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Should I back off from this aqua man alitle bit?
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Hey,
So I've been with my aqua for about 4 years but known him for 20. One thing i clearly remember when we first started dating was, he sat me down and told me, "I really care about you but if you are going to start trying to keep tabs on me or trying to control me then we are not going to work". The result of this talk was that the day before he came to visit me, he left a hour later saying he was going to a friend house. That was about 3pm....I didn't hear from him until the very next afternoon. After leaving messages on his phone and texting him. He showed up at my door the next afternoon. My Aries temper flared and I started to lecture him on checking in with me and how worried I was. I've dated Aquarius before and I never knew why it wouldn't work out but he was the first to actually enlighten me of the Aquarian way. They love space....In fact they bask in it. He's an Air sign so he loves to come and go as he please. I think he's still interested bc he eventually gave in and Skype you even though he had homework to do. Most aqua's would've just clearly ignored you. They are very big on Personal Time so I would not try that again. I would recommend just focusing on yourself and let him chase you, he needs to know that you are independent as well as receptive. I say receptive because when does comeback from being aloof, he wants to come back to happy open arms.
So I've been with my aqua for about 4 years but known him for 20. One thing i clearly remember when we first started dating was, he sat me down and told me, "I really care about you but if you are going to start trying to keep tabs on me or trying to control me then we are not going to work". The result of this talk was that the day before he came to visit me, he left a hour later saying he was going to a friend house. That was about 3pm....I didn't hear from him until the very next afternoon. After leaving messages on his phone and texting him. He showed up at my door the next afternoon. My Aries temper flared and I started to lecture him on checking in with me and how worried I was. I've dated Aquarius before and I never knew why it wouldn't work out but he was the first to actually enlighten me of the Aquarian way. They love space....In fact they bask in it. He's an Air sign so he loves to come and go as he please. I think he's still interested bc he eventually gave in and Skype you even though he had homework to do. Most aqua's would've just clearly ignored you. They are very big on Personal Time so I would not try that again. I would recommend just focusing on yourself and let him chase you, he needs to know that you are independent as well as receptive. I say receptive because when does comeback from being aloof, he wants to come back to happy open arms.
TaurusGirlRas
"They cheat during their much needed space. Don't be stupid"
+ 100000
"They cheat during their much needed space. Don't be stupid"
+ 100000
Thank you very much, girl!
Posted by Arianlotus0214
Hey,
So I've been with my aqua for about 4 years but known him for 20. One thing i clearly remember when we first started dating was, he sat me down and told me, "I really care about you but if you are going to start trying to keep tabs on me or trying to control me then we are not going to work". The result of this talk was that the day before he came to visit me, he left a hour later saying he was going to a friend house. That was about 3pm....I didn't hear from him until the very next afternoon. After leaving messages on his phone and texting him. He showed up at my door the next afternoon. My Aries temper flared and I started to lecture him on checking in with me and how worried I was. I've dated Aquarius before and I never knew why it wouldn't work out but he was the first to actually enlighten me of the Aquarian way. They love space....In fact they bask in it. He's an Air sign so he loves to come and go as he please. I think he's still interested bc he eventually gave in and Skype you even though he had homework to do. Most aqua's would've just clearly ignored you. They are very big on Personal Time so I would not try that again. I would recommend just focusing on yourself and let him chase you, he needs to know that you are independent as well as receptive. I say receptive because when does comeback from being aloof, he wants to come back to happy open arms.
My aqua would rather text or talk in person instead of talking on the phone. (Me too, to be honest).
If he doesn't like talking on the phone, stop calling him.
If he doesn't like talking on the phone, stop calling him.
Posted by febyPosted by TaurusGirlRas
They cheat during their much needed space. Don't be stupid
Not always true but even when it is I think every sign does this. If it's sketchy it's sketchy.click to expand
+1
.. so should I just wait for him to contact me from now on then?
Posted by HuldraPosted by TaurusGirlRas
They cheat during their much needed space. Don't be stupid
You're an idiot.
@OP, missing is one thing, obsessing and focusing all of your sources of happiness on one man is another thing. It's fucking draining and nobody likes it. Find something to do rather than constantly being married to your phone.click to expand
Posted by Huldra
Avoid adopting the popular "if he needs me he will contact me, otherwise hes not worth my time" attitude, but don't bug the guy if he's working on his thesis... a man has a job to do, career is important. Keep in touch, just don't nag. Women usually either nag excessively or play hard to get, and it backfires in both instances. Just be yourself and drop a sweet word now and then. But don't "hang on his neck". Your life shouldn't revolve around a man, and his shouldn't revolve around yours. That's not a partnership.
Some pretty awesome advice right there ^^.
