Cancerlady625
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How often to contact or Text
Was that the aquarius who was writing his thesis?
Posted by HappyCapper
Was that the aquarius who was writing his thesis?
I'm not sure what you mean but I'am a cancer & my guy is a Aquarius
Talk to him in person.
Posted by nsm625Sorry, you said you had written about the aqua before, so I was trying to find out of you're the person I thought you were. So he was not writing his thesis before?Posted by HappyCapper
Was that the aquarius who was writing his thesis?
I'm not sure what you mean but I'am a cancer & my guy is a Aquariusclick to expand
Posted by Aquistorm
Talk to him in person.
Ok you say talk to him in person? Are you saying I should call him since I have not heard from him today? We live 45-50 minutes away from each other
I let mine initiate about 75% of the time.
Posted by tizianiPosted by Aquistorm^^^^
Talk to him in person.click to expand
Please elaborate on this please
Posted by HappyCapperNvm. I agree with the others that it would be a good idea to talk to him in person. The frequency of contact should, imo, be up to what suits each and every couple.Posted by nsm625Sorry, you said you had written about the aqua before, so I was trying to find out of you're the person I thought you were. So he was not writing his thesis before?Posted by HappyCapper
Was that the aquarius who was writing his thesis?
I'm not sure what you mean but I'am a cancer & my guy is a Aquariusclick to expand
If you are the person I suspected you were at first, because the question is pretty much the same and the way the posts are written are pretty much the same, I suggest you start making your own decisions. You are allowed to make mistakes - it's okay. And communicate your fears with your partner if it feels right.
Posted by truecap
I let mine initiate about 75% of the time.
That's about how much I been doing also. What do you recommend on this?..He is a full time dad & his job is very demanding also so I asked why don't he plan for us to get together at times & he told me because of how he job is up & down right now & with his son it makes it harder for him to plan ahead but he said when I plan a day or time that he can work around that to make that date happen versus him doing it & he has always kept the plans when I have planned a time for us to get together. But question do you think this is bs & that maybe I should step back & make him start making the plans for us to get together? I like your fierceness lol
It's better to talk to them face to face then on text. For anyone in general, but Aquas in general want to see the person they met online in the real. It is more connecting to sit by someone you're interested in and chat about this and that. Texting, social media can only go so far.
Posted by HappyCapperPosted by HappyCapperNvm. I agree with the others that it would be a good idea to talk to him in person. The frequency of contact should, imo, be up to what suits each and every couple.Posted by nsm625Sorry, you said you had written about the aqua before, so I was trying to find out of you're the person I thought you were. So he was not writing his thesis before?Posted by HappyCapper
Was that the aquarius who was writing his thesis?
I'm not sure what you mean but I'am a cancer & my guy is a Aquarius
If you are the person I suspected you were at first, because the question is pretty much the same and the way the posts are written are pretty much the same, I suggest you start making your own decisions. You are allowed to make mistakes - it's okay. And communicate your fears with your partner if it feels right.click to expand
Ok I agree and no Iam not a person with a thesis or whatever you asked before. I posted a question before about how long I should wait for him to commit before moving on.
Posted by Aquistorm
It's better to talk to them face to face then on text. For anyone in general, but Aquas in general want to see the person they met online in the real. It is more connecting to sit by someone you're interested in and chat about this and that. Texting, social media can only go so far.
I agree with in person but when you are not in person is what Im talking about. The question I was looking for was who should initiate contact or how often contact should be made when seeing someone when you are not together the in between. Also should I just sit back & wait for him to contact me now?
May I ask, if you could dictate how often the two of you would text and he would be fine with it, how often would that be? What are your limits? How often would be too often and how seldom would be too seldom? When you have figured that out, you'll know what you can accept or not and how flexible you can be and then listen in to his actions. That was your first question in OP.
He may have lost interest - he may not have. Maybe he has had a lot to do at work. No one knows but him. I would probably contact him like tomorrow afternoon or so, just to ask if he's okay. And when/if you are in contact again, I would strongly suggest meeting him in person.
He may have lost interest - he may not have. Maybe he has had a lot to do at work. No one knows but him. I would probably contact him like tomorrow afternoon or so, just to ask if he's okay. And when/if you are in contact again, I would strongly suggest meeting him in person.
As much as you wish, but don't spam him up. If he is not on. Message one or two on facebook. Don't post anymore until he responds back.
