Not sure if this is respectful behavior or not?

My aqua ex has a tendency to talk and suddenly after being into the convo for about a minute he suddenly stops replying and i dont hear from him again.
emm its happened several times now. I am like a normal friend to him now after a year from our break up. (not so close friends though)
I never complained to him or anything but i was wondering is that respectful behavior? to just cut off in middle of a convo and stop replying as tho nothing happened.
I used to think he is busy and all. But i realized he is 24/7 chatting to someone on whatsapp, maybe his friends or something. the point is that he is NOT so busy. so y is he not replying to me?

SO what i dont get is y is he making a conversation happen if he will cut off after a minute and not say anything further nor reply later. Sometimes he does reply after a day..then i reply after a day or when I got time.
So we r not always on and on talking or anything. But i just feel it is slightly disrespectful.

The thing is im afraid that if i complained to him and said how come u keep cutting off in middle of the convo, that is disrespectful that he might think "oh she still cares whether i reply or not". I dont wana boost his ego or make him feel like i want him cuz i dont want him. But If I talked to a friend and I wanted to end the convo i make sure i end the convo like oh i gota go now cuz gota study, talk soon buh-bye. I dont just disappear.

am I over reacting now? is he being really disrespectful? dunnooo

1- personally i think i shud ignore his actions and just not let it bother me.
2- But at the same time i think that if something slightly bothers me that i shud speak up and say it to whomever is bothering me even if it is something small otherwise ppl will just think im ok with being treated dis way and they will continue to treat me in a way i dont like.

So who agrees with number 1 and who agree with number 2?

#1. If you two are not close friends and have been broken up for a year then that is not something I'd waste my energy on worrying about. You said there are times you reply back to his text a day later or when you have the time, what's the difference? That he stops replying during the middle of the conversation? Not that serious.

Hey Nouran, it is disrespectful but he seems to have moved on. You seem to still care about him and that might be the issue. No, I wouldn't tell him it bothers you unless you want him to think he means a whole lot to you 🙂

I'd say his gf probably called or showed up. Or something else caught his attention. I wouldn't mention it at all and just move on with my life.

Question to ponder, though: If it was a female friend, would it bother you?

yeah just tell him: "What's wrong with you? why are you talking to me while you are still with your gf? what's your MOTIVE? Do you have one? Are you trying to keep me in your harem because you are not happy with your gf?"

girl, you need to get him away from you if he's still with that gf of his.

Posted by sewdope
Sometimes I do what your ex does. I didn't realize it was disrespectful. I look at text as informal so I don't really say bye or I have to go. It's probably innocent. 🙂

I know what u mean i do the same too. But the thing is he would be telling me something..and then he started talking about how he is social but not extremely social blah blah so the convo was going somewer..then I asked him something like oh if ur so sociable then how come u sound so dull on chatt?
He never replied.
Sometimes I b asking something else followed by a "?" and he would not reply. Basically he would talk for bit then das it.
It did not bother me in beginning cuz I know there r other stuff we all could be doing. But it is starting to bother me. I mean if he is avoiding me or if he does not want to reply then y cant he just delete me and forget me. He does that all the time not sometimes.

Im only asking for the respect i would give anyone..u know what i mean?

Posted by lisabethur8
yeah just tell him: "What's wrong with you? why are you talking to me while you are still with your gf? what's your MOTIVE? Do you have one? Are you trying to keep me in your harem because you are not happy with your gf?"

girl, you need to get him away from you if he's still with that gf of his.

Exactly I need to get him away. Or at least keep him as a friend and NOTHING more than that. thats y i dont think asking him all that will make him get the idea that im only friends with him. He might think im asking him cuz I still care about him a lover or something.
If part of me cares about him it is only the way I would care about a brother or a distant cousin. Not as a lover.

Posted by aquapiscescusp
Hey Nouran, it is disrespectful but he seems to have moved on. You seem to still care about him and that might be the issue. No, I wouldn't tell him it bothers you unless you want him to think he means a whole lot to you 🙂

lol how can i tell him without giving him the impression that he means a whole lot to me??

Posted by aquansidenout
I'm so guilty of this. It's done out of direspect I simply have so much going on in my head all the time and get distracted. As for a male perspective my ex aqua has ADD was diahnosed with it and simply can't help it. Once his attention was gone when he was giving me directions. He totally forgot and we was lost for hours. Poor thing.

well would u reply later on to an old message? or would u forget/ignore it?
personally i tend to delay replying to messages but eventually I do. When I dont reply it is usually cuz I really dislike that person. In our case I dont think he dislikes me at all. Otherwise he would have deleted me. And he would have never been nice to me.

Posted by pssymonstaa
hmm
Im pretty much your Aqua ex in regards to being in a convo, and suddenly dissapearing. Its never out of disrespect though.
Now, my family and friends understand so its cool. Everybody seems to understand that we all function at a "when you have time" basis.
Maybe your ex doest reply because something more interesting is going on over there.
or maybe hes just tryna fuck with your head.


i vote for option two. tell him you dont digg it and that if he wants to chop it up with you, he needs to be respectfull.
95% chance he is going to think exactly what you said; that your bitchin cuz you want his balls LOL 🙂

No no nooo I dont want him thinking im doing anything to get him back. But would u not reply to someone asking u a question? wouldnt u reply later on? We all get busy. But I never do that.
I dont think he is tryna play with my head cuz I basically do nothing i just ignore it whnever he replies.
I just feel like he is simply WIERED..

Any other suggestions? something that wont put me in a rong positiong where he is goin to think im tryna b all over him?

Can I go as far as to say he still has that emotional control over you?

This is why when this all started I said it would be wise to cut ALL contact until you feel comfortable. But if it's come to this point again just cut him loose. It'll solve both problems. You don't need to talk to him and you don't need to worry about that he thinks.

I hate online chatting i probably drive my freinds crazy with my disappearing. I get bored online much rathe talk face to face or on the phone.

Posted by EvilTurtle
I hate online chatting i probably drive my freinds crazy with my disappearing. I get bored online much rathe talk face to face or on the phone.

i do the same , it is boring

Posted by aquasnoz
Can I go as far as to say he still has that emotional control over you?

This is why when this all started I said it would be wise to cut ALL contact until you feel comfortable. But if it's come to this point again just cut him loose. It'll solve both problems. You don't need to talk to him and you don't need to worry about that he thinks.

mmm ok then

let me ask you a question,should you ask advice about relashionships on a forum filled with people with failed relashionship tendancies and problems,your answer,probably not

Posted by MoonWolf
let me ask you a question,should you ask advice about relashionships on a forum filled with people with failed relashionship tendancies and problems,your answer,probably not

your right..but i dont take any of this forum seriously anyway