Can Aquas get self absorbed?

Hi all just wanted to get some opinion on this.

This has been on my mind for quite a while.

I have an Aqua friend for whom I had feelings. Mostly it was infatuation. But we were very close 🙂. We got separated for 2 years, she went for her higher studies, but we met last year. She is working now. I had gone to the city where she is works for official work. I initiated the talk. I asked her whether she could meet me since am in the city. Her reply was a bit distant which I can understand since we hadn't met for a long time. She agreed to meet. We met. We had a very good time. There was a lot of change in her and me as well. But that was expected. But inside we were same.

Then we had to part and then she asked me to visit her almost every 2 months since she was new to the city and she didn't have any friends there . I was very happy to hear that (the city where she works is 12 hours away from mine so I can make the trip may be not so often but I can).

She knew when I had to leave but she didn't message me before I left. I felt something was wrong because usually she would msg. Also she was shifting to a new place that weekend when I had to leave. So I msgd her how did her shifting go. She replied that it went fine but still she didn't ask anything about my flight back.

So wanted to know why?

@Aerazo

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Hi all just wanted to get some opinion on this.

This has been on my mind for quite a while.

I have an Aqua friend for whom I had feelings. Mostly it was infatuation. But we were very close 🙂. We got separated for 2 years, she went for her higher studies, but we met last year. She is working now. I had gone to the city where she is works for official work. I initiated the talk. I asked her whether she could meet me since am in the city. Her reply was a bit distant which I can understand since we hadn't met for a long time. She agreed to meet. We met. We had a very good time. There was a lot of change in her and me as well. But that was expected. But inside we were same.

Then we had to part and then she asked me to visit her almost every 2 months since she was new to the city and she didn't have any friends there . I was very happy to hear that (the city where she works is 12 hours away from mine so I can make the trip may be not so often but I can).

She knew when I had to leave but she didn't message me before I left. I felt something was wrong because usually she would msg. Also she was shifting to a new place that weekend when I had to leave. So I msgd her how did her shifting go. She replied that it went fine but still she didn't ask anything about my flight back.

So wanted to know why?

@Aerazo

Thanks for tagging me! 🙂

This happens to me sometimes when after I meet or talk to a friend I forget to mention certain things or ask them about them.

Is not that we are self absorbed but I think that we have so much in our minds, and our minds are constantly working we just let it slip.

it has happened to me when a friend tells me something important to him/her and I don't show like I care. When I'm home kind of playing the whole meeting again I realize that so I still text them. For example..my mentor (He's a Cap) met with a very important guy and he was telling me about it, inside I was happy for him but I don't show it. I realized that I didn't make him feel proud so I texted him later at night that I was proud of him for what he has done. and I apologized for not showing it. He said he knew I was and he knows how I am so is not a problem to him but I still wanted to say it.

I random text my friends that I'm happy for what they do or proud, or congratulate them at the weirdest times haha but that's when I realize it.

I guess some other Aquarians don't realize it to say it but we do care. 🙂

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Hi all just wanted to get some opinion on this.

This has been on my mind for quite a while.

I have an Aqua friend for whom I had feelings. Mostly it was infatuation. But we were very close 🙂. We got separated for 2 years, she went for her higher studies, but we met last year. She is working now. I had gone to the city where she is works for official work. I initiated the talk. I asked her whether she could meet me since am in the city. Her reply was a bit distant which I can understand since we hadn't met for a long time. She agreed to meet. We met. We had a very good time. There was a lot of change in her and me as well. But that was expected. But inside we were same.

Then we had to part and then she asked me to visit her almost every 2 months since she was new to the city and she didn't have any friends there . I was very happy to hear that (the city where she works is 12 hours away from mine so I can make the trip may be not so often but I can).

She knew when I had to leave but she didn't message me before I left. I felt something was wrong because usually she would msg. Also she was shifting to a new place that weekend when I had to leave. So I msgd her how did her shifting go. She replied that it went fine but still she didn't ask anything about my flight back.

So wanted to know why?

