Do aquas ever hate anyone?

Do they? If so what are the characteristics.

Not sure if this guy hates me or maybe he thinks I hate him. All I know is he's been distant from me only and is quite normal with everyone else in his life including his other friends. It's not that he's ignoring me or anything like that, we will talk but it just whenever i'm around other people take precedent and he's more happier to see them. But there will be the rare occassion where he'll tell me something he's excited about but I guess I dropped to the lower spectrum of his social list.

I didn't do anything to hurt him at least I don't think so. I even tried initiating conversations and I have done it more than he has but it doesn't seem to be changing things much. All it did was get him to talk to me more but the level of how we interact hasn't changed and niether has his level of enthusiasm that i'm around either.

I feel like I'm the only person he takes for granted.

Of course. 😐

Which means what? Do you think he hates me?

Or is it because of something I did? Or do I confuse him or is it because he thinks I hate him.

I am not even sure what the problem is but I do know there's a problem. I can't even get it out of him when I ask or its some weird excuse like I'm quiet.

But yet when I am talkative to him which is helluva lot more than before it still isn't working and I've been more talkative for weeks now.

This isn't about hate. Where do you get hate? He talks to you, doesn't he? Your expectations of him are what this is about. So, what are they?

I came close to hating someone once. Being civil isn't on the list. I want blood.

I don't talk to people I hate (I would rather use "dislike").

Posted by aquasnoz
I came close to hating someone once. Being civil isn't on the list. I want blood.

+99

Posted by aquasnoz
I came close to hating someone once. Being civil isn't on the list. I want blood.

+69? LOL

being mischievous apc? 😛 and "dislike" pfft you're such an aqua haha

My expectations isn't to be treated like I'm some leper. We used to be great friends and now its like the only friendship that changed was his and mine but he's still the same as he's always been with our other friends or even his acquaintances.

We used to talk daily. We barely talk at all and even then I feel like the only time we do talk is if he has no one else to talk to or if he has a question or needs help.

Plus the level of effort and enthusiasm he has when someone else walks into the room versus when I'm around or in the room is drastically different. It's like I'm not even there but if it was anybody else he'd be all jovial and corny and etc.

That's why I did what people have told me to do and common sense which was to initiate more and I have. A helluva lot more...all it did was increase the "quanity" but not the quality..the same quality everyone else experiences with him.

Posted by aquasnoz
being mischievous apc? 😛 and "dislike" pfft you're such an aqua haha

I am always mischievous on here, you just noticed? Aqua men!!

Posted by aquasnoz
being mischievous apc? 😛 and "dislike" pfft you're such an aqua haha

hate is too harsh, it eats away at YOU... who needs that?

😄

Posted by jengoesboom
My expectations isn't to be treated like I'm some leper. We used to be great friends and now its like the only friendship that changed was his and mine but he's still the same as he's always been with our other friends or even his acquaintances.

We used to talk daily. We barely talk at all and even then I feel like the only time we do talk is if he has no one else to talk to or if he has a question or needs help.

Plus the level of effort and enthusiasm he has when someone else walks into the room versus when I'm around or in the room is drastically different. It's like I'm not even there but if it was anybody else he'd be all jovial and corny and etc.

That's why I did what people have told me to do and common sense which was to initiate more and I have. A helluva lot more...all it did was increase the "quanity" but not the quality..the same quality everyone else experiences with him.

What is your sign?

Sounds like you want MORE from him than just friendship though. Were you intimate or romantic in the past?

Let me guess... a Virgo?

@apc: Meeee? I never noticed 😉

Well jengoesboom, you already subscribe to the idea aqua men have no emotions, so should this really surprise you? Just for a minute I'll let that generalisation slide for a bit.

Are you wanting insight or just to vent? I encourage venting but if it's not that then you really need to lay down the details. What are your expectations and what does he mean to you? Under what circumstances did you meet, what did you actually talk about when you did talk, how often do you guys actually see each other, how involved are you in his life?

Pisces.

Sure I've always wanted more and I have dated men/been in relationship since I met him a long time ago and I'm okay with being friends. But I've always cared about him as a person.

But that's just not it. We were close in terms of I could depend on him for support, advice, help and he always was there to make me laugh if I was having a bad day.

