aquasnoz
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Violent outbursts of anger.
Hmm I probably wouldn't define it as shutting out it's rather I really can't work out what I want to say so I don't say anything! Unless of course if you push my buttons like she did if there's anything I hate it's being forced to say something I haven't finished processing in my mind.
Oh and no I'm not looking for forgiveness, I apologized for what I said before I bolted from her place but even right now thinking about it I still think she was being selfish and I did nothing wrong.
Oh and no I'm not looking for forgiveness, I apologized for what I said before I bolted from her place but even right now thinking about it I still think she was being selfish and I did nothing wrong.
My aqua has a bit of an anger issue. It's very easy to piss him off, so he's not like you, in that sense. If the train is late, he'll throw a fit, if I interrupt him, he's going to have a fit, etc. I've never seen him get super aggressive or anything, but he has said very mean things to me. In fact, even though I'm a forgiving person, there's one thing he said to me that I will never forgive him for. But, we try to stay away from that area. I mentioned before that he is very sharp with his words, also, and he knows how to hurt you. I generally leave the conversation if I know he's angry. It's a complete flip from my ex who never yelled and you could never tell if he was angry. I'm still getting used to it. My aqua isn't very cool-headed like they are said to be.
At least your sag buddy did something wrong, so you don't have to feel as bad about it. Haha. We all get mad at our friends, sometimes.
At least your sag buddy did something wrong, so you don't have to feel as bad about it. Haha. We all get mad at our friends, sometimes.
*waves at scenic*
I DO feel bad though, I hate confrontations. It's interesting for me to learn other Aquas can be peeved so easily! If anything people think I'm lazy or carefree when it comes to minor nuances.
In a nutshell. She invited me over under the pretense she needed my help on something and she needed someone to watch movies and play the new WoW Monopoly boardgame. Got there and bam she brought up some ancient history that I was working on. My mum had borrowed money from her behind my back when we were 18. Due to her circumstances she's lost her job from shoulder reconstruction and is in desperate need. I know it was my fault for not telling her but the money I saved up or any money that I earn goes back to my family, they've been out of work for 3 years now and I don't want my brother to lead my life. The money I was wanting to give back I had to use to organise a proper burial for my sister who recently passed away. I know it might've been my fault for not telling my friend about this but this was all organised before I lost my job and she losing hers. She knows exactly what has been going on with me since last year. The point where I snapped was that she said it's non of her concern because she needed the money.
I kept quiet I really did. I can see her side of the story perfectly but I felt it was unfair on me. I just didn't want to say anything until she kept pushing me to just say how I feel. Started off with me just saying "there's no way you won't be offended if I tell you how I feel this very second so there's no point saying it if it's going to start something".
Sigh sorry for throwing out a long story. Did I mention I hate confrontations!
I DO feel bad though, I hate confrontations. It's interesting for me to learn other Aquas can be peeved so easily! If anything people think I'm lazy or carefree when it comes to minor nuances.
In a nutshell. She invited me over under the pretense she needed my help on something and she needed someone to watch movies and play the new WoW Monopoly boardgame. Got there and bam she brought up some ancient history that I was working on. My mum had borrowed money from her behind my back when we were 18. Due to her circumstances she's lost her job from shoulder reconstruction and is in desperate need. I know it was my fault for not telling her but the money I saved up or any money that I earn goes back to my family, they've been out of work for 3 years now and I don't want my brother to lead my life. The money I was wanting to give back I had to use to organise a proper burial for my sister who recently passed away. I know it might've been my fault for not telling my friend about this but this was all organised before I lost my job and she losing hers. She knows exactly what has been going on with me since last year. The point where I snapped was that she said it's non of her concern because she needed the money.
I kept quiet I really did. I can see her side of the story perfectly but I felt it was unfair on me. I just didn't want to say anything until she kept pushing me to just say how I feel. Started off with me just saying "there's no way you won't be offended if I tell you how I feel this very second so there's no point saying it if it's going to start something".
Sigh sorry for throwing out a long story. Did I mention I hate confrontations!
You have a lot of stress on you and it was only a matter of time before something gave. If she truely is your BFF, she will forgive you. Don't apologize for what you got upset about, but maybe apologize for how you exploded on her. See the difference?
I did she came around to apologise too so I have to forgive her.
