Female Leo infatuated with male aquarius

He told me not to fall inlove with him. After a couple months I told him we should stop seeing each other because I was falling for him. He agreed, yet he still messed with when we tried to hangout with friends. He flirted with girls infront of me and I could tell he did it just to see my reaction. Well he got one. I got jealous and ended up crying. He pushed me away then the next day he acted like it didn't happen. He threw himself at me, we continue to see each other. This one night he came over drunk and kept telling me he liked me, then now he just says "I like you , a little bit" then he has this smile that contradicts his words. Do I ignore him a little bit? I mean lately I bought him stuff for no apparent reason he told me I really didnt have to but it was sweet and that what I bought was really beautiful. I always bring him food after work because he works all day. He always appreciates it. But if i really wanna hangout he usually says "maybe we can tomorrow" he works all day for 12 hours so I understand that but I haven't slept over at his house in a few weeks when usually I sleep over quite a bit. P.s he's a miner that flies in from the big city to this city for 26 days then he has two weeks to go back to his city.

I'd quit trying so hard. Seems like you're putting a lot of effort into this and not getting as much in return. Stop trying to prove you're the "good girlfriend" and let him make more efforts. So, yeah, maybe back off a little bit.

I agree. Sometimes they are scared of the next "step" and they freak out. That is why they are known for being soooooooooooo slow about things and seek friendships first.

Be a friend for a bit.

Okay I give up. I deleted himoff Facebook. I'm gonna stop trying to be his friend and asking him to hangout. I'm tired of being so available to him. I'm sick of feeling ignored. I hate how I put people on a pedestal and blind myself of how awful they really are.

Posted by Jadezombiee
Okay I give up. I deleted himoff Facebook. I'm gonna stop trying to be his friend and asking him to hangout. I'm tired of being so available to him. I'm sick of feeling ignored. I hate how I put people on a pedestal and blind myself of how awful they really are.

That is a difficult step you took and will be hard to continue. Just carry on doing your own and keep yourself busy.. in time you will be fine.. if he comes back again acting like nothing has happened, just ignore him.. he's hurt your feelings..he probably didn't do it intentionally but feelings did get hurt here.. just move on from this.. there is someone out there that will appreciate the little sweet things you do x

I caved, I went to his house to drop off something and he was super nice like nothing happened. Like I never even told him I didn't want to be his friend. Then i left super quickly to avoid talking to him. He told me I should quit smoking because he just quit today then he smiled I just looked down, said good for you and closed the door and walked away. Then he texted me a minute later ? Saying "you looked super sad" and I couldn't help but reply and say "well that's a great observation" and he wrote back and we ended up texting and he said he would go for breakfast with me on Friday but he's not sure if its a date. I hate that I can get over things super easily also but I really want him all to myself he told me I was the last person he's been with ? I hate that I like him so much. I heard that surprises keep them coming back

Posted by Jadezombiee
I caved, I went to his house to drop off something and he was super nice like nothing happened. Like I never even told him I didn't want to be his friend. Then i left super quickly to avoid talking to him. He told me I should quit smoking because he just quit today then he smiled I just looked down, said good for you and closed the door and walked away. Then he texted me a minute later ? Saying "you looked super sad" and I couldn't help but reply and say "well that's a great observation" and he wrote back and we ended up texting and he said he would go for breakfast with me on Friday but he's not sure if its a date. I hate that I can get over things super easily also but I really want him all to myself he told me I was the last person he's been with ? I hate that I like him so much. I heard that surprises keep them coming back

You softy.. hehe! I get that.. its the hot and coldness from his ends. Hes cold, you are upset/confused/hurt but when hes hot you're close/comfortable/caring/kind etc.. I say keep your guard up.. you sound like a really sweet girl. Just dont over do all the nice things you're doing for him// he should earn that from you.

I also had an epiphany the other day. I ran away from my fianc? in October. Ended it and said I need to be alone. That was probably the most toxic relationship ever. He was an Aquarius also. Then I met this new guy in December we hit it off really well, hung out a lot, had similar interests. He just told me not to fall inlove with him so I was cool with that I mean I just got out of a serious relationship. But I came to the conclusion that maybe I'm not inlove with him. I think I'm just using him to get over my past relationship. And the reason why I like him so much is because he's similar to my ex fianc?. Or maybe I just get super head over heels for Aquarius because I can't figure out what they are thinking and I can't make them bend over backwards for me. I sound like a crazy lady. By the way I'm nineteen, my ex fianc? was twenty. My new aqua is thirty one.