Posted by truecapPosted by Huldra
Avoid adopting the popular "if he needs me he will contact me, otherwise hes not worth my time" attitude, but don't bug the guy if he's working on his thesis... a man has a job to do, career is important. Keep in touch, just don't nag. Women usually either nag excessively or play hard to get, and it backfires in both instances. Just be yourself and drop a sweet word now and then. But don't "hang on his neck". Your life shouldn't revolve around a man, and his shouldn't revolve around yours. That's not a partnership.
Some pretty awesome advice right there ^^.click to expand
Agreed
Posted by 1thgirls
Well, I feel like I'm too affectionate to my aqua date recently such as.. I texted him today first after he didn't text me a whole day.
He asked me, "missing me already?"
So I said, "Yes! hahaha. And I asked him if I can call him right now... His answer was "I'm going to take a shower now"
So I told him to talk to me before getting shower bc I was about to drive. But his answer was still the same. So I told him to call me when he's done.
He texted me "done" 30 mins later. So I asked him to skype with me (which finally he did!)
We talked for 7-8 mins. He looked so busy doing his school work while skyping with me. So I decided to hang up.
Idk if I screw up everything to this aqua man.. I feel like I shouldn't show him much that I miss him.
He's working on his master's thesis lately... so I don't want to bother him by texting him alot. Most of time, I always wait for him to initiate the text, but not tonight.
So... should I back off from this aqua guy alittle bit by not texting him and give him some space?
It's kinda hurt me when I have to ask him everytime if I can call him. He is a person who doesn't like calling at all and prefer texting instead. He does this to everybody.
Thanks guys!
P.S. he's Aqua sun, Pisces moon and pisces venus
I'm libra sun, leo moon, libra venus
Maybe you need to get a job or do something to keep yourself busy instead of constantly picking up your phone and ruining your relationship with it....
Its so much better to be in a relationship with an aqua when you don't talk for a while and then meet up again because we will be more happy to see you.....If someone was texting me and calling me constantly id be thinking "oh fuck now I gotta see this bitch" and it would be fun when I meet up....
please take his feelings into account and respect them, even though you're not a mind reader you can at least read the hints.
he suggestion! I have a job now too. But when I always miss you after getting done from job.
Also, he texted me last night to wish my hockey team win... I replied him back but no respond from him for a whole night.
I'm trying not to be clingy/needy so I didn't initiate any texts after that until he texts me again.
Is it normal for aqua man to initiate the text and gone? Should I be worried that he might lose interested on me?
Thanks!
Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11Posted by 1thgirls
Well, I feel like I'm too affectionate to my aqua date recently such as.. I texted him today first after he didn't text me a whole day.
He asked me, "missing me already?"
So I said, "Yes! hahaha. And I asked him if I can call him right now... His answer was "I'm going to take a shower now"
So I told him to talk to me before getting shower bc I was about to drive. But his answer was still the same. So I told him to call me when he's done.
He texted me "done" 30 mins later. So I asked him to skype with me (which finally he did!)
We talked for 7-8 mins. He looked so busy doing his school work while skyping with me. So I decided to hang up.
Idk if I screw up everything to this aqua man.. I feel like I shouldn't show him much that I miss him.
He's working on his master's thesis lately... so I don't want to bother him by texting him alot. Most of time, I always wait for him to initiate the text, but not tonight.
So... should I back off from this aqua guy alittle bit by not texting him and give him some space?
It's kinda hurt me when I have to ask him everytime if I can call him. He is a person who doesn't like calling at all and prefer texting instead. He does this to everybody.
Thanks guys!
P.S. he's Aqua sun, Pisces moon and pisces venus
I'm libra sun, leo moon, libra venus
click to expand
Maybe you need to get a job or do something to keep yourself busy instead of constantly picking up your phone and ruining your relationship with it....
Its so much better to be in a relationship with an aqua when you don't talk for a while and then meet up again because we will be more happy to see you.....If someone was texting me and calling me constantly id be thinking "oh fuck now I gotta see this bitch" and it would be fun when I meet up....
please take his feelings into
Thank you!! can I ask you some questions?
How often I should text him to keep in touch and not look like I nag him or play hard to get?
He texted me last night wishing my hockey team to win but he didn't reply to my respond at all! So I won't text him until he texts me again. Is it a good move?
How often I should text him to keep in touch and not look like I nag him or play hard to get?
He texted me last night wishing my hockey team to win but he didn't reply to my respond at all! So I won't text him until he texts me again. Is it a good move?
Posted by Huldra
Avoid adopting the popular "if he needs me he will contact me, otherwise hes not worth my time" attitude, but don't bug the guy if he's working on his thesis... a man has a job to do, career is important. Keep in touch, just don't nag. Women usually either nag excessively or play hard to get, and it backfires in both instances. Just be yourself and drop a sweet word now and then. But don't "hang on his neck". Your life shouldn't revolve around a man, and his shouldn't revolve around yours. That's not a partnership.