Posted by ramengirl
Stop over thinking. If you really want to communicate with him then call, leave a voice mail or a text telling him how much you miss him (because you clearly do). Be clear about your feelings, but you don't have to be overbearing to get a point across.
Don't be what you think you should be. Be who you are. If you fuss over texting/calling then maybe you should contact him first. To ease yourself.
Do you have hobbies? Friends/family?
U got me I'm always over thinking & analyzing shi*t lol..Im getting a little better then I have been. I don't have a problem contacting but I don't want to kill the attraction by texting him & being mushy because I heard Aquarius guys don't like that. Yes I have hobbies & a very busy business I run but have limited circle of friends & family. After all day being busy now this is my down time & I tend to think about many things lol.
Posted by ramengirlPosted by nsm625Glad to hear that! € You're going to be just fine.Posted by ramengirl
Stop over thinking. If you really want to communicate with him then call, leave a voice mail or a text telling him how much you miss him (because you clearly do). Be clear about your feelings, but you don't have to be overbearing to get a point across.
Don't be what you think you should be. Be who you are. If you fuss over texting/calling then maybe you should contact him first. To ease yourself.
Do you have hobbies? Friends/family?
U got me I'm always over thinking & analyzing shi*t lol..Im getting a little better then I have been. I don't have a problem contacting but I don't want to kill the attraction by texting him & being mushy because I heard Aquarius guys don't like that. Yes I have hobbies & a very busy business I run but have limited circle of friends & family. After all day being busy now this is my down time & I tend to think about many things lol.
Don't worry about what others think of Aquarius. Worry about what you KNOW about YOUR Aquarius. He doesn't seem like the kind of person who'll dislike all the lovey-dovey talk. In fact he sounds like the opposite of that. But at the end of the day only you know what your guy likes/dislikes and that's what you have to go on.click to expand
Thank you :-). I'am learning some things about him & right now its hit & miss & trial & error until I get to know him much more :-). So its ok If I suggest dates to get together & let him figure out a work around without looking like a low value girl or killing attraction?
Posted by cheekyfaerieAgreed.
Agree with the others that nothing beats physical contact. Being able to look one another in the eye is huge. It's also not always practical when you live almost an hour away.
The texting thing? If you have something to say, say it. If you wanna send a short good night next, do it. What you're currently asking may seem innocent, but (imo) it's a bit of a game really. How often should I this or that is a power thing. If you're trying to build something serious, it's best not to start down that road.
As for FB, unless you're using it to message one another, it's best to pretend it's not there. Social media can be a relationship killer when you start letting it feed your insecurities.
Posted by Vixen2
Just ask him & always be yourself
Sounds like a plan and thank you :-)
Posted by HappyCapper
May I ask, if you could dictate how often the two of you would text and he would be fine with it, how often would that be? What are your limits? How often would be too often and how seldom would be too seldom? When you have figured that out, you'll know what you can accept or not and how flexible you can be and then listen in to his actions. That was your first question in OP.
He may have lost interest - he may not have. Maybe he has had a lot to do at work. No one knows but him. I would probably contact him like tomorrow afternoon or so, just to ask if he's okay. And when/if you are in contact again, I would strongly suggest meeting him in person.
Sounds like something to really consider & think about. Thank you for the advice & insight :-)..I just took a lot of advice here & texted him something cute & sensual a little game I play with him lol & he responded..so guess its still on lol. I just was trying to see if it was alright for a women to suggest a date to get together & for the guy to figure it out from there?
Posted by Aquistorm
As much as you wish, but don't spam him up. If he is not on. Message one or two on facebook. Don't post anymore until he responds back.
Agreed I never over text or spam but just need to make sure Im not doing much less
Great to hear! 🙂
Just don't OVER-analyse it. Just figure out what you want - you are 50% in this relationship.
Good luck! 🙂
Just don't OVER-analyse it. Just figure out what you want - you are 50% in this relationship.
Good luck! 🙂
Posted by cheekyfaerie
Agree with the others that nothing beats physical contact. Being able to look one another in the eye is huge. It's also not always practical when you live almost an hour away.
The texting thing? If you have something to say, say it. If you wanna send a short good night text, do it. What you're currently asking may seem innocent, but (imo) it's a bit of a game really. How often should I this or that is a power thing. If you're trying to build something serious, it's best not to start down that road.
