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Do Aquas appreciate being told straight?
Holy crap, I LOVE the truth. The more brutal and straight forward, the better! Honestly...my favorite people at work are the ones that get mad at me and let me know they're mad! I can't stand people that hold back, dance around issues, give hints about how they really feel. A friend of mine used to yell, "Hey, Shadows...you look like shit!" when I did because she knew I loved it so much. Honesty makes me feel warmth towards people. It means you value our relationship enough to want to be open and honest with me. You want whatever we have to be real.
Damn, give it to me straight or don't waste my time.
Damn, give it to me straight or don't waste my time.
YES!!!!
Absolutely yes!
🙂
Absolutely yes!
🙂
We're pretty blunt - we understand blunt. Be blunt "Hey man, I like you, I want to get to know you on a more than friends level".
Posted by NZAqua
We're pretty blunt - we understand blunt. Be blunt "Hey man, I like you, I want to get to know you on a more than friends level".
But then walk away so you don't suffocate us. 😉
(Unfortunately, I'm not joking.) 😢
Posted by ShadowsPosted by NZAqua
We're pretty blunt - we understand blunt. Be blunt "Hey man, I like you, I want to get to know you on a more than friends level".
But then walk away so you don't suffocate us. 😉
(Unfortunately, I'm not joking.) 😢click to expand
Hahaa so i shouldnt pee on his leg after to mark my territory 😉
Prolly not.
Actually, I can't stop thinking how crazy cool that would be! If someone told me straight up they were interested, but then walked away! Thats like everything I've ever wanted! lol No, seriously...I can't think of anything getting my attention more than that. Even though the person put themselves out there like that..somehow them walking away leaves me feeling like...wow. That right there is a powerful combination.
Actually, I can't stop thinking how crazy cool that would be! If someone told me straight up they were interested, but then walked away! Thats like everything I've ever wanted! lol No, seriously...I can't think of anything getting my attention more than that. Even though the person put themselves out there like that..somehow them walking away leaves me feeling like...wow. That right there is a powerful combination.
Ooo ooo...its like saying, "Yeah, I like you. But now that I'm walking away you see how confident I am. How lucky are you that such an awesomely confident person is into you?"
Posted by ShadowsPosted by NZAqua
We're pretty blunt - we understand blunt. Be blunt "Hey man, I like you, I want to get to know you on a more than friends level".
But then walk away so you don't suffocate us. 😉
(Unfortunately, I'm not joking.) 😢click to expand
Agree lol!
@feisty - its true! Sometimes I need to be hit over the head. But this is only with people I don't know very well.
ahhh what happened to the good old days when the guys had to do all the work, i knew this damn equality thing would come back to bite me on the ass lol
I actually find it quite amusing how oblivious men are to a womans advances! lol
I love psychology too. I actually bought the guy a psychology book called "the games people pay" he found it really interesting, but obviously as he is a man didnt get the hint 🙂
Well I actually wrote in the book "its fun to play games, but honesty is always the best policy". but he did text me saying its really interesting and he's leart a lot from it so who knows!
Looks like its going to have to be a bottle of wine and a confession next time i see him 🙂
Looks like its going to have to be a bottle of wine and a confession next time i see him 🙂
So i finally got the balls to tell him and guess what his response was: "ok".
Is the guy for real?!?!?! i've been sat for weeks figuring out what to say and his response was just, ok. I would laugh if i wasnt so annoyed lol. So I am still none the wiser to how he feels. I suppose I could have asked him to elaborate but it didnt seem like he was going to, so didnt want to push it.
But oh well atleast I can say im not a wimp anymore 😛
Is the guy for real?!?!?! i've been sat for weeks figuring out what to say and his response was just, ok. I would laugh if i wasnt so annoyed lol. So I am still none the wiser to how he feels. I suppose I could have asked him to elaborate but it didnt seem like he was going to, so didnt want to push it.
But oh well atleast I can say im not a wimp anymore 😛
Posted by libra sun
So just wondering (sort of hypothetical) would an Aqua appreciate being told how you feel about them?
Well I tend to feel being as DIRECT as possible is the best way to go, so it never bothers me when someone ELSE adapts that way of thinking. I actually tend to get along better with people who appear to tell me the truth straight up. When I sense that someone always has problems just spitting it out or not sugar-coating things, it takes away from my sense of being able to give them the credit for being "real."
Plus if someone can save me the trouble of having to analyze everything they say just to see if they're telling the truth, then YES, the more direct you are with me the more I'll respect you, EVEN if what you're saying is something I don't want to hear.
