@hawai
9 Years
Financial insecurities
I don't think I would make a big deal about it. Then again, I tend to prioritize financial security.
If my SO started making (or made) more money than me, I wouldn't really mind.
Posted by hawai
Guys, would you be bothered if your gf/partner earned more than you? Would you end a quite well developing relationship if you struggle financially?I managed to get a graduate job, however my ex aqua was not that successful (partly because of his laziness) and kept mentioning every now and then that I was rich and he was poor, even I tried to convince him that it was not important.
Be careful people might get taking advantage of or compensate something else entirely different new.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Or if we go grocery shopping, what you are actually buying is worth it?
Your a dude? Strange I thought you were a girl.
I'm a woman why
I was making more than my Gem and it didn't seem to bother him. In the early dating stages he paid for everything, although sometimes I picked up the check when he was in the bathroom cause I'm sneaky like that.
Once we were together together things became more 50/50 which I prefer. He just got a promotion and has the potential to make crazy commissions so he'll probably be making much more $ $ than me this year.
Really interested in this thread and the responses the guys give. *follows
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
@LadyNeptune. I'm a woman why
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I'm a woman why
lol ok nvmind
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
It's under the Aquarius form my bad. Isee.
The op is addressed to guys so I was thinking I had your gender wrong this whole time lol
Haha I see what you mean.
But when it said guys like hey guys or people of dxp what if your gf or partner makes more than you. Mybad. Guys.
Posted by aquarius_beauty
I wouldn't mind my SO making more money than me but I don't know if I'd be too comfortable making more than him. Not for my sake but for his. I want someone on my same level in some way or the other, to balance each other out.I feel like me making more money than him can cause deep insecurity in him. My ex had an issue with it when I was working and he had lost his job.
And if he didn't have an issue, then I'd have an issue with it. I don't like a person who just settles. I like a man to be ambitious and driven (which is why I'm drawn to fire signs). Anyone who settles for a life of mediocrity is not for me.
If however I see he is trying and he is working hard, then I probably wouldn't tell him how much I make. I'd lie about it and never let him see my personal accounts. Just so he won't feel less of a man. I would support him in his endeavors and be encouraging.
Ambition and drive does not always = large income.
Ambition and drive does not always = large income.
in my family it does. It led my dad to accumulate a small fortune despite not having a formal education, coming to this country without learning how to add or subtract. My mom had to teach him. Yet he had a successful business for over 35 years. Making over $ 10,000 a week in profits (at the peak of his business). Invested in real estate properties which now are his backbone. The money he makes in rent alone is more than twice the average family income in my area. All because he had ambition and drive to suceed.
My sisters are also all successful. Despite most of them being single/teen moms. they all have jobs that pay over $ 30 an hour. with just AA degrees. And that's RARE here in Los Angeles, CA. highest paid job you can find here now, is like $ 18 with a BA.
My ex has ambition and drive and just started his own business about 6 months ago. He's making about $ 1200 minimum a week in salary.
It's all about perspective and thinking outside the box. Someone who has ambition and drive will not settle for a mediocre job. They will push the envelope to have what no one else does.
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Example, very driven individual starts their own business...a non profit. They pay themselves a nominal salary because they care more about the good their doing than than making 6 figures a year.
Posted by Evoxxxscorpio
my motto is work smarter not harder.
same here
only if its thrown in my face or used for leverage, of course.
Ambition and drive does not always = large income.
in my family it does. It led my dad to accumulate a small fortune despite not having a formal education, coming to this country without learning how to add or subtract. My mom had to teach him. Yet he had a successful business for over 35 years. Making over $ 10,000 a week in profits (at the peak of his business). Invested in real estate properties which now are his backbone. The money he makes in rent alone is more than twice the average family income in my area. All because he had ambition and drive to suceed.
My sisters are also all successful. Despite most of them being single/teen moms. they all have jobs that pay over $ 30 an hour. with just AA degrees. And that's RARE here in Los Angeles, CA. highest paid job you can find here now, is like $ 18 with a BA.
My ex has ambition and drive and just started his own business about 6 months ago. He's making about $ 1200 minimum a week in salary.
It's all about perspective and thinking outside the box. Someone who has ambition and drive will not settle for a mediocre job. They will push the envelope to have what no one else does.
Example, very driven individual starts their own business...a non profit. They pay themselves a nominal salary because they care more about the good their doing than than making 6 figures a year.
in my family, we believe that being the head is better than being part of a big corporate collective. We like to be our own boss and dictate what we'll do and where we'll go. Hence why my dad was a very successful salesman. It's just about learning to push your own limitations. A lot of these new kids coming out of school are so entitled and lazy... but you have a choice to be different and not follow the herd.
Follow the beat to your own drum.... advice from a fellow Aqua.
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Nice pep talk. Now back to my example...
Posted by hawai
Guys, would you be bothered if your gf/partner earned more than you? Would you end a quite well developing relationship if you struggle financially?I managed to get a graduate job, however my ex aqua was not that successful (partly because of his laziness) and kept mentioning every now and then that I was rich and he was poor, even I tried to convince him that it was not important.
Can't he keep trying?
No offense, but thats a non-problem if hes
standing in his own way, and could do just as
well as you.
I just asked my bestfriend this question, she's an aquarius.
She said "LOL, obviously not since my ex-husband, and my boyfriend both make less and I supported both of them"
Posted by hawai
Guys, would you be bothered if your gf/partner earned more than you? Would you end a quite well developing relationship if you struggle financially?I managed to get a graduate job, however my ex aqua was not that successful (partly because of his laziness) and kept mentioning every now and then that I was rich and he was poor, even I tried to convince him that it was not important.
uh no.
with my first ex, I was the ONLY one making any $ $ $ and I was a teenager. lol
the other 2 ex's were always making money, so I could be unemployed and they don't mind. Infact one of them wanted me to quit. so, there you go.
I used to be a go-getter but i'm tired these days, I just want to work part time and enjoy and relax..
maybe if I were young like a teenager or in my 20s again I would kick up a beat and do a dance.
these days i'm just tired, and I don't like the hustle bustle of career out there. I never liked it. I want to just enjoy my middle age days and into my senior years with my family and work a bit, i'm not competitive by nature, I just want to learn, read, write, clean, cook, help with homework, chores, and do own thing.
but then, i'm different than anyone here.
edit although I saw this part time work to do some notary, law work. lol
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Guys, would you be bothered if your gf/partner earned more than you? Would you end a quite well developing relationship if you struggle financially?
I managed to get a graduate job, however my ex aqua was not that successful (partly because of his laziness) and kept mentioning every now and then that I was rich and he was poor, even I tried to convince him that it was not important.