@Aerazo

Thanks for tagging me! 🙂

This happens to me sometimes when after I meet or talk to a friend I forget to mention certain things or ask them about them.

Is not that we are self absorbed but I think that we have so much in our minds, and our minds are constantly working we just let it slip.

it has happened to me when a friend tells me something important to him/her and I don't show like I care. When I'm home kind of playing the whole meeting again I realize that so I still text them. For example..my mentor (He's a Cap) met with a very important guy and he was telling me about it, inside I was happy for him but I don't show it. I realized that I didn't make him feel proud so I texted him later at night that I was proud of him for what he has done. and I apologized for not showing it. He said he knew I was and he knows how I am so is not a problem to him but I still wanted to say it.

I random text my friends that I'm happy for what they do or proud, or congratulate them at the weirdest times haha but that's when I realize it.

I guess some other Aquarians don't realize it to say it but we do care. 🙂

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Yes, she is also like this and many of my other Aqua friends. They stay in their own world sometimes. They do apologize later though. I usually don't have a problem with it. It is just that we were meeting after a very long time and she sounded very distant on IM. And you don't expect this as we had been quite close. But when we met it was something different. She was very happy to see me and she even threatened that if I had left without meeting her it would have been very bad for me 😄. But the initial coldness(if that is what they say in popular parlance) does make you feel whether the other person is really interested in seeing you or not. I don't say it is wrong or right it is as it is. I can accept it becaue I know her. Also I found i felt stronger with her more alive but that is digressing from the topic. Also there was a lot of changes in her. Like she was always careful with money and would not spend without thinking. And here she was paying way more than I could ever think of paying as rent. I wanted to tell her but it was her money her choice but it felt bad as she was the one who made me more practical and prudent in the matters of money. And here it felt I was seeing an older version of me there. But I was proud of her as she did not know this city and still she was managing herself alone(also this was the first time she was living away from her parents). She herself found a flat for her, found a roommate. I did want to visit her almost every month but realized it wouldn't be right for me. We have to move on 🙂.

Anyways thanks for answering.

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Redundancy is a chore. Just be cool, chillax, we don't stress responses or formalities.Meanwhile that is very important to a cap as I've noticed.

I used to have a Cap friend who would rejoice everytime I would take my time to say hello and do the whole formal thing at large events.

But I have cap Venus and mercury in a stellium , but I can totally see an aqua coming off as self absorbed , but were just airheads sometimes

Yes that I have seen. It feels lite with Aquas and I don't have a problem with that. With friends it is ok it is just that when there are feelings involved it becomes different.

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Redundancy is a chore. Just be cool, chillax, we don't stress responses or formalities.Meanwhile that is very important to a cap as I've noticed.

I used to have a Cap friend who would rejoice everytime I would take my time to say hello and do the whole formal thing at large events.

But I have cap Venus and mercury in a stellium , but I can totally see an aqua coming off as self absorbed , but were just airheads sometimes

Yes that I have seen. It feels lite with Aquas and I don't have a problem with that. With friends it is ok it is just that when there are feelings involved it becomes different.

Yeah there's the biggest difference, we don't have a clear line drawn between friends and romantic partners

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Yes that I know and even I like it. I mean I want a friend first then a lover.

Bro can't talk about these things to a guy. Kinda seems wrong. Apologies. So how are things ? Do you like sports?

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Redundancy is a chore. Just be cool, chillax, we don't stress responses or formalities.Meanwhile that is very important to a cap as I've noticed.

I used to have a Cap friend who would rejoice everytime I would take my time to say hello and do the whole formal thing at large events.

But I have cap Venus and mercury in a stellium , but I can totally see an aqua coming off as self absorbed , but were just airheads sometimes

Yes that I have seen. It feels lite with Aquas and I don't have a problem with that. With friends it is ok it is just that when there are feelings involved it becomes different.

Yeah there's the biggest difference, we don't have a clear line drawn between friends and romantic partners

Yes that I know and even I like it. I mean I want a friend first then a lover.

