What is this aqua male thinking?

Hey! Okay,so me n my aqua friend are in the same class.We've been friends from the past 2 years.In the starting few months he would initiate convos and would take great care of me.Soon I developed feelings for him and told him and asked him about his.First,he was reluctant to tell but when I told him that I knew he abstains from commitments and wanted to know about his feelings just for myself,he told me that he likes me.After that,it has been a rough ride.Whenever I would expect more or become clingy,he would back off and tell me that he doesn't like me.After that,when I would maintain a distance,he would come back to me and tell me that he likes me.So one day we had this huge fight because I made his assignment and he blew away and said he didn't want me to behave like his girlfriend and that he didn't like me and we can talk about it but I got angry n emotional and I told him that he doesn't exist for me anymore.After that,we didn't talj for 4 months,he went all depreessed and would stare at me in the class.I,on the other hand,showed I was happy.then I wanted to restart things and in a span of about 3 months I cried and asked him ti come back almost 4 times and he agreed.we restarted our friendship.but now,he would nevee initiate convos and never agreed to meet.But we had long convos.Then I didn't call him for about 3 months,neither did he.After that,this September,I called him n we started having convos over the phone after about every one day.Then one day I was forcing him to call me n he said he wasn't into calling n all and he told me that he wanted to meet me.When we met he asked me to get into a relationship with him for 2 yrs (our cllg will end after that) cuz he said that after that,although he'll love me,he won't be able to do all that is expected out of a boyfriend and then I'll get hurt.I told him that if he'll love me,that's all I want and that,I want a long term relationship.we soon started cuddling and then after we stopped,we both kept quiet while he thought and was then like,m sorry,I can't get committed.and I went mad and he said we're very different n we will hang out n stuff. I started crying n stuff and he had tears in his eyes n said sorry.and then he wanted to drop me to my hostel but I wasn't leavin n then again he said that he didn't like me but wouldn't say cuz I'd get hurt.(hello? you just proposed me an hour back!) and then he said that if you're not able to handle this right now,how will you handle a break up.n then finall

I asked if he would call me that night,he did,he was trying to calm me down.next morning I called him again n I was all needy but he was really normal and then again I started forcing him n that I want to bring positive changes in you n all n he asked me repeatedly what all but I didn't tell him,maybe I pissed him off real bad cuz after that,we rarely talked n that too for barely ten minutes.at times he wouldn't even answer my calls or call back.his talks were not the same.in November,for a day,he became normal and the next day we had our class tripn he was really nice to me in the first few hours but after that he turned real cold but stared at me all the time throughout the trip and when I wanted to speak,he ignored.after that,hes not been answering my calls n has been ignoring me real real bad.once I went up to him n asked n he was really irritated n was like I want peace.I asked will you not talk to me forever,he said he didnt know.I calmly asked him to let ne know whenever he feels like talking.he gave an airy nod.this happened on 19th Nov.we've not talked since then.I didn't call him until the 6 th of Dec when he again didnt answer my call.what has happened to him?

Not that I'm trying to make you feel bad, but you kind of did everything that will push an air sign away. Emotional, demanding, needy, dramatic, etc. no offense but I probably would've reacted the same way. No air sign likes to be pressured or forced to make a decision. If we really want to be with someone, nothing will stop us. Throughout your story, it sounded like you pretty much took the lead in the relationship, I personally think that's a mistake. It has to be something you both want and you both should put the same amount of time and effort. My advice would be to keep your dignity and sanity intact by living your life. If he loves you, he'll come back even without you begging him to. But, if he doesn't love you, nothing you do can change that. By the way, Aquas are very honest and upfront, if he told you he doesn't want a long term relationship with you, that's how he feels. Take an air signs word for it, don't expect more than what he already told u he's willing to give.

