Aquarius Male and ALL initiation...

Hello Aqua freakazoids.

I've been seeing a lovely chap (aqua sun/scorp moon) for almost 4 months now and things seem to be going well - he's great, we laugh...alot, and I fancy the chunk off his bones. He's ace.

However, I'm beginning to notice I initiate everything. Sex, dates, texts - don't get me wrong, I'm confident he enjoys our time together, and he always responds within a short time frame for me not to think he's dicking me about, but am I setting a rod for my own back by asserting myself all the time? I have spoken to him about this already, that I read his lack of initiative as disinterest, and he informed me that he is like this with everyone. He speaks to his brother once a year and his sister more frequently because she contacts him. He's truly reactive. He has told me he knows he does it and he will try.

He has become more physically attentive (an essential for a double Venus as me) but how can I get him to start putting something into 'us' wiithout me resorting to backing off to really test him? I wouldn't want him to feel like I'm playing games with him, and I ultimately don't want to change him, just prod him into action...

Why do you think he's acting so passively? Is this a trait? Lack of confidence? Me coming to him makes him know he's wanted?

Any musings would be great.

Thanks yer loveable weirdoes!

Hey dear

4 months and he didn 't make it official?

Posted by mybutterdontstink
Hello Aqua freakazoids.

I've been seeing a lovely chap (aqua sun/scorp moon) for almost 4 months now and things seem to be going well - he's great, we laugh...alot, and I fancy the chunk off his bones. He's ace.

However, I'm beginning to notice I initiate everything. Sex, dates, texts - don't get me wrong, I'm confident he enjoys our time together, and he always responds within a short time frame for me not to think he's dicking me about, but am I setting a rod for my own back by asserting myself all the time? I have spoken to him about this already, that I read his lack of initiative as disinterest, and he informed me that he is like this with everyone. He speaks to his brother once a year and his sister more frequently because she contacts him. He's truly reactive. He has told me he knows he does it and he will try.

He has become more physically attentive (an essential for a double Venus as me) but how can I get him to start putting something into 'us' wiithout me resorting to backing off to really test him? I wouldn't want him to feel like I'm playing games with him, and I ultimately don't want to change him, just prod him into action...

Why do you think he's acting so passively? Is this a trait? Lack of confidence? Me coming to him makes him know he's wanted?

Any musings would be great.

Thanks yer loveable weirdoes!

Love the name. It should be displayed in every female members profile.

No. And neither would I....

Posted by mybutterdontstink
Hello Aqua freakazoids.

I've been seeing a lovely chap (aqua sun/scorp moon) for almost 4 months now and things seem to be going well - he's great, we laugh...alot, and I fancy the chunk off his bones. He's ace.

However, I'm beginning to notice I initiate everything. Sex, dates, texts - don't get me wrong, I'm confident he enjoys our time together, and he always responds within a short time frame for me not to think he's dicking me about, but am I setting a rod for my own back by asserting myself all the time? I have spoken to him about this already, that I read his lack of initiative as disinterest, and he informed me that he is like this with everyone. He speaks to his brother once a year and his sister more frequently because she contacts him. He's truly reactive. He has told me he knows he does it and he will try.

He has become more physically attentive (an essential for a double Venus as me) but how can I get him to start putting something into 'us' wiithout me resorting to backing off to really test him? I wouldn't want him to feel like I'm playing games with him, and I ultimately don't want to change him, just prod him into action...

Why do you think he's acting so passively? Is this a trait? Lack of confidence? Me coming to him makes him know he's wanted?

Any musings would be great.

Thanks yer loveable weirdoes!

Where is is Mars placement?

what's the rest of his personal planets? houses too please.

this is very much in the aquarian nature, if you are always reaching out and initiating things and its WORKING then it is easy to become kind of passive

my ex gf who was leo would complain about me doing this all the time. a couple times she said she ignored me on purpose just to see how long i would go without talking to her or trying to see her lol very cruel! but i do not understand why this is a problem!

does it make you uncomfortable to be the "alpha" in this sense?

