What I didnt like about my Aqua guy

Im sharing all the negative things about my aqua so that ppl who r goin thru the same thing would at least b more cautious now. This could help u deal with ur aqua beter or decide to run away b4 its too late. ppl asked me to post this so im gona put them in bullet points.

1. His interest and amount of times he talks to u will keep on decreasing as time passes by.
2. Lies and hides things. Like the time he took a girl in his car to her house. plus met a girl through facebook face to face.
3. He doesnt respect what i dont like and he keeps on doing it. Like the time I told him i dont like it when he types to girls MWAH and HUGGS..he still did it behind my bk.
4. Hes controlling
5. He wants me to always listen to him just cuz im the girl. But when it comes to him listening to me he doesnt cuz hes the guy! (BS)
6. He thinks cuz im a girl I shouldnt have any guy friends but cuz hes a guy then its ok for him to have many girl mates. (which i dont mind as long as he keeps limits with them)
7. He doesnt like me having a job with other guys
8. He loves showing off way too much
9. He Keeps me waiting for him for an hour so we talk. Then he goes like oh I wana sleep. he cud have jus leme sleep!
10. His replies became short and dull and boring
11. He cant balance his life between me, his friends, business..etc
12. He doesnt respect that I too want to have a good career
13. He does mistakes and never tries to fix it
14. Hes not fair. I forgave him so many times when he upseted me. like when he talked dirty to a girl before. But when he chose to break up i told him to give us both a 2nd chance to work things out..he chose to never give our relationship another chance. it was our first and last break up.
15. He always asked me where Im going and used to get so mad when I tell him i dont like it when he keeps asking me that. But When it comes to me asking him oh where u going this time for business? He either tells me in a way like showing hes annoyed to tell me or either he says nowhere!
16. He used to like to keep his business deal secret till hes done with it then he reveals it.(which was fine with me i respected that) But he would never accept it when i want to keep something private to myself he wants to know everything right on the spot.
17. Very unorganized and usually hes confused.
18. Very stubborn and very inflexible
19. always doing the same old routine

That's quite a long list. You sure you want to be with him?

My aqua is nothing like that!

i really dont know
He was perfect in the first 3.5 years then he turned into this ugly long list.
how long u been with ur aqua truecap?

I can give good reasons for some of the things you listed that im guilty of myself, but if they are negative to you then who am i to say anything. Good luck with your moving on process, Nouran.

Well, I've only been with mine 11 months. Almost a year. So, I don't have the time invested you do. Perhaps things will change, but we are probably in an older generation than you and that might make a difference.

Venting is healthy and fun. Its good to get that off your mind just to see the faults as opposed to thinking about what you have lost.

Posted by WaterCup
I can give good reasons for some of the things you listed that im guilty of myself, but if they are negative to you then who am i to say anything. Good luck with your moving on process, Nouran.

But I do wana know the reasons for all this. Im here to listen to y would u do that?
Im not perfect myself. I wana know how I can deal with it and what could I have possibly been doing that caused this? Or is it got nothing to do with me??
I deal with things completely differently. If hes mad at me I would stand up give reasons for my actions nd get done with it then we make peace. But with him If i face him with something he would run away then apologize cuz then he realizes he didnt do the right thing with me..sometimes he just pretends like nothing happened nd starts changing my bad mood with jokes nd laughter.
What did i do that was so wrong with that guy? i have the right to understand ur mentality. U would understand more cuz u would probably do the same/similar thing.

WE MADE A DEAL BOTH OF US..that if I or he did anything that upsets one another that we will change to make eachother happy. If I am willing to change myself, give u more freedom, give u more space, stop asking u wer ur goin..y would u aqua never give our relationship another chance and y wouldnt u at least TRY to make things better?

I wana c things from ur own world. I do wana understand.
I wana know if i can cope with such behavior.

and one more thing..I am not a needy person. A lot of u might think oh shes a taurus she prolly wants too much attention, too much romance nd all that. Its not true.
I will live with him the way he is as long as hes LOYAL, stops doing what i dont like, tries to b more fair/understanding..realizes im a lady and I do want him to make me feel special at some point of my life..come on is that too much to ask 4?

Posted by truecap
Well, I've only been with mine 11 months. Almost a year. So, I don't have the time invested you do. Perhaps things will change, but we are probably in an older generation than you and that might make a difference.

Thats not much time..mine changed after 3 years..he went through many phases..from being a very humble family guy to a very busy guy to a guy that flirts with girls, to someone who just cares about nothing but his cars, to someone who asks girls for marriage - when he dont even want to marry them to a LIAR.

So just b careful..i aint sayin all auqa guys r like this. Even myself I could have done mistakes that made him want to leave. I didnt mean to..
Im not an expert im just sharing what i went thru so others can relate to my story/give me advise etc..