Now I find it interesting though seeing I have less than 2% fire element in my chart and being water dominant I think people are often taken back then they see me like this even those who've been so close to me.
Makes me think if it's more element related, moon and mercury both factored in.
Now I find it interesting though seeing I have less than 2% fire element in my chart and being water dominant I think people are often taken back then they see me like this even those who've been so close to me.
Makes me think if it's more element related, moon and mercury both factored in.
Take care of yourself, aquanoz. Getting irritable is a no-no. It's good you have dominant water and NO fire. Strong Fire can be really hell on a dominant air. If not balanced.
if it's toned down by water and earth it comes off different. If by lots of fire....that is NO good. Earth is a different feel. When I get upset, irritable, it's because it's a "trigger" of something. Like seeing a "red flag". Think: the bull! Since venus is dominant in my chart it's help me realise those trigger points. I'm very very much laid-back, easy going, but when I see something that irritates me, boom! Or if i had woken up from a bad dream - those really make me irritable. Thankfully it's calmed immediately by the softer elements in me. I'd hate to have dominant fire and dominant air in me if i had a bad child and didnt "heal" from it. that's just a scenerio. But gosh, it'd be horrible. Strong fire is aggression, too. Needs to expunge out of system.
but the sharpness are the words (air) coupled with judgmental (earth). Sorry, on earth elements. Sigh. I have strong earth in me and i noticed that i can be conflicted from non-judgy to judgy. Ugh. Thankfully the water side will be forgiving and also think of the positives and understand the suffering of human frailties. Cause we're all not perfect. No one is. The part of do not judge others, because you don't understand their lives, you cannot know the depth of their pain and sufferings. I believe too that that is part of the reason why earth is likened to a huge mountain = non moving and stable, and looks down from the top of the peak with arms akimbo as if you had done something terribly wrong and must be disciplined.
if it's toned down by water and earth it comes off different. If by lots of fire....that is NO good. Earth is a different feel. When I get upset, irritable, it's because it's a "trigger" of something. Like seeing a "red flag". Think: the bull! Since venus is dominant in my chart it's help me realise those trigger points. I'm very very much laid-back, easy going, but when I see something that irritates me, boom! Or if i had woken up from a bad dream - those really make me irritable. Thankfully it's calmed immediately by the softer elements in me. I'd hate to have dominant fire and dominant air in me if i had a bad child and didnt "heal" from it. that's just a scenerio. But gosh, it'd be horrible. Strong fire is aggression, too. Needs to expunge out of system.
but the sharpness are the words (air) coupled with judgmental (earth). Sorry, on earth elements. Sigh. I have strong earth in me and i noticed that i can be conflicted from non-judgy to judgy. Ugh. Thankfully the water side will be forgiving and also think of the positives and understand the suffering of human frailties. Cause we're all not perfect. No one is. The part of do not judge others, because you don't understand their lives, you cannot know the depth of their pain and sufferings. I believe too that that is part of the reason why earth is likened to a huge mountain = non moving and stable, and looks down from the top of the peak with arms akimbo as if you had done something terribly wrong and must be disciplined.
Posted by gumshoe3Posted by aquasnoz
Now I find it interesting though seeing I have less than 2% fire element in my chart and being water dominant I think people are often taken back then they see me like this even those who've been so close to me.
Makes me think if it's more element related, moon and mercury both factored in.
Interesting. I saw an old friend last night who has an Aqua moon. Like you, his chart is water-dominant (nearly 50% ) and he has very little fire in his chart (8% , if I remember correctly); he is the only person in my life who has ever truly frightened me when he loses his temper. Unpredictable, explosive, terrifying. His Mars is conjunct Uranus as well, so that might have something to do with it.
Also similar to your situation, we were involved romantically a very long time ago. Maybe that factors in, I'm not sure.
By the way, he blew his fuse, too- but for me, not at me. When it comes to their friends, solar or lunar Aquas really do become more emotional, in my experience. Especially if they feel their friends are being treated less than kindly.
"Don't apologize for what you got upset about, but maybe apologize for how you exploded on her. See the difference?" - truecap (I agree with this.)click to expand
My Aries sister, dominant water never explodes. well when she gets upset but slams the door and tells everyone not to bother her. That's the extent of her anger. It's quite harmless. However, I had an ex, who was dominant air and dominant fire (mars energy) so the uranus to mars, plus a terrible childhood triggered it.
