Aquarius ex is confusing me

Hi guys.

I am writing to hopefully get some advice from some fellow Aquarians or people who have been with Aquarian women who can possibly explain their behaviour.

I was seeing a girl who I work with who is an Aquarian and there is significant age different between us. She made it quite obvious she was interested in me and we went on a date and I brought up the age difference between us. The response I got was “I can be with someone my age, but that doesn’t mean I will be happy – You make me happy.” So I figured why not give this a chance.

We had an amazing relationship for just under a year and everything was going fine. We are both Indian. Her parents asked her where this was going and I suggested that maybe she tell her folks about my age

to which she agreed.

Needless to say they were not happy and as a result my ex became distant from me. I asked her a few times what the issue was and she just shut down and would not tell me.

Eventually we broke up and I still continued to chase her and try to resolve the situation.

It came to a point where she probably got sick of me chasing and said “lets move on” to which I agreed.

The last thing she said to me was “I hope I don’t regret my decision and I can’t me not talking to you so can we be friends.” It took a lot for me to do this but I agreed.

Needless to say she made no effort in being friends and eventually blocked me on wotsapp, Snapchat and but continued to follow me on Instagram until I stopped following her.

To this day I don’t know the whole situation that occurred and I have the feeling she lied to be about a few minor things. All I got from her was “do you expect me to leave my parents for you” to which I replied No.

I then heard through the grapevine that she is back with her ex which raised a lot of questions. She broke up with her ex because his parents did not agree with their relationship.

So questions went through my head like, was I the rebound, is he the rebound, have they been talking when we were together etc.

I decided that there’s no point in talking to her about it and left it and began the healing process and moved on myself via no contact. My behaviour at work changed and I went back to being the happy go lucky guy I am.

Recently she has gone from completely blanking me at work to being quite awkward around me.

Sometimes she will say Hi when our paths cross, others she will wait for me to say hi, and there are times I catch her looking at me, or she turns her face when she sees me. There have been cases where she has tried to avoid me, I.e., waits for me to pass, or stares at the ground when I walk past her.

What’s going on with this girl? Does she have something to say to me? I don’t want to approach her purely because of the power game. I moved once I heard she was back with her ex (not sure if was true or a message for me to leave her alone).

I don’t want to be the one to approach her first if she has something on her mind. I am a leo.

Cheers in advance for the advice.

dude aquarius women are f****** in the head. Just stay away from them, that's what I do.

Mate as much as I would like to I work with this girl and its very hard to do. If I wasn't working with her then I would have moved on along time ago.

It was the way she told a close mate of mine that she was back with her ex so it would get to me and then a month later she is acting all nervous around me.

To be fair I working well on moving on, Im just trying to understand her behaviour so when and if I do have an encounter or some dialogue with her I am prepared.

Only she knows why the relationship ended. I'll decipher her post breakup behaviour for you though.

1) She's embarrassed for hurting you and or is dealing with her own guilty conscience. Maybe she was deceptive and thus feels uncomfortable around you. I don't do underhanded nonsense but I know that people tend to behave strangely when they are guilty of something.

2) She made herself vulnerable to you at some point in her life and now that it's over, she feels awkward about it. I get this way with men I put myself on the line for or show vulnerability to.

Aquarius 09 thanks for your input.

The basics are summarised as follows.

- She chased me and there was an age different which she did not object to.

- The girl told me she loved me first.

- At one point we agreed she should talk to her folks about the age difference.

- They had issues with it which she said we would talk about but never did.

- I asked to talk about it on numerous occasions but got very short answers.

- At one point she said her head was all over the place and we should talk. When she says we should talk she never did.

- To be fair I did push it because I wanted to know what was going on.

- When we broke up I still pursued her and she kept saying she would ask her folks but did not want to give me false hope.

- When she said lets move on, I agreed and never bothered her afterwards.

- She slowly blocks me on social media and wotsapp.