U know what, Nouran? I wish i could take all your hurt away, seriously and ur starting not to make sense. You wanna know "why" but dont want reasons, isnt a "why" a reason/explanation seeker? You are honestly hurt and i can feel it... stick it out little bull it will pass. And lmao @ mwah & huggs, i didnt see that one. Haha

Oops sorry, bad eye, so you DO wanna know. Wait i'll decode some of the actions for you ,ok?

so what if im seeking explanation? Dont wana do the same mistakes in future. Dont explanations avoid more mistakes in the future, better decisions nd all?
I am not hurt..im not even talkin to him. I dont reply. I dnt ask about him. I stopped crying for a while. I just dont feel hes that important.
His actions r something im curious about. Cuz I been asked by 2 or U can say 3 (long story) aqua guys after i broke up with him i turned them down mainly cuz they r aqua..
i do wana know how to deal with aquas..for some weird reason im like an aqua magnet..so i can take my precautions in the future if i did love another aqua

hope u get it
Just dont feel sorry for me..we r jus discussing things right?

Posted by WaterCup
Oops sorry, bad eye, so you DO wanna know. Wait i'll decode some of the actions for you ,ok?

Haha yeah u didnt read well..its ok..its a long list i know!!!!

Posted by size zero superhero
Let me start off by saying I'm sure the relationship has/had its redeeming factors.
At any rate, this list suggests a surplus of personal differences as well a great deal of tensions caused by possessiveness & jealousy amongst yourselves.
For instance, he doesn't LIKE the fact you work with men...as if it's realistic to expect you to switch careers or clientele on the basis of gender?(Not that your trust in him appears any better--it doesn't.)

Correct me if I'm off base but it sounds like both of you view the opposite sex as an immense threat to the sanctity of your relationship.
That's a classic red flag, indicating a mutual absence of security; I'd even go as far to say it signifies a point of no return, considering Earth is densely populated with sexually-active men and women alike.

Thankx 4 ur reply size zero super hero
No he has done a few things that made me trust him less. I used to trust him blindly. Till he talked dirty to another girl (I forgave him afterwards then things went bk to normal) the other thing is when I heard frm his friends that he has been seeing another girl from facebook behind my bk. some said he dated her for a week. all that behind my back. Obviously I would lose trust dont u agree?
I have no problem if he talks/knows/sees female friends in public..I obviously would mind if he crossed his limits with them..thats only natural. I dont view other girls as a threat NO! The only threat i would face is if he makes a move on a girl or he accepts and goes alone with another girl wen she makes a move on him.
Is there something wrong with anything I did with him?

Thing is you are thinking what you've done are mistakes and like I said before it's an admirable trait to be able to see perhaps you had something to do with the downfall of the relationship. Can I just say now life lessons don't always prepare you as well as you may think they are more experiences.

What I have notice is your tendency to lump ALL aquas together with excess use of "you" a singular entity and I've been trying to steer you and let you know that not all aquas are the same so as much as you want to take away from what we can give you it doesn't define us whatsoever.

There's a bit of truth in love just comes along and turns your life upside down. Maybe being guarded is what you need for now or maybe it's another lesson to be learnt later on down the track but in being guarded you will never open up yourself to love again, that nagging voice that you try to shut out as you inevitably compare all potentials with your ex Aqua. Think of it as a quest to seek approval because it's your form of relief and it's just not the right thing to do.

Anyway that's what I feel from you because that's what I went through when I broke up with my Sag trust me the more I I tried to solve it the more miserbale I became but who am I to stop you if you really want to look further into it but I say this AGAIN and AGAIN! Aquarius folks are not one of the same what I do isn't any indication of what your ex Aqua would do and if it's any consolation I don't even think I can comprehend why your Aqua did the things that he did.

I'll try and be as detailed as possible and let you in on my thought pattern.

1. We dont usually talk for the sake of talking- we talk only when theres something important to say. Why waste money just to breathe on the phone? I hardly call people unless its important and meaningless is something i can do without.

2. I dont need to tell you every aspect of my life, some parts of MY life are just that MINE. Theres a sense of freedom in not having to report everything to someone.

3. I dont care, will do it... not my problem. If you dont like it get lost. Again, aquas are perverse... theres an urge to do the opposite of what u like just because if we did exactly what u like it would put you in control of our actions. Nobody tells us what to do and actually get it at that minute. An hour maybe, a year, even never just because people cant stop ordering & stfu.

9. Not in the mood. Sometimes i can set up a chat or whatever with someone, get excited but as the time nears i lose interest coz i've been living/having the future chat in my head by myself and the real thing now is no longe interesting.

10. Bored and have nothing to add/say. We are more talkative when stimulated by something interesting etc.

11.Theres really NO juggle, friends come 1st, ALWAYS! We are the sign of friendship after all.

13. Dont care, will change when i feel like it, like... NEVER. Its that pervese thing again, it pushes you to do wrong things even thou u know they are wrong. Cant explain it really, it just is what it is.

