What keeps young Aqua guy interested in one girl?

Hello out there. I'm new to this forum. I'm really looking for advice of how to keep this amazing, cool, cute, and popular guy from school hooked for a long! 😄
We met in school 2 months ago. I'm freshman and he's popular sophmore soccer player. At first, I saw him one time looking at me and it sort of creeped me out because his eyes were sucked in mines 😄 He approached me through our mutual friend and at that time I was still interested in someone else and didn't wanna give him a chance because I didn't think he was my type. My friend told me that he can't stop talking about me and he doesn't want anything but to make me his 😄 lol I know sounds very intriguing. So I decided to give him a chance and gave him my number. We both clicked so well and flirting was amazing. So we went to see the movies and we had fun together. He told me I'm driving him crazy and I could tell his was so "in love" just by looking in his eyes. He has a lot of female friends and a lot of them seem to like him. But since all of them show him interest, I decided to play it cool and make him put little work by chasing me. He'd get so jealous of every guy looking at me. He's so affectionate and charming. He told me that he wants serious relationship with me, not just one night stand. Yes, we've gotten hot but no sex. He asked me if I wanted to go with him to the hospital to visit his cousin who just had a baby but I refused to because I didn't wanna get into serious things with him yet. I got to know all his friends, and when other females would talk to him, he'd always give me a short eye look or if we would be sitting on the opposite sides of the table, he'd touch my leg with his. But sometimes he'd act weird. He'd seem aloof and get upset about something I'd say mean. He'd act aloof if I wouldn't text him. He's usually always the one to text me first but I'm not a phony person and sometimes I tend to ignore some messages. But I've told him that I just do it because I forget or something 😄 Anyways for the past week he's been acting weird, he tells me he wishes to see me, that he misses me but he hasn't made an effort to come and see me. He spent new years with his family and when I texted him that I cant find what to do, he asked me if I wanted to come over the restaurant with his family but i told him id rather spend with my friends. And he just sent me a cold remark. Now 2 days ago, he sent me a msg "hi' which i dont really reply to short messages so I just didnt say anythin

(sorry I made it very long) SO yeah I texted him yesterday and I told him that if I ever hurted him it wasn't my intention and he tells me that I never text him and came up with a good excuse and said that I liked it when he used to text me long messages and he said he thinks he can do it and basically replied me 2 hours later saying sorry that he didn't hear his phone because he was over cousins with his family. I don't know if he was lying. But I get confused sometimes. Maybe he lost interest in me that quick without completely getting to know me lol Any advice on how to keep him interested? He hasn't texted me today and he usually does it everyday. I've started falling for him already and I want it to work out.

My other question is, should I contact him now first or should I wait for him to do it?

There is a fine line between playing head game and not acting desperate.I think you have crossed the line.You tried to act tough but your behaviour wasn't consistent so he can figure you out a long time ago yet he was curious about you ,so he let you played out your thing.However,in the end of the day he discovered you aren't a cookiemonster as you tried to appear so now he can lay back abit and see you 'beg' for his attention abit.I'm not sure if you can have what you desire ,which is an honest relationship(maybe you don't) because you pretended to be who you aren't in the beginning .Well,keep doing what you see fit but he isn't going to give up easily now unless you let him sleep with you.Then again it could be a 'wrong move' because he'll dissapear even more.

Actually, are you an Aries?

