Internexus
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Being an Aqua has it's true drawbacks
Although not an Aqua sun, I do have an Aqua venus and midheaven....so I can relate to some of what is being said.
I have learned that many of my friends did not share my outlook/attitude on life, and eventually we grew apart.
In group conversations, I usually listen and observe and offer input when/where necessary. Sometimes, I wish I would have said what I wanted to say when the moment was there. If a conversation is to "heavy" I will crack a joke to try and lighten it up again, and that is when I get the "WTF" looks. In my head, I get it and what I was trying to do (sometimes others do and it flows from there), others sometimes take offense.
In relationships, yes, I suppose it would be nice to have someone to stick my cold feet under 😛 and I concur with RS12 about the checking in. I enjoy mingling and meeting others and it would be nice to be with someone who genuinely enjoys doing the same. I don't mind the following around at first; I understand and recongize that some may be a bit nervous or reserved at first....especially around new people. Eventually though, the training wheels will come off and you will have to learn to pedal on your own!
I long to be in a relationship where I can "feel" single within the relationship.
In regards to the ocean....for me, it's a place where I can go to think, because it's quiet there. It brings me back to myself when others leave their mark.
I have learned that many of my friends did not share my outlook/attitude on life, and eventually we grew apart.
In group conversations, I usually listen and observe and offer input when/where necessary. Sometimes, I wish I would have said what I wanted to say when the moment was there. If a conversation is to "heavy" I will crack a joke to try and lighten it up again, and that is when I get the "WTF" looks. In my head, I get it and what I was trying to do (sometimes others do and it flows from there), others sometimes take offense.
In relationships, yes, I suppose it would be nice to have someone to stick my cold feet under 😛 and I concur with RS12 about the checking in. I enjoy mingling and meeting others and it would be nice to be with someone who genuinely enjoys doing the same. I don't mind the following around at first; I understand and recongize that some may be a bit nervous or reserved at first....especially around new people. Eventually though, the training wheels will come off and you will have to learn to pedal on your own!
I long to be in a relationship where I can "feel" single within the relationship.
In regards to the ocean....for me, it's a place where I can go to think, because it's quiet there. It brings me back to myself when others leave their mark.
If your mind vascillates or races just stay plugged in, stay on top of it cos ya know you can mostly handle it. Dont feel embarassed about your inner self.
Posted by cheekyfaerie
I find it interesting how you can be so caring about the world at large yet lack certain empathy genes for those closest to you. I can relate because of my Venus. Within myself, it's a double edged sword. Is this considered one of those negatives for you guys, you don't see it as a negative or you don't relate to it all?
If the family/close friends are doing well and fine, they don't need healing. If the family needs help, you can bet your life that those come first before anyone else. But honestly if they don't need us for a shoulder to cry on, they're busy with their lives and their own families, why do we have to be all up in their business? It's kind of annoying to have to be busy bodies with my sister's family if I'm not needed.
whats wrong with caring about the "world"? For example, if we see someone get hurt/abused on the street, would you just sit there or just run? Or call the police? Or throw a brick at the abuser? So many options. you do what feels right. You would want someone to HELP you if you were in a jam/hurt/abused.
Posted by Internexus
What do you feel are the complexities of this sign for you?
I could make a lengthy list but I'll only fire out a few...
Feeling like a social outcast because you don't believe people are able to see your complexity as anything great/beautiful and instead assume others see you as a weirdo.
The ability to go out and socialize with anyone about anything, however in groups your thoughts race through your head at such speed that if you open your mouth words can become jumbled and make no sense, or they come too late in the convo / aren't perceived as funny as you see them.
If I'm single I want to be with somebody and have companionship.
If I'm in a relationship I yearn to be single and have my freedom again..
On a side note, to those of you that have been to the ocean before, does it give you that complete/whole feeling that you've longed for so long?
Loads of people born in Jan/Feb are just normal human beings trying to live life everyday. Nothing special. Tons of people in every birthday month want freedom while they're in a relationship. Freedom to go to work, school, do whatever it is you want to do.
Posted by cheekyfaeriePosted by lisabethur8Posted by cheekyfaerie
I find it interesting how you can be so caring about the world at large yet lack certain empathy genes for those closest to you. I can relate because of my Venus. Within myself, it's a double edged sword. Is this considered one of those negatives for you guys, you don't see it as a negative or you don't relate to it all?