The first commenter made a interesting point. But I have a question, how do you know if they don't tell you anything. He didn't ignore me or anything like that but its like he's running from his feelings. We were in a good 3 year relationship and it changed to long distance, then that put a strain on the rship and we started having problems....so eventually I just broke it off...but he kept coming back around, calling/texting saying he miss me so bad....so I came back around and now its like, he want to say something but don't ever say it. I finally asked him do he just want me to let this go and move on but he want respond to that. if I say something normal, he will respond but he want answer my ?? about me moving on with my life since " I feel" as though he's not into it. I always hear,....aqua men behave the exact opposite of what they are feeling inside"....most of the time, that don't apply but in my case I think it might b/c we were in such a long rship, and I feel as though he is behaving opposite of what he feels. he acting like he don't care but deep inside he does but don't know how to express it. confused?

Posted by RosyLibra
Not that I'm trying to make you feel bad, but you kind of did everything that will push an air sign away. Emotional, demanding, needy, dramatic, etc. no offense but I probably would've reacted the same way. No air sign likes to be pressured or forced to make a decision. If we really want to be with someone, nothing will stop us. Throughout your story, it sounded like you pretty much took the lead in the relationship, I personally think that's a mistake. It has to be something you both want and you both should put the same amount of time and effort. My advice would be to keep your dignity and sanity intact by living your life. If he loves you, he'll come back even without you begging him to. But, if he doesn't love you, nothing you do can change that. By the way, Aquas are very honest and upfront, if he told you he doesn't want a long term relationship with you, that's how he feels. Take an air signs word for it, don't expect more than what he already told u he's willing to give.

Thanks for the advice 🙂 yeah I know I've been extra needy *sigh*. Well,I wanted to ask,is he alienating himself from me because he doesn't want me anymore or is he analysing all that has happened? Also,why would he behave like that on the trip?

Posted by Sammy20
*emotional stress.

Just saying...when we're ready to commit, we'll commit. Never force it. Because the thing is we fall hard and fast for the right person. When that happens we'll do any and everything to make you happy. But you also have the power to seriously hurt us. The day you're the best friend of an aqua and you have to pick up the pieces you'll understand why some of us stay away from that thing called love and relationships.

Yeah..I know I shouldn't have called him,I regret it so bad.I cry because my first reaction is always an emotional one,I don't know,I just don't want to lose him,I love him too much and all his quirks make me like him even more.well,my sun is in Taurus,Moon Virgo,Venus Gemini. He is Sun,Moon,Venus Aquarius.Is he like,gone forever?

N he cried because he was under emotional stress? Well,umm,did I hurt him somehow? :O

Posted by Ilovemyaqua
N he cried because he was under emotional stress? Well,umm,did I hurt him somehow? :O

Without a doubt, if he's crying, you hurt him bad. I would say he's gone for good, please understand that when an Aquarius man tells you he needs time or space, you're just pushing him farther away when you don't respect that. He stuck around longer than I would have to be honest, it's just the fact that air signs need to feel able to breathe in a relationship, I was suffocating just reading this. I can't speak for him, but, if I was him, I would never engage in a relationship with you again. MAYBE we could be friends, maybe, but that would be it.

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Posted by Ilovemyaqua
N he cried because he was under emotional stress? Well,umm,did I hurt him somehow? :O

Without a doubt, if he's crying, you hurt him bad. I would say he's gone for good, please understand that when an Aquarius man tells you he needs time or space, you're just pushing him farther away when you don't respect that. He stuck around longer than I would have to be honest, it's just the fact that air signs need to feel able to breathe in a relationship, I was suffocating just reading this. I can't speak for him, but, if I was him, I would never engage in a relationship with you again. MAYBE we could be friends, maybe, but that would be it.

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Maybe my want of not losing him made me hold on to him too tight,which ultimately suffocated him,maybe I overlooked his needs,thinking about mine.Thank you soo much for the insights! 🙂

Posted by Sammy20
"He is Sun,Moon,Venus Aquarius.Is he like,gone forever?"

10-20% chance he'll come back, maybe. With Aquarius in those placements. Good luck!

Sometimes I permanently cut people out of my life if the love isn't reciprocated. I think of it as being for their own good. Did it to my ex Taurus. Most emotional breakup I've ever had in my life.

I actually did cry while doing it but it was out of guilt and pain for hurting her. I cared about her but I wasn't in love with her.