No, I wasn't playing any games with him. Yes, for one thing it's truth I can be moody sometimes and that might affect my behavior with others. But I never lied to him about myself or anything. I just wanted to see if he was really sincere about his feelings so that's why I backed off and wanted to see if he's a real deal for a relationship. I've been very hurt in the relationship I had before I met him. And I've told him I need sometime to frst get to know him and he was fine with it. I just didn't see a point to rush things. I didn't wanna make another mistake because at that point I was totally dedicated to stay single for a while and date. I didn't know I might actually start really liking him. But now I truly do. I know texting him and admiting my feelings that I like him would not be a good idea I guess. But what am I left to do before he gets tired of me (if he already hasn't). Now couple days ago we had a short convo on facebook chat. He wrote me how am I doing? and I was like "awesome" and he said he's happy that I am and I guess I was too cold with that answer, I then asked what was going on with him, and I told him I could tell something was wrong, he said nothing, but just that I don't talk to him. I had to go and told him if he wants to talk, he'll find me. But then later that day, I texted him myself and told him that if I ever hurt him, it wasn't intentionally. He told me he just feels like he's bothering me when he texts me. I told him it wasn't the case and that I liked when he used to write longer messages. I hope that didn't seem demanding to him. We haven't texted each other yesterday. I wonder should I text him today like with a casual message of hey or how are you? I'm afraid to screw things up with him. Can you give me some piece of advice what to do to not let him walk away?
I mean it's crazy how he wanted me in the beginning and he'd do anything to be with me. We haven't seen each other for 3 weeks and I'm upset for the way things turned out.

Me:
Sun= Pisces
Moon= Sagittarius
Venus = Aquarius
Mars = Aquarius
Asc node =Aquarius

Him:

Sun=Aquarius
Moon=Virgo
Venus=Capricorn
Mars=Aries
Asc node=Aries

Honey, you are literally pushing him away. Your intentions AND your actions need to MATCH up & from what you've shared, they aren't. I get it, you're a little afraid of giving this guy your all so soon, BUT are you so afraid that you're willing to push him away. Sounds like the only time you're 100% open is when you can sense him distancing himself from you. You may not mean any harm, but you have to understand that he's not going to take the job of paying for what some other guys did to you. If you want him, go after him. He's not going to beg you or chase after you too hard. He likes you so he's doing his part; he's keeping up the communication with you..so he's expecting for you to do the same regardless. And if he can sense that you're backing off just to appear again, it WILL turn him off, hence that may be why he's starting not to communicate with you as much. I know you may feel that things are moving too quickly but if that's the case, then you need to discuss that with him. Don't assume that he can read your mind & your heart. If you don't text him & if he's always the one doing the chasing, he will assume that you don't like him. He's paying MORE attention to your actions, not your words. Sounds like this guy really likes you but b/c of your own insecurities & fears, you are pushing him away. WELL, 1 good thing to know about Aquas is that we are normally the ones in your position so if this guy is stepping outside of his norm/box for you then don't take that lightly..b/c if you do you'll look up one day & realize that he moved on & forgot all about you. If you wanna keep his attention then give him some attention. Don't assume that he understands why you do or don't do certain things UNLESS you thoroughly tell him what's going on with you like you did with us. You said earlier that telling him how you feel is out of the question. Well that's the problem. He can't read your mind BUT he CAN read your actions. Your running off of pride & we all know that pride ruins everything it touches!

Aqua men don't mind doing a little chasing BUT understand that when they want to turn the tables & become the ones being chased, they do NOT want to sense any kind of hesitation on your part. He's putting a lot on the line for you too. You're probably not the only one whose scared & whose noticed that the friendship/relationship is going a little fast paced. The good thing though is that it sounds like he's moving at such a fast pace b/c he naturally feels THAT much of a connection with you vs. him just being so with any girl. You said it yourself that this guy has lots of women around him at all times so don't ever take for granted that he's finally got his eyes on ONE girl, you! If your intentions are NOT to make this guy think that you're playing games then you have to stop doing/saying or NOT doing all the things that register in his mind that you are playing games. How you see yourself may not be how he sees you & it's up to you to make sure that your actions are reflecting how you feel about him. It's not his job to guess or assume. He prob. feels that he's in this connection all by himself & trust me, with him being an Aqua he's not going to allow himself to feel this way much longer..and that goes for any woman, regardless of how much he likes her. No matter how beautiful or intriguing she is, he'll still expect for his partner to do their part. He's already showing signs of emotionally/physically detaching from you so you need to get it together & QUICK b/c we all know that once an Aqua makes up their mind that you are not right for them & that you were a waste of time, there is NO turning back. Don't be the female that finally gets the point after it's too late. Make everything count when it's still possible. Go get your man or someone else will! Get it together & find out what it is inside of you that's holding you back. And hey, if you're too insecure, then let him go. Don't try to have your cake & eat it too. Let your pride go, & just go for it. The only way you 2 will ever make it past stage 1 is if you BOTH show eachother that your walls can be broken down. If not, I guarantee you, the communication will get lesser & lesser until it finally gets to ZERO