14. Blindness to own faults aka blinded by the leo sunrays lol. It has to do with the inherent feeling of being right i guess.

16.None of your business, i dont need to explain myself to u. Freedom thing

17. Too much awesome thoughts to pay attention to here and now. He is in his head

aww, *sends healing sprinkles & kitty hugs**

Posted by aquasnoz
Thing is you are thinking what you've done are mistakes and like I said before it's an admirable trait to be able to see perhaps you had something to do with the downfall of the relationship. Can I just say now life lessons don't always prepare you as well as you may think they are more experiences.

What I have notice is your tendency to lump ALL aquas together with excess use of "you" a singular entity and I've been trying to steer you and let you know that not all aquas are the same so as much as you want to take away from what we can give you it doesn't define us whatsoever.

There's a bit of truth in love just comes along and turns your life upside down. Maybe being guarded is what you need for now or maybe it's another lesson to be learnt later on down the track but in being guarded you will never open up yourself to love again, that nagging voice that you try to shut out as you inevitably compare all potentials with your ex Aqua. Think of it as a quest to seek approval because it's your form of relief and it's just not the right thing to do.

Anyway that's what I feel from you because that's what I went through when I broke up with my Sag trust me the more I I tried to solve it the more miserbale I became but who am I to stop you if you really want to look further into it but I say this AGAIN and AGAIN! Aquarius folks are not one of the same what I do isn't any indication of what your ex Aqua would do and if it's any consolation I don't even think I can comprehend why your Aqua did the things that he did.

I'll try and be as detailed as possible and let you in on my thought pattern.

Sorry aquasnoz this time u didnt get me quite right. What i mean by "you" is directly speaking to everyone meaning what does each and every person here think? when I say "you aquas" I mean that You might perhaps explain to me y u lots would do something similar since u r all aquas and would have things in common. I dont mean that u r all identical in ur actions. Of course not. Hence I did mention to someone (the one who said she has been with an aqua for 11 months) that I dont think all aquas r bad and i dont think they r all the same.
In fact I have known ppl who r born on same day as me and we had nothinggggggg in common. So please dont get me wrong.
Thankx for ur advice again

Posted by Nouran20

Posted by truecap
Well, I've only been with mine 11 months. Almost a year. So, I don't have the time invested you do. Perhaps things will change, but we are probably in an older generation than you and that might make a difference.

Thats not much time..mine changed after 3 years..he went through many phases..from being a very humble family guy to a very busy guy to a guy that flirts with girls, to someone who just cares about nothing but his cars, to someone who asks girls for marriage - when he dont even want to marry them to a LIAR.

So just b careful..i aint sayin all auqa guys r like this. Even myself I could have done mistakes that made him want to leave. I didnt mean to..
Im not an expert im just sharing what i went thru so others can relate to my story/give me advise etc..

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Just because your aqua did/does all that to you, doesn't mean mine will. I am secure in what he does and give him the space to do his thing. I don't ask a lot of "where you go" "who was that" "why this" kind of questions and I don't pressure him or push him to do anything. I express when I have a concern/issue, but I don't do it in an insecure/whiny/nagging/clingy way and I can tell he makes efforts and tries to make me happy. Yes, like all couples, there are things that could get better. I've posted about the aloofness - just a personality trait I will have to decide to get used to, but he doesn't disappear or ignore me.

I think with these men it is all about your own independence and security. You respect theirs, they respect yours. It goes both ways. I also think the way to dealing with things is in your approach. I've learned to back off a little and not to push (against the cap nature, lol!) and he willingly comes to me with ideas/suggestions/plans. When I did push, he pulled back. Classic male/female dance.

Another think I have learned is to speak up and be honest, respectful, mature and rational and he will listen. Doesn't mean it will change anything, but it makes you feel better to get it out there and off your chest before resentment builds up.

Sometimes you have to accept this is who they are. If you can accept it, keep on keeping on. If you can't, you can't. It's mostly about you and are YOU willing to accept this is the way they are. You can't rely on someone changing to make you happy. Effort yes, but people basically don't change. So YOU can either accept, or not accept. Sometimes it is all in perception. [This] might irritate you, but [this] outweighs and trumps those irritating things.

It seems like this is your decision. So can you accept? OR Are you going to move on? He's not going to change. You know as well as all of us do that men don't change.

Reward the positive efforts and you will get more of the positive.

Just my thoughts.

If I got off subject or out in left field, just blame the cap mercury. lol!

And yes, I did see where you said they weren't all the same.

I am just saying, in every relationship, the female approach can make a big difference in the man's actions and vice versa.

Posted by WaterCup
1. We dont usually talk for the sake of talking- we talk only when theres something important to say. Why waste money just to breathe on the phone? I hardly call people unless its important and meaningless is something i can do without.

Watercup can i just reply to everythin u said and perhaps show u that I wasnt the one controlling here?