If the family/close friends are doing well and fine, they don't need healing. If the family needs help, you can bet your life that those come first before anyone else. But honestly if they don't need us for a shoulder to cry on, they're busy with their lives and their own families, why do we have to be all up in their business? It's kind of annoying to have to be busy bodies with my sister's family if I'm not needed.
whats wrong with caring about the "world"? For example, if we see someone get hurt/abused on the street, would you just sit there or just run? Or call the police? Or throw a brick at the abuser? So many options. you do what feels right. You would want someone to HELP you if you were in a jam/hurt/abused.
Don't mistake my inquiry as judgement as it's not. I'm very similar, but am not Aqua sun, just Venus. Thanks for the examples. With me, even with close people, I find myself being harder with them because I hold them to my own standard which isn't necessarily fair.click to expand
🙂 i wasn't but i can fairly understand the examples that astrologers put out. It is the "negative" part they are trying to "warn" us about. Everyone has this, to some fair degree. It's like, BE CAREFUL and refrain from this attitude of life.
I get what you mean though. That's a positive side to astrology: it can help people see the parts where we need to grow and have better relationships with our closed ones. Yes, it's not fair. It's the same if someone in the close circle wanted us to marry this person, go this way of life, do this, do that, and live up to their standards. Yet, it is NOT their life.
I still have problems relating to people, but it's getting easier with time and some conscious effort.
I feel the most comfortable in groups because while I may stand out at times, more often I just blend in to the background. I don't like it when people pay a lot of attention to me. I do fine in smaller groups but I suck at one-to-one. I start getting extremely uncomfortable and aloof. It helps a lot when the other person is an Air sign like me.
I don't get any feeling being near the ocean. Looking up at the sky gives me a strange feeling, though. It's like I'm about to see something I've never seen before. But then I realize that it's something I can never hope to reach. I'm stuck down here. Weird, isn't it?
I feel the most comfortable in groups because while I may stand out at times, more often I just blend in to the background. I don't like it when people pay a lot of attention to me. I do fine in smaller groups but I suck at one-to-one. I start getting extremely uncomfortable and aloof. It helps a lot when the other person is an Air sign like me.
I don't get any feeling being near the ocean. Looking up at the sky gives me a strange feeling, though. It's like I'm about to see something I've never seen before. But then I realize that it's something I can never hope to reach. I'm stuck down here. Weird, isn't it?
Posted by cheekyfaerie
Don't mistake my inquiry as judgement as it's not. I'm very similar, but am not Aqua sun, just Venus. Thanks for the examples. With me, even with close people, I find myself being harder with them because I hold them to my own standard which isn't necessarily fair.
I do this a LOT, I have extremely high standards for things and typically I prefer to just do them by myself because I feel that most others can't maintain the level of detail that I can in a project. I also hold those around me to high standards and I can be quite brash with them if I don't feel they are living up to their potential and I have to step out of the relationship for a bit to allow myself to cool and accept that it's their decision. I just want them to be the best they can and not have to struggle unnecessarily is all...
Gem sun, Aqua moon..
I get all of this, even the ocean part, I didnt realise why I felt the way I do near the ocean until I read this thread, this is what it is like for me, When I am near the ocean omg I cant describe it, its like its running through my veins, feels euphoric, an over whelming sense of freedom, clear blue water, its like home, its intense, I want to feel cool big waves crashing against me, if i am swimming far out to sea its like I am flying and its free, its pure, its like true love and actually I always want water around me, even if i am in a garden, if its not there i feel something is missing,is this weird?
The high standards I get that too, the most important thing for me is honesty, no matter how bad i need honesty, dishonesty is the biggest betrayal to me, I dont understand the logic in being dishonest, it stops growth and also the others who are being lied to, its creating a prison, i find it the most selfish act in someone who ever they are and unevolved, sends me completely out of sorts if i know someone is lying, I can always see it, recently I was told "you always want to be right!" but no.. i dont always want to be right because then the person is not the high standards that they projected to be and i believed in, they arent real, i feel betrayed, my heart secretly breaks. I would have accepted them for themselves in the first place, I have so much love for people, I live love! Im far from perfect and understand peoples reasons behind what they do but I dont get inhumane or unkind acts towards one another.
Im moaned at often from my family not hearing from me for weeks on end, if i know they are ok then for me thats fine, im not meaning to be selfish or uncaring, the minute they need me or there is a crisis, I am full on every bit of my heart is feeling them and with them in a way they could never imagine, while I am missing I am giving it where its needed or working out the whys and whats and analysing the universe with the whole world going on in my head, Im missing from everyone apart from one or two who know me to the core 🙂
Nice guys who want to get to know me, complete withdrawal! Im not shy in the slightest but Im happily being a hermit cut away from all of them chasing me, sometimes it gets too much and when it feels demanding i feel my air is being stolen from me, I rebel, retreat and quietly observe, i will come out when I am ready.