Posted by gumshoe3Posted by lisabethur8Posted by gumshoe3Posted by aquasnoz
My Aries sister, dominant water never explodes. well when she gets upset but slams the door and tells everyone not to bother her. That's the extent of her anger. It's quite harmless. However, I had an ex, who was dominant air and dominant fire (mars energy) so the uranus to mars, plus a terrible childhood triggered it.
My temper is similar; it's hair-trigger but harmless. It really is comparable to a child's tantrum. When I'm emotionally wounded, that's an entirely different story.
My friend, the one I mentioned in my other post, it isn't anger but rage. Scary stuff.click to expand
EVERYONE has Uranus & Mars aspects and EVERY solar and lunar /mars and uranus/ can be bad and scary. It's in everyone's chart, and we know from researching plenty of murderers, they come in all shapes and sizes in the zodiac.
^^ i dont know why it did that.
anyway I said:
EVERYONE has Uranus & Mars aspects and EVERY solar and lunar /mars and uranus/ can be bad and scary. It's in everyone's chart, and we know from researching plenty of murderers, they come in all shapes and sizes in the zodiac.
It's how you come in here and point out aquanoz's dominant water and lack of fire, that was weird, as if your friend is compared to him. I don't think you mean that. And he's supposed to come in here and defend himself. When he's a completely different person. But it does come off negatively. I've been known to be negative too, probably mirroring others.
anyway I said:
EVERYONE has Uranus & Mars aspects and EVERY solar and lunar /mars and uranus/ can be bad and scary. It's in everyone's chart, and we know from researching plenty of murderers, they come in all shapes and sizes in the zodiac.
It's how you come in here and point out aquanoz's dominant water and lack of fire, that was weird, as if your friend is compared to him. I don't think you mean that. And he's supposed to come in here and defend himself. When he's a completely different person. But it does come off negatively. I've been known to be negative too, probably mirroring others.
^ Scary thought 😛
Earth is my second dominant element and I hear ya on the being judgmental then switching directly back to non-judgmental part. I wouldn't say I rage though but very 'snipey' if I could use that word to describe it? It's just that I go all out to avoid the confrontation and give people plenty of chances but once that line is crossed I'll let my sharp tongue loose because just given that moment what I say is directed at them as a person.
I usually would leave right after kinda snap myself back and remove myself from the situation again. I guess My Sag friend knows well how to handle this, she let me cool off for a while and came around with some cupcakes and 'poop' jokes.
Earth is my second dominant element and I hear ya on the being judgmental then switching directly back to non-judgmental part. I wouldn't say I rage though but very 'snipey' if I could use that word to describe it? It's just that I go all out to avoid the confrontation and give people plenty of chances but once that line is crossed I'll let my sharp tongue loose because just given that moment what I say is directed at them as a person.
I usually would leave right after kinda snap myself back and remove myself from the situation again. I guess My Sag friend knows well how to handle this, she let me cool off for a while and came around with some cupcakes and 'poop' jokes.
Posted by gumshoe3Posted by lisabethur8
^^ i dont know why it did that.
anyway I said:
EVERYONE has Uranus & Mars aspects and EVERY solar and lunar /mars and uranus/ can be bad and scary. It's in everyone's chart, and we know from researching plenty of murderers, they come in all shapes and sizes in the zodiac.
It's how you come in here and point out aquanoz's dominant water and lack of fire, that was weird, as if your friend is compared to him. I don't think you mean that. And he's supposed to come in here and defend himself. When he's a completely different person. But it does come off negatively. I've been known to be negative too, probably mirroring others.
You misread my post. That's not what I intended at all, and I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion. Either way, I leave it here.click to expand
well it's HOW you come in here and START off, "Interreeesssttinnng" I can hear your voice, dripping in sarcasm. Interressstinggg....you knooow there is this guy that is violent and he's my "friend" but it's okay if i bad talk him here anyway. And compare him to this guy.
Perhaps I read it wrong but I have met girls like you, looking down on others because their feelings got hurt so they come in here to say something to put "negativity" in the atmosphere.
Like I said, I may be wrong, but it's your INTENTIONS that were showing.
Hmm. This is concerning.
My Aqua has admitted to getting angry before. I won't put up with that shit. If he loses his temper at me, his ass is grass. What he does do, which pisses me off, is argue with me loudly in public. He's not exactly yelling, but it's so embarrassing when he sounds all controlling in public. >_> I have literally walked out the store/wherever, as if I didn't know him, which really pissed him off. lol..
