How do you stop loving an aqua

If you love a person and respect them... and the chemistry is oh my.... but you find no matter what you do they just cant move forward -how do you stop loving them? I cant imagine not knowing him but Im very scared of just waiting for years...when is it time to just give up...are there definite signs..

I have done all I can to not pressure...or overtalk...In some ways i want to wait forever...but he keeps pulling back..and then returns.. At what point should you love them enough to let them go and how do you unlove...

Ive been there before, and I wouldnt do it to myself again. Its like self torture!!!!

im sorry.

Its not wanting to unlove him I guess.. as much as I care enough about him to just want him happy...which maybe at this point can not be done with me. I just wonder when they stay away are they staying away or quiet because they care or do they do it because they dont.. A friend told me that if a man loves you he can not stay away.. this one will never admit love ever I fear.. but he never stays away longer than 2 weeks..but to me the fact he can say hes uncomfortable and not see me tells me he is not where I am at. I have waited a long time- Im strong now thanks to a friend I met on this site..who must be ready to pull her hair out after dealing with my libra ways!! So I am at a cross road.. I could keep learning how to be patient.. or I could just look at this and say if he loved me he would claim me! lol

so It probably will be impossible to unlove as I wish.. but I have to do something our feet seemed firmly planted in mud..lol

I am so sorry to hear that... I am some what in the same turmoil... it's so hard when they go away and then they come back...i think the key is to mirror their behavior to see if they can actually handle their own way of thinking... see if they like that..when he comes back in 2 weeks ... recip the same way he has to you. It's going to be hard but you have to stand up for your self... if you don't it will eat at your emotions...

Gracious.. tell me more about your aqua.. how long have you been together.. what does he say if anything when he leaves..

jolana...i have been in the same situation. i have been with my aqua bf for 3 years now, and he has left and come back a couple of times (the 1st time for 3 weeks, and the 2nd time for 4 months). and we have been together and solid since, but he did just move across country for work a few weeks ago...so, in essence i have once again lost him!
but, i think this distance is a good thing for our relationship...
if you have any questions, ask away!!! i have been through it all...

How do you stop loving an aqua







easy,very easy.
you just forget about them,which is not very difficult if you try hard enough.
it is actually very easy to forget about us.

yes,whats the point in remembering

the question is how do u start? 😛

well as long as its taken from hungry children...

*stomach rumbling*

ok it might be Im just dense not cheesey.. but hey I got it. Would it make any differnce to you if I told you the guy is 49... its not like young love. But your right Im being sappy or cheesy I guess.... sorry just having a day where I hoped to hear about other peoples interactions..with aquas or independent men.. I mean seriously isnt that what this board is all about.. asking people who are a certain sign about people of that sign..

thanks for the comments.. actually though I think the only one who I would want to hear from is GraciousLioness... leokitten you recently dumped your aqua after several years right?.. Im glad to see that has worked for you and your happy... but sometimes people come into your life for reasons.. so I may give up on him really soon.. but I have enjoyed him so much and care for him a great deal.. Its not that I cant walk its that walking with him would be sooo much fun... yep I know probably wont happen..

Hey Jolana... you are brave to face the critics...cheesy comments seem to be on the menu... but let's leap into something more enlightening shall we... I have been with my Aqua for approx 10 months...he recently said he loved me and i recped back. He considered me more than a friend...but then he just became distant after the revelation was mutual. The fact that our relationship was built on the trust of friendship it created a level of metal attraction. That's what makes you fall for these men. Once you do it's hard to get out the maze. How do you escape the maze... " How do you fall out of LOVE " ...you can't fall out of love... eventually feelings built for him will fade like a sunset... key :to get over him is to IGNORE him COMPLETELY... get yourself wrapped up in some projects of your own... you don't owe him the MOON or the STARS.... you seem to be loyal.. and trust me there is not much of that going on these days... so consider yourself Unique. He will have a few regrets but who cares about that... think of you first... once you do that then you will build all the confidence you need. Don't let this guy treat you like an option. You have to be selfcontained. I'd give him all the space he needs by walking right out the door. If and when he gets over himself and "his" needs, if you want...(this is totally up to you) you can re-evaluate the situation then. For now, every moment you stay with him is another moment you are losing with someone else. Don't fall into the trap that anyone is better than no one. Also the fact that this guy is 49... at some point i don't think he wants to age alone by himself.... the clock is ticking...and don't ever think being sappy is too much... if the entire human race were aquarius we would be in big trouble... a bunch of cold turkeys' walking around with genius ideas... so you being sappy creates balance. Curious what is your sign ??

Im a libra.. Oct 16th.. I actually get him at times just cant understand why a person who seems to enjoy every aspect from eating here to you know..runs away. Especially since no one is asking a thing from him... No one wants just a sexual relationship...but if hes honest he knows we dont have that.. we just have extreme chemistry which prevents us from thinking too straight at times... when he acts out his issues and sends these emails this was the 3rd one - and its about every 5 months..lol he always is worried about how serious Im getting.... this is odd since hes the one that brings it all to a head. I appreciate you addressing this without putting cheese..people read what I write and just think Im a wimp but thats not it. Mentally I so get him..and he has said on more than one occassion that I am sharp as a tac.. Even with his issues the one thing I am positive of is he is extremely talented and smart also.. business wise he is incredible..but your comment that it is a maze.. is so true. Libras are supposed to be good with aquas.. I think...up until this guy horoscopes were always just for fun ... now Im beginning to believe...