Bro can't talk about these things to a guy. Kinda seems wrong. Apologies. So how are things ? Do you like sports?

Hahaha all good.

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😄 thanks for answering though.

yes

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Posted by Capricorn91

Posted by bumboklatt
Redundancy is a chore. Just be cool, chillax, we don't stress responses or formalities.Meanwhile that is very important to a cap as I've noticed.

I used to have a Cap friend who would rejoice everytime I would take my time to say hello and do the whole formal thing at large events.

But I have cap Venus and mercury in a stellium , but I can totally see an aqua coming off as self absorbed , but were just airheads sometimes

Yes that I have seen. It feels lite with Aquas and I don't have a problem with that. With friends it is ok it is just that when there are feelings involved it becomes different.

Yeah there's the biggest difference, we don't have a clear line drawn between friends and romantic partners

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I feel like most Aqua-Cap relationships fall there between friends and romantic partners.

For some reason is hard to either escalate the ladder or get off of it. 😢

As a romantic relationship it would be great because we get along well as friends and we are able to understand each other compared to other signs I guess.

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Posted by Capricorn91
Hi all just wanted to get some opinion on this.

This has been on my mind for quite a while.

I have an Aqua friend for whom I had feelings. Mostly it was infatuation. But we were very close 🙂. We got separated for 2 years, she went for her higher studies, but we met last year. She is working now. I had gone to the city where she is works for official work. I initiated the talk. I asked her whether she could meet me since am in the city. Her reply was a bit distant which I can understand since we hadn't met for a long time. She agreed to meet. We met. We had a very good time. There was a lot of change in her and me as well. But that was expected. But inside we were same.

Then we had to part and then she asked me to visit her almost every 2 months since she was new to the city and she didn't have any friends there . I was very happy to hear that (the city where she works is 12 hours away from mine so I can make the trip may be not so often but I can).

She knew when I had to leave but she didn't message me before I left. I felt something was wrong because usually she would msg. Also she was shifting to a new place that weekend when I had to leave. So I msgd her how did her shifting go. She replied that it went fine but still she didn't ask anything about my flight back.

So wanted to know why?

@Aerazo

Thanks for tagging me! 🙂

This happens to me sometimes when after I meet or talk to a friend I forget to mention certain things or ask them about them.

Is not that we are self absorbed but I think that we have so much in our minds, and our minds are constantly working we just let it slip.

it has happened to me when a friend tells me something important to him/her and I don't show like I care. When I'm home kind of playing the whole meeting again I realize that so I still text them. For example..my mentor (He's a Cap) met with a very important guy and he was telling me about it, inside I was happy for him but I don't show it. I realized that I didn't make him feel proud so I texted him later at night that I was proud of him for what he has done. and I apologized for not showing it. He said he knew I was and he knows how I am so is not a problem to him but I still wanted to say it.

I random text my friends that I'm happy for what they do or proud, or congratulate them at the weirdest times haha but that's when I realize it.

I guess some other Aquarians don't realize it to say it but we do care. 🙂

Yes, she is also like this and many of my other Aqua friends. They stay in their own world sometimes. They do apologize later though. I usually don't have a problem with it. It is just that we were meeting after a very long time and she sounded very distant on IM. And you don't expect this as we had been quite close. But when we met it was something different. She was very happy to see me and she even threatened that if I had left without meeting her it would have been very bad for me 😄. But the initial coldness(if that is what they say in popular parlance) does make you feel whether the other person is really interested in seeing you or not. I don't say it is wrong or right it is as it is. I can accept it becaue I know her. Also I found i felt stronger with her more alive but that is digressing from the topic. Also there was a lot of changes in her. Like she was always careful with money and would not spend without thinking. And here she was paying way more than I could ever think of paying as rent. I wanted to tell her but it was her money her choice but it felt bad as she was the one who made me more practical and prudent in the matters of money. And here it felt I was seeing an older version of me there. But I was proud of her as she did not know this city and still she was managing herself alone(also this was the first time she was living away from her parents). She herself found a flat for her, found a roommate. I did want to visit her almost every month but realized it wouldn't be right for me. We have to move on 🙂.