As for FB, unless you're using it to message one another, it's best to pretend it's not there. Social media can be a relationship killer when you start letting it feed your insecurities.
I agree with this & will start trying to change wanting to be in control of things. You have kinda read me & how I'am a bit. I will try to follow the advice I have been given today from you all :-)
Posted by ramengirlPosted by nsm625No problem, love. Making plans is a great idea. Don't bother with how you may look. Be confident in your actions and remember that your intentions are out of love and sincerity. ‰ Let him know how much being together means to you.Posted by ramengirlPosted by nsm625Glad to hear that! € You're going to be just fine.Posted by ramengirl
Stop over thinking. If you really want to communicate with him then call, leave a voice mail or a text telling him how much you miss him (because you clearly do). Be clear about your feelings, but you don't have to be overbearing to get a point across.
Don't be what you think you should be. Be who you are. If you fuss over texting/calling then maybe you should contact him first. To ease yourself.
Do you have hobbies? Friends/family?
U got me I'm always over thinking & analyzing shi*t lol..Im getting a little better then I have been. I don't have a problem contacting but I don't want to kill the attraction by texting him & being mushy because I heard Aquarius guys don't like that. Yes I have hobbies & a very busy business I run but have limited circle of friends & family. After all day being busy now this is my down time & I tend to think about many things lol.
Don't worry about what others think of Aquarius. Worry about what you KNOW about YOUR Aquarius. He doesn't seem like the kind of person who'll dislike all the lovey-dovey talk. In fact he sounds like the opposite of that. But at the end of the day only you know what your guy likes/dislikes and that's what you have to go on.
Thank you :-). I'am learning some things about him & right now its hit & miss & trial & error until I get to know him much more :-). So its ok If I suggest dates to get together & let him figure out a work around without looking like a low value girl or killing attraction?click to expand
Wow you & the others that answered on this post are GREAT! It is really good to have people that are caring like you all and not judge me for asking lame or stupid questions lol. I really do appreciate it because my limited circle of friends & family are hard to talk to and negative about this & stuck in old ways of thinking guys should do everything.. Hagn
Posted by HappyCapper
Great to hear! 🙂
Just don't OVER-analyse it. Just figure out what you want - you are 50% in this relationship.
Good luck! 🙂
Agreed for your time & advice as it is very much appreciated :-)
Posted by ramengirl
@nsm625
Your questions aren't lame nor stupid. They're very relatable. Š And you have a good head on your shoulders. You don't portray yourself as a victim and you're self-aware.
Again I appreciate all the kind & inspiring words from u..it has really been a eye opener.
Posted by nsm625I'm just that way. I have an old school mentality about gender roles. My daddy always said "girls don't call boys" and he had his list of reasons that made complete sense. If you stop doing the majority of the planning, then he'll have to. Plus, you'll have a better sense of how much time he really wants to spend with you. You can get a better measurement of how into you he is. And you'll feel like he really wants to spend time with you and that's a much better feeling than wondering if you're doing too much.Posted by truecap
I let mine initiate about 75% of the time.
That's about how much I been doing also. What do you recommend on this?..He is a full time dad & his job is very demanding also so I asked why don't he plan for us to get together at times & he told me because of how he job is up & down right now & with his son it makes it harder for him to plan ahead but he said when I plan a day or time that he can work around that to make that date happen versus him doing it & he has always kept the plans when I have planned a time for us to get together. But question do you think this is bs & that maybe I should step back & make him start making the plans for us to get together? I like your fierceness lolclick to expand
I don't think his reasoning is BS necessarily, but I do think it's lazy on his part. If he has no problems making it happen when you plan a date, then he should have no problem making it happen when he plans a date. Just lazy.
However, if he wants you to do the planning, then there isn't really a problem with it. He has expressed that he wants you to, so it's not like he feels like you're chasing him.
Posted by truecapPosted by nsm625I'm just that way. I have an old school mentality about gender roles. My daddy always said "girls don't call boys" and he had his list of reasons that made complete sense. If you stop doing the majority of the planning, then he'll have to. Plus, you'll have a better sense of how much time he really wants to spend with you. You can get a better measurement of how into you he is. And you'll feel like he really wants to spend time with you and that's a much better feeling than wondering if you're doing too much.Posted by truecap
I let mine initiate about 75% of the time.