These days we barely speak maybe a handful of short 1 minute conversations, he get upset at me if i'm having a bad day and my "moodiness" (which hasnt ever changed) and he's never there even when it's obvious I need help with something. Other people will jump in to assist me but he just sits there like he couldn't care less when I know he does. I remember one time recently we all were at a party and for some reason I got really sick, couldn't breathe and was going to faint and the people that noticed came to my aid he was the only person who noticed that didn't. He just sat there.

Plus when I'm talking about expectations the fact that I notice that he's so glad and happy to see everyone when he sees them and to see him just glance at me when I walk into the room is noticeable. Sure I can ignore him and discard him and move past this but I'm not going to ditch someone I consider(ed) a good friend without knowing why.

@aquanos

I just wanted to cut to the chase. But I met him a year ago through other friends and we got along well. We always talked about everything imaginable: careers, family, other friends, travel, hobbies/interests, funny things we see on tv and even things that just really don't have a category becuase he's corny and weird as hell.

Then gradually he just started to get distant from me and only me. Typical scenario when things were okay was if you walked into the room he would say something weird and exaggerated like HEYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYA JEN or some wisecrack related to you and then he'll ask how you are doing and ask you some questions, you'd joke around for hours and that would be that.

These days when I walk in the room or he walks in the room he'll just say "hi" and walk away. That's about it until he feels like telling me something. So more often it's me that approaches him but becuase it is an awkward situation I try not to bombard him so I always let him do his thing with his "boys".

Does that help?

That helps a bit for sure. And how would you describe your interactions when the conversations use to last? Was he the one asking all the questions and directing the flow of conversation? Did you manage to find him under all the random facades and crazy exaggerations?

Sorry for all the questions.

I can as easily say he just lost interest and too much of a wuss to admit it, even though he doesn't owe it to you to explain if you've never pressed the issue. Likewise I can say the same as Don in saying he may feel awkward because he exposed parts of his real self to you.

OR maybe he really doesn't view you more past the initial novelty of a new friend wore off.

Posted by aquasnoz
Sorry for all the questions.

I can as easily say he just lost interest and too much of a wuss to admit it, even though he doesn't owe it to you to explain if you've never pressed the issue. Likewise I can say the same as Don in saying he may feel awkward because he exposed parts of his real self to you.

OR maybe he really doesn't view you more past the initial novelty of a new friend wore off.

this... 😉

@aquanos

Conversations? I guess it was equal. If he initiated it was more weird comments or questions or topics. But it depended on what was going on with him, with me or with our group of friends. But it was always different every day but it was both superficial topics but also personal topics too. He was there for me when family members passed away, he was there to make me laugh when I was having a bad day, when I had to relocate to a new city he was there to help move boxes no questions asked. I didn't even have to ask. He even remembered important dates to me like birthdays, we hung out all the time and he always said weird things when I walked into the room. That's how he is with everyone.

But like I said things gradually changed. The more it changed the more I got confused because he stopped being helpful, he stopped taking an interest in my life or at least ask about it but he would listen if other people were talking to me. He also barely said anything if I walked into the room and he definitely stopped acknowledging important dates to me like my birthday, stopped inviting me or including me. He doesn't try to make me laugh. In fact he acts like I'm not there unless he wants to tell me something. Like he is super obvious abotu acting like I'm not there. Everyone in the group including his "boys" in the group think i'm a cool person and talk to me all the time and if they go somewhere and they invite me, he coincidentally doesn't want to go.

But at the same time he doesn't act like he dislikes me either because he does say good things about me indirectly to other people and cracks jokes once in a while but I really honestly feel like I don't exist in his "world" anymore. When I tried approaching him about it he'll say things like I'm always having a bad day or am always quiet. But we have long time friends who are also those two things and he still makes as much effort with them as he always has.

So why is my behavior such a game changer? I've asked my best friend (female - gemini) who knows him and she can't even understand why he's like that. She has noticed the way he treats me becuase she sees the difference. Last week she needed help with her ipad and I couldn't figure it out and he knew I was trying to help her so when he passed by she asked him so he tried helping her and he asked her what "we" tried already so I answered "well I tried doing xyzdasdfa" and he totally just ignored what I said and asked my best frie

Yes, in my younger years, not so much. These days, if someone rubs me the wrong way, I can't even tolerate being in the same room as them, I shut down completely.

my best friend again. He eventually figured it out and walked away to go talk to his boys.

