ive got an Aries after me..!

hey whats up. i saw an old friend from high school in the train the other day, and we began to talk. i always knew she had a little crush on me but was never really into her like that.and before i could get the second sentence out of my mouth, she starts talking about my ex. i tell her that were no longer together and her eyes literally lit up. before i could tell her that i want to play it cool for a while i had her number in my cell, and shes talking about her ex boyfriend who she has reciently broken up with.we spoke over the phone a couple times and i told her that i didnt want a relationship, but it didnt seem to phase her. being that we go to the same school now its like i have to dodge her constantly, and she still calls me.my aloofness dosent seem to work with her. shes a cute redhead too, so its not like she dosent look good, and shes got a great personality also. its a combination of her being attached & her method of flirting than turns me off. normally i would just not speak to her but my situation will not allow it. so what do i do? and why do aries like to chase so much? its a really big turn off, well for me at least. i would've gave her a chance if she didnt come off like that.

Aries chase because they have huge confidence that anything they want, they can get, if they work hard enough. Aries are very blunt & very direct, especially when it comes to dating. So don't be so suprised that she immediately started hinting around that she was single or in other words, available to you. Aries are very impulsive & are quick to go after something they've convinced themselves that they want. And this method of chasing is completely different than how Aquas get what they want. Aquas like to be chased, rather than do the chasing but geesh, we Aquas at least like for someone to play a little hard to get. The reason you're so skeptical is b/c you know yourself that you need alot of time & observation before making the decision that it's worth it to chase after someone with such force. And it's bothering you that this girl doesn't "tick" the same way you do, thus you consider her way of chasing after you invalid, ineffective & a turn off.

You as an Aqua don't get all worked up & excited & ready to chase just b/c someone looks good b/c you know that there is always more to that person than looks. But it bothers you when someone keeps trying to pressure you & FORCE you to skip the process of observing them FIRST & THEN making the decision. This Aries woman wants you right now & it's not that you don't want her, you just need more time & aren't the type to jump at the first sign that the grass might be green. You like to sit & observe, plan & use all logic versus impulse & the fact that her methods are the exact OPPOSITE shouldn't be suprising that already this girl has turned you off. The best way to get an Aries to hear you out is to use their method of communication (bluntness, directness, outspokenness). If you don't then, she will keep the mindset that instead of slowing her role, whatever you're really saying is just a signal for TRY HARDER. Tell her upfront & bluntly that if she wants any shot with you, she's going to have to slow it down, learn that bringing up ex's is the FIRST way to turn you off & give you the space & room to decide if you like her enough for anything to go past just friendship

Either way it goes, the best policy is HONESTY. There is no point in being able to share your feelings with a bunch of strangers (DXP) if you can't do the same with the people you actually know & are around every day. Come on, You're an Aqua. You know all about this stuff. Just tell her like it is. It's not WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it.

And it's true that Aries have short attention spans. Sometimes, by the way they come onto you, you'd swear they were madly in love with you. And then the moment someone else grabs their attention it's like you never existed. So I agree that you shouldn't be taking this girls forcefulness so personal as if she will turn into some kind of stalker or big annoyance. Cut out the middle man & tell this girl how you feel. The mere fact that one of the 1st things she brought up in the conversation was her ex boyfriend & how it's over, says enough in itself. It's never the BEST idea to establish a relationship or interest in someone who just got out of a relationship & especially not the kind who believe that bragging about how the relationship with their ex just ended should make others want them more. This girl might be looking for a REBOUND or any excuse to get over who she's REALLy in love with & really interested in. If you're that annoyed, do what you do BEST & give it to her straight, without one twinge of guilt. If anything, after a while if she keeps getting mixed signals, it's on YOU. You have to trust that she's mature enough to take rejection like a grown woman & hey, if she's not, that's actually even more the reason to be honest with her.

Can we get back to the original subject please? It's obvious that you 2 don't see eye to eye on this situation & hey, that's okay. That's life. But to keep arguing about something that NEITHER of you are willing to change your views on is pointless & sooner than later childish

Um back to the OP....
A cute redhead?!?! Go for it!!! 😉 You're gonna miss out dude. Trust me. LOL

In all seriousness be honest with her. I love my Aries peeps but they tend to have tunnel vision when they are after something and she probably won't pick up on subtle hints. If you are worried about hurting her feelings don't. She's an Aries. She'll be hurt for a nanosecond before she's off chasing something new and she'll respect you for being honest.

I still think you should go for it though 😉

why don't you give her a chance? I mean she might not have an air of mystery like water sign but as an Fire sign,shel'll bring lots of joy and adventures in your life. Just be careful of heated discussions in the future.You're both stubborn 🙂

@normalisboring: why you keep calling every one Scorpios? Hehe, did those Scorp do some thing to you?

He just loves us alot 🙂

Posted by icyblood
so what do i do? and why do aries like to chase so much? its a really big turn off, well for me at least. i would've gave her a chance if she didnt come off like that.

Oye vey, a lot of women are doing this now, not just Aries go to any other board here and you will see women chasing men all the time, I know I give them advice all the time 😛... as fire signs we're just more aggressive.

Well, you have to be straight forward with her because if you continue on like this you will unintentionally lead her on... it's not really your fault, it's just, you know how women get... they have to dissect every little thing you guys do, and blow it out of proportion. It was a bad idea getting her number because now she thinks you're interested.

LOL don't forget women are always 10 steps ahead of men, what might seem as an innocent exchange of numbers (or something even smaller) can mean something bigger in a woman's head.

Even though you don't want to be an asshole you will be seen as one if you continue as you are >>>she will believe there is a chance. There should be no hesitation either when you tell her, don't even put it gently ie "Well I don't know..." sort of stuff though you might be doing it to soften the blow she will take it as uncertainty in yourself, therefore hope. Straight forward like "Sorry, I just don't like you in that way." (you not being gentle does not leave out being polite).

After you break it to her and she continues to act as she do I suggest just ignoring her??_ completely.

But please don't ignore her before you tell her, it would just send her on a wild goose chase.

Hahaha NIB. I've been busting your balls alot. I'm a little sucker like that 🙂
To be fair you took it in stride. I respect that 😉