DISTANT AND ANGRY

I am an Aquarius but i sometimes dont understand my self at all ..I love being affectionate but sometimes i like to be alone especially with significant other .. like if i love them i dont mind hanging out with them but sometimes i like to be left alone .. Like i would lie just to be alone for a while

great ..i JUST FEEL BAD sometimes like my boyfriend likes to sometimes spend time with me but few hours is enough for me I NEED some time to my self WE DONT LIVE TOGETHER but i can imagine if we did i wouldnt want to be round him all the time or on the day he dont work or i dont i want me time

well i complain to my husband to NEVER take jobs that are far away, if he can't help it.
I'd rather he be next to me all the time. I prefer it. I dont like men who work far or is distant. I hate that and I would never be with one like that, i'd always worry and cry and whine he's gone. Just thinking about it is horrific. Best to be SINGLE if i'm alone instead of "two" like a marriage or being in a relationship/bf- gf. This sitting in your room alone thing, sounds teenage angsty.

but don't mind reading a good book or sitting on the computer while he's sitting next to me either.

And to be honest, he'd PREFER it too, that he is CLOSE to me. And he hates to work far too. which works for both of us. Cause money ain't everything. And if it's going to STRAIN your relationship, if the both of you are NOT that type, best be SINGLE. Honestly. If you can't stand to be around the one you love, then be by yourself.

I like my alone time too, but I'm a cap with aqua mars so I might have a different perspective of it than an aqua sun. Alone time allows me to relax and recharge. Plus, sometimes I just want to be lazy and not have anyone know about it! 🙂

Posted by truecap
I like my alone time too, but I'm a cap with aqua mars so I might have a different perspective of it than an aqua sun. Alone time allows me to relax and recharge. Plus, sometimes I just want to be lazy and not have anyone know about it! 🙂

EXATLY I WANT TOP BE LAZY AND HIM NOT KNOW LOL how do i know what type of aqua am i my bday is jan 29 1988

I'm the same way

We don't have 1-dimensional personalities. 1 minute we wanna be social butterflies & the next minute we're so tired from having to be so energized & available to everybody else that we need a few minutes to be alone, relax, refuel & recharge.

Aquarians spend so much time talking, thinking, giving advice, being social, being available, etc. We tire easily! And sometimes that sudden tiredness or "funky mood" comes randomly & out of nowhere & b/c it's so random & something we didn't see coming, we start questioning whether or not something is wrong with us. Nothing is wrong with you.

Sounds like you just tire easily! Some people wish they could be just as happy/content by themselves! Some people can't find fulfillment in life unless they are around others who give them life 24-7. Aquarians got lucky lol We love 1 on 1 time with others AND with ourselves lol Best of both worlds =P

krys, everyone is doing the same thing on this forum, it's NOT exclusive to aquas.

Posted by pinkrose

Posted by truecap
I like my alone time too, but I'm a cap with aqua mars so I might have a different perspective of it than an aqua sun. Alone time allows me to relax and recharge. Plus, sometimes I just want to be lazy and not have anyone know about it! 🙂

EXATLY I WANT TOP BE LAZY AND HIM NOT KNOW LOL how do i know what type of aqua am i my bday is jan 29 1988

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Then communicate this to him! Sometimes if you tell people who you are & why you are the way you are, they are understanding. Sometimes I notice things about others I perceive as "different" or unusual but the minute they explain it to me, I am 100% understanding. This is 1 of those things where explaining that it's not personal & that it's just who/how you are, can make a huge difference in whether or not you feel understood or not in the relationship

My husband knows that I get like this sometimes. I got to him & explained this about me before he even had the chance to take notice & take it personal. Now, every time he sees me going into my "loner" phase, he remembers what I said, reminds himself not to take it personal & gives me the space I need.

But we'd probably be on the rocks if I hadn't explained it to him. Sometimes a person may take something personally or misunderstand you b/c YOU haven't explained to them who you are. Tell people who you are! And if they decide to still take it personally or can't deal with the differences in personality, then so be it!

Posted by lisabethur8
krys, everyone is doing the same thing on this forum, it's NOT exclusive to aquas.

I didn't say that Aquas were the only ones doing this so don't try quoting me as if I'd said such. I'm aware that many other signs/people are this way. But this thread is for Aquas so I have no need to talk about any of the other signs lol

There's a reason each sign has their own thread. It's for people in that specific group to share their own experiences. Doesn't mean that anyone is insinuating that we're the only ones who go through it.

+1

Posted by krysrenee7
I'm the same way

We don't have 1-dimensional personalities. 1 minute we wanna be social butterflies & the next minute we're so tired from having to be so energized & available to everybody else that we need a few minutes to be alone, relax, refuel & recharge.

Aquarians spend so much time talking, thinking, giving advice, being social, being available, etc. We tire easily! And sometimes that sudden tiredness or "funky mood" comes randomly & out of nowhere & b/c it's so random & something we didn't see coming, we start questioning whether or not something is wrong with us. Nothing is wrong with you.