My best friend then made a comment "Now I know what you're talking about. He never disregards me or anyone like that from what I've noticed." She's just as lost as I am about why he acts like he's trying to shun me or punish me for something I did or didn't do and the only solution she's come up with is to keep being talkative with him and how I acted when things were okay but I keep telling her its hard now becuase I feel like awkward because all the times I'm talkative with him its hit or miss. Sometimes he'll joke back and be all talkative and more often than not he'll just not pay attention.

Aquasnoz has got this covered... 😱

Posted by DonAmanMarat
Lets cut to the chase...

Go for a vacation or 2, DO something with your life and leave this person out of it for now.
Build your worth, so people feel proud of you rather than annoyed of you!

That's what I've been doing for the past several weeks. Doing my own thing but doing that has made it worse.

You know about as much as I do. Whatever I can offer is my view so I'll describe a similar situation I had with a pisces gal. Let me just put out the usual disclaimer I don't speak on behalf of the Aquarius population and that if it matters the core of me is littered with 'yours' (pisces) placements.

I'm a feeler at the core I act and react according to instincts and emotions after I process them logically. The conversations I had with this pisces or the interactions seem to match what your'e describing. From those conversations I realised she always had an answer to everything, her views were drastically different to mine. To her the world was tainted, she viewed herself as some sort of underdog, the victim. We connected purely because I can relate to this mentality. It started to become a drain because I want her to be happy but she wasn't budging, she'd redirect all conversations to her misery and it gets stale pretty quickly. Until I finally had enough and said "I can't help you if you won't even help yourself". It's always someone else's fault in her world and I no longer wanted part of it.

Now that's ONE persepective, if you can relate then that's great if not then realise you won't ever know the answer until you actually ask him "hey what's wrong?"

@aqul then what could be the problem. It's like he's purposely trying to make me upset then wonders why i'm upset lol.

@aquanos

we have had a similar conversation but the weird thing is. A little of our conversations weren't about bad or draining things but that's what he mostly remembers I guess. I'm one of the members of our group of friends who's always telling people about being optimistic and everything in life is all perception and our ability to handle what we can control so its actually surprising he only remembers the rare bad thing I've talked about. Am I not allowed to have bad days?

But even then most of what he talked to me about was him being frustrated by other friends. I even tried to get him to stop being so negative so that he can be his corny weird self which he would revert to quickly as he gets over things quickly.

But i don't think its that either. My deep deep instinct tells me its a combination of things which includes: my quietness more often than not becuase of being unsure of how to interact with him (due to awkwardness), him being used to us not interacting and me being draining?! (im not sure why he says i'm draining when he was the one that was always frustrated by people we knew or friends of his.

Honestly I don't know. I do know that I am definitely trying so hard to just not feel awkward and to treat him like I'd treat any of our friends but like I said all that's doing is increasing the # of times we do talk but he still doesn't seem to try as hard to goof off around me as much as he would with others.

Okay so the situation is reversed maybe he picks up on this awkwardness and knows you can't possibly fathom 'his reality'. It could be out of indifference that he chose not to interact because you simply don't understand or out of respect also because you don't understand. Maybe you do, maybe you don't but what I see is you trying to revert his behaviour back to when you didn't know him.

What can I say? Give it your best, if he doesn't want you around you really are just digging your own grave.

On a more optimistic note, just randomly invite him out to catch a movie, have lunch or whatever. You know things that you do with supposed strangers that you fancy, can't stay shy forever. Randomly throwing in the line "what happened to you" with a smirk.

@aquanos it's not necessarily me trying to so much revert him back to when I didn't know him as deep as I do now.

It's just he's so fun to be around and witty with everyone new and people he's known for a long time but whenever I'm in the room and if we just happen to be alone he just doesn't say anything unless he has to I guess. But he doesn't try to leave the room either.

When I walk into the room or arrive he will just say hi and walk away and then go talk to someone else and automatically start being corny with them and it makes me think "gee thanks." But mutual friends have told me that he always speaks highly of me so I do know its not out of dislike. I do initiate and it seems like its more coming from my end than his and like I said so many times before it has only increased the quanity of our interactions but hasn't made them equal to how it used to be or how he is with everyone else as of right now.

I just can't fathom what it is other than he thinks I don't care about him.

I also want to point out and its really sad that I actually had this thought but if I were ever to move far away or something bad happened to me I know he'd honestly be upset about it and would show his true colors about him caring that I'm around but it shouldn't get to that level for him to stop being so awkward with me now.