Posted by WaterBearerer
this is very much in the aquarian nature, if you are always reaching out and initiating things and its WORKING then it is easy to become kind of passive

my ex gf who was leo would complain about me doing this all the time. a couple times she said she ignored me on purpose just to see how long i would go without talking to her or trying to see her lol very cruel! but i do not understand why this is a problem!

does it make you uncomfortable to be the "alpha" in this sense?

Iniating things /action is a cardinal move/sign.

they are the Iniators of the zodiac.

fixed does not move,they are fixed. they can sit on the couch all day, they have fixed focus.

*shrugs* I initiate all the time, no time to wait around.

@Op if you dislike it this much already honestly let him reach out. Some of us aquas are clearly much more in their own headspace than others.

Where is is Mars placement?



His Mars is Cap

Venus Pisces

I don't know his houses due to not knowing his birthtime - sorry.

Thanks for the clarification on the aqua mind btw. I guess I'm fearful of being the 'alpha' as my exhusband lacked initiative too and I ended up resenting him. Hence, a divorce...

Here's a little bit about Mars in Capricorn from alwaysastrology.com

Mars in Capricorn is orderly and subdued. They like to be in control of their life. They are determined, but they keep everything low-key. They like to be on top of things in their life. They like to set their goals and focus on achieving them. They are not flamboyant, but they can be ambitious. They want to be secure, and they will do whatever it takes to succeed.



When Capricorn Mars is angry, it is a level-headed, cool type of anger. They have a strong sense of self-control that encompasses all areas of their life. They don't like to see anything go to waste. They are afraid of letting loose and getting out of control.

They are materialistic. If it can be seen or held, it is part of their world. Mars in Capricorn is very disciplined. They plan for the future. They set realistic goals. They are productive workers who like to see tangible results.

Capricorn Mars is responsible and reliable. They work hard and they keep their nose to the grindstone. They have a tendency to become workaholics. They want to attain status and recognition for their work. They are very practical and can turn a profit from almost anything they put their minds to. They do tend towards caution, which can be detrimental in some cases. They are also skeptical of new ideas. It is difficult for them to break old habits. They can be pessimistic and may come across as too serious.



Mars in Capricorn has a strong libido and appreciates sensual experiences. This is hidden behind their conservative face. It is hard to let this side show. Once they reveal the real person inside, you won't be disappointed. They don't rush, but take their time, enjoying the moment. Conventional and straightforward, they give quite a bit to their partner, although they expect quite a bit in return. They are not into experimenting with new techniques. They appreciate discretion. They want the security of a long-term relationship. If they are focused on their career, they have the capability of suppressing their sexual urges completely if needed so they are not distracted. They have a lot of endurance.

I'm Aqua sun and Scorpio moon and I'm nothing like that lol, my Venus is Aqua and my Mars is Sagittarius, his birthday must be close to mine or were same age.

It's early in the relationship this is when you should be testing him, it's not playing games if you're dead serious and are trying to get to the root of someone. But if you do t, it's best to have good intentions not malicious and cold.....

If his moon is Scorpio he should be full of roiling emotions

Thanks all. Most helpful. I wonder if I have the self control to ignore him for a bit *test alert*, and see how he handles it.

Hmmmm.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
I'm Aqua sun and Scorpio moon and I'm nothing like that lol, my Venus is Aqua and my Mars is Sagittarius, his birthday must be close to mine or were same age.

It's early in the relationship this is when you should be testing him, it's not playing games if you're dead serious and are trying to get to the root of someone. But if you do t, it's best to have good intentions not malicious and cold.....

If his moon is Scorpio he should be full of roiling emotions

wow there's ALOT of gemini mars and sag mars on this forum. it's the gem/sag axis.


also alot of gem moons, and Scorpio moons too. and lots of libra and aries moons on this forum as well.

i've seen alot of taurus moons too.

You know so many sorts dismiss aqua and Taurus as a good match, but for me I seem/they seem to revel in a 'common' eccentricity.