@MaryJane666
13 Years
My happy ending? Hope so. :)
Hmmm I'd watch this one
Sounds like he kept putting you on hold to go date other women, hence the reason he always came back after all his other ends were no longer tied up. Sounds like you were his Plan B & that he's finally ok with settling with you. No bueno!
I say that b/c you mentioned him doing this multiple times before which means this has become a pattern, & if it's become a pattern, that means that the likelihood of it happening again is high.
He's saying everything that you want to hear, but pay more attention to his actions. If I were you, I'd have "the talk" with him. Don't just accept his bland answer/explanation about why he's back & why he choose you
If all he's got is, "Welp, I tried everyone else b/c I didn't think you were good enough, BUT after screwing & dating all these other girls, I've finally decided to settle on you!" then you might wanna reconsider getting serious with him! Why? B/c he's clearly the type of man that easily falls prey to the "Grass is greener on the other side" mentality, which means that the minute someone he likes better comes along, he'll probably disappear all over again, only coming back to you if that situation doesn't work out
Don't be his Plan B. Don't be the woman he settled on. That's not anything to be flattered about. Some men get so drained from online dating that they finally just go back to the original woman they were dating before that phase. Problem is, there was something about the original girl (you) that he didn't like/respect enough to find her to be special the FIRST go round, hence the reason he would've rather dated other women over you.
So be careful with this one.
Sounds like he kept putting you on hold to go date other women, hence the reason he always came back after all his other ends were no longer tied up. Sounds like you were his Plan B & that he's finally ok with settling with you. No bueno!
I say that b/c you mentioned him doing this multiple times before which means this has become a pattern, & if it's become a pattern, that means that the likelihood of it happening again is high.
He's saying everything that you want to hear, but pay more attention to his actions. If I were you, I'd have "the talk" with him. Don't just accept his bland answer/explanation about why he's back & why he choose you
If all he's got is, "Welp, I tried everyone else b/c I didn't think you were good enough, BUT after screwing & dating all these other girls, I've finally decided to settle on you!" then you might wanna reconsider getting serious with him! Why? B/c he's clearly the type of man that easily falls prey to the "Grass is greener on the other side" mentality, which means that the minute someone he likes better comes along, he'll probably disappear all over again, only coming back to you if that situation doesn't work out
Don't be his Plan B. Don't be the woman he settled on. That's not anything to be flattered about. Some men get so drained from online dating that they finally just go back to the original woman they were dating before that phase. Problem is, there was something about the original girl (you) that he didn't like/respect enough to find her to be special the FIRST go round, hence the reason he would've rather dated other women over you.
So be careful with this one.
Don't just jump back in all b/c he's saying everything you've ever wanted to hear. The last time he said everything you wanted to hear & made you think that you 2 were going somewhere, he dipped out & hurt your feelings. So at the very LEAST, you know he has it in him to do that (again).
If you're gonna let him back in, be more cautious. Make him work for your body, time & energy again. Make him prove himself to you. Make him explain to you why he REALLY came back so that you can decide with logic whether or not his come-back is genuine, or just some shallow attempt to use you as a Plan B. Show him that actions mean more to you than sweet words so that he'll know that the key to winning you back takes a helluva lot more than a bunch of sweet words & empty promises. Let him know that the sh*t he pulled in the past freakin' hurt & that if he wants you to trust him again with your heart, that he's gonna have to do some serious work!!
Be a good catch for once! Have some standards! Establish some boundaries! Don't give him all you've got before he even commits to you b/c doing that is how women end up being the Plan B while men often just go stray & look for women who are more of a challenge.
Not trying to come down on you, just saying that you take some responsibility in this too from now on. It's 1 thing to walk blindly into a situation when you don't know. But now you know that he has it in him to say all the right things, but not mean a thing, as made obvious by the sudden disappearing acts. If your heart can't emotionally afford another let down in the same way by the same guy, then proceed cautiously.
If you're gonna let him back in, be more cautious. Make him work for your body, time & energy again. Make him prove himself to you. Make him explain to you why he REALLY came back so that you can decide with logic whether or not his come-back is genuine, or just some shallow attempt to use you as a Plan B. Show him that actions mean more to you than sweet words so that he'll know that the key to winning you back takes a helluva lot more than a bunch of sweet words & empty promises. Let him know that the sh*t he pulled in the past freakin' hurt & that if he wants you to trust him again with your heart, that he's gonna have to do some serious work!!
Be a good catch for once! Have some standards! Establish some boundaries! Don't give him all you've got before he even commits to you b/c doing that is how women end up being the Plan B while men often just go stray & look for women who are more of a challenge.
Not trying to come down on you, just saying that you take some responsibility in this too from now on. It's 1 thing to walk blindly into a situation when you don't know. But now you know that he has it in him to say all the right things, but not mean a thing, as made obvious by the sudden disappearing acts. If your heart can't emotionally afford another let down in the same way by the same guy, then proceed cautiously.
Watch him! Sorry to say... (I'm a Aqua girl so I don't know about the guys) but if I go for someone... That someone is the ONLY one on my mind. I don't even care about other...
I try to be careful... It's so harb, because he has crawled back to my heart. 🙂 He is so sweet and cairing to me all the time. His friends threw a party to celebrate that we are a couple officially. The whole night he was so affectionate. Kissed and hugged me all the time. His arms were all the time around me. 🙂
I want to belive that this time it will be different. If last year no-one did knew what we were ( we ourselves even didn't) then now... We are a couple publicly. Everybody knows we are together. Haha even on FB. (I know it does not show much, but still. 🙂 LOL. The whole relationship thing is a HUGE step for him. He is afraid of commitment and responsibility. And for him promising to commit to is very big deal for him. He told me that there is no other person who has the same personality like me and he has been searching something/someone who has been next to him for quite a while. He told me that I have no personality traits which he didn't like. 🙂
I just want to believe so badly that if we are publicly a couple, then he really takes this relationship thing seriously.
I'm afraid and a bit insecure. But I want to believe. 🙂
Is this really that common behaviour for aquas? Do they mean it when they say that they are in a relationship?
Btw, I have a child also.
I want to belive that this time it will be different. If last year no-one did knew what we were ( we ourselves even didn't) then now... We are a couple publicly. Everybody knows we are together. Haha even on FB. (I know it does not show much, but still. 🙂 LOL. The whole relationship thing is a HUGE step for him. He is afraid of commitment and responsibility. And for him promising to commit to is very big deal for him. He told me that there is no other person who has the same personality like me and he has been searching something/someone who has been next to him for quite a while. He told me that I have no personality traits which he didn't like. 🙂
I just want to believe so badly that if we are publicly a couple, then he really takes this relationship thing seriously.
I'm afraid and a bit insecure. But I want to believe. 🙂
Is this really that common behaviour for aquas? Do they mean it when they say that they are in a relationship?
Btw, I have a child also.
From my observations of the several aquas I know, if they are announcing it publically, Yes, they mean it. Still, I'd be leery for a while for your own protection (ya, typical capricorn answer, lol!). Only time will tell how committed he is.
What sign is his venus in?
What sign is his venus in?
Posted by truecap
From my observations of the several aquas I know, if they are announcing it publically, Yes, they mean it. Still, I'd be leery for a while for your own protection (ya, typical capricorn answer, lol!). Only time will tell how committed he is.
What sign is his venus in?
His venus sign is in Aquarius
At the moment he is truly a Prince Charming. He wants to spend all of his free time with me. 🙂
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Is he serious or is he playing mind games with me again... confused... but happy at the moment 🙂