Posted by aquasnoz
On a more optimistic note, just randomly invite him out to catch a movie, have lunch or whatever. You know things that you do with supposed strangers that you fancy, can't stay shy forever. Randomly throwing in the line "what happened to you" with a smirk.

I did that the other day. I those who were near me that I was going to be right back and pick up some flavored fries (its this casual dining place that has various kinds of fries tater tots, curly, shoestring, etc. and has different seasons and flavors on them)...our group of friends love this place always eat there always talk about it anyway i asked people if they wanted any some said yes, some said no, i asked him and he said "No thank you 🙂".

So when I came back he was gone and I found out that he went there on his own and bought his own 10 minutes after I did. That's why its awkward. Becuase he does things like that.

You should try some 1 on 1 time. Something tells me you may have tried that too.

I'm all for reading novels if you want to start writing one but you are still missing the point. I have no problem cutting contact with anyone, I also don't see how I owe it to them to explain why I did so and if that makes me a bastard then good because that was my intention.

You need to stop creating delusions and fantasies of who he use to be. And just a note, it's only awkward because you let it. If it was me in that position I would've called him out directly for being an ass. You are creating your own misery my pisces friend.

oh i did call him out for being a douchebag too but in a nice way of course. I said that for someone who believes in being helpful, optimistic, noble, chivalrous he has been treating me like shit. He just gets quiet.

If he wants to cut ties then he needs to do it. He isn't even trying to do that. He still talks positively about me to others, he still listens/watches when I intereact with others, and I know damn well if something bad happened to me like I said he'd have a fit. So to be honest he needs to start treating me better or let me go. I don't believe in this game shit.

Well there you go, you do have some fire in you, you actually said shit.

Next step is to tell him to go fuck himself and see how he reacts then.

lol i think i've said that too. I told him the other day that he knows someone that's amazing who actually doesn't tease him about the way he dresses, who has always been there for him, that he clicks with and he's mistreating the one person that's valued him for who he his and has always been honest with him. Again got quiet.

Haha. Maybe its him who has to work for our friendship!!!

Thanks aquanos.

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Posted by jengoesboom
@aqul then what could be the problem. It's like he's purposely trying to make me upset then wonders why i'm upset lol.

From the information you have provided about how he behaves with you..it doesn't look like hate at all. I think you are being too sensitive about the whole thing. It seems like your feelings about him are at totally different than his about you. He may see you as a friend but not really a close buddy. What relationship do u share with him ? cz its not very apparent from your post

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read the entire thread you'll see lol.

I'm an aquarius that has dated two pisces in the past. They were both very needy but I don't think they meant to be. They would over analyze many of my actions and think I was mad when I thought things were going great. It got to be too much to handle and I nicely said it wouldn't work but I would love to be friends. This was followed by pisces constantly trying to be in contact with me. If I missed a text they thought I hated them or was dead. If they would have just calmed down and left me alone a little bit we really could have been great friends. Instead I had to let them go because it was too much stress and I'd rather just have fun.

My advice would be to definitely back off and give him space. And when you do speak to him or around him make it positive. Crack a joke here and there and be able to laugh at yourself. I highly doubt he is trying to hurt you and that may be the only reason he still does talk to you. He may come around if it hasn't went too far. Hope this helps and I haven't offended. Best of luck!

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Posted by jengoesboom
@aqul then what could be the problem. It's like he's purposely trying to make me upset then wonders why i'm upset lol.

I think you are being too sensitive about the situation based on what you have given. It doesn't sound at all like "hate". It does seem like the position you both place each other in terms of your likings or feelings doesn't match. Are you both friends or lovers? its not clear from ur post.

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Of course I'm going to be sensitive, the games or behaviors he takes is hurtful. We are/were friends for a long time until he just up and got weird. He would be a douchebag and act like I wasn't around but if anyone else was around he was all up in their business. But if I even remotely spoke to anyone else or if the "guys" were a little too social with me he'd get upset and want them to leave me alone. He would also ask other people about me but wouldn't ask me himself. He also would hate the fact that I was grumpy on some bad days but we have friends that are like that 99% of the time and he doesn't care but seems to be affected when I have grumpy days.

For someone who's trying to distance himself he seems to want to keep tabs on me from afar. When all I want is things to be normal again. Having a friend shouldn't be this awkward.

