Nouran20
@Nouran20
12 Years
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reply or not reply to my ex aqua ?
being an aqua a short polite message would be fine. No response might worry him more causeing him to possibly show up at your door. Be blunt and direct as aquas perfer it.
He's just checking to see if you're still losing your mind over losing him, he's attempting to see if you're still INTO him--he's looking for an ego boost (nothing more), he's not thinking about you although it seems that way, ignore him and delete his number out of your phone, don't get sucked back into the dark void of pining and whining over him so he can feel special,
Keep healing and most importantly he's NOT SINGLE so why answer him, he know better than to come back knowing he's still involved with another woman. Who does that? The kind of guy that's selfish. You'll know when he's back FOR REAL because he won't be text messaging you, he'll come and talk to you face to face. If he broke up with you then it's okay to be rude, he was rude for breaking your heart so yeah that makes it even.
Keep healing and most importantly he's NOT SINGLE so why answer him, he know better than to come back knowing he's still involved with another woman. Who does that? The kind of guy that's selfish. You'll know when he's back FOR REAL because he won't be text messaging you, he'll come and talk to you face to face. If he broke up with you then it's okay to be rude, he was rude for breaking your heart so yeah that makes it even.
I agree with Tiki, she always has great insights!
What important here is you keep going with the self-healing. I think other raise good points too, As EvilTurtle said we like honest answers but I feel feb16aqua is also right in that (and you can deny this) inside you are still searching for an answer. I just get the feeling that yes you are moving on but you are still holding him on such a pedestal that you care about his actions and what he thinks directly correlates with your self worth.
Truth is I never willingly 'detach' myself from anyone and if for what reason I must do it I never contact them again. Likewise if people disappear from my life it's their life and I have no say in it therefore I just have to accept it and get on with my own. You already tried your best from what I've read and it's time to lay it all to rest. Stick to what you are doing. Ignoring isn't forever, it might be years down the track before you realise hey I've moved on I can finally talk to them again but give yourself the chance to do that.
Confusion might be a part of it but you just need to believe, if all else, believe you are doing the right thing.
What important here is you keep going with the self-healing. I think other raise good points too, As EvilTurtle said we like honest answers but I feel feb16aqua is also right in that (and you can deny this) inside you are still searching for an answer. I just get the feeling that yes you are moving on but you are still holding him on such a pedestal that you care about his actions and what he thinks directly correlates with your self worth.
Truth is I never willingly 'detach' myself from anyone and if for what reason I must do it I never contact them again. Likewise if people disappear from my life it's their life and I have no say in it therefore I just have to accept it and get on with my own. You already tried your best from what I've read and it's time to lay it all to rest. Stick to what you are doing. Ignoring isn't forever, it might be years down the track before you realise hey I've moved on I can finally talk to them again but give yourself the chance to do that.
Confusion might be a part of it but you just need to believe, if all else, believe you are doing the right thing.
Nothing wrong with keeping his number on your phone. At least you know who is messaging you. For him I think its just a casual message like the others have said above ^^ Its completely up to you if you want to respond back. But if you do, keep it casual few word answers.. but I do recommend not to go into a long detailed message. If you choose not to message him then you're moving forward and that a big deal. x
Posted by tiki33
He's just checking to see if you're still losing your mind over losing him, he's attempting to see if you're still INTO him--he's looking for an ego boost (nothing more), he's not thinking about you although it seems that way, ignore him and delete his number out of your phone, don't get sucked back into the dark void of pining and whining over him so he can feel special,
Keep healing and most importantly he's NOT SINGLE so why answer him, he know better than to come back knowing he's still involved with another woman. Who does that? The kind of guy that's selfish. You'll know when he's back FOR REAL because he won't be text messaging you, he'll come and talk to you face to face. If he broke up with you then it's okay to be rude, he was rude for breaking your heart so yeah that makes it even.
Hes not in the same country so he cant come. Plus i didn't give him my new address and I'm not going to give it to him.
And YES hes still involved with another girl. He made it clear to me (the last time we talked) that he doesn't talk cuz hes with someone else. So since then i never said a word to him again. So what does he want now? god knows! I don't even know what to do. I guess I'm gona stay silent for a few days then ill reply saying "yes im fine thank u" and if he asked y did u reply so late. Ill say i was v busy in my life(which btw i am v BUSY with university)
Then if he talks again ill act cold and i wont reply again. I'm just so fed up tryin to figure out this aqua guy.
Posted by Angeleyes17
Nothing wrong with keeping his number on your phone. At least you know who is messaging you. For him I think its just a casual message like the others have said above ^^ Its completely up to you if you want to respond back. But if you do, keep it casual few word answers.. but I do recommend not to go into a long detailed message. If you choose not to message him then you're moving forward and that a big deal. x
I guess I agree with u angeleyes.
I will reply but after a day or two. Itll b short and simple. "im fine thnkx" and if he continued the convo ill just not reply.
Posted by feb16aqua
Hi he's either:
1. Wondering if you're still pining for him
2. Genuinely concerned that you're ok
Or a mixture of the two...
Not replying to him will make him wonder more and more about you. Sure, he may even come to your house...but Nouran that might be something you want?
No i dont want him to come to my door when hes like this! He needs to fix a lot of things in his personality as well as learn how to treat a lady right. Just like I used to tell him that i would change anything for him and if there's anythin he dont like about me that I would fix it. This is what u would want from a guy anyway right? both of us need to invest into the relationship..i cant do all the work on my own.
We r not in the same country anyway. Even tho he used to tell me that he wants to take a plane nd hang out with me nd introduce himself to my family. That was long time ago..