Thank you so much Sammy20 for the insights 🙂
I feel terrible about myself,making the person I love so much go through emotional turmoils.And I felt really bad when he apologised to me,it was as if he was apologising for being himself. Why should he apologise for not wanting to have a relationship with me,why should he apologise for his choice, *sigh*.Although I love him,I perhaps got so absorbed with my needs of security that I overlooked his need for freedom,I never understood him maybe.I can now only wish that he comes back and before that,I should try to make myself understand his need of independence and space so that,I can have a relationship that nurtures the both of us,not just one singly,cuz one thing that I have learnt from this relationship is that love alone cannot get you through,understanding and love go side by side,you miss out on one,your relationship breaks.I wish he comes back.. :/

Posted by Sammy20

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Posted by Sammy20
"He is Sun,Moon,Venus Aquarius.Is he like,gone forever?"

10-20% chance he'll come back, maybe. With Aquarius in those placements. Good luck!

Sometimes I permanently cut people out of my life if the love isn't reciprocated. I think of it as being for their own good. Did it to my ex Taurus. Most emotional breakup I've ever had in my life.

I actually did cry while doing it but it was out of guilt and pain for hurting her. I cared about her but I wasn't in love with her.

Thank you so much Sammy20 for the insights 🙂
I feel terrible about myself,making the person I love so much go through emotional turmoils.And I felt really bad when he apologised to me,it was as if he was apologising for being himself. Why should he apologise for not wanting to have a relationship with me,why should he apologise for his choice, *sigh*.Although I love him,I perhaps got so absorbed with my needs of security that I overlooked his need for freedom,I never understood him maybe.I can now only wish that he comes back and before that,I should try to make myself understand his need of independence and space so that,I can have a relationship that nurtures the both of us,not just one singly,cuz one thing that I have learnt from this relationship is that love alone cannot get you through,understanding and love go side by side,you miss out on one,your relationship breaks.I wish he comes back.. :/

Just wait it out. But don't find yourself waiting on him. Live your life in the mean time.

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I will. 🙂 Will update if anything happens,perhaps won't be anytime soon though. And thank you so so much Sammy20 🙂 🙂

A secret for you: no, you dont need to dissapear, just let him know that you want to be his friend. Aquarius likes to be friends and then lovers. Just chill, dont ever mention the relationship stuff, when he wants to commit at the end, he will say.

So, I am not an Aquarius but my man is and I made him run when I was all over the place with my feelings, wanting constantly him to know how i feel and wanted to know how he feels. This was a bad idea. But then when we werent together for half year, I stepped back with the feeling stuff. I never talked about how I feel about him, never even mentioned that I want a relationship with him. Many times i pushed him into saying that he is single and i am too, so we can chill with whoever we want. Ohh, you should have seen his face... I acted like I didnt want relationship, I acted like I dont give a sh about this, only sex. This triggered something on him.

Now.. we are in a much better place. We talked about our feelings when he initiated it and I confirmed the liking. And now it is smooth sailing. Yet.. still act like besties more than a couple who are clingy but this is just us. Both just need the confirmation that the other person loves them, gives them space but yet deeply, oh so deeply in love.

Posted by taurusinsane
A secret for you: no, you dont need to dissapear, just let him know that you want to be his friend. Aquarius likes to be friends and then lovers. Just chill, dont ever mention the relationship stuff, when he wants to commit at the end, he will say.

So, I am not an Aquarius but my man is and I made him run when I was all over the place with my feelings, wanting constantly him to know how i feel and wanted to know how he feels. This was a bad idea. But then when we werent together for half year, I stepped back with the feeling stuff. I never talked about how I feel about him, never even mentioned that I want a relationship with him. Many times i pushed him into saying that he is single and i am too, so we can chill with whoever we want. Ohh, you should have seen his face... I acted like I didnt want relationship, I acted like I dont give a sh about this, only sex. This triggered something on him.

Now.. we are in a much better place. We talked about our feelings when he initiated it and I confirmed the liking. And now it is smooth sailing. Yet.. still act like besties more than a couple who are clingy but this is just us. Both just need the confirmation that the other person loves them, gives them space but yet deeply, oh so deeply in love.

lady, you look like MEGAN FOX! 😄 😄

i bet your man is loving it.