You're not crazy. Recognizing that it is most likely a rebound relationship will help you get over it.

Well I hung out with him this morning. He clearly knows I have feelings. Anyways I had to work @ 11 and I went over around 8. He ordered us breakfast we watched a martial arts movie. I wanted to nap for a half hour so he ended up cuddling me then he started to kiss me, one thing led to another. Then I fell asleep and he woke me up for work. I went home. I only went over because I was super bored and would've fell asleep because I didn't sleep the previous night due to my reading addiction. As much as I'd like to think he has mutual feelings, would an Aquarius care less if he was using me and knew I would get hurt eventually, or would he just have ended it once I started being childish and clingy? P.s he was the one to message me this morning after work.

one thing led to another? as in you had sex? You are a FWB (if you did sleep with him).. Especially since he said don't fall in love with me, usually = he doesn't want a relationship. . Not trying to be hurtful, but trying to get you to see there is something wrong here. 31 and 19? that's a HUGE difference in ages. Yes I personally think he is using you. You stated you realize he may be a rebound.. take the time to heal and not get involved with anyone, even sexually to really heal from ending it with someone you where going to marry.

2 months is super fast to get over someone. I call people that do this relationship jumpers. On to one person after another and another and another, never taking time to deal with stuff.

How is telling him "I cant do this" childish? That's standing up for yourself and knowing you want more and won't settle for less. Yes getting mad and deleting him off FB may have been a tad over the top, but why be around someone that causes you such pain? Stop buying him shit, stop contact, take YOU time and see if maybe you are onto something with the epiphany you mentioned. You are 19, you are still a teenager, yes you are legal but you are in your youth, live it, enjoy it, do not waste it on someone that does not deserve those prime years, because he is a user.

Before I get jumped on for my age comment... no I do not have issues with people that date older or younger, I have dated guys going both ways both older and younger then myself, HOWEVER... at 19 I knew nothing that I knew at 25, at 30 at 35.. and so on. It does confuses me why someone that is 31 would date someone so much younger.. other than it being about sex.

Not trying to diminish your situation Jade.. but just food for thought.. ask yourself why?

You're slap in the face is really helpful. I can't stop thinking about him. I thought he was younger when I met him, he thought I was older. It's just I'm dumbfounded. I'm a really nice person, I like to make the person I like feel like a billion dollars. I go out of my way without expecting anything in return. I'm nineteen, educated, I have a high paying job, I'd like to think I'm not unnattractve. When I'm cold to him he comes closer by wanting to hangout and do thing together I mean we don't always fool around. I can just go over, hangout then sleepover, wake up go home or vice versa he comes over. I mean we live 40 seconds away from each other. My family knows about him, his room mates and friends know I exist. My friends say its like you guys are dating but you guys don't even know it. I don't know I like him. I can't get him off my mind sometimes. I know he doesn't intentionally hurt me. He's really independent and hardworking. I might just have a lot of free time.

He's usually not that affectionate if he is tired. I kind of make him sound more worse than he really is. But I'm a Leo I don't mean too but yeah we show we like each other in different ways. I smother him with undying attentions and wanna talk all the time. He just likes to fill my brain with random facts about life, wants to hangout with me on some of his free days & tells me that even without makeup I'm beautiful.

Didn't mean it as a slap. Really I didn't. I actually changed what I wrote 4 times, I was just giving you my opinion based upon what you shared here, as an outsider reading what has been posted. only you and him know what's involved with this, none of us. Hell, I could be wrong, maybe it is more, however I still think you need to take time for You, to find yourself after splitting up from your ex fianc?.

I get the wanting to do nice things for others, I have and do the same myself. I was just hoping to give you stuff to think about. I wasn't passing judgments. I wasn't diminishing you in any way shape or form. I hate when I can't stop thinking about someone. The wanting to be around them all the time, but don't want to be needy ( Aqua thing lol ).