I have an Aqua rising. I do get angry, but I never show it to people IRL. I'm Uranian dominant myself, BUT I do have a strong Saturn, too. SatSat doesn't let me embarrass myself by losing my marbles in front of people. I get snarky instead.
My parents were both Aquas...my mother had a BAD temper (or maybe she's just a normal Korean mom, hahaaa...) but my father is really chill.
Self-control is what it comes down to.
My Aqua has admitted to getting angry before. I won't put up with that shit. If he loses his temper at me, his ass is grass. What he does do, which pisses me off, is argue with me loudly in public. He's not exactly yelling, but it's so embarrassing when he sounds all controlling in public. >_> I have literally walked out the store/wherever, as if I didn't know him, which really pissed him off. lol..
I have an Aqua rising. I do get angry, but I never show it to people IRL. I'm Uranian dominant myself, BUT I do have a strong Saturn, too. SatSat doesn't let me embarrass myself by losing my marbles in front of people. I get snarky instead.
My parents were both Aquas...my mother had a BAD temper (or maybe she's just a normal Korean mom, hahaaa...) but my father is really chill.
Self-control is what it comes down to.
Oh it's okay I didn't get that vibe at all! We'll just all call it a miscommunication 😄
It's interesting for me to be able to relate part of myself to your friend and also how I view things similarly like lisabeth do. Not sure if it's the greatest way to deal with confrontations on my behalf I can only imagine it must be frustrating for others dealing with me.
It's interesting for me to be able to relate part of myself to your friend and also how I view things similarly like lisabeth do. Not sure if it's the greatest way to deal with confrontations on my behalf I can only imagine it must be frustrating for others dealing with me.
^^ hmmm Aries Sun /Venus Aries = jump in without thinking first. Lacking sensitivity.
Capricorn moon & mars = negative side, judgmental.
Capricorn moon & mars = negative side, judgmental.
Posted by aquasnoz
Oh it's okay I didn't get that vibe at all! We'll just all call it a miscommunication 😄
It's interesting for me to be able to relate part of myself to your friend and also how I view things similarly like lisabeth do. Not sure if it's the greatest way to deal with confrontations on my behalf I can only imagine it must be frustrating for others dealing with me.
I'm very much like a Hermione Granger on some days. Snippy. There are plenty of men who would HATE me because I am this way. I have a very soft and moody side and cries, and there are days like this, that I'm snippity and will go Granger on you. I usually refrain, but if it's provoked, and people's intentions are bad, I'm not going to sit there and take it. Good intentions are absolutely different.
Aquasnoz, sorry to hear what happened. You are under a lot of stress and sometimes even the slightest thing or things said in the wrong tone can set you off. Anyone that has emotions would react the way you did. Besides, you did give her warning....she just didn't give you the space needed. Aquas are detached and aloof but I do believe that's just a shell, personally I think they are emotional beings inside. I'm glad to hear you and your Sag friend have patched things up (somewhat). Give yourself some space and work through the process, when you're ready I'm sure you'll know exactly what to do and how to approach issues head on. Aquas are good at that. Chin up, Aquasnoz. I wish you the best of luck.
Thanks PetiteSadge!
And don't worry lisabeth you'll always be like loony I mean luna lovegood to me! On that note I'll just go ahead and say I'm feeling lots of love and I love you all.
*prepares the inner mass murderer*
TOTES kidding! But really thank you guys! I'm in a really weird mood today.
And don't worry lisabeth you'll always be like loony I mean luna lovegood to me! On that note I'll just go ahead and say I'm feeling lots of love and I love you all.
*prepares the inner mass murderer*
TOTES kidding! But really thank you guys! I'm in a really weird mood today.
Posted by aquasnoz
Thanks PetiteSadge!
And don't worry lisabeth you'll always be like loony I mean luna lovegood to me! On that note I'll just go ahead and say I'm feeling lots of love and I love you all.
*prepares the inner mass murderer*
TOTES kidding! But really thank you guys! I'm in a really weird mood today.
Lol Sorry if i got Hermione on here (sensitive and judgmental) Like I said, I do have strong earth in me (saturn stronger than uranus too) so i can get judgy. And I read that GumShoe has Jupiter Aquarius. That is probably in harmony with all her fire planets. She probably didn't mean to say it the way it was worded, but it came off very negative to me.
