Curious

Hey aquas or non aquas, how do you tell someone you're not interested in them in a romantic way?

As directly as possible. As soon as possible.

There was this guy I knew last year, through friends. I never really talked to him but he had my # as i gave everyone that I saw often when we all hung out as a group for plan coordination purposes. I always added people on my FB, that's kind of how it worked with my circle of friends and their friends. Anyway, every like 3 months he'd text me and mention something he saw on my FB (btw I never interacted with him via phone or on FB) but he would text me about things he saw on my FB and i'd respond to be nice but not really participate in the conversation.

But every single time he would text me he would "hint" at something. After the 2nd time I knew what he was doing but I ignored it.

The third time he texted min in 6 months he flat out was open, and I flat out told him that I wasn't interested and never was interested. Then he asked if it would be awkward if we saw each other when our friends would hang out and I flat out said "Why would it?"

He got the hint and said he'd not bother me anymore.

I think I was kinda too direct but be direct in a nicer way LOL.

Posted by IAmMystified
As directly as possible. As soon as possible.

There was this guy I knew last year, through friends. I never really talked to him but he had my # as i gave everyone that I saw often when we all hung out as a group for plan coordination purposes. I always added people on my FB, that's kind of how it worked with my circle of friends and their friends. Anyway, every like 3 months he'd text me and mention something he saw on my FB (btw I never interacted with him via phone or on FB) but he would text me about things he saw on my FB and i'd respond to be nice but not really participate in the conversation.

But every single time he would text me he would "hint" at something. After the 2nd time I knew what he was doing but I ignored it.

The third time he texted min in 6 months he flat out was open, and I flat out told him that I wasn't interested and never was interested. Then he asked if it would be awkward if we saw each other when our friends would hang out and I flat out said "Why would it?"

He got the hint and said he'd not bother me anymore.

I think I was kinda too direct but be direct in a nicer way LOL.

I like the directness. However, I'm afraid I might hurt his feelings, but I'm all about honesty so I will do this asap.

Cutious 😆
Pronounced cute-ee-oh's?

Posted by CancerLeoDynamite
Cutious 😆
Pronounced cute-ee-oh's?

Haha, I like how the different direction of their eyes makes it seem as though they have different expressions.

Posted by flowing water
Just be direct, If you tell them romantically, it can still be lead on for the other person who doesn't get it.

I agree, I started working at this new job and his desk is directly across mine. I'm trying to figure out how I can be direct but not make it awkward (if that's possible). Maybe, humor?

It's tough with colleagues. They can make your work life worse.

Bust basically be direct.

I had a colleague who had a male best friend that liked her.

She kept telling him "I'm not ready for a relationship."

I was like WTF that does not mean you aren't interested in him. Tell him you are not interested in him.

She totally didn't get it until I explained why what she said originally didn't work.

"I like you, like a looooot!"

*watch them get their hopes up"

"Just, you know, not in THAT way but you're awesome!"

*watch them plummet*

"This is awkward isn't it"

*ABORT! WALK AWAY*

Posted by aquasnoz
"I like you, like a looooot!"

*watch them get their hopes up"

"Just, you know, not in THAT way but you're awesome!"

*watch them plummet*

"This is awkward isn't it"

*ABORT! WALK AWAY*

Haha! I have my running shoes on.

Soften it with a complement. Tell them what's great about them but explain why you're not compatible with them.

I'm pretty sure the problem resolved itself. ^^
He's been leaving me alone, haha!

Posted by Aquadeer
I'm pretty sure the problem resolved itself. ^^
He's been leaving me alone, haha!

If not i can make a simple phone call and tell him myself to fuck off.

In the words of Penny from the big bang theory... just tell him that no one wants to date him, all women had a vote 🙂