1. He didnt waste money we used blackberries to talk which costs v cheap money that u pay monthly. so its bit like online chatt just incase u didnt know. Also he used to want to pay things 4 me like wen i mentioned he wanted to buy me a ring + other stuff. Y did i refuse? i didnt wana b called the girl who used a guy for his money. Thats y i never let him pay a penny 4 me. Not even once! We did talk about important things. sometimes even about politics. or future plans.

2. Exactly i never asked him to give me a report. Probably when hes going to drive somewhere far I would joke about it and say oh no dont go to manchester its too far. then we laugh about it. I always wished him luck when hes out driving somewhere far for business. Also he was the one that used to send me voice notes, texts telling what hes doing nd where he is nd stuff (by his own will). Trust me I stopped interfering much just to give him that sense of control nd i didnt mind if he kept things to himself he eventually used to tell me. As long as they r not things related other women or bad things. know what i mean?

3. Well if he wanted me to get lost and he didnt care then he shouldnt get mad when I do what annoys him bk at him! Its not fair that in a relationship u start annoying ur partner but when ur partner annoys u feel all angry. wth. Who wud wana annoy someone they love anyway unless if they r mad. plus He did care..he deleted the girl he talked dirty to, he chased me for daysss to make it up to me..he sent me love notes..he did care only bk then. just there r little things that annoy me that he kept on doing towards the last year of our R-ship.

Lol @ being an attacker. No im not, im just an aries ascendant with a mercury sextile mars. It all seems like war when it isnt. Im offended lol because I'm a very nice person, but i know i do come off wrong sometimes. I'm sorry you feel that way so rather talk to truecap for she is wiser & more matured. As for myself i cant control how im perceived over the net with just words, i can only wish you knew me in person. I tried my best to decode some of his behavior in that list and it was not an attack on you, just the reasons for some of his behavior based on myself.

(furthermore reply to watercup's comment)
9. Ur right here he was very moody. He used to tell me his mood changes and he doesnt even know y. I go through that too. Its ok. I can take his rough moments its ok. But the part about not interested anymore. Even after our break up he told me that im fun and no where close to boring. Im the kind of person who dont like tlkin about the same old thing. We always had new topics to discuss about EVERYTHING in life. HE was the one that became boring when he decided to become too busy with his work and love money way too much than anyone

11. I dunno if what he said about putting his girl as number 1 and that his mates dont even deserve to have his time was all true or not? He did put me for years until again his sudden transformation in the final year

16. I dont think your going to tell ur husband that everything related to u is non of his business?
He didnt have that concept though. He believed we should share everything. He was the most one that nagged about knowing every detail of everythin i do.

SOMETIMES I FEEL LIKE IM THE AQUARIUS HERE!!!

thankx for ur explanation really. I do understand more now. But ur different from him.

Posted by WaterCup
Lol @ being an attacker. No im not, im just an aries ascendant with a mercury sextile mars. It all seems like war when it isnt. Im offended lol because I'm a very nice person, but i know i do come off wrong sometimes. I'm sorry you feel that way so rather talk to truecap for she is wiser & more matured. As for myself i cant control how im perceived over the net with just words, i can only wish you knew me in person. I tried my best to decode some of his behavior in that list and it was not an attack on you, just the reasons for some of his behavior based on myself.

Sorry ur offended..being an attacker doesnt mean ur not a nice person it just means u have a very strong will to attack the person infront of u with ur own independent thoughts. Again please dont get me rong..nothin is said to u in person..it all related to the topic of "things I dont like about my ex aqua" now ur not my ex aqua r u? lol

Leme just give u all a small example. I hope u get it
Lets say someone just slapped u out of no where then said sorry. Ur like its ok dont do it again plz it hurts. But then they slap u again and again and again nd it keeps n hurting more and more and cuz u love that person U keep taking the slaps and trying so hard to negotiate with that person that its bad and u should stop slapping. But that person would just keep on doing it (like watercup said just cuz they feel like doing the wrong thing) dont u think that U will just snap? say a few mean words to the person? or even slap them back?

thats how it goes with me and him. He does bad things I keep holding myself bk from exploding. I feel like I need to discuss things with him, telling him HONESTLY u did this nd that and that upset me plz dont do it again. Yet he does it again obviously i have the right to snap? not listen to him again and so and so

RIGHT??
About freedom, I AM A TAURUS WE CARE ABOUT FREEDOM AS MUCH AS U DO..I only let u control cuz i want u to not cuz ur stronger. So therefore I wouldnt want to take away his freedom. I never ask him where r u goin ok— PLEASE STOP SHOWING THAT IM A CONTROL FREAK

Men in general like to feel a sense of control and its essential u make him "think" hes in control when really hes not. 🙂

Say no more lol, im not REALLY offended, its the internet after all. Not every answer you gonna get will be satisfactory because we (i) are/am not him (different other natal placements etc), different backgrounds and stuff. I think im done here and i hope you get more accurate answers to your Qs.