I think a person's TIMING can make/break how Aquas respond to being told straight. We don't like people saying/doing certain things just for "dramatic effect." We don't like it when people try to "game" us or "smooth talk" us. We don't like it when someone is SO direct (almost TOO direct) that they come off sounding harsh; Some people are only direct b/c they want cool points & want to be considered as "REAL" vs. being direct b/c they like speaking from the heart.
If someone is SO direct with us about certain things that we don't want to talk about yet, we might run like hell. If someone we just met 2 days ago is ALREADY professing their undying love for us, yes we might appreciate that they were willing to show their vulnerable side & truthfully express their emotions, BUT if we aren't in the mood to discuss something OR if we don't feel certain feelings are mutual, we CAN grow to be defensive sometimes b/c of our pet-peeve for being put on the spot!
Aquas are normal human beings too; so some Aquas (especially those who are more introverted OR who aren't always direct) hate hearing the truth period & ESPECIALLY if the truth is coming from someone who gives it to us raw!
BUT, I think Aquas admire any traits within someone else that we carry within ourselves TOO. Anything that we have in "COMMON" w/ someone else (like being direct) is something they highly admire!
Now don't get me wrong, even though we may appreciate someone for coming straight out & telling us how they feel (w/o all the sugar coating), that does NOT necessarily mean that we'll respond the way that person may want us too. If someone tells us that they like us when the feeling isn't mutual, we'll give them their credit for being up front & honest BUT we won't necessarily give in & tell them something we don't mean just b/c we were put on the spot.
I think Aquas generally appreciate being told straight when the feelings are mutual. If an Aqua can't identify/relate with what someone is saying (someone being totally in love with us, while yet we only see them as an associate or friend), we'll STILL give them their credit for giving us the raw truth, BUT we won't necessarily crumble to any pressure.
If an Aqua isn't ready to admit or discuss how they feel about someone, they WON'T do so until THEY are ready. Even if someone tells me they love me 1 million times in 5 minutes, I won't say it back until I actually mean it & can genuienly say that I feel the same way. And since Aquas generally prefer for the other person to 'go 1st' when it comes to expressing feelings, the only time another person really benefits from being direct & upfront with us is when we've been literally WAITING on them to "go 1st."
BUT, if someone expects something specific from me after they told me the raw truth, they may take my lack of saying "ditto" as me not liking to be told the raw truth. And if someone reveals something that turns us off, we may run like hell BUT only b/c we didn't like what came out of their mouth, & NOT b/c we didn't like that they were up front with us.
I hate being put on a the spot. If someone professes their undying love for me when I'm not on that level with them yet, I'll be glad they were honest, BUT it'll annoy me b/c I'll feel that since it might've taken a big amount of courage for them to reveal certain things, that must mean I HAVE to rebuttle or respond. And I HATE feeling like I have to open up when I'm not even ready ALL b/c someone else did
I think Aquas generally appreciate being told straight when the feelings are mutual. If an Aqua can't identify/relate with what someone is saying (someone being totally in love with us, while yet we only see them as an associate or friend), we'll STILL give them their credit for giving us the raw truth, BUT we won't necessarily crumble to any pressure.
If an Aqua isn't ready to admit or discuss how they feel about someone, they WON'T do so until THEY are ready. Even if someone tells me they love me 1 million times in 5 minutes, I won't say it back until I actually mean it & can genuienly say that I feel the same way. And since Aquas generally prefer for the other person to 'go 1st' when it comes to expressing feelings, the only time another person really benefits from being direct & upfront with us is when we've been literally WAITING on them to "go 1st."
BUT, if someone expects something specific from me after they told me the raw truth, they may take my lack of saying "ditto" as me not liking to be told the raw truth. And if someone reveals something that turns us off, we may run like hell BUT only b/c we didn't like what came out of their mouth, & NOT b/c we didn't like that they were up front with us.
I hate being put on a the spot. If someone professes their undying love for me when I'm not on that level with them yet, I'll be glad they were honest, BUT it'll annoy me b/c I'll feel that since it might've taken a big amount of courage for them to reveal certain things, that must mean I HAVE to rebuttle or respond. And I HATE feeling like I have to open up when I'm not even ready ALL b/c someone else did
Interesting info 🙂
Yeah I wasnt expecting a declaration of his love or anything, infact i didnt know what I was expecting from him. I suppose I just wanted more then a one word response. Maybe he's thinking over what I said who knows?! He does often wait a few days to get back to me on things ive mentioned to him before.
I just cant beleive ive judged him so wrong. He gives off very mixed signals and i genuinely thought that he liked me too but just didnt know how to say it (he is quite shy on the inside, and told me that he is quite insecure and scared of rejection.) So thought I would help him out by saying it first.