Thanks a lot, you gave me a LOT of inquiry about this!!! I've read a lot about aquarius guys and that of a first sign of emotion they run, so I thought I should hold in. My leo friend kept advising me that I should make him chase me and do all the work. It's truth that every relationship and friendship has to be both sided but sometimes I tend to rely on my emotions and act on how I feel. I have a lot of aquas in my chart and I noticed he has a lot of earth, water and fire signs in his. He used to be affectionate and warm and then out of nowhere he'd act all cool and tough. I guess it's my biggest issue is to share my feelings with others and that's why I've never been in a real relationship with anyone. I have a lot of guys chasing me. Isn't that what they say in dating articles that if you open up to man, he'll run to the hills! 😄 I get lots of emails from Christian carter but I don't even tend to open them anymore. lol I;m confident in the beginning of the dating but then I tend to get insecure just as you noticed bout me! I'm almost 20 and he's almost 23. So yeah, Im gonna text him tonight and ask him how he's doing. I hope I won't get rejected or he won't give me a lame reply Lol. Thanks!!

Well honey, that's the risk you take when you put yourself out there & try the dating game. You cannot control who rejects you or who takes you. All you CAN control is how much of your all you give things. And if you never give your all, then it's unfair of you to expect the same from someone else in return. There's 1 million articles that tell us women not to open up to men but then again there are another 1 million articles out there that say the opposite. You CANNOT always date by "the book," b/c if you try to, you'll only be doing OR not doing things b/c of someone else's opinion. It should be all about how you feel. Those articles & books out there about men & Aquas are only supplementary. Think about it. How in the hek else do you think good & long-lasting relationships are established & maintained? It's all about communication. It's understandable that you are afraid & hey, putting your heart on the line comes with the territory of dating. Sure some men don't necessarily want an emotionally clingy woman whose always rushing into things but at the same time they don't want the silent treatment either. It's all about moderation. Just be you. And if that's not good enough THEN, walk away. But don't treat him a certain way based on some book or article you read. Every man is not the same. Do what feels right. And when it comes to the things you are particularly afraid of doing/showing, communicate with him about it. That way, he's not only getting the attention he deserves in return, but he's ALSO learning how to understand you all in one

I get what you're saying though. On the surface, some Aquas can be very distant & afraid to go "first" BUT the line has to be drawn somewhere. Giving in to your fear of rejection is what's holding you back. Do things & show him things b/c you're showing who you ARE versus worrying about him seeing you as something you aren't. Do what your heart says. Sure, you can continue to succumb to your fears, keep using your pride & keep pushing others away..welp, you can't get your heartbroken that way if you never give the key to anyone. You can stay in your comfort zone all day BUT understand that if you never give anything, it's unfair for you to expect anything in return. If you continue to be like this, you'll push away what you really deep down want & sure, while you won't face rejection, but then again you'll never have anyone either. So it's up to you. Is your fear of rejection far outweighing your admiration for this guy? You've got to make the decision. If he's worth it, then do your part. After all, imagine if you were him. Imagine if you were the one doing all the chasing & making all effort, while seeing the other person take a step back at all the right/wrong times. You'd probably & eventually say F it. Dating isn't fun unless there's some risk taking involved. If your not in the right mindframe to give more effort, that's okay but let him go & take the loss. But if you ARE, then do what you've got to do before it's too late & before you ruin your chances. Even the BEST guys out there won't take mixed signals but for so long! Go get your man girlie!

