Aquas...can you change your opinion of someone?

Or once you see the red flags, is your perception of that person set in stone?

I have Aquarius moon and have Aquarius female friends and had a brief relationship with an Aquarius male... hmm not changing my mind once it's made, even though I am a Taurus its that part where I wouldn't change...but I have went through it and gave them an opportunity to come clean on what ever it is that sets you off...

People change, things change, perceptions change. My judgement is never final.

Oh and can detach emotions pretty quickly.. air signs are like that..

People who are air and water change faster though..Perception is everything.. and gut instincts were given to everyone...you could ignore the flags like I did..

when my Aquarius male said he had 17 girls and was working on a visa...I choose to stay with him. But things were different.. he was single living on his own.. and also had OCD, which I am not...he also stood to eat dinner in front of me..instead of sitting with me..

So if you were initially drawn to someone, but they displayed some...negative traits lol...with time would there be a possibility of revisiting that?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
People who are air and water change faster though..Perception is everything.. and gut instincts were given to everyone...you could ignore the flags like I did..

when my Aquarius male said he had 17 girls and was working on a visa...I choose to stay with him. But things were different.. he was single living on his own.. and also had OCD, which I am not...he also stood to eat dinner in front of me..instead of sitting with me..

OCD is rough, I have a neighbor who's struggling with it.

That's interesting. I find certain aspects of my personality constantly changing, constantly evolving.

Posted by Scorp916
So if you were initially drawn to someone, but they displayed some...negative traits lol...with time would there be a possibility of revisiting that?

depends. what did you do to him?

Posted by Sammy20
First impressions are it for me. The person's actions after that are usually consistant with what I first thought.

If we're already friends or in a romantic relationship, I'd be cautious but tolerant. Depends on the red flag.

Hmmm...that's fair. We were friends first, but then those lines blurred. I was going through a particularly rough time which resulted in me unfairly taking it out on him, and we kinda fell apart. Since then, I'm in a really good place and my environment's changed. I still feel the same but it's been months.

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Posted by Scorp916
So if you were initially drawn to someone, but they displayed some...negative traits lol...with time would there be a possibility of revisiting that?

depends. what did you do to him?

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We ended up at a party together after I hadn't really seen or heard for him in 2 weeks. We were drunk, and he made an off-color remark that I took way too seriously, which escalated into a huge fight. It was embarrassing, tbh. And I immediately apologized, but things went south.

From what I know they are still open, unless its been a constant constant constaaaaaaaaaaaant sore spot. But if it was an isolated incident, I think if you reach out, he may be open.

He actually did reach out-- he needed help with a project and I offered to help. He admitted to not initially asking me out right because he wasn't sure if I'd say yes. That's what got my wheels turning.

Posted by Scorp916
He actually did reach out-- he needed help with a project and I offered to help. He admitted to not initially asking me out right because he wasn't sure if I'd say yes. That's what got my wheels turning.

If you had an isolated incident of spazzing on him, aquas tend to be non judgy and they tend to get over stuff until it becomes a constant thing and then when it gets too much they cut ties completely. The fact that he reached out to you for help is a good sign but it doesn't mean he has forgotten nor does it mean he doesn't have a new perception of you.

If you make sure that you stick with who you are adn what he originally liked about you, in time the memory will fade for him.

But any signs of spazzing or potential spazzing, it will just cement in his brain more and more.

@sammy

I know a male aqua with a male scorpio best friend. They were buds for like 3 years...always around each other. Not sure why they were friends as they were total opposites in every way, even life style .

Something happened where Scorpio male would get all defensive and felt like he was back stabbed by aqua and others and blamed them for his own insecurities and mistakes and he kept taking it out on aqua male and the others and eventually I don't know what it was but Aqua male and scorpio male no longer talk. They avoid each other.

At this point, I'm not making any assumptions and I have no expectations but I'm really at a loss as to how to approach this situation. I hate being direct, especially when I'm unsure of where I stand with someone.

Posted by Scorp916
At this point, I'm not making any assumptions and I have no expectations but I'm really at a loss as to how to approach this situation. I hate being direct, especially when I'm unsure of where I stand with someone.

And,
That right there is... and always will... be the problem.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius

Posted by Scorp916
At this point, I'm not making any assumptions and I have no expectations but I'm really at a loss as to how to approach this situation. I hate being direct, especially when I'm unsure of where I stand with someone.

And,
That right there is... and always will... be the problem.

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I knowwww, but that's moreso a "me" problem than a "Scorp" problem. Something I'm aware of and trying actively to change. I'm learning slowly to detach myself emotionally from things. No to take them so personally.

Posted by NotYourAverageAquarius

Posted by Scorp916
At this point, I'm not making any assumptions and I have no expectations but I'm really at a loss as to how to approach this situation. I hate being direct, especially when I'm unsure of where I stand with someone.

And,
That right there is... and always will... be the problem.

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Agreed.

Aquas want directness. They need it or they just don't get it either.

@scorp, you need to be direct, regardless of what his answer will be. Either it will go well or it won't. Whatever happens you have to accept it. Limbo doesn't do you any good and its unhealthy.

But like I and others said. They don't judge especially if its a one time mistake. But if you have a history of being a douchebag to him, then maybe he's gonna not wanna be around you but if he reached out to you its because he doesn't mind still being associated with you. I think what you are worried about is how it is not what it used to be.

Everyone knows I struggled with this and still am. But at the end of the day your aqua dude isn't thinking about any of it, but yet you are. More than likely he's moved passed that specific incident and the only one who is still probably dwelling on it is you. In the end, he probably forgot about it. So start fresh and stop worrying. I think your one moment of weakness is affecting you more than it did to him.

So forgive yourself, as he probably has forgiven you and start again.

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Posted by Scorp916
Or once you see the red flags, is your perception of that person set in stone?

I have noticed...

When people seem like they HAVE " changed" their old personalities start creeping back in once you let them get comfortable with you again.

People don't change.

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Its more likely they didn't change at all, you are seeing a side of them you never bothered to notice before 😉

yes it's set in stone. *shrug* life is too short.

ops, meaning, why do you want to fuckng waste your time?? ugh. if you don't like them, why the hell do you want to waste your time with them?? honestly. Jeeez.