Anyways thanks for answering.

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We do get excited but is easier to show in person rather than through messages. Is hard to not show the emotions when we are actually feeling them, but is also hard to show emotions that we are NOT feeling at the moment, we can't fake it.

If she's paying for it it must be because of convenience because we don't usually like to spend money on unecessary things but we do like the Good stuff, I'm sure that if she's there she can afford it. We are very independent and we don't like to feel like we are being taken care of for no reason (unless you are bf or husband).

On another note, we do move on or at least we are able to block our feelings if we get hurt or if we can't be with that person. I'm not saying she has moved on but I can see you are still romantically involved, if she's acting that way it may prob. be because she doesn't want to mislead you or start something again.

Just wait and see what happens, go visit her when you can, not necessarily every 2 months, it could be more frequent and you will be able to see if she is happy having you around.

Don't pressure anything and also be ready in case she doesn't feel the same way anymore.

I hope it goes well!

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Posted by bumboklatt
Redundancy is a chore. Just be cool, chillax, we don't stress responses or formalities.Meanwhile that is very important to a cap as I've noticed.

I used to have a Cap friend who would rejoice everytime I would take my time to say hello and do the whole formal thing at large events.

But I have cap Venus and mercury in a stellium , but I can totally see an aqua coming off as self absorbed , but were just airheads sometimes

Yes that I have seen. It feels lite with Aquas and I don't have a problem with that. With friends it is ok it is just that when there are feelings involved it becomes different.

Yeah there's the biggest difference, we don't have a clear line drawn between friends and romantic partners

I feel like most Aqua-Cap relationships fall there between friends and romantic partners.

For some reason is hard to either escalate the ladder or get off of it. 😢

As a romantic relationship it would be great because we get along well as friends and we are able to understand each other compared to other signs I guess.

Yep the way I see it is that caps are easy to get along with cause they're great at starting things but we have different directions in life. They are success driven and don't look back, they seek someone who they can either help or someone who will support them, they love to work and see the results

Aquas are social and there's not much of a drive or ambition to reach the top because we are people persons. We just deal with what life throws at us and make it as original as possible.

We live to deal with people and life's spontaneity

Caps live to reach the top

Eventually they catch on that were not built like they are

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I think that for a relationship to work they have to have similar visions. Aquas are visionaries and Caps love working on projects and make money. if there is something that we can both achieve by working together BOOM! Wonderful things happen!!!

My mentor and business partner is a Cap, and we work well together, he wants to stay in the shadows working while I'm out there. We are a great team. Romantically not so much, he's in love with me or so he says, but I buried my feelings for him years ago (8yrs) when he got married. 😢

Now, he still wants to be with me but I can't find those feelings again plus, there is another cap in my mind.

@capricorn91 Something like that is what I'm referring to when I tell you that is hard for us to go back to a previous lover.

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Redundancy is a chore. Just be cool, chillax, we don't stress responses or formalities.Meanwhile that is very important to a cap as I've noticed.

I used to have a Cap friend who would rejoice everytime I would take my time to say hello and do the whole formal thing at large events.

But I have cap Venus and mercury in a stellium , but I can totally see an aqua coming off as self absorbed , but were just airheads sometimes

Yes that I have seen. It feels lite with Aquas and I don't have a problem with that. With friends it is ok it is just that when there are feelings involved it becomes different.

Yeah there's the biggest difference, we don't have a clear line drawn between friends and romantic partners

I feel like most Aqua-Cap relationships fall there between friends and romantic partners.

For some reason is hard to either escalate the ladder or get off of it. 😢

As a romantic relationship it would be great because we get along well as friends and we are able to understand each other compared to other signs I guess.

Yep the way I see it is that caps are easy to get along with cause they're great at starting things but we have different directions in life. They are success driven and don't look back, they seek someone who they can either help or someone who will support them, they love to work and see the results

Aquas are social and there's not much of a drive or ambition to reach the top because we are people persons. We just deal with what life throws at us and make it as original as possible.