Seems like he's just texting you enough to string you along...doing the bare minimal.
I know 😢
That hurts me
That hurts me
Posted by truecap
Seems like he's just texting you enough to string you along...doing the bare minimal.
hahah.. thanks for understanding me. Actually, I never ask him why he doesn't reply to me. It was once in a while that I wanna call and hear his nice.. and yes, it happened 2 days ago that I skyped with him..
So.. after a really short text from him and my respond yesterday, he doesn't text or contact me today AT ALL! So I don't text/call him today either bc I respect his space and time.
Do I do the right thing to this aqua now? Is it normal for aqua guy not contacting me? He never done this to me though.
So.. after a really short text from him and my respond yesterday, he doesn't text or contact me today AT ALL! So I don't text/call him today either bc I respect his space and time.
Do I do the right thing to this aqua now? Is it normal for aqua guy not contacting me? He never done this to me though.
Posted by Huldra
But I get you, OP, I used to be the needy "Y u no reply to me" girl, until I got to be on the receiving end and saw just how annoying and exhausting it was. It also did not feel like "love". It felt like the other person needed a babysitter, or their very existence completely depended on me answering within the next half an hour.
I'm not an aqua and I don't know any aquas, so I'm writing this just as a post from one human being to another human being.
"I texted him today first after he didn't text me a whole day"
"So I told him to call me when he's done."
"He texted me "done" 30 mins later. So I asked him to skype with me (which finally he did!)
We talked for 7-8 mins."
"I don't want to bother him by texting him alot"
"Most of time, I always wait for him to initiate the text"
"So... should I back off from this aqua guy alittle bit by not texting him and give him some space?"
"... so should I just wait for him to contact me from now on then?"
"he texted me last night to wish my hockey team win... I replied him back but no respond from him for a whole night."
"I didn't initiate any texts after that until he texts me again.
"How often I should text him to keep in touch and not look like I nag him or play hard to get?"
"but he didn't reply to my respond at all! So I won't text him until he texts me again. Is it a good move?"
"after a really short text from him and my respond yesterday, he doesn't text or contact me today AT ALL!"
"So I don't text/call him today either bc I respect his space and time."
"Do I do the right thing to this aqua now? Is it normal for aqua guy not contacting me?"
Seems too much of your life revolves around your(his and yours) texting habits and which texting strategies you should or should not adapt. I'm actually worried about you.
I'm not sure, but I seem to remember another post you wrote about how to contact a very busy man...or something like it(sorry, I don't remember exactly) and I seem to remember(again, I may be wrong)him having said to you that he would be quite busy for a while with his thesis, which I can understand. With this in mind, I would back off for a while to give him and you some space. Again, I don't know any aquas, but from one person to another, you need to lift your eyes off that phone of yours, if only for for a while. There's a beautiful world out there, and if he loves you, he's not going anywhere.🙂
And also: I'm not even sure you need our advice as much as you may think - just go with your gut feeling. If you doubt that it's a good idea to text him - don't text him. When you feel it's right - do it.
Imo
"I texted him today first after he didn't text me a whole day"
"So I told him to call me when he's done."
"He texted me "done" 30 mins later. So I asked him to skype with me (which finally he did!)
We talked for 7-8 mins."
"I don't want to bother him by texting him alot"
"Most of time, I always wait for him to initiate the text"
"So... should I back off from this aqua guy alittle bit by not texting him and give him some space?"
"... so should I just wait for him to contact me from now on then?"
"he texted me last night to wish my hockey team win... I replied him back but no respond from him for a whole night."
"I didn't initiate any texts after that until he texts me again.
"How often I should text him to keep in touch and not look like I nag him or play hard to get?"
"but he didn't reply to my respond at all! So I won't text him until he texts me again. Is it a good move?"
"after a really short text from him and my respond yesterday, he doesn't text or contact me today AT ALL!"
"So I don't text/call him today either bc I respect his space and time."
"Do I do the right thing to this aqua now? Is it normal for aqua guy not contacting me?"
Seems too much of your life revolves around your(his and yours) texting habits and which texting strategies you should or should not adapt. I'm actually worried about you.
I'm not sure, but I seem to remember another post you wrote about how to contact a very busy man...or something like it(sorry, I don't remember exactly) and I seem to remember(again, I may be wrong)him having said to you that he would be quite busy for a while with his thesis, which I can understand. With this in mind, I would back off for a while to give him and you some space. Again, I don't know any aquas, but from one person to another, you need to lift your eyes off that phone of yours, if only for for a while. There's a beautiful world out there, and if he loves you, he's not going anywhere.🙂
And also: I'm not even sure you need our advice as much as you may think - just go with your gut feeling. If you doubt that it's a good idea to text him - don't text him. When you feel it's right - do it.