Okay letting my Aqua side taking over because you did ask how I (an Aqua) would think. Poor fishy is trying to fight it but I think it has to be done.

1. His interest and amount of times he talks to u will keep on decreasing as time passes by.

Logically the initial moment of attraction and courting stages warrant more communication. As time passes this will either blossom to which one only communicates on important issues where the rest are unspoken forms of communication otherwise the latter being a loss of interest which in anycase dictates no further need to communicate. All in all the same conclusion but very different meanings.


2. Lies and hides things. Like the time he took a girl in his car to her house. plus met a girl through facebook face to face.

Not sure how to go about this. How did you find out about this? Regardless not saying something doesn't mean I'm lying nor hiding. What good is the truth when it doesn't surmount to anything of meaning or value? If I choose to take a girl home in my car back to their house and never did anything nor thought anything more on this, would there be a point in saying anything? If I did wouldn't that be viewed as an unfaithful act so why say it at all? It might be viewed as an act of provocation.

On the chance he actually lied and cheated on you then one can assume he didn't tell you to spare your feelings, maybe he was unable to knowing how much it hurt you or maybe he didn't have much thought on it. In the case of this the only logical conclusion is he's a cold hearted son of a bitch which requires no futher deduction. It can also be another indication he's removed himself emotionally from you.

Posted by WaterCup
Say no more lol, im not REALLY offended, its the internet after all. Not every answer you gonna get will be satisfactory because we (i) are/am not him (different other natal placements etc), different backgrounds and stuff. I think im done here and i hope you get more accurate answers to your Qs.

Thank u so much watercup, I really hope u meant it wen u said ur not offended..i didnt mean u. 😄 u already helped me. Im here if u need to know anythin..thankx sorry if i bothered u

3. He doesnt respect what i dont like and he keeps on doing it. Like the time I told him i dont like it when he types to girls MWAH and HUGGS..he still did it behind my bk.

This will depend entirely on whether these girls are friends or strangers. I write send kisses and hugs in my messages, usually because they did it first and I felt like the polite thing is to reciprocate. In the case of this happening in a relationship it can either mean he didn't think it was all that disrespectful or that again he's removed himself from you emotionally and for some stupid reason didn't end things with you and started flirting in front of you.

I'm guessing it was infront of you or he was stupid enough to do it on facebook or that you checked his phone. But imagine for a second this is just how he is with girls what you are fundamentally disliking is what he cannot control which leads to your next question in that he might be seeing this as a form of control coming from you.

4. Hes controlling

I think we all are to some respect. Even I agree I would like to have things my way but I would never force my opinion on others or tell them what to do. In relating it back to you there's nothing you can do about a controlling person and even harder to comprehend why takers do that they do if your have a giver mentality.


5. He wants me to always listen to him just cuz im the girl. But when it comes to him listening to me he doesnt cuz hes the guy! (BS)

This I can't fully explain. I don't think it has much to do with the Sign itself but perhaps a mixture of cultural background and childhood experiences. Again I might be profiling but he sounds like a taker, it's what they do. My dad is a pisces and even if I'm currently in love with one there's a world of difference between sun signs, my father is not only racist but sexist but it's purely because of the said above influences.


6. He thinks cuz im a girl I shouldnt have any guy friends but cuz hes a guy then its ok for him to have many girl mates. (which i dont mind as long as he keeps limits with them) and
7. He doesnt like me having a job with other guys

See above. Personally I have not met a single Aqua who's had a beef about the gender of their partners friends so I think this goes deeper beyond astrological influences.

8. He loves showing off way too much

I can't deny Aquas are fundamentally proud people. Everything is a mystery to us in a sense and when we solve it it's like we OWN it and we just have to show off our awesome skills. Some gloat, some do it with modesty, some might even say "eh it was nothing". Is this really such a bad trait?


9. He Keeps me waiting for him for an hour so we talk. Then he goes like oh I wana sleep. he cud have jus leme sleep!

I think circumstances like this are often double sided. Truth is one would only feel neglected because you chose not to neglect. Then the idea is born that I must care for you infinitely more because I chose to stay up for you. See the duality here? In thinking he was selfish you in turn are also selfish.

Take a lesson from my friends, they all know and I'm willing to admit I'm selfish when I need someone to talk to and when I'm done I'm done. So my friends are just very straight forward with me. If they are sleepy then I'll just have to postpone pouring my heart out. I really think it's how you want to view it subjectively.


10. His replies became short and dull and boring

I think I've come to the realisation this might indeed be an Aqua trait. When there's nothing of importance to add or say then why say anything at all? Fluffing is not what Aquas do, superficial topics of conversations can be equally as boring to us therefore we have no choice but to counter it with an effective but just as boring answer.