Posted by aloofaqua
I'm an aquarius that has dated two pisces in the past. They were both very needy but I don't think they meant to be. They would over analyze many of my actions and think I was mad when I thought things were going great. It got to be too much to handle and I nicely said it wouldn't work but I would love to be friends. This was followed by pisces constantly trying to be in contact with me. If I missed a text they thought I hated them or was dead. If they would have just calmed down and left me alone a little bit we really could have been great friends. Instead I had to let them go because it was too much stress and I'd rather just have fun.

My advice would be to definitely back off and give him space. And when you do speak to him or around him make it positive. Crack a joke here and there and be able to laugh at yourself. I highly doubt he is trying to hurt you and that may be the only reason he still does talk to you. He may come around if it hasn't went too far. Hope this helps and I haven't offended. Best of luck!

I don't bug him and I never have. In fact, me bugging him less when he got weird made him be weird anymore. He would go as far as accusing me of being grumpy becuase I was quiet one day and it's would aggrivate me because he would get all frustrated with me for things I wasn't even doing...it was me supposedly being grumpy when I was just quiet, or it was the fact that the guy friends we have were a little too social with me, or it was the fact that he thought I was ignoring him. He was the one that was acting weird. It got awkward because of him.

He keeps thinking its me.

Aquarius naturally kind of acts weird. You sure when he was calling you grumpy and he wasn't joking around with you to get you to talk?

Posted by aloofaqua
Aquarius naturally kind of acts weird. You sure when he was calling you grumpy and he wasn't joking around with you to get you to talk?

no it felt like he was reprimanding me like I was some child or something. Like patrionizing and condescending. He was preaching to me about not being grumpy when he bitches about people behind their backs.

Things were great and he had to go and ruin it. Instead of just telling me to my face if he has any questions or assumptions, he just makes assumptions and tries to say something about it in a condescending way 6 months later and its for things he does HIMSELF.

He makes alot of assumptions about human nature all the time and he doesn't even know what he's talking about.

My guess is he's growing out of the friendship. It happens. New interests, new hobbies, new acquaintances, new friends, etc. I don't think he hates you from what you have posted, he may even respect you a lot as a person. But friends? You already know. 😢

Like I said, I don't think it's about hate or punishing you for something you did. It just happened. It's not your fault.

From what you've described, he def. doesn't hate you.

Hate is def. a strong word. Very strong word. You may be more of an option than a priority to him. You may even be annoying to him, hence the reason he only wants to interact with you sometimes. But hate? Na.

You'll know when an Aqua hates you b/c they won't give you the time of day at all. They'll ignore you. Act like you don't exist. Completely walk past you in a room like they don't even see you. And if you even think about coming at them the wrong way, they'll verbally assassinate you with the quickness. It's easier for them to explode on the people they strongly dislike if provoked.

Personally, I've only hated 1 person in my entire life. And that was an ex. But that's b/c he did everything possible to a person that would make a person hate them. It's like some people want to be on your hate list lol Now though, I've forgiven him & let it go.

If an Aqua does hate someone, I can't imagine the hate lasting for too long. Takes up too much energy & emotions. And hate def. requires emotions

You're too desperate for his attention. You're trying too hard.

This story sounds familiar. Is this you, but under a different name? Did you post the same scenario under the user name IAmMystified?

Posted by IAmMystified
@tiki33 For a cell phone you typed alot! LOL

I've always known how most aqua men generally are but you're right I did get used to the mooshyness and I've always missed that about him. When I think back about the friendship in the past I didn't see him around as much because he had less friends then I think. So all I had to base it on was the mooshiness he gave me and only me and not our other freinds. Then things changed around the same time he finally made more friends. I don't know if it changed before or after he made more friends, all I knew is the amount of attentiveness i was getting went from a level 10 to a level 1-2. It wasn't even the attention itself I loved, I liked the fact that he was honestly someone I could talk to that I always got objective advice from. I can't get advice from him anymore. At least I feel like I can't anymore. He doesn't pay attention half the time. But with others he's all focused on them. I don't get the difference like I said.

I understand I'm seeing more sides of him than I did in the beginning and that's not the problem. He literally is a great friend to everyone BUT me. I'd understand if he was great with some people but he's amazing with everyone. He's always joking with them, asking them about what's going on with them, sharing what's going on with them, being helpful, laughing at their jokes. But I don't even get any of those things from him. Even when I try and get out of my shy shell and joke with him he just looks at me like I'm weird half of the time, when its the same type of jokes I used to have.