Imo
thank you for your advice...
I know he's busy from his thesis. But if I was him, doesn't matter how busy I am... I still try to at least text or call my gf maybe once a day to talk with her.
But he doesn't do anything and gone for 2 days (and maybe 3 days or more than that).
I have no idea what should I do. It's my 1st time dating someone.
Some of my friends told me to confront him that I don't like the way he treats me like not contact me at all.
Someone told me that I should wait until he contacts me.
Someone told me that I should wait until tomorrow. If he still doesn't contact me then I should text/call him to see how he is.
I don't really know what should I do to this aquarius.... really.
People in the website said that they should give aquarius guys space... wait until they contact you. Is it a right move then?
Thank you!
I know he's busy from his thesis. But if I was him, doesn't matter how busy I am... I still try to at least text or call my gf maybe once a day to talk with her.
But he doesn't do anything and gone for 2 days (and maybe 3 days or more than that).
I have no idea what should I do. It's my 1st time dating someone.
Some of my friends told me to confront him that I don't like the way he treats me like not contact me at all.
Someone told me that I should wait until he contacts me.
Someone told me that I should wait until tomorrow. If he still doesn't contact me then I should text/call him to see how he is.
I don't really know what should I do to this aquarius.... really.
People in the website said that they should give aquarius guys space... wait until they contact you. Is it a right move then?
Thank you!
Posted by HappyCapper
I'm not an aqua and I don't know any aquas, so I'm writing this just as a post from one human being to another human being.
"I texted him today first after he didn't text me a whole day"
"So I told him to call me when he's done."
"He texted me "done" 30 mins later. So I asked him to skype with me (which finally he did!)
We talked for 7-8 mins."
"I don't want to bother him by texting him alot"
"Most of time, I always wait for him to initiate the text"
"So... should I back off from this aqua guy alittle bit by not texting him and give him some space?"
"... so should I just wait for him to contact me from now on then?"
"he texted me last night to wish my hockey team win... I replied him back but no respond from him for a whole night."
"I didn't initiate any texts after that until he texts me again.
"How often I should text him to keep in touch and not look like I nag him or play hard to get?"
"but he didn't reply to my respond at all! So I won't text him until he texts me again. Is it a good move?"
"after a really short text from him and my respond yesterday, he doesn't text or contact me today AT ALL!"
"So I don't text/call him today either bc I respect his space and time."
"Do I do the right thing to this aqua now? Is it normal for aqua guy not contacting me?"
Seems too much of your life revolves around your(his and yours) texting habits and which texting strategies you should or should not adapt. I'm actually worried about you.
I'm not sure, but I seem to remember another post you wrote abou
So could you give me suggestion what should I do pls?
Should I contact him or wait until he contact me? It's been 2 days and it's driving me NUTS!! 😭
Should I contact him or wait until he contact me? It's been 2 days and it's driving me NUTS!! 😭
Posted by Huldra
"It's my 1st time dating someone."
Oh man...
Yeah, most of us learn the hard way a few times, before landing a goody.
Ultimately, it's not about what we think. If you feel that it's imortant to you that you keep in touch every day, then that's your choice, and if he is not on the same page, then maybe you shouldn't be together. Maybe take this as an oportunity to figure out what you want and what is acceptable to you. And yes, we all go a little crazy in this area of life at times - comes with the package. 🙂
...and do me a favor and look back at this thread a year or two from now - it's gonna make your day. 🙂
...and do me a favor and look back at this thread a year or two from now - it's gonna make your day. 🙂
Thanks guys!
It's been 3 days! 3 DAYS! that he disappear on me.
It never happened before... 1 day is the most.
I'm so upset. One of his friends told me that yesterday, he was with him, then my date went to play badminton with friends in the afternoon, and had a potluck with his friends at night.
I thought he's busy doing his thesis (that's what he told me that he will be busy doing his thesis until April)...
And he didn't even have a minute to contact me.
I'm so upset.
I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should contact him act like nothing happen or leave him alone....
😭
It's been 3 days! 3 DAYS! that he disappear on me.
It never happened before... 1 day is the most.
I'm so upset. One of his friends told me that yesterday, he was with him, then my date went to play badminton with friends in the afternoon, and had a potluck with his friends at night.
I thought he's busy doing his thesis (that's what he told me that he will be busy doing his thesis until April)...
And he didn't even have a minute to contact me.
I'm so upset.
I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should contact him act like nothing happen or leave him alone....
😭
Posted by Huldra
But I get you, OP, I used to be the needy "Y u no reply to me" girl, until I got to be on the receiving end and saw just how annoying and exhausting it was. It also did not feel like "love". It felt like the other person needed a babysitter, or their very existence completely depended on me answering within the next half an hour.