* Also it's Air trine, Mercury Aquarius conjunct Mars/Sun with Libra moon, loads of Air energy in the sky. (the slower planets are watery but you can't really feel it)
The infamous Aqua Hurricane. 🙂
sagittarians can be cunts when it comes to money.....I have a sag friend who always has to be the banker of the group when it comes to organising money for something and its fucking annoying cos she blatantly asks for money off you in a way thats insensitive and off putting but she does not see it that way........I read somewhere that sags are really good at spending other ppls money....so i associate sags with awkward money moments.
sometimes if feels good to lose ur shit.....well i know it can be cathartic to get something off ur chest thats been eating at you.....I love some sags but they can get on my nerves sometimes in a really bad way like when they over exaggerate a story !
sometimes if feels good to lose ur shit.....well i know it can be cathartic to get something off ur chest thats been eating at you.....I love some sags but they can get on my nerves sometimes in a really bad way like when they over exaggerate a story !
Posted by firewaterearthpiscesvenus
The infamous Aqua Hurricane. 🙂
Dude that's not a hurricane. That's putting your foot down. Anyway, had a couple glasses of wine late last night before logging on.
I got those too, lol. Very rare thou so you'll have to be pretty close to get me there. The only thing that can get me so mad in equal measure dont care if its a stranger or a loved one is a feeling of disrespect. I respect everyone equally and i expect respect back, no compromise. It gets me in blackout fury to be treated like a piece of shit. Grrr
And the being lethal with words is also true, lol. The way i see it you can bring an ak-47 with ammu fit for war and i'll bring only my mouth, a book to read & a beach blanket... YOU will be the one dying at the end, lol. I bite my tongue a lot thou coz i have so many bad things to say and very little time, i always end up storming off to avoid verbally mincing people.
I've only seen my aqua super angry twice in four years I've known him. ONce was when I was kinda giving him the silent treatment and it led to me starting an argument with him and the whole thing escalated and he ended up getting angry
Second time was when I did something stupid that made things complicated for him and I just felt dumb and was humiliated and I kinda went in the other room to kinda pout. He found me a few minutes later and asked nicely if I could help him fix the problem. I was just so humiliated that I told him no. He was so shocked he kept saying are you serious—?? I kept saying yes I was. He flipped out at that point then walked away mumbling something about we were gonna talk about it or whatever. I went to find him a few minutes later to talk about it but he was still upset and probably didnt want to tAke it out on me so he asked me to leave. I refused and I asked for it. Because he was still upset he said some things that hurt that I've still not gotten over. But ya he can get mad but its rare and it takes alot to get him to that point but its mostly bratty behavior that gets him there
Second time was when I did something stupid that made things complicated for him and I just felt dumb and was humiliated and I kinda went in the other room to kinda pout. He found me a few minutes later and asked nicely if I could help him fix the problem. I was just so humiliated that I told him no. He was so shocked he kept saying are you serious—?? I kept saying yes I was. He flipped out at that point then walked away mumbling something about we were gonna talk about it or whatever. I went to find him a few minutes later to talk about it but he was still upset and probably didnt want to tAke it out on me so he asked me to leave. I refused and I asked for it. Because he was still upset he said some things that hurt that I've still not gotten over. But ya he can get mad but its rare and it takes alot to get him to that point but its mostly bratty behavior that gets him there
My Aquarius man never got angry. He treated everything, everyone with calm. This concern me a lot. I'm just afraid that he put all pressure to his shoulder and he will get depressed one day. He even thinks "fight" as "conversation". He never yell or shout.
Man I am like the calmest guy ever you don't wanna make me mad cause it will be satan incarnate..... And like water cup said I hold my tongue cause a lot of stuff I could say would be so rude and hurtful but I don't. I dunno for an Aquarius saying mean things is just easy all you have to do is speak the truth plain and simple and the truth is pretty hurtful.
Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius
Man I am like the calmest guy ever you don't wanna make me mad cause it will be satan incarnate..... And like water cup said I hold my tongue cause a lot of stuff I could say would be so rude and hurtful but I don't. I dunno for an Aquarius saying mean things is just easy all you have to do is speak the truth plain and simple and the truth is pretty hurtful.
+1
I usually warn people when they really want to know. But ah well I did warn them 😛
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