Why does it matter if you have a lot of free time? Do you want more with him? Have you told him this? What does he want? What do you want?

Asking rhetorically, you don't need to answer... 🙂

I am sure you are a beautiful girl, with or without makeup, you seem very sweet.

Leos are a strange breed, at least to me. lol love Leo gals and their energy. The men not so much for this girl, I like earth men 😛

I just get bored a lot with my free time. I like being around anyone not only him. I wouldn't mind spending more time with him. I have mentioned to him that sometimes it feels like he only wants to hangout when he feels like it and not when I want too. I didn't ask him how he felt about me and him hanging out. I want him to be just as crazy as I am about him. We're going for breakfast again in the morning when he gets off work. He was suppose to stop by my work today but he ended up grocery shopping more than he thought he would so he didn't have time. My ex fianc? finally talked to me and said he was sorry about everything. Sorry for being distant, choosing his friends over me, letting his family and family treat me awful not even sticking up for me when they said hurtful things about me telling him to leave me when they never even knew me. He told me if he could go back in time he would take back not fighting for me when I told him i was going to go visit my homecity and that I thought we should split up. He realized I was always there for him, gave him alot of love and affection, cared for him, wanted to spend so much time with him. And now that all his friends have moved away, or his family don't hangout with him as much. He knew I was right for leaving him and wished he could take every awful thing he said and did to me. He told me he wants to try work things out, and wants to grow old with me, and have cats 🙂 (p.s we both don't want children) I'm so confused. Wow my life is all over the place.

I wait so long for my ex fianc? to want me as much as i wanted him. I knew I loved him unconditionally, and that we could remain friends because I could never hate anyone it's not my nature. I forgive him, but I'm scared he'll turn into that same man i was losing touch with. I ran away because I knew if I stayed I would get back together with him just because I loved him so much. Then I met this new guy who I once accidentally told him I love him only because I asked him to grab me a cup and he was like no being lazy, then I was like common ..... I love youuuuuu!!! Then I caught what I said then that turned into me joking "hurry up please I'll love you forever" then he did what I asked. I mean he didn't push me away or ignore me.

Okay we didn't go for breakfast because we had some weird misunderstanding. Anyways he said I bailed on breakfast but I thought he was bailing on breakfast then he said we can hangout after he was done eating but he was too full to hangout so I went for breakfast with my best friend whos an Aries that I get along with well.

Posted by Jadezombiee
Well I hung out with him this morning. He clearly knows I have feelings. Anyways I had to work @ 11 and I went over around 8. He ordered us breakfast we watched a martial arts movie. I wanted to nap for a half hour so he ended up cuddling me then he started to kiss me, one thing led to another. Then I fell asleep and he woke me up for work. I went home. I only went over because I was super bored and would've fell asleep because I didn't sleep the previous night due to my reading addiction. As much as I'd like to think he has mutual feelings, would an Aquarius care less if he was using me and knew I would get hurt eventually, or would he just have ended it once I started being childish and clingy? P.s he was the one to message me this morning after work.

Jade, he told you not to fall in love with him. He was honest with you about not wanting a relationship. Therefore, he can and will continue in this manner and will likely feel like if you get hurt, it's your own fault because you went into this eyes wide open since he was honest with you.

He's off the hook for your emotions because he told you in the beginning what it was.

So, in other words, yes, an aqua can do this (as can any man). The benefit of the aqua personality is that they WILL be honest about their intentions. And he was.

Okay you're totally right I'm just hanging on some non existent thread of hope that maybe he'll want to date me.

He's willing to spend time with you. I'm sure he likes you, but you're wanting something different than he is. If you keep on, you're going to fall deeper and end up getting hurt.
I didn't mean to come across harsh or anything, just you seem so nice and I don't want you to get hurt.

Sometimes we, as women, spend too much time on the wrong person, that we don't notice the right person.

I got a question to ask When an Aquamale want you to be his friend does it mean friend with benefits type of friend or friend like I can hang out with you friend? And if and Aquamale wants to kiss u all the time does that mean he is being nice and friendly or is he feeling something more with you?

Posted by angiedbc457
I got a question to ask When an Aquamale want you to be his friend does it mean friend with benefits type of friend or friend like I can hang out with you friend? And if and Aquamale wants to kiss u all the time does that mean he is being nice and friendly or is he feeling something more with you?

