I reached out to my Aquarius Ex .... Now what?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Hoplessinlove on Thursday, March 21, 2013 and has 13 replies.

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@Hoplessinlove
13 YearsLeo

Hey everyone. First I want to say I really appreciate all the feedback from the multiple posts I made about how to get my Aquarius ex back.
I ended up reaching out to him yesterday on the 26th day of no contact. At first he was a bit cold but then warmed up slightly. We honestly only spoke about getting the jeep (I had signed for a car for him but took it back post breakup due to not trusting he'd make payments and not wanting to have that connection for the next 30 months with us not being together) back to him and working out a plan on how it would work for payments. I don't get any vibes of him missing me or being interested more than getting his jeep but I'm not sure if I can warm him up to it and for him to realize he misses me and see where to take things from there. I don't want to trick him into being with me at all. I just want to go about it the right way where I'm on his mind and he starts to warm up to the idea of us. Advice please 🙂

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@Hoplessinlove
13 YearsLeo

Posted by tiziani
Fair play. I'm not actually an Aqua, just an Air sign, so I think from this point my advice is null and void. But just wanted to say it's good to see you doing what you feel you need to do for you.

Thank you !!!! && any advice is always welcomed

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@lisabethur8
14 Years50,000+ Posts

trust your intuitions.

if you aren't getting the "vibe" he's not missing you, what does that tell you?

Do you want to get hurt? Don't listen to anyone else but your woman's intuition.

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@Hoplessinlove
13 YearsLeo

Thank you everyone !

Tiziani, you make me feel good about myself, I needed that boost of confidence. And yes, that is why I reached out because I was more hurt by the unknown and it made me feel a whole lot better reaching out and at least knowing that it is what it is and not have to false hope anymore.

Lisa & watercup ... He didn't so much blow me off, we just didn't talk about emotions. I wasn't sure if I should bring it up but he did send a text that said this ...
"Ok well come by we can have sex then ill give it to you lol only joking... Ok thats fine and maybe please just find out whats up w the rest of the money she was supposed to give me or just ask"

I was wondering if he said that to feel out how I'd respond to it—

Also, you're saying just give him space again even though I didn't bring anything up to him?

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@aquasnoz
14 Years10,000+ Posts

He's being guarded first and foremost. What I said about venus pisces is that once that trust is broken it's a bit hard to win it back. We can still be civil but we're very good at masking any emotions knowing how they work.

There might be other placements at work here. I get very 'logical' very succinct words when I'm on the defensive. Also just noticing pisceans and mars in pisces people in action we absorb in defense and reflect. Not sure what his mars placements are apologies if you mentioned before but in some respect to that some Aquas are standoffish which is why we're not the first to mention such things after a conflict.

And yeah I would take that as a sign he's trying to lighten the mood. The way you describe it almost feels like you can cut the tension with a knife. I think it's a positive sign he attempted a joke 🙂

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@Hoplessinlove
13 YearsLeo

Aqusnoz, I love when you respond. You really know what you're talking about; so very knowledgable. So now what? There was absolutely no contact made today ... What's to do next?

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@aquasnoz
14 Years10,000+ Posts

Haha no I'm definitely not as knowledgeable! I usually just look at my own chart so it's mainly from what I think applies to him! Just keep up what you're doing, whatever you do try not to discuss feelings over text because things usually get blown out of proportion with us 😛

Maybe a joke back to him? Pretend nothing's happened and I know that's hard but it gets us more at ease. Over at the pisces forum they posted about how to treat a pisces man I think it can apply to venus/mars placements too.

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@Hoplessinlove
13 YearsLeo

Aquasnoz!!! Where are you when I need you🙂 lol I private messaged you!!!

Anyway, the conversation today has become pretty clear that's it's just business and no hope for more. I'm pretty sure he's out having his fun and isn't looking back 😢 I guess I now know my answers, but it makes me feel so much better than the unknown.

My only question to all of you is, should I just tell him I miss him or make any nice comments like that and wish him well? I know that pushes them away more but I'm wondering what the difference would be if he's not giving any signs of hope here anyway.