I get all of this, even the ocean part, I didnt realise why I felt the way I do near the ocean until I read this thread, this is what it is like for me, When I am near the ocean omg I cant describe it, its like its running through my veins, feels euphoric, an over whelming sense of freedom, clear blue water, its like home, its intense, I want to feel cool big waves crashing against me, if i am swimming far out to sea its like I am flying and its free, its pure, its like true love and actually I always want water around me, even if i am in a garden, if its not there i feel something is missing,is this weird?
The high standards I get that too, the most important thing for me is honesty, no matter how bad i need honesty, dishonesty is the biggest betrayal to me, I dont understand the logic in being dishonest, it stops growth and also the others who are being lied to, its creating a prison, i find it the most selfish act in someone who ever they are and unevolved, sends me completely out of sorts if i know someone is lying, I can always see it, recently I was told "you always want to be right!" but no.. i dont always want to be right because then the person is not the high standards that they projected to be and i believed in, they arent real, i feel betrayed, my heart secretly breaks. I would have accepted them for themselves in the first place, I have so much love for people, I live love! Im far from perfect and understand peoples reasons behind what they do but I dont get inhumane or unkind acts towards one another.
Im moaned at often from my family not hearing from me for weeks on end, if i know they are ok then for me thats fine, im not meaning to be selfish or uncaring, the minute they need me or there is a crisis, I am full on every bit of my heart is feeling them and with them in a way they could never imagine, while I am missing I am giving it where its needed or working out the whys and whats and analysing the universe with the whole world going on in my head, Im missing from everyone apart from one or two who know me to the core 🙂
Nice guys who want to get to know me, complete withdrawal! Im not shy in the slightest but Im happily being a hermit cut away from all of them chasing me, sometimes it gets too much and when it feels demanding i feel my air is being stolen from me, I rebel, retreat and quietly observe, i will come out when I am ready.
Another thing.. Dating, YUCK! cant do it, spew! be my friend first, build a bond, let it flow and see if it turns into natural love. I dont have problems relating to others, Im kinda everyones friend i can see the good in everyone and am interested in everyone.
The sky I agree gives me a strange feeling too, I will often pull along a partner in crime to lay under the stars and just lay there and lay there some more just looking up at it and I feel that frustration that it is out of reach and i cant get up there to go see what its all about and what there is to go and unfold.
My chosen career is focused around helping others, its from the heart, I can do it in mass.. I get people saying "uhh god why do you always feel the need to say the world!?" hey I dont want to save the world, I want the world to save themselves because ya know what waking up in the morning feeling at peace with yourself and others is the most wicked feelin, its often euphoric 🙂 .. unless its really bipolar without the lows and I dont even know it yet 😉 lol
The sky I agree gives me a strange feeling too, I will often pull along a partner in crime to lay under the stars and just lay there and lay there some more just looking up at it and I feel that frustration that it is out of reach and i cant get up there to go see what its all about and what there is to go and unfold.
My chosen career is focused around helping others, its from the heart, I can do it in mass.. I get people saying "uhh god why do you always feel the need to say the world!?" hey I dont want to save the world, I want the world to save themselves because ya know what waking up in the morning feeling at peace with yourself and others is the most wicked feelin, its often euphoric 🙂 .. unless its really bipolar without the lows and I dont even know it yet 😉 lol
*save
Posted by Archimedes
Although not an Aqua sun, I do have an Aqua venus and midheaven....so I can relate to some of what is being said.
I have learned that many of my friends did not share my outlook/attitude on life, and eventually we grew apart.
In group conversations, I usually listen and observe and offer input when/where necessary. Sometimes, I wish I would have said what I wanted to say when the moment was there. If a conversation is to "heavy" I will crack a joke to try and lighten it up again, and that is when I get the "WTF" looks. In my head, I get it and what I was trying to do (sometimes others do and it flows from there), others sometimes take offense.
In relationships, yes, I suppose it would be nice to have someone to stick my cold feet under 😛 and I concur with RS12 about the checking in. I enjoy mingling and meeting others and it would be nice to be with someone who genuinely enjoys doing the same. I don't mind the following around at first; I understand and recongize that some may be a bit nervous or reserved at first....especially around new people. Eventually though, the training wheels will come off and you will have to learn to pedal on your own!