Yes. I'm coming back with my news 😄 He said it made him feel important that I texted him and so he's happy. I forgot to mention another thing. This girl has added him on facebook and I little bit stalked her and read her statuses that I thought were about him. Of how she's waiting for him to get from the game n she posted it on Sunday. I don't know exactly if she was talking about him or there's something going on between them. But I asked him about the games and he said he has a game on sunday and monday and I was like Interesting..you have games on Sunday..🙂 and he started asking me why I'm asking about his games since I never do that.. I wouldn't want him to think I'm jealous or I'm a stalker but I'm not someone you can play with and I do need to figure out what's going on his life since I can have that opportunity through facebook. I don't know if he figured out because I didn't reveal anything about it. I just played it cool by saying that it was just out of curiosity. I know aquas need independence, I respect that because I cherish it too, yet I'm pisces which according to astrology I'm supposed to be dependent and clingy. I wonder maybe it's bunch of aquas affecting my birth chart. LOL

But again, you're right. Life's too short to be wasted on learning how to live. U should live first and then learn 🙂 I'll try to be more attentive towards him and ask him when he's planning to take me on a next date 😄 I do hope he's not a player or his hungry mind won't change. He's said to me before that he doesn't change his mind with me so maybe I should buy it 🙂

I think you might not have intentionally played any game but you tried to act differently than the way you actually feel.Does that help you anyhow?It just showed you haven't let go of your baggage and your self-esteem is abit low but your pride is probably high.That showed through the way you made the guy suffered when you don't feel safe with him.You tried to show that you're devil may care and freedom loving but the truth is that you're so into him that you felt threatened when some girls wrote things on fb for him.I understand that it isn't easy to be in love with a popular guy and you yourself still carying wounds and your friend who advised you to act 'cool'.However,try not to do something that aren't you because sooner or later,once you two get close ,he'll know who you truly are.It's good to have confidence ,just don't fake it.Good luck.

Actually with Mars in Aries this guy would like a challenge and he won't mind chasing abit.However be exciting is the key here as I think he probably gets bored quite easily.I'm sure it isn't hard for you since you've Aqua in mars?Your Pisces sun and this would make you unpredictable and mysterious type.Very cool indeed! 🙂

Not trying to appear clingy by posting here again but I'm very into analysis of what's going on with him right now. He was very happy to talk to me yesterday when I texted him and told me to do it more often. However, when I brought that thing about him having games on Sundays and after he started questioning me with smiley faces of why I started asking him about it since I never do...I then replied in a little vulgar way..saying U got a problem with it? 🙂 I didn't get his reply until 2 hours later when I texted him saying..So not gonna get back at me. And he just said he was having a game sorry. Today he hasn't texted me and I haven't taken an action to contact him either. I don't understand him. Sometimes he can be so sweet, charming, romantic, and telling me how he likes me and then he might just disappear and when they get back they pretend like nothing happened and they're here again to talk you off your feet. He's changed from the beginning when he used to initiate contact and be genuine with his feelings. Now, I have some weird feeling that he might have started running some game. I mean I truly knew he liked me but maybe he's found a new interest and I'm no longer what he used to desire. I mean what could be the cause of his change? It just makes me feel more secure when I feel that a guy is ready to move a mountains for me LOL but he used to be like that... We had our school break for 3 weeks and none of the times he asked me to go out with him. He'd tell me he's somewhere and that he wishes I was with him but that's it. I know his friend usually has parties on friday nights but he stopped asking me to go there with him. So my conclusion has 3 opinions: 1. He thinks I'm not as into him and by not initiating to see me, he thinks it would give me an idea that he lost interest in me and I'd start chasing him which would prove him he was wrong. OR 2. He lost interest in pursuing a serious relationship with me as he told me he wanted in the beginning and maybe some of his pimping friends influenced him to join thei company. OR 3. The deeper he feels for me, the less attention he shows me (which is connected to # 1) but without intending to find out if I like him or not.
I know best thing would be to ask but I think that would totally turn him off. I still don't want him to know completely everything about me until I get into that certain comfort zone and can be sure he's not wrapping me around his finger. Even though our mutual friend who knows him