- After a month of no contact and the occasional hello at work, she then starts acting the way she does as described in my original post. Now she is back to ignoring me.

Its her birthday on Sunday and last year I took her to an apartment cooked for her etc, so maybe shes is thinking about that who knows. I didn't write a message in her birthday card so not sure how that's going to affect her behaviour as well.

The bottom line is when she needed to tell what was going on she froze and to date has never spoken to me about the issues in detail.

Then when I find out she is with her ex that confused me because that was a complete dead end, so not sure if she is really with him or if that was a message for me to leave her alone. I left her alone well before she decided to send me the message.

Id rather she come and speak to me we clear things up and just move on. We work together so I don't want or need the awkwardness.

Posted by MrR78
Aquarius 09 thanks for your input.

- When she said lets move on, I agreed and never bothered her afterwards.

- She slowly blocks me on social media and wotsapp.

- After a month of no contact and the occasional hello at work, she then starts acting the way she does as described in my original post. Now she is back to ignoring me.



Then when I find out she is with her ex that confused me because that was a complete dead end, so not sure if she is really with him or if that was a message for me to leave her alone. I left her alone well before she decided to send me the message.

Id rather she come and speak to me we clear things up and just move on. We work together so I don't want or need the awkwardness.

I'm a highly communicative Aqua so I don't relate to her at all. Her behaviour is strange and I can only think that she is guilty of something and is embarrassed. Usually when people move on quickly after a break up, it's because the other person was already in the picture or they never left.

Hmm it is puzzling.

My ex was a highly communicative aqua too. This girl told me everything (well I assumed she did lol) and we had a fantastic relationship possibly the best I have ever had.

It was when she told her folks and they didn't approve that she went all cold and distant on me.

I got mixed answers when I asked if I could talk to her folks and she said she would ask them but now, and for me to give it time etc.

I got to a stage after a few months where I told her that if she didn't want to make us work then I would have no choice but to gain closure and move on to which she replied I will ask my mum again but don't want to give you false hope.

I stopped her and said not to do it until we had a talk. So the last talk we have she basically tells me her folks gave her an ultimatum and if she expected me to leave her folks for me.

She told me stuff like she still remembers what we did in the past, still thinks about and hopes she does not regret her decision. The final thing she said to me before she got out of my car was that she cant imagine not talking to me and if we could be mates - I said I don't know.

a few days later I agree to be mates with her and she does not make an effort. A month after this conversation she is talking to someone at work who asked her if she was with someone to which she responds "its difficult" and then a few weeks later when the subject is brought up again she told them she was seeing someone who she broke up with but now they are back together. Im the only one who knows this in the office except my ex.

So she told a close mate of mine knowing this would get back to me. Since then I just left it because if its true then you are right he was always in the picture which raised doubts and questions. If she is lying then that's a pretty low thing to do. I just chose to ignore her from that moment on, until the last few weeks where she started to act funny around me.

Now with her ex - his parents didn't agree to them so its a very similar situation to mine excepts the roles are reversed? So there must have been some dialogue between them, as for his parents to change their mind is quite a big thing.

I guess I just want to understand whats happened without asking her because I don't want to give her that power if she has already been elusive or lied to me. The first time she spoke to her mum she told me her mum wanted to meet me and later I found out it was my ex who forced her mum to meet up with me. Needless to say that didn't happen either.

Aquarius_Beauty

Thanks for your input. I totally agree with everything you have said.

However it would have been nice to have had a proper conversation about it.

However it doesn't explain her recent actions. She knows she can come and talk to me but chooses not to.

I have decided if I catch her looking at me today then I will send her an email and ask if her she has something on her mind?

Either way I think I needs to be resolved.

If she is or has moved on then I will wish her the best and carry on with my own life.

Thanks again for your input

Ok so just email her and said Ive noticed she has been looking at me if she has something to talk to me about.

I got a response back saying No maybe I think she is looking at me or she is just looking in my direction for work related stuff.

I swear im not seeing things lol. Lets see if her behaviour changes now.