@virgodog58
14 Years1,000+ Posts
Lifelong infatuation with Cancer females
Good luck (:
Amen and lol. Not that I have anything cancer...
@KsamCancer: I really don't know if I could love another guy's kids and if you go with somebody that has kids then I think that you have to be willing and able to do this (especially in terms of financial support). I met a gorgeous Cancer girl a year or two ago (actually she was one of my Dad's professional carers before he died) and I think there was potentially something strong between us but the problem was the kids. Maybe she would have gone with anybody who would have helped to provide for her kids. On the dating site that I use I have noticed that very many of the women on there already have kids and I think that's why they can't get a guy even if they are attractive. What it comes down to I think is that if you go with a woman who already has kids not only will you be expected to financially support another guy's kids but also she will always probably put her kids before you. I can understand sacrificing for one's own children but for me anyway sacrificing for another man's children is a bit of a stretch.
Good luck!
So, do you have your own kids?
Yes I do but it's complicated: my son was an accident and it was traumatic to begin with as I was forced into fatherhood at the time (13 years ago) though I do care about him now. I am English and live in England and my ex and son are French and live in France and I see them for about six weeks a year. They are both Sags by the way.
Ok, I was wondering, and suspected you might have a kid/s. How do you expect a woman to come in and love your family, but you can't do the same? It's good that you're honest about your limitations, but I'm wondering how you justify that kind of imbalance in a relationship.
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@KsamCancer: I really don't know if I could love another guy's kids and if you go with somebody that has kids then I think that you have to be willing and able to do this (especially in terms of financial support). I met a gorgeous Cancer girl a year or two ago (actually she was one of my Dad's professional carers before he died) and I think there was potentially something strong between us but the problem was the kids. Maybe she would have gone with anybody who would have helped to provide for her kids. On the dating site that I use I have noticed that very many of the women on there already have kids and I think that's why they can't get a guy even if they are attractive. What it comes down to I think is that if you go with a woman who already has kids not only will you be expected to financially support another guy's kids but also she will always probably put her kids before you. I can understand sacrificing for one's own children but for me anyway sacrificing for another man's children is a bit of a stretch.
I think it's great that you have preferences and you're honest about it. I'd suggest you keep an open mind, not all mothers want/need your financial support. You never know.
The point is that as I said my son lives over in France with his mother so if I got a new girlfriend over here she wouldn't need to have much to do with him. The Cancer woman that I am interested in at the moment is 45 years old and does not have kids so if that is 1 in a million then I have found her. Haven't met her yet but am keeping my fingers crossed.
She has just deleted me from her contacts list: I don't know why. Maybe I said something wrong but who knows? 😢
Cancer female chick here with no kids. If I heardva guy doesn't want to date a woman with kids that's a red flag.
And being forced into fatherhood? You just wanted to get laid and were too stupid to wear a condom.
I swear you Virgos are so weird to me on your views on relationships and how you pursue and act in relationships. You called your child a mistake and said it was traumatic?? You were 43yrs old, youre not aware of the possible outcomes of what unprotected sex leads— I do enjoy your honesty and I hope you find the miracle youre looking to receive. 🙂
For your information it was not unprotected sex it's just that nothing is guaranteed (including contraception). Thank you.
You called your child a mistake. I'm glad she blocked you.
I never used that word.
@Koniucha: I would say that a mistake is something that you regret. An accident, not necessarily.
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It seems that I have a permanent/lifelong infatuation with Cancer females. Pretty much the first girl that I was smitten on (at the age of 8) turned out to be a Cancer though I didn't find this out until I met her again many years later. Then especially during my 20s (I am 56 now) I was very strongly attracted to certain other Cancer women but they either weren't interested or were already married or in relationships. Since then I still find that when it seems to me that I am falling in love with somebody she nearly always turns out to be a Cancer but again they are already in relationships or have kids or both. However at the moment I am trying to get something going with a Cancer woman through a dating website: she is absolutely gorgeous (and we have fantastic synastry) so I am praying to God that it will happen but she does live 80 miles away from me. At the moment I am pushing for a meeting so I hope that it will happen soon. So wish me good luck if you will!