How Do You Feel...

about people who care what other people think?

I know aquarians stereotypically don't care what other people think, but I do and this is one difference between the two of us. I do care what people/family/friends think about me, especially his family. He has venus in capricorn, so I am wondering if that make would make him more inclined to care about public/family/friends assessment of him or his girlfriend? Or would his aquarius nature over rule and just not care? You know, the be who you are and be yourself, screw other people's opinion attitude.

I know you guys can't answer for him, but I just wanted to get an aquarius take on the subject. Especially anyone with either aqua sun/cap venus or aqua sun/virgo moon.

For example, bad habits and public opinion of those habits.

Venus in Capricorn is more about a business like approach to love. More the matter of fact kind.

You should look at Venus In Cap placement. You might be surprised.

What is his response when you ask him?

I have a Venus in capricorn and I feel do treat relationships like a business as stated by miamivirgo.

Since I am in a relationship, I have to know where we stand in terms of health of our relationship, and in order to do that I have to know how I feel and how she feels. That requires putting my rebellious nature aside when I am with her and care about how she feels.

Yes it is counter-intuitive but it must be done.

I also have a virgo moon, I dont know much about virgos other than they are analytical and organized.

I feel that way when conducting my relationship, constantly analyzing when I should not be. I cant help but to do it.

I also care about what other people think that I feel are important to me, like my bosses at work, girlfriend, girlfriends family, my family etc. If I dont care about you then I dont care about your feelings. Sounds kinda harsh but I cant be caring about everyone theres just too many people to spend your energy and attention on.

You will have to define "bad habits"

Are you talking about smoking, gambling, etc?

Okay, okay. I'm a smoker and I'm not proud of it, so I tend to either not smoke around people who don't or I will go hide somewhere.

I suppose if I'm ashamed of it, then I shouldn't be doing it.

http://astrolibrary.org/capricorn-in-love/<BR>
Only someone with the planet Venus in Capricorn will be a —Capricorn in love.??
Venus in Capricorn is a person of substance and worth. They have been referred to as cold, unfeeling, unemotional, and even stingy with love. But that is not entirely accurate. They may only appear that way because romantic love is usually not a priority for them. Building a successful career is a pre-requisite for them to be happy in love. They simply cannot, or will not, enjoy a love relationship until they have satisfied their goals at work.

Unfortunately, this is a —catch-22??_ since they are never really satisfied with their level of achievement at work. They always think they can do better.

If you are lucky enough to catch a Venus in Capricorn after they have achieved some level of career success, be prepared for Victorian- style courtship. You will be his queen or king. But not in a flashy, Leo way; rather, in a non-flashy, tasteful way. You??ll sit side-by-side on your thrones and enjoy life. Whether sitting on the sand watching the sunset on a private beach, or watching T.V. in his quality-furnished living room, he wants to enjoy with you the life he's built. See, he's not cold and unfeeling. He??ll only appear that way during his —building years.??

If you happen to attract his attention during his building years, he will immediately size you up without your knowledge of it. He has high standards and will not waste time on you if you don't meet them. This isn't coldness. It's just that Venus in Capricorn places a high value on finding the right partner. There is a lot at stake for them because they plan

If your Venus in Capricorn lover is still in his —building years,?? you??ll have to trick him into taking a break from work for love. It is not easy for them to get into a loving mood, but once they are in the mood, WOW. You??ll see then why the sign of Capricorn is at the top of the astrology chart. They are sensual in bed, and they take their time to satisfy you. Fire sign Venus lovers will get impatient with this style , but earth and water lovers will experience immense ecstasy with Venus in Capricorn. You??ll find yourself resenting that they returned to work the next morning. They??ll leave you wishing you could actually live in the bed together.

But you??ll have to endure his absence if you want his love again. If you don't behave, he will not find you worthy of true partnership. If he doesn't find you worthy, he will not bother with you very long. If he does find you worthy to rule his empire with him, he sticks around for life. Once in love, he follows through with unparalleled determination and stamina, in the relationship and in bed.
They will be interested in children and grandchildren. Not because they like children, but because they must leave a legacy.

