Is this aqua friend still interested?

So a few months ago, I met an aqua man. He asked me out and we both had a very good time together. We went out two other times and again it was all good. It has been about a month since we last hung out but we talk every week. I know that aquas become distant at times, but is this normal for them to be this distant for one month. I'm not use to it so it's quiet bothersome yet can accept it. Also, why is it that he always wants me to be the one to call him or to even call to hang out. Is it normal for aquas to do this? Last we spoke (last week) he wants me to call him so that we can go out. I'm not used to doing all the work and he tells me its because he does not like to plan things. He simply wants me to call and if he is not too busy or have other things then we can hang out but if not then we will need to re-schedule. Is this weird or what? I'm told that he does like me and enjoys my company yet I feel like i'm the one doing all the calling. HELP.....is this normal for an aqua man. I just don't want to feel like i'm chasing someone when really it's not my style . At this point i'm feeling like it's not worth pursuing, even though I like him and would not mind if anything further would happen between us. Any advice or suggestions?

Yes, this is perfectly normal. Aquarian men, myself included, loathe the phone. I despise it with a passion. Plus we can be kind of lazy in the chasing, that's just how we are.

With an Aquarian man, be prepared to lead the relationship in many ways, we're just not big leaders when it comes to relationships.

As you become closer, you might be able to slowly push him to be more active in the relationship, but honestly, if you aren't prepared to take on non-traditional roles like having the woman lead, then you might not be prepared for a relationship with an Aquarian man. It's difficult, different and diverse.

aquas are not planners...get used to it!

wings is very right...if you are involved with an aqua, be prepared to have a VERY non-traditional relationship with him. it will be like no other relationship you have had before, so be prepared!!! and you, as the woman, will have to take the lead and make the first move, do the planning, etc. although every once in a while, your aqua will get a spontaneous twinge and plan a little getaway at the last minute...if your lucky 😉

"It's difficult, different and diverse."

-yes it is!!! but, it's sooooo worth it. it makes for a much deeper relationship.

"Aquarian men, myself included, loathe the phone. "

except when it comes to phone sex...

w00t

Thanks all who replied. For a minute there I thought all was gone, but it seems like it's still a go. We enjoy our talks on the phone. He's a coach and I go to his games which I hear aquas like when you are interested in what they do. I do not like to chase but for this one maybe it's worth it as I enjoy his company, and he's a great guy. It will be hard for me but we'll see where this goes. However I have a question, how much is too much. I like to hang out alot when i'm interested in one, but it seems like aquas like their space so how much is too much?

we just need a little of you here and there. but not everywhere!! lol

surprise us!! lol
I think we love shock..or at least, I do..^__^

I don't mind how long I'm with someone as long as they're not boring..but as soon as they get boring..I start drifting...

there are other things though.. might want to find out his ascendant to know how he likes his conversations..

mine is in gemini, so I can talk forever if I felt like it. lol

Aquas usually don't mind company. I do want space when I'm stressed though. Enough for me to get my thoughts together!!!

It actually takes a few hours for me to get my thoughts together. But trust me, give it an overnighter for the average Aqua and we'll think of something by then for sure!! 🙂

Hes maybe testing you to see if you call and most likely playing some mind games with you for his own pleasures. If he really were into you you'd know it and find an irresistable attraction with him

"Hes maybe testing you to see if you call and most likely playing some mind games with you for his own pleasures. If he really were into you you'd know it and find an irresistable attraction with him" ~aloofgua~

So is this a good thing or not. While he may be testing me how would I know? Also, he goes by my department every week for meeting and he always makes sure he grabs my attention when he enters the department and when he leaves. At times when i'm busy my co-workers tell me he stares at me waiting to see when i'll look but at times i'm too busy to notice it. Yet when I do see him boy I tell you, you aquas sure do have a thing with the looks you give a woman. WHEW ! ! Those looks say it all and co-workers notice the way he looks at me, telling me he has a thing for me. Is this a sign of testing or a sign that he's into me? Do aquas get mad or upset when they are not called?

cute unusualcancer!!!

one of my girlfriend's is a libra and she started dating an aqua guy 3 months ago and he already lives with her...so, go figure! maybe he is an exception to the "taking it slow" rule... he is a real weirdo though!!!

ok shy, it might be a good thing as he wants to see how interested you are in order for him do develop the relationship into something more and see whether you can handle his needing his little retreats or he could possibly trying to see how much control he has over you... And from the looks of it, as you mentioned from his looks at you, its a sign he is into you... Also aquas don't mind not calling maybe preferring it.

"While he may be testing me how would I know?" I'm not sure but aquas love testing ppl

yes, aquas do love testing people!!!

and you can tell a lot from the way an aqua looks at you... when they give you that stare (and you will know when you see it), you know they are having warm feelings for you...

my aqua STILL tests me after almost 3 years together...

Once again thanks for all those who replied with such great insight and suggestions. I do keep myself busy with other things when we don't hang out or talk but I at times feel lost with this guy. I feel like i'm getting more and more interested in him and my feelings for him are growing. I'm just not one to take control so this will be a HUGE step for me. Now last week he asked for me to call him sometime so we can go out to lunch. I'm nervouse as i've never been the one to call and ask, for you aquas out there if I do not call with this be a blow or make him feel like i'm not interested? I get so shy and nervouse it drives me crazy just thinking about it. As you can see i've never been with an aqua therefore it is so new to me. I's so used to the male asking, calling and doing all the planning. I do consider myself a strong and independant women who can stand on my own, but this man makes me shy and nervouse.

unusualcancer...next time he wants to make plans with you, just tell him you already have plans and that you are busy...and do that a couple of times and see what happens. i am sure he will respond to that!
he may be testing you to see how available you are to him, so show him that you have a life of your own and that you are not waiting around to make plans with him...

"unusual...i feel your pain. my aqua is a lazy planner. he sees no reason why planning for the weekend should be complete prior to friday"

-my aqua is the same!!! last minute planning, always...but i am getting used to it. only it still sucks when i want him to go with me to events such as weddings (in which i have a couple coming up soon), and he doesn't know if he can go or not until the week of...oh well, i can have fun at weddings without him!!!

"I's so used to the male asking, calling and doing all the planning."

-well, you better get used to a very non-conventional relationship if you want to be with an aqua!!!