In saying this though I still believe all aquas have different forms of stimuli. My friend is all into boring superficial conversations and she's an aqua, just two different mindsets and two very different brains as to what is interesting and what is not.

11. He cant balance his life between me, his friends, business..etc

It's a lot to ask for from us. Personally I need that freedom I just refuse to let others tie me down or become a singular entity and have my s/o dictate how I do everyday and how I feel every other day. Personally I will always allocate time for that special someone but I definitely cannot survive without alone time and definitely not without friends time. For us I think a relationship is about fun and evolution, not stagnating.


12. He doesnt respect that I too want to have a good career

Again not an Aqua trait, I'm starting to believe your Aqua had some form of childhood abuse. JOKES. I personally encourage everyone to follow their paths, if you are happy cleaning toilets then I will buy you the finest brush as an incentive to help you get there.


13. He does mistakes and never tries to fix it

I think mistakes are viewed subjectively as well. Maybe he didn't see it as a mistake or maybe like me I don't go by the status quo. I'll admit to being stubborn in that I will try and prove myself wrong by doing something again again and all of a sudden BAM do something radical and different. We are mad scientists after all.


14. Hes not fair. I forgave him so many times when he upseted me. like when he talked dirty to a girl before. But when he chose to break up i told him to give us both a 2nd chance to work things out..he chose to never give our relationship another chance. it was our first and last break up.

This might be a personal opinion and not indicative of all aquas. I'm a believer in that if things are meant to be then there needn't any repeats. And again personally trust me when I say I know this life can be unfair and there's no other way to face it, either you accept and move forward or get stuck behind. He might not know what he's doing is unfair to you much in the same way you may not comprehend perhaps some of your actions can be viewed as being unfair for him.

See it this way, how can you give someone a second chance when you are no longer emotionally attached to them? If you know you're just going to break their heart again why do it at all?

15. He always asked me where I'm going and used to get so mad when I tell him i dont like it when he keeps asking me that. But When it comes to me asking him oh where u going this time for business? He either tells me in a way like showing hes annoyed to tell me or either he says nowhere!

I ocassionally get annoyed when people start asking for specifics because it might rub off as them not trusting me. But if it's really just that simple question of "where are you going" then I would answer it directly. So on this part I can't make sense of you not liking being asked and equally as puzzled as to why he would find it annoying. I'm not sure I just feel like there's some double standards here.

16. He used to like to keep his business deal secret till hes done with it then he reveals it.(which was fine with me i respected that) But he would never accept it when i want to keep something private to myself he wants to know everything right on the spot.

Are you a partner of the business? I mean I'm all for sharing every aspect of my life but sometimes I forget or sometimes I just don't care much to share because I don't think it relates to anything. Although from what I can gather is he was a better secret keeper than you were? I'm oblivious to people having secrets, think nothing of it unless they say something to the effect of "Oh there's something I want to say but... actually no don't worry". Secrets of others are not my business so I don't prod unless they give me a reason to do it.

17. Very unorganized and usually hes confused.

I'm a chaotic mess. It's just how I am but for however unorganised people tend to say I am I find it quite odd that when faced with adversities these other so called organised people freeze up and don't know how to move forward like they can't function without a plan. I think life should have a guideline but definitely not a solid plan. If I followed a plan doesn't that take away all the fun?

18. Very stubborn and very inflexible

I would agree with stubborn but I'm not sure I entirely agree on being inflexible. it depends obviously on the context but part of being an Aqua is the ability to see all possibilities, whichever making the most sense must be the logical answer.

19. always doing the same old routine

Wouldn't a relationship by definition routine? isn't what you want from him consistency and therefore in some sense routine? Unless you mean he's so inconsistent that it's become a routine for him to be sporadic? I'm not too sure but fundamentally as a society we are all in some way subjugated to routine and structure.



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Posted by aquasnoz
19. always doing the same old routine

Wouldn't a relationship by definition routine? isn't what you want from him consistency and therefore in some sense routine? Unless you mean he's so inconsistent that it's become a routine for him to be sporadic? I'm not too sure but fundamentally as a society we are all in some way subjugated to routine and structure.



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Lol aquasnoz i think u made my day. u r so patient and its very kind of u to comment on everything. I can actually entirely understand u and can imagine ur voice speaking as I read even tho i dont know how u sound like.
I admit I wasnt perfect. Maybe I didnt treat him so well. I do blame myself on part of everything. YES he comes frm a strict cultural male dominating background. But that never bothered me.
Maybe we wer both selfish. But I just hate that I carried inside me some hope of getting bk and fixing everything and learning how to treat him better and vice versa.
Its a dream. All I can do now is just sit and c what life has for me. A new beginning with a better man. Or a new beginning with my old love.
In both cases Ill try my best to make my partner happy.
I wish my aqua guy would just know that I didnt meant to pressure him at all. That I would have completely change my ways to make him happy which i already have done before. That I dont wana control him at all..I wanted to c us happy, connected in every way. I hoped he never hurt me..
I always asked him is there something rong with the way I treat u..his answer was no ur fine and done change. Final thing he said when we broke up that hes the one who has problems not me. Even tho he said that I still blame myself partly.

guess theres nothing i can do..hope u all the best..sorry for bothering everyone really

Well I'd point you to the vocaroo thread but I think it's gone missing 😢 people often say I don't sound like what I read like *shrugs*

What is his moon, Venus, Mars?

