aquarius men pls help clarify

I have read everywhere that once an Aquarius makes the decision to leave a relationship, they do not change their mind. But on a lot of boards, I see that some do.
Can u pls tell me what makes or breaks your decision and how often do u go back to the relationship?
I'm asking because my ex broke up with me suddenly about 2 months ago for reasons that weren't true, which he now knows. And he still won't budge, but when we spoke today he finally looked at me, not through me. I just don't know what to do.
His sun is in Aquarius, moon in cancer with cancer ascendant. Also Venus in 8th house
I'm a Leo with sun in Leo, moon in Aquarius and Gemini ascendant. Venus in 4th house.

Any feedback would really help. Thank you!

I always go back and try again. I like having history and adding more value to the actual relationship, even if it was in the past.
But have in mind that if a girl shows interest in me, even the slightest, I know that she is available and sure catch. Sometimes it doesn't work out and it needs more effort, but for example if a girl calls me and invites me somewhere - boom, for me, I can get this girl in my bed, I can get inside her mind, make her mine quite easily.
Now, if I already have someone else, I would keep in contact with you, but would respect my present partner. I would be friendly with you (if we had a mutual break up) or ignore you if you've hurt me before.
What I would do in your place is to try to see him as a friend couple of times and if the spark is still there, he will make a move, make no mistake. But before he decides, you must show no heavy feelings, no strong desire. So that if he chooses to give you a second chance, it will be his decision and not something forced by you.
Anyway, you're free to put my advice away, because I'm no expert in relationships and have troubles on my own. 🙂
Good luck anyway!
Don't loose yourself!

Thanks Frank14! I'm confused where u say if a girl has interest in u and is available...do u mean u would go for it?
Can guys really just be with another woman that quick? Does it matter if u loved the other woman or not?
I know he's not seen anyone else. We live in same complex right across driveway from eachother.


He said we can be "friends" not long after the breakup bit I told him no. He looked surprised, asked why and I said that's just how I am. I mean why would I want to see him with another woman? That would set me off like nobody's business. Didn't tell him that but that's why. And cuz it would hurt too much.

Also, we have slept together 3 times since. And earlier today when we spoke he mentioned friends with benefits again and I have no intention of sleeping with him again. I am too sensitive and it hurts every time.

Any other thoughts? I really do appreciate the input. I can't put my finger on what it is about him that puzzles the heck outta me!

Doing do that. Going from love interest to FWB is a slippery slope.

Last year, my beloved Aqua dumped me out of the blue, via text message. He said he's not coming back to me....with no explanation. Before that, we had the most intense, loving, exciting relationship, for about 6.5 months. After the break up, the only time(s) we texted was to wish each other happy birthday. We're born in February, two weeks apart, so it was easy to remember.

Imagine how surprised I was when 9 months after the dumping, my ex called and said he owes me an explanation. He moved 200 miles away, but he will travel to meet me if I care to. I don't hold grunges and my memory of him was that of an adorable man who hurt me without giving me any closure, so I agreed to meet.

I cancelled the meeting several times, yet he patiently waited for it. We decided to meet once a month for coffee, as friends. We've met three times already. He explained what happened, that he lost his job, sold his house and moved back to his birth place. That his mum had a stoke and is now in a care home, where he visits her every day. That he now shares ownership to a small company and helped expand its activity and profits. That he has thought about me and missed me and plans to move back to my region in the near future. That he loves me and sees a future with me.

All well and flattering, I love him too, I think he's adorable, but I've got a new boyfriend, who has not put a foot wrong, and there is where my loyalty is.

*Don't do that*

Posted by maranoid
Thanks Frank14! I'm confused where u say if a girl has interest in u and is available...do u mean u would go for it?
Can guys really just be with another woman that quick? Does it matter if u loved the other woman or not?

I took what he said that if she showed the interest, he assumes she's an easy lay.
Sounded to me like he'd be interested in sex only with her.

I could be wrong...

Posted by maranoid
Also, we have slept together 3 times since. And earlier today when we spoke he mentioned friends with benefits again and I have no intention of sleeping with him again. I am too sensitive and it hurts every time.

If he broke up with you, why were you still sleeping with him? No wonder he suggested FWB....

Stay strong, girl and don't do that again!!!

If you sleep with him, he's fine, there is no need to change anything from his perspective.

If you want him to commit and respect you, he must chase you. He will, just give him some bait.

For me specially, history always beats novelty, so I can sleep easily with new women but the feelings for those from the past are always stronger.

Omg you all don't even know how much you just helped me!

Truecap and Undine, I agreed to fwb for 3 reasons and I know they were all kinda twisted. One, cuz I really missed him and our connection in the bedroom is unreal, both emotionally and physically. two, I had hoped it would make him remember how close we were becoming, and three, I didn't want him to forget me.

But after our talk the other night and him finally telling me why, I'm just not feeling it. That was a jacked up thing to do to me and I don't know if I could forgive it.

I sent him this text later that evening:

Did u forget that I was showing u what u did to me? No, I don't think so. And u punishing me for what other women did to u? Well that was just stupid cuz out of every woman u have ever met or will meet (name) not a mother Fucking one will ever begin to come close to the ride or die that I actually am. Can u say that about yourself? Again, no I don't think so. I would have had ur back come hell or high water man. On my life I'm not lying.
Now u see what happens when u don't trust?

And now after reading your replies and suggestions, I am doing SO MUCH BETTER! That means a lot to me so thank you again!

And frank14, you brought it home with the history verses novelty metaphor. That sent lightbulbs off in my head like crazy! Love it!

If I could I'd bake all of u something yummy as a thank you!

What a relief! I Wil update if anything happens.

Ur all too good!

his cancer moon doesn't like you.

I think hes just making up an excuse to not go in too deep with you.

Posted by maranoid
I agreed to fwb for 3 reasons and I know they were all kinda twisted. One, cuz I really missed him and our connection in the bedroom is unreal, both emotionally and physically. two, I had hoped it would make him remember how close we were becoming, and three, I didn't want him to forget me.

That is the WORST reason to agree to FWB. You'll only get hurt in the end. I'm so glad you changed your mind about it.

Me too!