They will keep their work life separate from home. You will never truly know what (or who) they??re doing at work. Keep that in mind, whether your Venus in Capricorn lover is male or female. They work hard, perhaps harder than any other sign, but they??re still only human, which is difficult for them to accept. The pressures of hard work can weigh anybody down. Venus is Capricorn is

Posted by Aquadeer
If it has to so with someone that I love and care about, I care. However, I'm not going to bug them or make them feel bad. I will mention it a few time, like a guy I dated was a smoker and I would say, You shouldn't smoke and this is way ....... or my grandmother (diabetic) bought candy and I would tell her that she shouldn't eat that because ...... . I will only mention it a few times and give my reason why, but I don't want the person I love and care about to feel bad about who they are. I tend to accept people for the good and bad (depending on what the bad is) and would never want them to feel horrible about their life choices.

I've asked him how he feels about it and if he hated it. He just says "it's your perogative".

But he knows I'm not comfortable doing it around his family and he announced to a couple of them that I was a closet smoker. Told me to just bring it out in the open. I wouldn't. Told him I wasn't comfortable with it.

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Posted by Aquadeer
If it has to so with someone that I love and care about, I care. However, I'm not going to bug them or make them feel bad. I will mention it a few time, like a guy I dated was a smoker and I would say, You shouldn't smoke and this is way ....... or my grandmother (diabetic) bought candy and I would tell her that she shouldn't eat that because ...... . I will only mention it a few times and give my reason why, but I don't want the person I love and care about to feel bad about who they are. I tend to accept people for the good and bad (depending on what the bad is) and would never want them to feel horrible about their life choices.

I've asked him how he feels about it and if he hated it. He just says "it's your perogative".

But he knows I'm not comfortable doing it around his family and he announced to a couple of them that I was a closet smoker. Told me to just bring it out in the open. I wouldn't. Told him I wasn't comfortable with it.

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Sorry, I'm still learning how to post on this forum and I guess there's no edit button -.-. He loves you and wants you to be honest with your choices. If you're a smoker, smoke. Don't hide, be who you are. He makes a joke out of it because he wants you to feel comfortable and assured that no one is judging you. We all have our vices and from what it sounds like, he accepts you for the good and the bad, that's why he says, "It's your prerogative".

Venus in Capricorn very accurate. I have a cuspy Venus Cap and Aquarius fight over it. I think my Cap nature overrules it BC I have so much Capricorn. I can't truly be in love fully until I have money and career success that's why I'm choosing to be single. I feel insecure being with somebody if my career isn't aligned properly. It depends on the amount of Aquarius he has. Aquarius' care less about money but are pretty ambitious in a more humanitarian and intellectual way usually.

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If it has to so with someone that I love and care about, I care. However, I'm not going to bug them or make them feel bad. I will mention it a few time, like a guy I dated was a smoker and I would say, You shouldn't smoke and this is way ....... or my grandmother (diabetic) bought candy and I would tell her that she shouldn't eat that because ...... . I will only mention it a few times and give my reason why, but I don't want the person I love and care about to feel bad about who they are. I tend to accept people for the good and bad (depending on what the bad is) and would never want them to feel horrible about their life choices.

I've asked him how he feels about it and if he hated it. He just says "it's your perogative".

But he knows I'm not comfortable doing it around his family and he announced to a couple of them that I was a closet smoker. Told me to just bring it out in the open. I wouldn't. Told him I wasn't comfortable with it.

Sorry, I'm still learning how to post on this forum and I guess there's no edit button -.-. He loves you and wants you to be honest with your choices. If you're a smoker, smoke. Don't hide, be who you are. He makes a joke out of it because he wants you to feel comfortable and assured that no one is judging you. We all have our vices and from what it sounds like, he accepts you for the good and the bad, that's why he says, "It's your prerogative".

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Thanks. That's kind of what I thought.

I suppose there is always the effects second hand smoke have one others. If I was the smoker and I knew I was around people who didn't smoke, I'd try to not smoke around them unless they didn't mind. Even if they didn't mind I'd try not to smoke around them.

