him navy and moving,.. in 2 years!!?

ok so everythign has been completely and utterly amazing with the aqua (from before, the thanksgiving posts)

after we went to a christmas party, weve been spending tons of time together and everything is amazing.
he sends me a message saying that :

hey!! lol..... so i have reallllllllly been thinking about you alot the past 2 days....actually more of "us" ... and how i am going to be going on deployment for 7 1/2 months....and how im moving back to [...] as soon as i get out... i lovvvvvvvvvvve hanging out with you obviously...but i think we should just be friends....i dont want to get really attatched and then have things like the navy and moving back to [...] to conflict with that.... i still think you are the coooooooolest chick i know...and i love how you work at [....] and are nerdy like me...but i think this is best for the both of us... i hope you arnt mad at me... ): i really want to friends with you...good friends


and i know its really bad to post messages that someone has actually sent to you, but i cant write it any other way except it being word for word...

i understand him not wanting to be attached, but my whole freakin family is in the navy and im used to them leaving. not including the fact that in 2 years(which is when he gets out and moves back which is on the east coast) ill be done with school and was ganna move on the east coast anyways. and no this wasnt for him, its been a dream of mine for the longest time. i told him that in the beginning. i wasnt planning to move anywhere near where hes from, but i wouldnt mind if there was still somthing there.

i mean he'll be gone a long time, but i can wait. i just hate how he already wants to cut things off 3-4 months before he leaves for 7 months, and 2 years before hes supposed to move back.
why not just give it a try and see what happends—


he leaves on monday for 2 weeks with his family. i understand, but im still confused.

in other words:

are aqua men afraid to actually fall in love—?

ok, it doesn't sound like you were dating? were you dating?

He doesn't want a relationship right now, you do...why don't you look for someone that wants what you want? instead of thinking of reasons why he doesn't want more than friendship?

what do you care if he's afraid of falling in love? it's not like you can help him be more unafraid of love if that was the case, right? it is something HE has to address...

try not to make this anymore complicated than it sounds...you're young, why would you be waiting? there's life out there to be lived, no?

This has nothing to do with him being afraid to fall in love.

This has more to do with the impracticality of a long distance relationship. Why would you want to do this....and its not even a definite that you two will be in the same state after those 2 years.

I dont think he doesnt like you, he's ust doin it now as it will only be harder as these months pass and he has to do it then. Would yo have rather he just went away and completely "lost your number" and left you hanging after the "wonderful last weeks" you would have spent together.

You have to let this go dear. It's only for the best.

uuhhgg yeah.. i wrote him today saying that im ok that we are just friends. its better then nothing. and that i just feel stupid for beginning to fall for him.

and we were dating. about a month.
we spent thanksgiving together and he invited me to a christmas party last thursday for his work.
even his buddies were surprised he brought someone along. and would say to me that he must really care about me to bring me to a work function.

sigh.. this always happends.
and i know the best thing to do is to just pretend nothing is really different, but its kinda hard.
he even made plans for us for christmas(when he got back from seeing his family) and wanted to take me to a few places in down town.
i dunno...
everything was just freakin amazing and yeah you are right that it would be different if he told me now versus actually waiting and then him telling me later.
it just sucks right now.
(big wall being built.. tons of bricks and cement on hand)

Yeah, It sucks, but thats life. Who knows what the future holds. You'll probably meet someone better for you or perhaps some down the road you two can pick up where you left off. In any case live you life, for you and only you.

Aww clovers,

take it easy...we live to learn...not to really build walls but to be more realistic and not give up hope. Think of the good times y'all had.

its better then nothing.
attempt not to let opportunities pass you by dwelling or looking back....Also check in your heart of hearts that you can be friends with this guy, that you can freely hear about his future girlfriends comfortably, etc...

yeah.. haha i realized earlier why i was hurt, even though we werent official, it was because i got too comfortable with him.
and it felt so amazing and in my head i felt like we had been together forever and yada yada.
and he was kinda a jerk when i told him that i was ok being friends. he thought i was pissed. but i wasnt. and then said that he doesnt want to talk about this if all im ganna do is bring this up all morning...
so many times today i wanted to call him and explain.. but i told myself not to.
he'll be gone for 2 weeks for christmas.

i guess we shall see next year...
thanks guys.

well ashleysagstar
hes 20.me: 21.
i honestly feel as though things were getting too comfortable, and serious when it came to there actually being an "us". we were getting too close, and i think that really freaked him out.
i mean he'll be stationed right down the street basically from where i live which makes things convienient when hanign out. he works right down the street from my work, and ya.
we were hanging out alot, had alot of great times, he showed me pictures form his childhood, we shared our movie collections, ect.
we spent the night a couple of times together. we never slept with each other.
but cuddled alot. hes a huge cuddler lol

i dunno. i really think that we started to actually feel there could be more, but put everything else in front of that...

its ok though im kinda over it.
it was fun while it lasted.

i mean he is stationed right down the street. and basically will be for the next 2 years.***