I long to be in a relationship where I can "feel" single within the relationship.
Totally 🙂
The relationship bit, yep, but knowing we are belonging with each other and not to each other, as long as they are there and not THERE if you get me?
Posted by Archimedes
Although not an Aqua sun, I do have an Aqua venus and midheaven....so I can relate to some of what is being said.
I have learned that many of my friends did not share my outlook/attitude on life, and eventually we grew apart.
In group conversations, I usually listen and observe and offer input when/where necessary. Sometimes, I wish I would have said what I wanted to say when the moment was there. If a conversation is to "heavy" I will crack a joke to try and lighten it up again, and that is when I get the "WTF" looks. In my head, I get it and what I was trying to do (sometimes others do and it flows from there), others sometimes take offense.
In relationships, yes, I suppose it would be nice to have someone to stick my cold feet under 😛 and I concur with RS12 about the checking in. I enjoy mingling and meeting others and it would be nice to be with someone who genuinely enjoys doing the same. I don't mind the following around at first; I understand and recongize that some may be a bit nervous or reserved at first....especially around new people. Eventually though, the training wheels will come off and you will have to learn to pedal on your own!
I long to be in a relationship where I can "feel" single within the relationship.
In regards to the ocean....for me, it's a place where I can go to think, because it's quiet there. It brings me back to myself when others leave their mark.
Archimedes I feel that I get that same thing going if I don't have a lot of mutual interests/outlooks with someone then we just naturally separate..
Your line of "I long to be in a relationship where I can "feel" single within a relationship." is the best description of what I am looking for I've seen to date. I just have no idea how to create such an instance!
Posted by guccigemini55
Gem sun, Aqua moon..
I get all of this, even the ocean part, I didnt realise why I felt the way I do near the ocean until I read this thread, this is what it is like for me, When I am near the ocean omg I cant describe it, its like its running through my veins, feels euphoric, an over whelming sense of freedom, clear blue water, its like home, its intense, I want to feel cool big waves crashing against me, if i am swimming far out to sea its like I am flying and its free, its pure, its like true love and actually I always want water around me, even if i am in a garden, if its not there i feel something is missing,is this weird?
The high standards I get that too, the most important thing for me is honesty, no matter how bad i need honesty, dishonesty is the biggest betrayal to me, I dont understand the logic in being dishonest, it stops growth and also the others who are being lied to, its creating a prison, i find it the most selfish act in someone who ever they are and unevolved, sends me completely out of sorts if i know someone is lying, I can always see it, recently I was told "you always want to be right!" but no.. i dont always want to be right because then the person is not the high standards that they projected to be and i believed in, they arent real, i feel betrayed, my heart secretly breaks. I would have accepted them for themselves in the first place, I have so much love for people, I live love! Im far from perfect and understand peoples reasons behind what they do but I dont get inhumane or unkind acts towards one another.
Im moaned at often from my family not hearing from me for weeks on end, if i know they are ok then for me thats fine, im not meaning to be selfish or uncaring, the minute they need me or there is a crisis, I am full on every bit of my heart is feeling them and with them in a way they could never imagine, while I am missing I am giving it where its needed or working out the whys and whats and analysing the universe with the whole world going on in my head, Im missing from everyone apart from one or two who know me to the core 🙂
Nice guys who want to get to know me, complete withdrawal! Im not shy in the slightest but Im happily being a hermit cut away from all of them chasing me, sometimes it gets too much and when it feels demanding i feel my air is being stolen from me, I rebel, retreat and quietly observe, i will come
It's funny I didn't really get the sky thing for myself until you mentioned the stars.. During a sunny day, yes I love to be outdoors and feel the warmth on my body but it's nothing intense for me. Night time on the other hand draws me in as well, I have a massive interest in the stars and have been meaning to hit the library to learn more about them, I find it so dark/vast/intriguing due to it's lack of exploration. It's begging to have someone out there to help experience the unknown.
Posted by Internexus
It's funny I didn't really get the sky thing for myself until you mentioned the stars.. During a sunny day, yes I love to be outdoors and feel the warmth on my body but it's nothing intense for me. Night time on the other hand draws me in as well, I have a massive interest in the stars and have been meaning to hit the library to learn more about them, I find it so dark/vast/intriguing due to it's lack of exploration. It's begging to have someone out there to help experience the unknown.
You can check out space on youtube like you can do a search for "galaxies history channel" good stuff is available, its educational. History channel has good stuff.
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