That's about how much I been doing also. What do you recommend on this?..He is a full time dad & his job is very demanding also so I asked why don't he plan for us to get together at times & he told me because of how he job is up & down right now & with his son it makes it harder for him to plan ahead but he said when I plan a day or time that he can work around that to make that date happen versus him doing it & he has always kept the plans when I have planned a time for us to get together. But question do you think this is bs & that maybe I should step back & make him start making the plans for us to get together? I like your fierceness lol
I don't think his reasoning is BS necessarily, but I do think it's lazy on his part. If he has no problems making it happen when you plan a date, then he should have no problem making it happen when he plans a date. Just lazy.
However, if he wants you to do the planning, then there isn't really a problem with it. He has expressed that he wants you to, so it's not like he feels like you're chasing him.click to expand
Yes that was my point I guess I was trying to get across & I totally agree with if he really wants to see me he will make it happen like he tried before & it is a way of being lazy. I will start falling back just a bit and making him step up to the plate :-). Thank you again
Posted by nsm625Well, you are in a relationship. That gives you more leeway in the fact that it shouldn't matter who contacts first, who makes the plan, etc As long as you both seem comfortable with it, it's not a problem. he has said he likes it that you do it. So, really don't worry. Keep doing what you're doing. If you change, don't do it abruptly.Posted by truecapPosted by nsm625I'm just that way. I have an old school mentality about gender roles. My daddy always said "girls don't call boys" and he had his list of reasons that made complete sense. If you stop doing the majority of the planning, then he'll have to. Plus, you'll have a better sense of how much time he really wants to spend with you. You can get a better measurement of how into you he is. And you'll feel like he really wants to spend time with you and that's a much better feeling than wondering if you're doing too much.Posted by truecap
I let mine initiate about 75% of the time.
That's about how much I been doing also. What do you recommend on this?..He is a full time dad & his job is very demanding also so I asked why don't he plan for us to get together at times & he told me because of how he job is up & down right now & with his son it makes it harder for him to plan ahead but he said when I plan a day or time that he can work around that to make that date happen versus him doing it & he has always kept the plans when I have planned a time for us to get together. But question do you think this is bs & that maybe I should step back & make him start making the plans for us to get together? I like your fierceness lol
I don't think his reasoning is BS necessarily, but I do think it's lazy on his part. If he has no problems making it happen when you plan a date, then he should have no problem making it happen when he plans a date. Just lazy.
However, if he wants you to do the planning, then there isn't really a problem with it. He has expressed that he wants you to, so it's not like he feels like you're chasing him.
Yes that was my point I guess I was trying to get across & I totally agree with if he really wants to see me he will make it happen like he tried before & it is a way of being lazy. I will start falling back just a bit and making him step up to the plate :-). Thank you againclick to expand
Posted by nsm625Well, you are in a relationship. That gives you more leeway in the fact that it shouldn't matter who contacts first, who makes the plan, etc As long as you both seem comfortable with it, it's not a problem. he has said he likes it that you do it. So, really don't worry. Keep doing what you're doing. If you change, don't do it abruptly.Posted by truecapPosted by nsm625I'm just that way. I have an old school mentality about gender roles. My daddy always said "girls don't call boys" and he had his list of reasons that made complete sense. If you stop doing the majority of the planning, then he'll have to. Plus, you'll have a better sense of how much time he really wants to spend with you. You can get a better measurement of how into you he is. And you'll feel like he really wants to spend time with you and that's a much better feeling than wondering if you're doing too much.Posted by truecap
I let mine initiate about 75% of the time.
That's about how much I been doing also. What do you recommend on this?..He is a full time dad & his job is very demanding also so I asked why don't he plan for us to get together at times & he told me because of how he job is up & down right now & with his son it makes it harder for him to plan ahead but he said when I plan a day or time that he can work around that to make that date happen versus him doing it & he has always kept the plans when I have planned a time for us to get together. But question do you think this is bs & that maybe I should step back & make him start making the plans for us to get together? I like your fierceness lol
I don't think his reasoning is BS necessarily, but I do think it's lazy on his part. If he has no problems making it happen when you plan a date, then he should have no problem making it happen when he plans a date. Just lazy.
However, if he wants you to do the planning, then there isn't really a problem with it. He has expressed that he wants you to, so it's not like he feels like you're chasing him.
Yes that was my point I guess I was trying to get across & I totally agree with if he really wants to see me he will make it happen like he tried before & it is a way of being lazy. I will start falling back just a bit and making him step up to the plate :-). Thank you againclick to expand
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