Wise to talk with Aqua Boss?

Hi everyone! Appreciate your inputs on this matter of mine.

I have an Aqua Boss, he treats everyone else good including me. So good in fact that he doesn't offer any form of constructive critism any time at work or during our yearly appraisal. Knowing him for so long, he is the type of boss that would rather go silent when he is angry or frustrated. Oh, and he is moody too.

Lately, it seems to me from my observation that he is angry or not happy with the work result that i have achieve or perhaps i might have been sarcastic and hurt him. is it wise for me to approach him? I wanted to approach him to discuss any area of improvement for myself. If so, whats the best way to start off this conversation?

Posted by Indigolibra
Hi everyone! Appreciate your inputs on this matter of mine.

I have an Aqua Boss, he treats everyone else good including me. So good in fact that he doesn't offer any form of constructive critism any time at work or during our yearly appraisal. Knowing him for so long, he is the type of boss that would rather go silent when he is angry or frustrated. Oh, and he is moody too.

Lately, it seems to me from my observation that he is angry or not happy with the work result that i have achieve or perhaps i might have been sarcastic and hurt him. is it wise for me to approach him? I wanted to approach him to discuss any area of improvement for myself. If so, whats the best way to start off this conversation?

u can greet him normally like u usually do & then simply ask him, "hey is everything okay?" & if he asks y u ask, just say "you just seem kind of quiet that's all" or something like that. it could be nothing & he's just unaware he's exuding that feeling. n then most likely he'll tell u either nothing is wrong (b/c really nothing is) OR he'll be brief & say what's bothering him (& then you'll have your answer of what was bothering him) ---> this approach is only if u want to really know what's bothering him. so after that exchange (or if u want to skip that part just go straight to this) ---> just say something like "so i'm trying to improve my performance b/c im always trying to grow & do things better. are there any tips or advice u can give me on what u think i can work better on?" i think that's a good way to approach it & ask him yourself in a non-aggressive, understanding way. esp if he's not giving u constructive criticism on his own. good luck!

My most favorite boss ever was an aquarius. He wasn't one that gave feedback freely. His attitude was 'if everything's fine, then I don't need to. I'll let you know if there's a problem'. He was approachable but at the same time, he was a little intimidating because he never smiled, wasn't friendly - really kept that administrative distance (which is probably for the best. In reality he was a big ole teddy bear. He loved it that people were intimidated by him, but only respected the ones who weren't. If he thought you were doing a good job, he'd have your back. I only know this because I accidentally overheard someone complaining to him about me, and by golly, he had my back. I would have never known if that didn't happen.

My suggestion is just approach him with a pleasant, open demeanor and ask him what areas you can improve on. Then, take it to heart because he will most likely be honest. Either way, he'll say 'everythings fine' or he'll tell you where you can improve. If he offers suggestions, take them and apply them. He will lose respect for you if you don't.