very well, has told me that I'll be safe with this guy and that's he's really a nice and great guy. I've met his family members and I was very welcomed. When we were discussing about our years in school, he told me not to worry coz he's got my back Lol. So I'm basically wondering can Aquas tell things that appear 101% genuine and totally don't mean it? Or when they're really into someone , can they just lose interest like with a snap of a finger and move on to someone else while still 'assuring' you like you're their only one?

I don't get jealous of other girls showing him interest and being crazy about him. I know none of them he has interest in for sure. He always tells why I'm so beautiful and blah blah... but I also know that a guy like him wouldn't like a girl who shows him interest n that he needed some challenge because if he wanted he could have any girl around. I mean the fact that I wasn't interested in him at the beginning made him chase me and thus it intrigued him. He'd tell my friends: what's wrong with me? Why this girl doesn't want me? I don't want any girls but her. I'm going crazy. I mean what can u assume about this guy? The challenge obviously worked even it wasn't intentional from my side. On our first date, he told me his intentions towards me that he wants me in his future n to have a serious relationship. I don't understand also what happened to me, I've started to fall for him just when his changing behavior started getting into me 😄 We all know that dating is a game until it's an official relationship. U can't just open up yourself completely to one person and expect him to not get bored with you. There's got to be some challenge going on. Of course it has to be balance.

I meant there's got to be some MYSTERY going on*

"We had our school break for 3 weeks and none of the times he asked me to go out with him. He'd tell me he's somewhere and that he wishes I was with him but that's it. I know his friend usually has parties on friday nights but he stopped asking me to go there with him.

Maybe he hasn't asked you to join him because the previous times he's asked you out you've turned him down. You should try asking him out and see what happens.

Well we had a convo last night on facebook. I was asking him questions about his sports stuff and everything seemed well, I ended saying perhaps we'll talk tomorrow and he replied: I like this idea. Today I texted him and asked if he'd wanna go to my friend's Free happy hour tonight, he asked me where and then when I provided basic info, he said he had to go to pick up his cousin from the airport. And put a sad emoticon face at the end. I wasn't too enthusiastic, coz I knew he might say either, because his schedule is busy, he has to help out his brother, his cousins, etc. Basically I feel I'm not that important in his life as much as he verbalizes. To me actions speak louder than words and this just doesn't satisfy me. I'm not gonna reply him though n make him wonder whether I'm mad or just don't give a shit n have other options to go with. I wasn't asking him out just more like in a friendly manner. But oh well, he loses...

Lol he said he was sorry but I told him He doesn't have to coz I've got someone else who wants to go. And he was like; What do you mean? blah blah.. sorry 😢 I told him that there's no need for him to act sad 🙂 but he didn't reply.. oh well

You have an honest guy here but you let your emotion and insecurity got in the way too much.The more you act disinterest and tried to be cool,the further you pushed him away.He knew exactly you were just acting up when you said you had someone else to go with.He was helping his cousin,his family,please cut him some slack.You aren't his wife or his girlfriend yet ,why are you already acting posessive? Even you are, more understanding and kindness would attract Aqua than the attitude 'me first'.
Sorry for the harsh words but I can see you partly are scared and insecured but it won't help to attract good guys.

You'r right Exam..

I accept I shouldn't of done it, I sort of regret it Coz it's not a first time I tend to say stuff before really thinking.. He said sorry twice and I acted like I could care less with a smile that it's fine and that I've got other options. It was really for the sake to find out if he was genuinely sorry or just saying it.. Makes me wanna bite my nails off since I'm not used to asking guys to hang out & I took it as a form of 'rejection'. I'd really be interested to find out what I should do to fix this!!!