Its kind of like no matter what I do I can't affect him in any sort of way and the only time I get any sort of resemblance of "I matter" is when he needs reassurance/validation from me like I'm his psuedo baby blanket. I just want to be able to joke with the man and relate to him like I can with our other friends.

I do feel caged though in terms of he wants me around (for whatever reason) but he won't do anything to continue to bond with me. I don't operate freindships with a 10 foot pole. You either want to be my friend or you don't. One of our friend's who knows the situation doesn't understand why he's the way he is around me but she has stated more time

Posted by Jizzusizjizzin
My guess is he's growing out of the friendship. It happens. New interests, new hobbies, new acquaintances, new friends, etc. I don't think he hates you from what you have posted, he may even respect you a lot as a person. But friends? You already know. 😢

Like I said, I don't think it's about hate or punishing you for something you did. It just happened. It's not your fault.

I understand people change and things happen. That's why I said earlier, if that's the case then he needs to get off the pot. What he does instead is do this thing where if we're all hanging out he'll totally walk into the room say hi to everyone but will just glance at me. Then he'll go around socialize with most if not all. But yet he'll keep tabs on me or listen to my conversations with other friends or ask other people how I'm doing. Or keep looking and glancing.

I don't appreciate being snubbed for one, but its really annoying when someone does everything to be involved the hard way when he could just be my friend but he doesn't try...all he is doing are things that make me feel bad or flip flop between feeling bad and being happy that thinigs are getting better.

Posted by krysrenee7
From what you've described, he def. doesn't hate you.

Hate is def. a strong word. Very strong word. You may be more of an option than a priority to him. You may even be annoying to him, hence the reason he only wants to interact with you sometimes. But hate? Na.

I just assumed it was hate becuase for someone to just do thinigs that make people bad you have to choose to do those things. Half the time he acts like I'm not there, or he acts like I hate HIM, or he acts like I'm the best thing on the planet and then goes around accusing me of being petty about something I never did and I find myself trying to convince him of him assuming I did something when I really didn't. It's been one big mind fuck. Can i curse on here?

To be honest, when we first became friends we had the kind of friendship where honesty was key and we told each other everything even when it was irrelevant or pointless. We both believed that you have someone's back and you be honest and accepting and that's what I loved about how we connected in that way and then for him to start going around strongly assuming I'm doing weird things just to upset him when I wasn't at all. The only thing I was doing at the time was wondering why he was upset at me all the time. Now he has this weird notion that I'm some petty, immature, grumpy, passive aggressive chick when all in all I have let my walls down trying to get him to understand that whatever he thinks I'm thinking isn't true at all.

How do you convince someone who thinks your trying to manipulate situations. How am I? I've done nothing but been honest about myself, what I was feeling and if I was feeling bad or hurt or disappointed I was honest with him and open. Yet he thinks all these other weird thinigs lol.

@krysrenee I know we haven't been friends long but we started strong quickly and I guess that probably is the cause of all of this, maybe it was too emotional in the beginning or maybe we're both insecure individuals that make assumptions quickly.

Maybe we're just two individuals going in circles because we each are making it worse for the other person.

All I know is I've let my wall down, said everything I possible could say. If he still wants to go around assuming I'm purposely trying to upset him in a weird manipulative way then he can do that, but like i said above...he's going about it the hard way. All he has to do is ask me what's going on and I'll tell him. But he's choosing to be covert.

I must be right. She responded to everyone but me.

What? Didn't get the answers you wanted the first time and come back to whine about it some more?
You got some really good insight before and some good suggestions.

Your desperation is what is driving him away from you. You're like a little puppy following him around, begging for attention and aquas don't like that. It's clingy and needy and just...well, desperate.

Try to just be happy and live and not give much thought to what he does or doesn't do. I know it hurts and it sucks, but there's not much you can do about it. The harder you try, the more you're going to drive him away.

I'm sorry your friend is treating you this way. I really am. You can't make someone like you, so best thing to do is not worry about it (I know it's hard not to, though).

Find a new guy to crush on and I promise you will lose your fixation on this one and I betcha he'll come back around when your focus for living is on someone else.

I'm sorry if I sound mean or uncaring, but you've been dealing with this for a long time with no results obviously.