Sounds like you just tire easily! Some people wish they could be just as happy/content by themselves! Some people can't find fulfillment in life unless they are around others who give them life 24-7. Aquarians got lucky lol We love 1 on 1 time with others AND with ourselves lol Best of both worlds =P

+1, and I only have a moon in aquarius. Very similar to the more exuberant gems🙂

Yep ill do the same thing...like tell him I'm going to take a nap when I really just wanna lay in bed and watch tv alone.....alone.....alone

Posted by AbstractRay
Yep ill do the same thing...like tell him I'm going to take a nap when I really just wanna lay in bed and watch tv alone.....alone.....alone

exactly , like today i had to lie because i didnt want to hurt his feelings that i didnt want to be bothered plus we had huge fight so i wanted to be aone for a while

I HAVE to have my alone time to recharge and it's ok to do that. Have you tried telling him that you just need time to yourself? I think if you explain to him that it will make it more enjoyable for you both- he may be a'ok with it 😉

If I don't get time for me I turn into a straight up bitch and my friends, family and past relationships have urged me to take time out! LMAO

If I were you, I would cut out the lying though.

I get it. You probably feel that if you tell him the truth, he'll take it personally or judge you. BUT if he ever finds out that you've been lying to him, he'll not only take it personally X's 10 but it'll open the door for him to start questioning whether or not everything else you've told him was a lie. Trust me, it's not worth it. Don't let it get to that point b/c it'll cause more problems & bring your very fears to life.

Just tell him that sometimes you have this sudden urge to be alone. It's not personal. Other times it is personal. But nonetheless, you need space. And if he loves you & believes that you love him, he'll just have to trust that you mean it when you tell him that it's not personal & that it's just who/how you are.

He'll either accept it or not. But give him the chance to figure out if he will accept this about you. For all you know, he probably will! And in doing so, you'll save yourself from telling a thousand lies, having to feel guilty for lying & any of the consequences you'd face from lying. Just tell him

Funny, I never minded being sent to my room for punishment when I was a child. Best punishment EVER!!!

😄

Posted by AbstractRay
Yep ill do the same thing...like tell him I'm going to take a nap when I really just wanna lay in bed and watch tv alone.....alone.....alone

OMG This! I don't use that excuse with a significant other only, I do it with friends too. I even fake headaches sometimes just to be left alone lol. My friend called me & asked me to come over to her house for the weekend & I made up some story about why I couldn't come. The thing is I really miss her, I haven't seen her in months, but the thought of breaking my daily habits (weekend habits) is what's stopping me from going. I have things I do every weekend ie. watching marathon episodes of my favourite shows on tv & it takes up the whole day. I wouldn't give that up for nobody, sorry. Maybe I'll go visit her when I'm over some of the shows.

Posted by WaterCup

Posted by AbstractRay
Yep ill do the same thing...like tell him I'm going to take a nap when I really just wanna lay in bed and watch tv alone.....alone.....alone

OMG This! I don't use that excuse with a significant other only, I do it with friends too. I even fake headaches sometimes just to be left alone lol. My friend called me & asked me to come over to her house for the weekend & I made up some story about why I couldn't come. The thing is I really miss her, I haven't seen her in months, but the thought of breaking my daily habits (weekend habits) is what's stopping me from going. I have things I do every weekend ie. watching marathon episodes of my favourite shows on tv & it takes up the whole day. I wouldn't give that up for nobody, sorry. Maybe I'll go visit her when I'm over some of the shows.

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+1000 me too! LOL

i never fake anything with my husband. I just tell him straight up whatever/however i feel. But he can usually tell how i'm feeling anyway. *shrug*
i dont like being alone, i prefer he be by my side always. it's very liberating to be able to share those things with your significant other.

Posted by lisabethur8
i never fake anything with my husband. I just tell him straight up whatever/however i feel. But he can usually tell how i'm feeling anyway. *shrug*
i dont like being alone, i prefer he be by my side always. it's very liberating to be able to share those things with your significant other.

True! But I'm sure you'd wanna scratch your eyes out if you had a partner who didn't tick/feel this exact same way!

It's funny that you can't imagine being any different than you are, but I am the complete opposite of you (prefer to be alone) & yet I can't imagine being any different lol

Relationships like this can work. It's just both people have to be honest about it so that it doesn't leave room/opportunity for the person to take it personal or mistake this for incompatibility

Posted by pinkrose
great ..i JUST FEEL BAD sometimes like my boyfriend likes to sometimes spend time with me but few hours is enough for me I NEED some time to my self WE DONT LIVE TOGETHER but i can imagine if we did i wouldnt want to be round him all the time or on the day he dont work or i dont i want me time

I'm the exact same way. I love me some alone time as well 🙂 I believe a successful relationship for an aqua would be with someone who isn't insecure, clingy and who would allow time apart. Insecure and clingy lovers don't understand the Aquarian need to be alone time to time. They become suspicious of "this alone time" we need.

Posted by feby16aqua
When I'm angry, I'm distant. Depending on who you are, I may or may not want you to know I'm angry.

I get like that too.. if it builds up alot then I let it all out lol..

You would like to be alone and now you have this alone and you still asking to be alone? What?

Both being alone and non alone is good.