We live to deal with people and life's spontaneity

Caps live to reach the top

Eventually they catch on that were not built like they are

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True. When I was with her I wanted her to become better than what she was at that point. Typical Cap. But with time I started to understand her and accepted her for what she was.

And yes she was a bit sad that she wasn't ambitious as such(her mother is a Cap) but she used to be very positive, she used to say that we should enjoy life as it comes and always stay happy.

For me reaching the top means a different thing. It means self mastery I think is not wrong.

Yes we might be different but still there are some similarities.

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Hi all just wanted to get some opinion on this.

This has been on my mind for quite a while.

I have an Aqua friend for whom I had feelings. Mostly it was infatuation. But we were very close 🙂. We got separated for 2 years, she went for her higher studies, but we met last year. She is working now. I had gone to the city where she is works for official work. I initiated the talk. I asked her whether she could meet me since am in the city. Her reply was a bit distant which I can understand since we hadn't met for a long time. She agreed to meet. We met. We had a very good time. There was a lot of change in her and me as well. But that was expected. But inside we were same.

Then we had to part and then she asked me to visit her almost every 2 months since she was new to the city and she didn't have any friends there . I was very happy to hear that (the city where she works is 12 hours away from mine so I can make the trip may be not so often but I can).

She knew when I had to leave but she didn't message me before I left. I felt something was wrong because usually she would msg. Also she was shifting to a new place that weekend when I had to leave. So I msgd her how did her shifting go. She replied that it went fine but still she didn't ask anything about my flight back.

So wanted to know why?

@Aerazo

Thanks for tagging me! 🙂

This happens to me sometimes when after I meet or talk to a friend I forget to mention certain things or ask them about them.

Is not that we are self absorbed but I think that we have so much in our minds, and our minds are constantly working we just let it slip.

it has happened to me when a friend tells me something important to him/her and I don't show like I care. When I'm home kind of playing the whole meeting again I realize that so I still text them. For example..my mentor (He's a Cap) met with a very important guy and he was telling me about it, inside I was happy for him but I don't show it. I realized that I didn't make him feel proud so I texted him later at night that I was proud of him for what he has done. and I apologized for not showing it. He said he knew I was and he knows how I am so is not a problem to him but I still wanted to say it.

I random text my friends that I'm happy for what they do or proud, or congratulate them at the weirdest times haha but that's when I realize it.

I guess some other Aquarians don't realize it to say it but we do care. 🙂

Yes, she is also like this and many of my other Aqua friends. They stay in their own world sometimes. They do apologize later though. I usually don't have a problem with it. It is just that we were meeting after a very long time and she sounded very distant on IM. And you don't expect this as we had been quite close. But when we met it was something different. She was very happy to see me and she even threatened that if I had left without meeting her it would have been very bad for me 😄. But the initial coldness(if that is what they say in popular parlance) does make you feel whether the other person is really interested in seeing you or not. I don't say it is wrong or right it is as it is. I can accept it becaue I know her. Also I found i felt stronger with her more alive but that is digressing from the topic. Also there was a lot of changes in her. Like she was always careful with money and would not spend without thinking. And here she was paying way more than I could ever think of paying as rent. I wanted to tell her but it was her money her choice but it felt bad as she was the one who made me more practical and prudent in the matters of money. And here it felt I was seeing an older version of me there. But I was proud of her as she did not know this city and still she was managing herself alone(also this was the first time she was living away from her parents). She herself found a flat for her, found a roommate. I did want to visit her almost every month but realized it wouldn't be right for me. We have to move on 🙂.

Anyways thanks for answering.

We do get excited but is easier to show in person rather than through messages. Is hard to not show the emotions when we are actually feeling them, but is also hard to show emotions that we are NOT feeling at the moment, we can't fake it.

If she's paying for it it must be because of convenience because we don't usually like to spend money on unecessary things but we do like the Good stuff, I'm sure that if she's there she can afford it. We are very independent and we don't like to feel like we are being taken care of for no reason (unless you are bf or husband).