Oh well hopefully he will give me some feedback in his own sweet time like he usually does lol
Yeah I wasnt expecting a declaration of his love or anything, infact i didnt know what I was expecting from him. I suppose I just wanted more then a one word response. Maybe he's thinking over what I said who knows?! He does often wait a few days to get back to me on things ive mentioned to him before.
I just cant beleive ive judged him so wrong. He gives off very mixed signals and i genuinely thought that he liked me too but just didnt know how to say it (he is quite shy on the inside, and told me that he is quite insecure and scared of rejection.) So thought I would help him out by saying it first.
Oh well hopefully he will give me some feedback in his own sweet time like he usually does lol
@Libra. Well the GOOD thing is that ATLEAST he told you the truth. Him telling you that he's shy, insecure & afraid of rejection is the best indicator & predictor of his actions moreso than astrology might.
Who knows, the feelings very well may NOT be mutual. I'm sure they are, BUT if he's not used to being told certain things so quickly OR so bluntly, that might explain his slowed reaction. That's 1 thing about Aquas! You can always count on us to say what we mean & mean what we say! We won't randomly blurt out shXt we don't mean just b/c someone puts us on the spot.
You're right. He's probably taking in all that you've said. And even if the feelings aren't mutual, that doesn't necessarily mean that you've done something wrong or that he won't EVENTUALLY start liking you in the same way. Remember, Aquas are slow to attach to others, even if they primarily love everything about you. Even if you are their ideal "dream girl," that STILL doesn't mean that they'll let YOU know that!
Now that you've put him on the spot & opened up the door for that kind of conversation, he's probably pondering on how he's going to respond. Plus, he's also being forced to acknowledge & recognize ANY feelings about you that he has. He may not have wanted to have this talk with himself YET, BUT since you brought things up 1st, he may take this time to sit back & REALLY REALLY think about how he truly feels about you. And if this is the case, once again you have to remember that this process for Aquas is VERY slow.
So just be patient. Don't freak out YET all b/c he didn't respond the way I'm sure you wanted him to respond. Now if 2 months from now he STILL hasn't expressed mutual feelings or even brought the topic up again, that could mean trouble OR that he was WAY more insecure than you thought. But from what you've shared, I think things will work out fine. Feel good that you got your feelings off your chest; if anything, atleast you'll always have the pleasure in knowing that you "KEPT IT REAL" & took the RISK of rejection all in the name of being true to/speaking on your emotions!
Who knows, the feelings very well may NOT be mutual. I'm sure they are, BUT if he's not used to being told certain things so quickly OR so bluntly, that might explain his slowed reaction. That's 1 thing about Aquas! You can always count on us to say what we mean & mean what we say! We won't randomly blurt out shXt we don't mean just b/c someone puts us on the spot.
You're right. He's probably taking in all that you've said. And even if the feelings aren't mutual, that doesn't necessarily mean that you've done something wrong or that he won't EVENTUALLY start liking you in the same way. Remember, Aquas are slow to attach to others, even if they primarily love everything about you. Even if you are their ideal "dream girl," that STILL doesn't mean that they'll let YOU know that!
Now that you've put him on the spot & opened up the door for that kind of conversation, he's probably pondering on how he's going to respond. Plus, he's also being forced to acknowledge & recognize ANY feelings about you that he has. He may not have wanted to have this talk with himself YET, BUT since you brought things up 1st, he may take this time to sit back & REALLY REALLY think about how he truly feels about you. And if this is the case, once again you have to remember that this process for Aquas is VERY slow.
So just be patient. Don't freak out YET all b/c he didn't respond the way I'm sure you wanted him to respond. Now if 2 months from now he STILL hasn't expressed mutual feelings or even brought the topic up again, that could mean trouble OR that he was WAY more insecure than you thought. But from what you've shared, I think things will work out fine. Feel good that you got your feelings off your chest; if anything, atleast you'll always have the pleasure in knowing that you "KEPT IT REAL" & took the RISK of rejection all in the name of being true to/speaking on your emotions!
Thanks for your comments
Yes no matter what the outcome atleast I actually put myself out there for once. Too many times I have sat back and done nothing when I have liked someone and then for months after thought "what if" and "if only".
No one likes rejection but I find it much easier to get over it knowing that I took the chance. Maybe it will pay off maybe it wont, but atleast I wont have to wonder what could have happened if I had just took the chance 🙂
Yes no matter what the outcome atleast I actually put myself out there for once. Too many times I have sat back and done nothing when I have liked someone and then for months after thought "what if" and "if only".
No one likes rejection but I find it much easier to get over it knowing that I took the chance. Maybe it will pay off maybe it wont, but atleast I wont have to wonder what could have happened if I had just took the chance 🙂
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