When a man wants you to be his friend, it means he does not want to date you. Whether it is a plain old regular friend to hang out with or a friend with benefits is up to you. You are the one who draws those boundaries. I suggest you DO NOT do FWB. Just my opinion.

If a man wants to kiss you all the time, I am confused how that is nice and friendly. The bag boy at the grocery store is nice and friendly, but he's not wanting to kiss me. lol!! If a man wants to kiss you all the time and he doesn't want to date you, it means he just wants in your pants. If he dates you and wants to kiss you, it means he is attracted to you.

You might get more answers if you create your own thread instead of piggy backing on someone else's thread. 🙂

@truecap thank you

Well turns out he has another girl in a different city. At first I was upset but now that I think about it. I didn't love this man. Maybe this new girl will be what he's looking for. I'm finally free to move on and if he tries to come back to me like he always does I'll have this reason to keep me from falling back into his trap.

Sorry, Jade.

At least you can move on now. Just chalk it up as a life lesson and don't let it get to you.

Hopefully, the next guy will be more suited for you. 🙂

Your mind is playing tricks on you. 1 minute you're acknowledging how tired, drained & fed up with his actions. But then in that same sentence you make excuses for him.

1. "He flirts with girls in front of me."
"But I know he's doing it b/c he just wants a reaction out of me," as if playing childish mind games & using immature strategies is actually a good thing that proves a mature attraction for you smh

2. He told me he only liked me a little bit."
"But I see the way he smiles at me & I can tell that he likes me a lot."
BULL. He's flat out told you that he's not that into you. He wasn't joking. Simply smiling at someone while talking is NOT translation for "I'm very into you" after they just said they weren't that into you smh

3. "He always treats me like an option whereas I treat him like a priority. Ugh!"
But then you say, "But I mean he always brushes me off & isn't making me a priority b/c he's just tired from work." Honey please, some of the busiest men in the world make time for who/what they want to make time for. Half of America is freakin' tired, but guess what?! When they have children, a spouse, best friends or people they genuinely care about, they do what they've gotta do to keep those they value around, assured & happy.

4. "I keep giving him girlfriend treatment, catering to him & doing things for him even though he only thanks me instead of reciprocating."
But then you wonder why he's not reciprocating.

Of course he just wants sex & to occasionally hang out with you. He's a man. He's treating you the way you're allowing him to. He's using up all of the fuel in you that you're giving him & feeling no shame about it b/c it's up to YOU to recognize game & to quit with the denial crap. Of course he's not buying the software b/c you keep giving him the downloads for FREE.

Stop waiting on this guy. When he said he didn't want to be with you, no that's not an "Aquarius thing." Aquarians are no different than everybody else. If they truly want something, they won't mistreat it, take it for granted & let it get away. When a man really wants you, he'll do everything NOT to turn you off. Men know that giving the minimum, treating you like an option, brushing you off, admitting that they're not that into you, using other women to play mind games etc. is the 1ST way to send an intelligent woman running for the hills!

If he's willing to do the very things that would send most women running, then that speaks volumes! Forget about what he says! Pay attention to what he's saying/doing and NOT saying/doing. He is NOT reciprocating mutual interest in the form that you're giving/offering him. He is NOT willing to be with you. He is NOT showing the actions of someone who truly values your time & your worth.

But you already know that. You're waiting on 1 of us to tell you that bullsh****t is just an "Aquarius thing," b/c you want an excuse to keep waiting on him. Stop. Your initial intuition/response about this situation is correct. That is, until you go right back & start making excuses for his behavior. If you want better, go get better. If you truly think that he's the best that it gets or that he's the last man on earth, then perhaps you should be headed to self-esteem rehab & not for "I'm ready for a relationship" land.

He's showing you who he is, but you're not paying attention. PAY ATTENTION!

@krysrenee7 I re-read your response over and over again whenever he tries to lure me in. I finally made peace with the fact I was naive. I went to go visit his room mate the other day he thought I was there to see him and he tried to kiss me. Too think I wanted a relationship with this guy, he would've did the same thing to me. Poor girl she knows I exist yet she stays. When I look at her situation I realize how pathetic I was.