Any of them aspect Uranus?

Posted by steponscorpionsCRUNCH
What is his moon, Venus, Mars?

Any of them aspect Uranus?

This just made me laugh so uncontrollably, sigh I'm so immature.

Posted by steponscorpionsCRUNCH
What is his moon, Venus, Mars?

Any of them aspect Uranus?

well this is what i find on his natal chart..i totaly dont get it. But i read everything about it
Sun:27?? 49' in Aquarius
Moon:10?? 52' in Cancer
Mercury:01?? 30' in Aquarius
Venus:16?? 01' in Aquarius
Mars:16?? 16' in Taurus
Jupiter:27?? 24' in Taurus
Saturn:10?? 34' in Capricorn
Uranus:04?? 13' in Capricorn
Neptune:11?? 33' in Capricorn
Pluto:15?? 02' in Scorpio

Posted by aquasnoz

Posted by steponscorpionsCRUNCH
What is his moon, Venus, Mars?

Any of them aspect Uranus?

This just made me laugh so uncontrollably, sigh I'm so immature.

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hahaha being immature is fun though.. 😄 never heard of vocaro

this is something else i just found and i dont know what it means

Conjunction: Saturn Neptune 0??
Conjunction: Saturn Uranus 6??
Conjunction: Uranus Neptune 7??
Opposition: Mars Pluto 1??
Opposition: Moon Neptune 0??
Opposition: Moon Saturn 0??
Opposition: Moon Uranus 6??
Semi-Sextile: Mercury Uranus 2??
Sextile: Neptune Pluto 3??
Sextile: Saturn Pluto 4??
Square: Sun Jupiter 0??
Square: Venus Mars 0??
Square: Venus Pluto 0??
Trine: Mars Neptune 4??
Trine: Mars Saturn 5??
Trine: Mercury Jupiter 4??
Trine: Moon Pluto 4

Posted by aquasnoz

Posted by steponscorpionsCRUNCH
What is his moon, Venus, Mars?

Any of them aspect Uranus?

This just made me laugh so uncontrollably, sigh I'm so immature.

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lol, I admit to smirking when I wrote that...

I'd just like to say I really enjoy the way advice is presented on this board. It's rarely ever attacking in nature, whether by an aqua or other people who stop by, and they don't take things as personally. : )

I don't have much to add to this besides the fact that you two just seemed too different. He wanted things his way, which was usually freedom to do whatever and since you didn't like him doing things, he probably felt the need to continue doing the things he wanted, but keep it all a secret, instead. It seems he liked to hold you to a double-standard. 'I can do this, but you're not allowed to'. Sounds insecure on his part.

My aqua is very bossy and does a lot of things I don't like. He hates it when I hang out with guys, mention guys, work with guys, etc. If it were up to him, I wouldn't hang out with guys at all. However, he would also stop hanging out with girls, if I wanted him to, which I don't. So, he's different than your guy in that sense. I could imagine him doing things and not telling me about it if he knew I'd get upset at it. Such as..did you mention your guy driving another girl home? Well, I'll use that as an example. If he did that, he probably wouldn't think much of it, but he would know I'd be a little upset. So, he would keep it to himself, whether to avoid being on the receiving end of my mood or whatever else. But, the main thing is that I'm okay with his freedom. For some, that doesn't work, but it does for some. A lot of the other things you mentioned sounded like my aqua, also, but those things I can live with. Haha.

So, in the end, you two were just very different, imo. Perhaps he was a little insecure or unable to fully commit, but I don't think that he thought you were without flaws, either. Go find yourself someone more compatible (Not talking astrologically, just anyone of any sign you feel more peace with)!

Posted by Scenic
I'd just like to say I really enjoy the way advice is presented on this board. It's rarely ever attacking in nature, whether by an aqua or other people who stop by, and they don't take things as personally. : )

I don't have much to add to this besides the fact that you two just seemed too different. He wanted things his way, which was usually freedom to do whatever and since you didn't like him doing things, he probably felt the need to continue doing the things he wanted, but keep it all a secret, instead. It seems he liked to hold you to a double-standard. 'I can do this, but you're not allowed to'. Sounds insecure on his part.

