him apologizing really threw me. I asked if I was the reason he was inconsistent, he said no it was him, so I pushed farther and said is there anything in your life that is causing this, and he said yes I work two jobs and get very little rest, duh..I was still shocked at how open and honest he was being after not communicating with me for a week. It made me feel he really did have feelings for me.

A few days later I went into his store to purchase something and stopped in to say hello, when I left he texted me saying —you like me a lot?? with a smiley face. I was a little put off as I felt like he thinks I am sweating him.I didn't hear from him for 5 days until this weekend when I received a text saying —send me a pic?? I did and got no response.A month after we started seeing each other I noticed his communication dropped off when I asked if he still liked me he said he likes me but is unsure about us moving forward due to our work hours and our back and forth debates. Guess I am wondering if he feels it won't work but is kind of back and forth about how he feels about me. What do you fellow Aquas think?

Seems like game playing or that he isn't confident in the compatibility as you two live opposing lives.

Yeah you may be right.. I just feel conflicted he seems so into me when we are together..

I think he's just not that into you.

I think so too Truecap.