Second hand smoke may or may not be as big a deal as people make it out to be but I don't want to be the cause of someone else's health detriment.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I suppose there is always the effects second hand smoke have one others. If I was the smoker and I knew I was around people who didn't smoke, I'd try to not smoke around them unless they didn't mind. Even if they didn't mind I'd try not to smoke around them.

Second hand smoke may or may not be as big a deal as people make it out to be but I don't want to be the cause of someone else's health detriment.

This is actually what I do. I never smoke around crowded public places. I mean personally I have zero fucks about me smoking but the other people might not want a dose of lung cancer.

I think this might be taking the "Being true to yourself" aqua mentality too far. It's too dependent on the Aqua's core principles and they differ quite drastically. He's with you after all so by now he must have a good image of what your flaws are. If something needs to be raised, I'd expect an Aqua with Cappy bits to do just that.

If I'm by myself - I am whoever I want to be. If I'm with my partner then I'd have her to consider. As much as I don't want to believe public image exists, it does. In this case seems like you've already had this discussion, if you feel uncomfortable smoking in front of them then just don't do it. "We" Aquas probably won't think any less or fake of you for wanting to do that.

I lump that in with the privacy hence "your prerogative".

I don't have much Capricorn in me but just seems like you showing respect for them in that no matter what they think of smoking would make the biggest impression in my opinion. You know not trying hide the fact that you do just that you respect them and their decision not to smoke as well. Respect goes a long ways in this world 🙂

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I suppose there is always the effects second hand smoke have one others. If I was the smoker and I knew I was around people who didn't smoke, I'd try to not smoke around them unless they didn't mind. Even if they didn't mind I'd try not to smoke around them.

Second hand smoke may or may not be as big a deal as people make it out to be but I don't want to be the cause of someone else's health detriment.

I just don't want to offend other people.

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Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I suppose there is always the effects second hand smoke have one others. If I was the smoker and I knew I was around people who didn't smoke, I'd try to not smoke around them unless they didn't mind. Even if they didn't mind I'd try not to smoke around them.

Second hand smoke may or may not be as big a deal as people make it out to be but I don't want to be the cause of someone else's health detriment.

This is actually what I do. I never smoke around crowded public places. I mean personally I have zero fucks about me smoking but the other people might not want a dose of lung cancer.

I think this might be taking the "Being true to yourself" aqua mentality too far. It's too dependent on the Aqua's core principles and they differ quite drastically. He's with you after all so by now he must have a good image of what your flaws are. If something needs to be raised, I'd expect an Aqua with Cappy bits to do just that.

If I'm by myself - I am whoever I want to be. If I'm with my partner then I'd have her to consider. As much as I don't want to believe public image exists, it does. In this case seems like you've already had this discussion, if you feel uncomfortable smoking in front of them then just don't do it. "We" Aquas probably won't think any less or fake of you for wanting to do that.

I lump that in with the privacy hence "your prerogative".

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Thanks. That's what I was kind of wondering if he would think I wasn't being true to myself and would not respect that. But at the same time I think he respects that I'm considerate about smoking.

But you're right, we've been together a long time and he definitely knows my flaws, as I know his. I accept his because its who he is.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
I don't have much Capricorn in me but just seems like you showing respect for them in that no matter what they think of smoking would make the biggest impression in my opinion. You know not trying hide the fact that you do just that you respect them and their decision not to smoke as well. Respect goes a long ways in this world 🙂

Thanks. I do respect their space and their air.

To be very honest, I don't care what others think. How I see it is that people who suffer from petty emotions of jealousy, envy and competitiveness will look down on you no matter what. There's no winning other people. Just impress yourself and you wouldn't need to worry about impressing others.

When it comes to being perceived as being considerate I can not help but care about what people think about me. I am definitely conscious if I am being inconsiderate of others??_??_..especially when I was a smoker I would cringe when a big waft of smoke would get in peoples way in the street, cafe or when a pram would be near I would go the other way..

My aquarius brother on the other hand could care less if a baby was choking n his smoke. He's even happy to light up at a cafe or anywhere in particular and does not worry about others.


When it comes to the way I look or something superficial I don't care what people think??_..I also don't care what people think about my status in life or who I hang with etc

Depends when I am stubborn I don't care, but my virgo rising says otherwise when I walk out into the world. Everything matters then.