Good point. I've been there too.
Posted by 1thgirls
thank you for your advice...
I know he's busy from his thesis. But if I was him, doesn't matter how busy I am... I still try to at least text or call my gf maybe once a day to talk with her.
But he doesn't do anything and gone for 2 days (and maybe 3 days or more than that).
I have no idea what should I do. It's my 1st time dating someone.
Some of my friends told me to confront him that I don't like the way he treats me like not contact me at all.
Someone told me that I should wait until he contacts me.
Someone told me that I should wait until tomorrow. If he still doesn't contact me then I should text/call him to see how he is.
I don't really know what should I do to this aquarius.... really.
People in the website said that they should give aquarius guys space... wait until they contact you. Is it a right move then?
Thank you!
Posted by HappyCapper
I'm not an aqua and I don't know any aquas, so I'm writing this just as a post from one human being to another human being.
"I texted him today first after he didn't text me a whole day"
"So I told him to call me when he's done."
"He texted me "done" 30 mins later. So I asked him to skype with me (which finally he did!)
We talked for 7-8 mins."
"I don't want to bother him by texting him alot"
"Most of time, I always wait for him to initiate the text"
"So... should I back off from this aqua guy alittle bit by not texting him and give him some space?"
"... so should I just wait for him to contact me from now on then?"
"he texted me last night to wish my hockey team win... I replied him back but no respond from him for a whole night."
"I didn't initiate any texts after that until he texts me again.
"How often I should text him to keep in touch and not look like I nag him or play hard to get?"
"but he didn't reply to my respond at all! So I won't text him until he texts me again. Is it a good move?"
"after a really short text from him and my respond yesterday, he doesn't text or contact me today AT ALL!"
"So I don't text/call him today either bc I respect his space and time."
"Do I do the right thing to this aqua now? Is it normal for aqua guy not contacting me?"
Seems too much of your life revolves around your(his and yours) texting habits and which texting strategies you should or should not adapt. I'
Wait.
See, if you're the one doing all the contact, then it's hard to guage how much they're into you. I believe the man should make 75% of the initial contact. Even now after I've been in my relationship for three years. If a man is into you, he'll contact you fairly often, if he's not, then he doesn't. So one of the ways you can tell if they like you is if they contact you.
Hope that makes sense.
See, if you're the one doing all the contact, then it's hard to guage how much they're into you. I believe the man should make 75% of the initial contact. Even now after I've been in my relationship for three years. If a man is into you, he'll contact you fairly often, if he's not, then he doesn't. So one of the ways you can tell if they like you is if they contact you.
Hope that makes sense.
Posted by 1thgirls
Thanks guys!
It's been 3 days! 3 DAYS! that he disappear on me.
It never happened before... 1 day is the most.
I'm so upset. One of his friends told me that yesterday, he was with him, then my date went to play badminton with friends in the afternoon, and had a potluck with his friends at night.
I thought he's busy doing his thesis (that's what he told me that he will be busy doing his thesis until April)...
And he didn't even have a minute to contact me.
I'm so upset.
I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should contact him act like nothing happen or leave him alone....
😭
Welcome to the world of aquarius. 😛
Anyways, aquas are very friend oriented. sometimes their significant other feels left out because they like to do things with their friends. Friends have been with them longer and friends are important.
He needs to blow of steam from his thesis and playing badmitton or whatever is physicial and releases the stress more so than sitting around texting a girl. I'm sorry, don't mean that hurtful, but it is truthful.
And, from what I've understood, this is a long distance relationship and you don't have the girlfriend title yet. I could be wrong.
So, instead of sitting by your phone, go do things with your own friends. Spend some time with your hobbies and don't place a time frame on his contact. Don't focus on him. Live your life. Get so busy that you don't even notice he hasn't texted.
*blow OFF steam*
ou're right. I'm trying to be busy with myself, works, family and friends as much as possible...
But you know, I still keep thinking about him.
It's been 4 days.4 DAYS!! that he's gone...
And I haven't contacted him either.
Hopefully, he doesn't find a new 'girl' and dump me (that's why he's ignoring me).
Posted by truecapPosted by 1thgirls
Thanks guys!
It's been 3 days! 3 DAYS! that he disappear on me.
It never happened before... 1 day is the most.
I'm so upset. One of his friends told me that yesterday, he was with him, then my date went to play badminton with friends in the afternoon, and had a potluck with his friends at night.
I thought he's busy doing his thesis (that's what he told me that he will be busy doing his thesis until April)...
And he didn't even have a minute to contact me.
I'm so upset.
I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should contact him act like nothing happen or leave him alone....
😭
Welcome to the world of aquarius. 😛
Anyways, aquas are very friend oriented. sometimes their significant other feels left out because they like to do things with their friends. Friends have been with them longer and friends are important.