My aqua is very bossy and does a lot of things I don't like. He hates it when I hang out with guys, mention guys, work with guys, etc. If it were up to him, I wouldn't hang out with guys at all. However, he would also stop hanging out with girls, if I wanted him to, which I don't. So, he's different than your guy in that sense. I could imagine him doing things and not telling me about it if he knew I'd get upset at it. Such as..did you mention your guy driving another girl home? Well, I'll use that as an example. If he did that, he probably wouldn't think much of it, but he would know I'd be a little upset. So, he would keep it to himself, whether to avoid being on the receiving end of my mood or whatever else. But, the main thing is that I'm okay with his freedom. For some, that doesn't work, but it does for some. A lot of the other things you mentioned sounded like my aqua, also, but those things I can live with. Haha.

So, in the end, you two were just very different, imo. Perhaps he was a little insecure or unable to fully commit, but I don't think that he thought you were without flaws, either. Go find yourself someone more compatible (Not talking astrologically, just anyone of any sign you feel more peace with)!

Amen!!! +1

Posted by Nouran20

Posted by steponscorpionsCRUNCH
What is his moon, Venus, Mars?

Any of them aspect Uranus?

well this is what i find on his natal chart..i totaly dont get it. But i read everything about it
Sun:27?? 49' in Aquarius
Moon:10?? 52' in Cancer
Mercury:01?? 30' in Aquarius
Venus:16?? 01' in Aquarius
Mars:16?? 16' in Taurus
Jupiter:27?? 24' in Taurus
Saturn:10?? 34' in Capricorn
Uranus:04?? 13' in Capricorn
Neptune:11?? 33' in Capricorn
Pluto:15?? 02' in Scorpio

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I loved Scenic's post! 🙂 *thumbs up*

it looks like he's one STUBBORN mo-fo!! look at all those fixed signs. 😕 Hey i got them too! *whew*

Nouran,

You mentioned that he didn't used to be like this and all of a sudden things changed. (Hope I got that right).

Try looking into the root cause to see if you can find what initiated the change. Think of the time before and the time after and try to recognize actions/scenarios/situations/discussions/arguements/etc to see what set off the change. Analyze to see if you can find a cause and effect. (yes, us caps loooove to analyze lol!). Finding the trigger might help you make your decision.

Posted by truecap
Nouran,

You mentioned that he didn't used to be like this and all of a sudden things changed. (Hope I got that right).

Try looking into the root cause to see if you can find what initiated the change. Think of the time before and the time after and try to recognize actions/scenarios/situations/discussions/arguements/etc to see what set off the change. Analyze to see if you can find a cause and effect. (yes, us caps loooove to analyze lol!). Finding the trigger might help you make your decision.

I dont know what happend to him. All I remember is that I wasn't the kind of person who would stick to doing one thing. I used to tell him that if something I do bothers him ill stop doing it. Like the facebook thing. I deactivated my account for him.
I really used to go super mad about things relating loyalty and lies. I don't like making problems out of small things.
Everything was good and smooth for a very long time.
I am SURPRISED how everyone here says we r SO different. The reason y we got 2gther is cuz we had SOOO much in common. I used to literally feel that hes going to message me like right b4 he does. As soon as i hold my phone I find his message like as if my brain knew im going to receive a message from him this instant. It was sometimes scary how much we sensed each other even tho we wer very far away in distance.
I loved him so much i didnt mean to push him away and even if I unintentionally did that I wished he would have discussed it and opened up with me about it and I would have done something about it.

I just dont like the idea of breaking up..y cant ppl work things out first.
His last words wer he cant make me happy and that he needs to focus on other things..blah blah..not good in marriage..all that non sense.

I shared so much good memories with him, sooo much love, sooo many good plans..i feel bad its all gone.
BTW hes to call me his twin..thats hw bad we wer similar

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by Nouran20

Posted by steponscorpionsCRUNCH
What is his moon, Venus, Mars?

Any of them aspect Uranus?

well this is what i find on his natal chart..i totaly dont get it. But i read everything about it
Sun:27?? 49' in Aquarius
Moon:10?? 52' in Cancer
Mercury:01?? 30' in Aquarius
Venus:16?? 01' in Aquarius
Mars:16?? 16' in Taurus
Jupiter:27?? 24' in Taurus
Saturn:10?? 34' in Capricorn
Uranus:04?? 13' in Capricorn
Neptune:11?? 33' in Capricorn
Pluto:15?? 02' in Scorpio

I loved Scenic's post! 🙂 *thumbs up*

it looks like he's one STUBBORN mo-fo!! look at all those fixed signs. 😕 Hey i got them too! *whew*

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Yes he was very stubborn..when his teeth used to hurt he wouldnt go to the dentist..but i keeeep on tellin him to go cuz its important+ i used to tell him that its very importatnt to brush his teeth on regular basis but again he wouldnt lisn..but at least he brushes his teeth once a day now..Thankx to me..after we broke he told me he still brushes his teeth like i used to tell him

I'm really sorry Nouran. Sometimes people just drift apart. My heart is breaking for you.