Hes all different now.
Im not interested in his new thing. I dont think he will fix up either. no point. will keep my replies short and cold.
Posted by aquasnoz
I agree with Tiki, she always has great insights!
What important here is you keep going with the self-healing. I think other raise good points too, As EvilTurtle said we like honest answers but I feel feb16aqua is also right in that (and you can deny this) inside you are still searching for an answer. I just get the feeling that yes you are moving on but you are still holding him on such a pedestal that you care about his actions and what he thinks directly correlates with your self worth.
Truth is I never willingly 'detach' myself from anyone and if for what reason I must do it I never contact them again. Likewise if people disappear from my life it's their life and I have no say in it therefore I just have to accept it and get on with my own. You already tried your best from what I've read and it's time to lay it all to rest. Stick to what you are doing. Ignoring isn't forever, it might be years down the track before you realise hey I've moved on I can finally talk to them again but give yourself the chance to do that.
Confusion might be a part of it but you just need to believe, if all else, believe you are doing the right thing.
u make a lot of sense aquasnoz. I am in the healing process now but i guess i crossed a long way. At least I dont cry like before nor let my depression affect my life anymore. I feel so much more alive and happier now. I like the idea of staying away from him or at least minimizing any ways of contact with him. Right now ther is zero contact..beleive it or not I DONT CARE!
But also like u said when he asks r u ok? It makes me so confused cuz i feel like i dont wana do the rong thing..thats y i come here tryin to ask for advise. I just wana get help with how to deal with the situation the right mature way to avoid hurting my feelings also to avoid hurting his feelings. plus i dont want him to fool me again. Its time for me to stand up and stop being that kind nice person I was with him. Its time 4 some "i dont care about what u say" time.
Right now on his status he wrote "dont like the fakes and snakes that i used to know" i really dont care if that status is about me or not. I care more about doing the right thing so that i dont feel guilty in the future.
I refuse to reply right away. I will reply but later and in v short words. If u think i shouldnt reply at all that its wiser then i wont.
Thanks for giving
He is still not worth your time.
anyone has more advise??
reply or not reply at all?
reply or not reply at all?
Posted by tiki33
He's just checking to see if you're still losing your mind over losing him, he's attempting to see if you're still INTO him--he's looking for an ego boost (nothing more), he's not thinking about you although it seems that way, ignore him and delete his number out of your phone, don't get sucked back into the dark void of pining and whining over him so he can feel special,
Keep healing and most importantly he's NOT SINGLE so why answer him, he know better than to come back knowing he's still involved with another woman. Who does that? The kind of guy that's selfish. You'll know when he's back FOR REAL because he won't be text messaging you, he'll come and talk to you face to face. If he broke up with you then it's okay to be rude, he was rude for breaking your heart so yeah that makes it even.
What Tiki said, which boils down to DO NOT ANSWER 🙂
Posted by Bohemianrhapsody74
I have been in your position with an aqua from another country. Once he entered into a "real relationship" with a woman from the UK I was discarded but he kept emailing how are you, are you ok...etc...
After 2.5 years of speaking/email/skype every day I was thrown under the bus. Like you I debated and I responded only to get more sand kicked in my face. My advice to you is to Steer Clear of him!!!!! Take the advice Tiki gave you because sh was spot on it is just an ego stroke! He doesn't want you back. Move on with your life and trust me you will never break your OWN heart..🙂
Exactly I dont understand y they do that r u ok thing? If they r with someone else then y still ask about us. y still make us feel wanted. it just makes u so confused doesnt it? I cant believe he would do that just for an ego stroke. So after all he might just want to feel good by seeing me suffer and crying over him?! DAMN!
I really hate ppl that break other ppl's heart. He flirted with me b4 WHILE he was with his other girl. OMG! how rude and pathetic. He mentioned hes not serious about her. poor her!
arghhh! I wont reply..thats it.
I will post another thread about all the negative things about him just to share my experience with those ppl out there goin thru same thing..
Oh man..Im actually starting to feel so bad about not replying but theres another voice in my head screaming dont reply, keep him wondering and dont let him know anything about u no more
ahh there's an inner battle inside my head now
ahh there's an inner battle inside my head now
It is more about their ego than anything. If someone wants you they will be there for you in every way and if they know that they can't they will walk away and do no more harm. Anything else is BS which will keep you trapped in the DXPNET rabbit hole of constant analysis... 🙂
well i guess not replying is like im breaking his ego lol
I hope that will make him realize how much he sucks!
I hope that will make him realize how much he sucks!
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Remember how u all advised me that there is no way to fix our problems with my ex nor ever get him back since he has also moved on in a relationship with someone new??
I have completely cut myself out like u all told me to. I deleted everything. I disappeared from his life which has made me feel better not knowing anything about him anymore. Its been a week or more (not less) I dont count
The only thing i have of him is his number which i forgot to delete..and it dont matter cuz i dont feel like i have the urge to message him anymore. Not even say hi!
NOW..He messages me and says "Hi nouran r u ok?"
I think he noticed my disappearance and is just wondering what the hell happened.
THE QUESTION IS: do i reply saying yes im fine (without further talking). Or should I just ignore it and never reply?
What would make me look better in the eyes of this aqua guy?? Please especially aqua guys..i would like to know if u broke up with a girl and she disappears and u wonder if shes ok..whats goin on in ur head?
In my opinion i dont think i should reply..maybe i shud pretend like he said nothing..but really what do u think is the right thing??
Im strong enaff to ignore him yet i dont wana do something that would make me look bad. replying to him could imply that im cheap/not over him. And not replying may imply im rude..
Im confused ...