He needs to blow of steam from his thesis and playing badmitton or whatever is physicial and releases the stress more so than sitting around texting a girl. I'm sorry, don't mean that hurtful, but it is truthful.
And, from what I've understood, this is a long distance relationship and you don't have the girlfriend title yet. I could be wrong.
So, instead of sitting by your phone, go do things with your own friends. Spend some time with your hobbies and don't place a time frame on his contact. Don't focus on him. Live your life. Get so busy that you don't even notice he hasn't texted.click to expand
jesus fucking christ. if i were a man i'd hate you, OP. you're so fucking desperate, and he sounds like he don't give a fuck about you.
let me tell you straight, girl, that men, no matter the sign, will let you know if he wants you and you won't be sitting here on a messageboard craving and crying for his attention.
you should step back and look at yourself, how pathetic you're acting. It's gross!!!! I hate to be the bearer of bad news but goddamit, it's too much, seeing how desperate you are.
let me tell you straight, girl, that men, no matter the sign, will let you know if he wants you and you won't be sitting here on a messageboard craving and crying for his attention.
you should step back and look at yourself, how pathetic you're acting. It's gross!!!! I hate to be the bearer of bad news but goddamit, it's too much, seeing how desperate you are.
in fact, if he's just stringing you along, he's a fucking jerk for letting you creepy crawl all over the place over him.
and honestly i'd hate myself!!!!! for acting like yourself. UGH!!! *gets rope*
and honestly i'd hate myself!!!!! for acting like yourself. UGH!!! *gets rope*
Posted by truecapPosted by 1thgirls
Thanks guys!
It's been 3 days! 3 DAYS! that he disappear on me.
It never happened before... 1 day is the most.
I'm so upset. One of his friends told me that yesterday, he was with him, then my date went to play badminton with friends in the afternoon, and had a potluck with his friends at night.
I thought he's busy doing his thesis (that's what he told me that he will be busy doing his thesis until April)...
And he didn't even have a minute to contact me.
I'm so upset.
I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should contact him act like nothing happen or leave him alone....
😭
Welcome to the world of aquarius. 😛
Anyways, aquas are very friend oriented. sometimes their significant other feels left out because they like to do things with their friends. Friends have been with them longer and friends are important.
He needs to blow of steam from his thesis and playing badmitton or whatever is physicial and releases the stress more so than sitting around texting a girl. I'm sorry, don't mean that hurtful, but it is truthful.
And, from what I've understood, this is a long distance relationship and you don't have the girlfriend title yet. I could be wrong.
So, instead of sitting by your phone, go do things with your own friends. Spend some time with your hobbies and don't place a time frame on his contact. Don't focus on him. Live your life. Get so busy that you don't even notice he hasn't texted.click to expand
is this how your aquarius man acts, truecap—
because i was with an aqua man, 10th house packed btw. two placements in aqua, with cap merc (singularity) but still a strong 10th. And he NEVER took his friends over his partner. this blah blah over friends deal is bullshit to the max. and honestly in my personal experience it was NEVER like that. If a guy is going to his friends over YOU, then you have a big problem.
and that aqua ex was a real jerk. a real asshole, but he still NEVER took friends over his partner. NEVER.
Posted by lisabethur8Posted by truecapPosted by 1thgirls
Thanks guys!
It's been 3 days! 3 DAYS! that he disappear on me.
It never happened before... 1 day is the most.
I'm so upset. One of his friends told me that yesterday, he was with him, then my date went to play badminton with friends in the afternoon, and had a potluck with his friends at night.
I thought he's busy doing his thesis (that's what he told me that he will be busy doing his thesis until April)...
And he didn't even have a minute to contact me.
I'm so upset.
I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should contact him act like nothing happen or leave him alone....
😭
Welcome to the world of aquarius. 😛
Anyways, aquas are very friend oriented. sometimes their significant other feels left out because they like to do things with their friends. Friends have been with them longer and friends are important.
He needs to blow of steam from his thesis and playing badmitton or whatever is physicial and releases the stress more so than sitting around texting a girl. I'm sorry, don't mean that hurtful, but it is truthful.
And, from what I've understood, this is a long distance relationship and you don't have the girlfriend title yet. I could be wrong.
So, instead of sitting by your phone, go do things with your own friends. Spend some time with your hobbies and don't place a time frame on his contact. Don't focus on him. Live your life. Get so busy that you don't even notice he hasn't texted.
is this how your aquarius man acts, truecap—
because i was with an aqua man, 10th house packed btw. two placements in aqua, with cap merc (singularity) but still a strong 10th. And he NEVER took his friends over his partner. this blah blah over friends deal is bullshit to the max. and honestly in my personal experience it was NEVER like that. If a guy is going to his friends over YOU, then you have a big problem.click to expand
He doesn't act like that now. Only the first six months, really and it was his family rather than friends, that he spent time with. After that time frame, we became more serious, and I started hanging out with his family with him.