On another note, we do move on or at least we are able to block our feelings if we get hurt or if we can't be with that person. I'm not saying she has moved on but I can see you are still romantically involved, if she's acting that way it may prob. be because she doesn't want to mislead you or start something again.

Just wait and see what happens, go visit her when you can, not necessarily every 2 months, it could be more frequent and you will be able to see if she is happy having you around.

Don't pressure anything and also be ready in case she doesn't feel the same way anymore.

I hope it goes well!

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Yes even I don't trust messages much. My replies are usually quite dry and cold. So can't complain there but you don't talk to an old friend like an acquaintance right? But I don't expect much if that is it it is fine. I don't blame her as such. It had been quite long since we had met.

Yes. She is earning quite good(more than me). I am actually proud of her independence. Even when we had dinner she paid half. Initially I did resist (I felt I should pay complete amount) but felt I would be disrespecting her that way.

Hmm it is difficult to move on when it is your first but I have moved on. Also Venus retrograde has started 😛. It is just that sometimes you feel she was the one. But times they are a changjng. Yes she is like that(she can block those emotions and live in the present) and to some extent I am also becoming like that but original is original 😛.

I do want to meet her but if she really is becoming like she is the only one that matters (sorry) I would feel kind of bad.

I do understand self love (she only taught me) but too much is also bad.

We don't talk much. I did try to initiate (nothing from her end). I don't expect those long night chats but it should be from both ends. We only wish each other on birthdays and that is only when we talk some.

But I have no complaints. We had our time together. It was the best of times.

It feels good to vent.

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Redundancy is a chore. Just be cool, chillax, we don't stress responses or formalities.Meanwhile that is very important to a cap as I've noticed.

I used to have a Cap friend who would rejoice everytime I would take my time to say hello and do the whole formal thing at large events.

But I have cap Venus and mercury in a stellium , but I can totally see an aqua coming off as self absorbed , but were just airheads sometimes

Yes that I have seen. It feels lite with Aquas and I don't have a problem with that. With friends it is ok it is just that when there are feelings involved it becomes different.

Yeah there's the biggest difference, we don't have a clear line drawn between friends and romantic partners

I feel like most Aqua-Cap relationships fall there between friends and romantic partners.

For some reason is hard to either escalate the ladder or get off of it. 😢

As a romantic relationship it would be great because we get along well as friends and we are able to understand each other compared to other signs I guess.

Yep the way I see it is that caps are easy to get along with cause they're great at starting things but we have different directions in life. They are success driven and don't look back, they seek someone who they can either help or someone who will support them, they love to work and see the results

Aquas are social and there's not much of a drive or ambition to reach the top because we are people persons. We just deal with what life throws at us and make it as original as possible.

We live to deal with people and life's spontaneity

Caps live to reach the top

Eventually they catch on that were not built like they are

I think that for a relationship to work they have to have similar visions. Aquas are visionaries and Caps love working on projects and make money. if there is something that we can both achieve by working together BOOM! Wonderful things happen!!!

My mentor and business partner is a Cap, and we work well together, he wants to stay in the shadows working while I'm out there. We are a great team. Romantically not so much, he's in love with me or so he says, but I buried my feelings for him years ago (8yrs) when he got married. 😢

Now, he still wants to be with me but I can't find those feelings again plus, there is another cap in my mind.

@capricorn91 Something like that is what I'm referring to when I tell you that is hard for us to go back to a previous lover.

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Yes I do understand it. And to be frank I don't want to be like your Cap mentor. That is why we test the waters first to be sure before jumping.

I did realize it when we met that what we had can't be started again. It was for that time only. And going further would only spoil the memories. I was even wary of meeting her that day. But the tone of the message made me realise there is nothing further. But the heart still cares.

But I have moved on. This all might be due to the Venus retrograde. Lol 😄

Yes what they say,that is why aquas are mistaken for cold and emotionless,honestly i have insomnia for my brain doesnt stop thinking,i show it through my actions im not very vocal