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ave an Aquarius friend that comes to me for advice and while I usually have all the answers I don’t this time.

My aqua has been dating a Leo for about an year. They broke up a couple months into the relationship because he said he felt he should feel differently about her. He said he was bored when they weren’t actively trying to do something. Before he ended the relationship he cheated on her and she was aware, but that was not the reason for the breakup.

They remained friends and stayed in a gray area while he dated and had sex with other women. He met a Libra and shockingly told me he liked her even though they had only known each other for two months. He spent majority of his time talking to the libra, having sex with her, going on random trips, and even got a matching tattoo with her 🤦🏾‍♀️

He tried to end it with leo girl because he said his gut thinks it’s not gonna work. But then he went back and said He thinks he didn’t try hard enough with Leo girl to work things out. He said he has strong emotional feelings for the libra but has logical feelings for Leo girl. He aaid he wants to like her and wants to see if he puts more focus and effort into their relationship will it work. He said he wants Leo girl in his life as a friend but just doesn’t know if he would be happy long term with her as anything more. He knows it would work just doesn’t think he would be completely happy.

As for libra girl, he maintained complete honesty with her from the beginning and decided to end things with her because he felt like he couldn’t give her what she deserved at this point.

He told leo girl about everything and she still wants to work something out...but he’s STILL CONFUSED.

I didn’t know aquas were so indesicive. I thought that was my job lol. I’ve given him advice but at this point I don’t know how to guide him through this.

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Posted by Lioness18881
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Posted by Lioness18881
It's confusing more than indecisive. I think they don't

know what they want or what they want seems to always change. So they're confused and that makes everyone else confused. He's obviously hurting people in the process though.



You couldn't be more wrong about us.


My ex did it. Not about me but about big decisions in work or about buying a house always changing. He would come up with a new version of an idea everytime i spoke with him. I think they worry about making the right decision so they do get confused about what to do. It's even evident in the way people say Aquarius detatch to process. It's because they think too much instead of going with feelings. Feelings seem irrational so they try to apply the ligic but it contradicts the

feelings.
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Yes he seems to have a strong battle between his brain and feelings. But is actually a lot more emotional than he thinks lol. I’m a libra and he’s overwhelming me with how emotional he’s been lately lol.... and yes he has hurt both women from what he’s told me.
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Posted by Lioness18881
My ex did it. Not about me but about big decisions in work or about buying a house always changing. He would come up with a new version of an idea everytime i spoke with him.
That's because things are fluid and susceptible to changes in one's life, so the new version of the plan is merely a reflection of that. If you seek the "best way" and circumstances are changing the "best way" changes too.

Look at it from this way, he is fixed on getting a house, just not the way in which or when to get it. Or what kind of house....etc etc
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Posted by Catgirlpk
I believe both relationship need to run the test of time without he being actively involved in either.
We need to know the girls' decision too.
Why should it be only the aquarian man's decision hanging in the air?


It doesn't. You can call it quits anytime.
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Easier said than done. Although, to be fair, if he was as forthcoming with his thoughts and feelings to these women as he is with his friends...he prolly wouldn’t have this issue of deciding.

Sounds like he’s being vague enough with them to keep them on the hook. Super manipulative and self serving behavior imo.
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I don’t think leo girl is going anywhere she Has been cheated on, lied to, put on the back burner, all of the above..... she knows everything.... him and libra aren’t speaking at the moment but it hasn’t been that long. He said he felt like he couldn’t focus on figuring out if he liked Leo girl with libra still around because he really liked her and wasn’t able to truly focus on leo girl. And I was like ummmm ok. He did say he vauled leo girl and would risk losing leo before libra but is still unsure of what he wants from her after a year of dating...:,I personally just thinks he needs to be single. He doesn’t really like leo girl imo he just doesn’t wanna be the bad guy because she’s a nice girl and he took her virginity...and while he did like libra, she was a lot more mature than him and I don’t think he’s ready for her. He just needs to be single and find himself.