I'm always encouraging him to do guy things with the
guys. I think boy time is important! I make sure I get my girls time, I feel like he should do the same with the boys.
Posted by truecap
guys. I think boy time is important! I make sure I get my girls time, I feel like he should do the same with the boys.
Exactly. You want him to be happy, right? And I want to be happy too.
Posted by HuldraPosted by truecap
guys. I think boy time is important! I make sure I get my girls time, I feel like he should do the same with the boys.
That's the aspect I really enjoy in relationship with the Aquarius: we are exclusive and are a genuine couple, but at the same time we don't cage each other and can have our private or family/friends time without any creeping suspicious from either of us. And then rejoin afterwards, spend our time together, talk about latest happenings, learn from each other, have leisure time, etc etc.click to expand
I like it too! My exhusband used to bug me to come home early on girls night, he couldn't stand it. Aqua is like have fun, have some drinks, stay up late, I'll talk to ya tomorrow! So much freedom with an aquarius. He gets his freedom, too, to do what he wants to do.
I don't mind he has 'guy time' with his friends... but the point that he doesn't even contact me for 5 days is making me upset.
I know aquarius like freedom and I'm giving him space and time now.
But I think if a guy is serious and care about you, he should at least contact me, not make we wait around for 5 days like this.
No even 1 text asking me how am I...
I know aquarius like freedom and I'm giving him space and time now.
But I think if a guy is serious and care about you, he should at least contact me, not make we wait around for 5 days like this.
No even 1 text asking me how am I...
Posted by truecap
guys. I think boy time is important! I make sure I get my girls time, I feel like he should do the same with the boys.
Then maybe he doesn't care.
And if you are long distance...that's a factor too you know.
Listen to true cap and do your own thing.
he will either be there or he wont.
And if you are long distance...that's a factor too you know.
Listen to true cap and do your own thing.
he will either be there or he wont.
Thanks everyone!!!!
I'm trying to be busy with myself, friends, work, family...
But you know I'm still thinking about him, but I feel like I'm getting stronger.
My thought about why he disappear on me maybe from last week that I told him I missed him after he asked me "Missing me already?"
Our conversations:
Me: "What are you doing? 🙂"
Him: "Missing me already?"
Me: "Yes! hahaha"
Him: "Do not get addict to it, ok?" (He always said this to me in a joking way)
Me: "haha.. I'm calling you now ok?"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "talk with me first plss 🙂"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "ok 😢 call me when you're done, ok?"
30 mins later
Him: "done"
Me: "skype ok? I'm outside right now" (I don't like talking on the phone with him at home.. and he knows it)
Him: "ok wait"
Me: "sure"
and we skyped for 7 mins, but he was busy doing his work a whole time while we're skyping.
After that, he disappears for almost a week now 😢
I'm trying to be busy with myself, friends, work, family...
But you know I'm still thinking about him, but I feel like I'm getting stronger.
My thought about why he disappear on me maybe from last week that I told him I missed him after he asked me "Missing me already?"
Our conversations:
Me: "What are you doing? 🙂"
Him: "Missing me already?"
Me: "Yes! hahaha"
Him: "Do not get addict to it, ok?" (He always said this to me in a joking way)
Me: "haha.. I'm calling you now ok?"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "talk with me first plss 🙂"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "ok 😢 call me when you're done, ok?"
30 mins later
Him: "done"
Me: "skype ok? I'm outside right now" (I don't like talking on the phone with him at home.. and he knows it)
Him: "ok wait"
Me: "sure"
and we skyped for 7 mins, but he was busy doing his work a whole time while we're skyping.
After that, he disappears for almost a week now 😢
ppearing bc I pushed him too much... Am I right then?
Posted by HuldraPosted by 1thgirls
Thanks everyone!!!!
I'm trying to be busy with myself, friends, work, family...
But you know I'm still thinking about him, but I feel like I'm getting stronger.
My thought about why he disappear on me maybe from last week that I told him I missed him after he asked me "Missing me already?"
Our conversations:
Me: "What are you doing? 🙂"
Him: "Missing me already?"
Me: "Yes! hahaha"
Him: "Do not get addict to it, ok?" (He always said this to me in a joking way)
Me: "haha.. I'm calling you now ok?"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "talk with me first plss 🙂"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "ok 😢 call me when you're done, ok?"
30 mins later
Him: "done"
Me: "skype ok? I'm outside right now" (I don't like talking on the phone with him at home.. and he knows it)
Him: "ok wait"
Me: "sure"
and we skyped for 7 mins, but he was busy doing his work a whole time while we're skyping.
