Needing some Gem support ..

Some peeps know my story.. but just a quick recap.. been with gem(aqua moon) for 4 years. We've had a pretty good relationship.. of course.. quite different being a cap sun (pisces moon). Things have been good.. we've had our ups and downs but i know my gems had something on his mind. They become a little distant and I can smell it a mile away. Also, when that happens, i tend to try and ease him to talk to me.. i tend to be the giving kind.. i do alot for him and thats because i'm the nurturing kind. Understanding.. perhaps sometimes to a fault. I kinda knew we had to talk because we've been dating for so long.. where were we going?

We had a chat and he said he needed some space. Hes been independent all his life.. he knows hes selfish.. and he doesn't think he wants to be this way. He feels its gotten him stagnant. he wants to make a change but he needs to figure out what and how.. and he feels bad because he feels that way and he didn't want me to be dragged with it. We talked about what that meant..and he said he didn't want to date anyone because that wasn't the issue and he didn't want me to either. he said he was still super attracted to me and another person wasn't the issue. because i know him so well... and i trust him... i understand where he's coming from. I started to tear up and cry and then he saw that, and pulled me close and started crying too. i cried even harder because i've never seen this man cry... So there we were, crying and kissing each other... realizing how much we really really cared about each other. He just needed some time.

Well, we parted and i told him i understand. We both need to figure us out.

two days later, i was going through a big test and he texted me to wish me luck and to give me support. I was relieved because i was afraid i had lost him or he had forgotten me. i know its wierd for me to think that way.. but i get super nervous in these situations even if i don't show it.
i am trying not to overthink and i want to text so badly every day.. but i know he needs the time and i respect that.
I have been going through moments of feeling not good enough but most of time, i know who i am and i know i have done everything i can. i'm thinking in a week, i'll probably text just to wish him well.

I miss him a lot.. and i know he's not an A-hole. I know him well enough.

but i really hope i don't lose him.. and meanwhile, i know i have to think about what i want and need as well.. just to make sure i

am sure as well.

we are mature people i feel.. with obviously issues to deal with.. but of course, i still feel vulnerable and sad at times. any advice and support from gems would be great...

Is it ok for me to after awhile.. Text and say " hope you're well" ? Or don't bother?
I don't like to play games but I don't want to overwhelm him either.

I guess I'm just afraid of losing him...

Are you guys.. Out of sight, out of mind?
Or absence makes the heart grow fonder?

Posted by Gemini052388
I suppose it should be fine. Possibly a text that doesn't seem to be wanting a response. 🙂 that is the best one I suppose. Just express care! 🙂

I agree with this... It's always nice to see some random msg from someone showing they care and are thinking about me. 🙂

As for your other question.... For me, it makes the heart grow fonder. 🙂

A month— I'm dying with 3 days!!!! Oh dear..... This is gonna be hard. It's going to feel like forever for me...

4 years together.. sigh... i hope he doesn't forget me..

i guess i want to initiate convo so that he doesn't... or hope to get some response.

Hello everyone..

just thought I'd update everyone.
It's been 2 and a half months.. and i haven't heard from him. Not even a text to say hi.. nothing. I have not reached out either as he asked for space and said he would reach out to me.
My cappy pride has held me back.

However, 3 weeks ago, I packed his stuff and mailed it back to him. I even included a birthday card since it's his birthday month. I just signed it with best wishes and my name. I figured he's cut me off for good without even telling me. But even with that.. I got no thank you.. no acknowledgement. Nothing.

Shows you how 4.5 years really meant nothing to him at all.

😢

Thats sad to hear Savagetai, sorry to hear about it, but you do deserve much better than this. I know its easier said than done, but let him go, plan the next chapter of your life without him in it, leave this one behind, turn the page and make some good stories out of those empty pages that are coming 🙂 Good luck.

Aww, I was so hoping... *hugs you*

Shaks is right, you do deserve better!!!