After that, he disappears for almost a week now 😢
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jeez. don't you have any shame for yourself?
plus, you're not the brightest bulb in the tool box if you keep asking if he's disappearing.
what do you think, sherlock?
what do you think, sherlock?
Posted by 1thgirls
Thanks everyone!!!!
I'm trying to be busy with myself, friends, work, family...
But you know I'm still thinking about him, but I feel like I'm getting stronger.
My thought about why he disappear on me maybe from last week that I told him I missed him after he asked me "Missing me already?"
Our conversations:
Me: "What are you doing? 🙂"
Him: "Missing me already?"
Me: "Yes! hahaha"
Him: "Do not get addict to it, ok?" (He always said this to me in a joking way)
Me: "haha.. I'm calling you now ok?"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "talk with me first plss 🙂"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "ok 😢 call me when you're done, ok?"
30 mins later
Him: "done"
Me: "skype ok? I'm outside right now" (I don't like talking on the phone with him at home.. and he knows it)
Him: "ok wait"
Me: "sure"
and we skyped for 7 mins, but he was busy doing his work a whole time while we're skyping.
After that, he disappears for almost a week now 😢
It was really, really pushy and seemed very needy.
Posted by papparazi
By giving space People here meant 2 3 day gap. One week is a strech for me . If your partner is not there when you want them then fuck that relationship . Relationship in order to be successful , both partners need to be happy . Its about compromise and communication .Does he realize he is hurting you ? Is he so stupid or ignorant that he cannot see you hurt or even worse he does not care ?
What she said ^^.
wat a Cling on
really regret it but it's my first time doing that bc I missed him so much. 😭
Posted by truecapPosted by 1thgirls
Thanks everyone!!!!
I'm trying to be busy with myself, friends, work, family...
But you know I'm still thinking about him, but I feel like I'm getting stronger.
My thought about why he disappear on me maybe from last week that I told him I missed him after he asked me "Missing me already?"
Our conversations:
Me: "What are you doing? 🙂"
Him: "Missing me already?"
Me: "Yes! hahaha"
Him: "Do not get addict to it, ok?" (He always said this to me in a joking way)
Me: "haha.. I'm calling you now ok?"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "talk with me first plss 🙂"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "ok 😢 call me when you're done, ok?"
30 mins later
Him: "done"
Me: "skype ok? I'm outside right now" (I don't like talking on the phone with him at home.. and he knows it)
Him: "ok wait"
Me: "sure"
and we skyped for 7 mins, but he was busy doing his work a whole time while we're skyping.
After that, he disappears for almost a week now 😢
It was really, really pushy and seemed very needy.click to expand
Posted by HuldraPosted by 1thgirls
Thanks everyone!!!!
I'm trying to be busy with myself, friends, work, family...
But you know I'm still thinking about him, but I feel like I'm getting stronger.
My thought about why he disappear on me maybe from last week that I told him I missed him after he asked me "Missing me already?"
Our conversations:
Me: "What are you doing? 🙂"
Him: "Missing me already?"
Me: "Yes! hahaha"
Him: "Do not get addict to it, ok?" (He always said this to me in a joking way)
Me: "haha.. I'm calling you now ok?"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "talk with me first plss 🙂"
Him: "I'm going to take a shower now"
Me: "ok 😢 call me when you're done, ok?"
30 mins later
Him: "done"
Me: "skype ok? I'm outside right now" (I don't like talking on the phone with him at home.. and he knows it)
Him: "ok wait"
Me: "sure"
and we skyped for 7 mins, but he was busy doing his work a whole time while we're skyping.
After that, he disappears for almost a week now 😢
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😄 😄 😄
Guys, I know I made a mistake. But it's my first time doing that..
And I really regret it. But.. it's not in the end of the world, right?
I missed him... I wanted to hear his voice after 3 weeks without talking on a phone with him.
I really regret it, and I'm blaming myself now that I'm the one who make him disappear on me 😢
And I really regret it. But.. it's not in the end of the world, right?
I missed him... I wanted to hear his voice after 3 weeks without talking on a phone with him.
I really regret it, and I'm blaming myself now that I'm the one who make him disappear on me 😢
Well, chalk it up as a life lesson learned. We all have done this stuff and learned the hard way.
No sense beating yourself up.
In the future, let the man miss YOU. 😉
No sense beating yourself up.
In the future, let the man miss YOU. 😉
And if he really wanted you, he wouldn't have disappeared. Better to know now, than later how he really feels. Know what I mean?
Lol!
updated:
he finally came back... like other aqua.. pretending nothing happens.
Texting me after a week and talk about my hockey team.
And of course, I didn't reply.
he finally came back... like other aqua.. pretending nothing happens.
Texting me after a week and talk about my hockey team.
And of course, I didn't reply.
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