Aqua guy don't wanna be friends?

This topic was created in the Aquarius forum by Lioness88 on Sunday, March 29, 2015 and has 11 replies.

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@Lioness88
11 YearsLeo

I had issue with an Aqua guy I was seeing and I know I've hurt him by admitting that I dated another guy because he don't wanna man up to make clear to me where our situation stand. Since then he ignored me and don't wanna forgive me about a month ago. Last night I just made a comment on one of his picture on his fb then boom all of a sudden I got unfriended. I texted him sorry and if he could forgive me, then he responded "stop pls". So I texted and asked if we can at least be friends coz I wasn't even mean to him the whole 5 months that we know each other. No reply. Are Aqua man really like this? I'm offering friendship if he cannot be special friend/intimate with me. I just don't like the idea that it's going to be a total shut down with him. Need some Aqua perspective please. Thanks!

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@Diora_Capri
17 Years

Just let him be. You have obviously broken his trust. If he wants to you to be a friend, itll be up to him and not due to your pestering.

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@MadMarchRam
11 Years1,000+ PostsAries

In my experience they like to take their time to figure out if they have feelings and how strong they are, if any.
Dating someone else and telling him was not your best move. If you wanted to know where he was you should have asked him.

It's best to just leave him be now.

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@Lioness88
11 YearsLeo

I am letting him be. We've been seeing each other for 5months, I have asked him more than a few times if we will ever gonna date. I really like him, but the adviced I got from here and from my friends is to try date other guys instead of waiting on him. I told him I was gonna start dating, and all he said was for me not to date other people because he like me. But I told him we were not dating at all. Although he only see me, I wanna know if we will be at least on a dating level, but he always give me a short one line response or no response at all. He wanted me only his and yet won't date me. I did date another guy while he was delayed thinking that it could distract me from what I'm feeling towards the Aqua guy, but it didn't, I still like my Aqua. But the only fault I think I did was being so honest and admit it to him. He didn't like it, I felt his disappointment when we were texting each other while he was on deployment. I felt the emotion and anger towards what he learned that I did. Since then he have been ignoring me. For the 5 months, this Aqua guy never ignored me or disappeared on me, that's why now that he shut off all communications with me I'm hurting. I'm not gonna bother him and will just wish that he comes back, even just as a friend. I offered friendship with him but he didn't respond. I thought Aqua likes to be friends with everyone?! No?!

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@MadMarchRam
11 Years1,000+ PostsAries

He told you he liked you, and didn't want you seeing other ppl. He either wanted time yo figure out if was ready to commit to more. Or wanted to keep you hanging on.
Either way you've made the right descion to leave him be.

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@The_eleventh_sign_11
16 Years5,000+ Posts

Bitch please take some accountability for your lack of ability to hold a man, take it, learn from it and move on is all the advice you need right now...

If you're with someone for 5 months that means you met him in december and its april now......5 months doesn't mean shit......So somewhere between then and now you weren't pleased with his level of commitment so you went to an astrology board and to your friends and asked for advice and we/they told you to see other men......but then just to be sure you went and asked your ex man if he would be ok with that and he said NO but you still did it while he was deployed and don't sugar coat the truth by saying you "dated" another man, you fucked another man....hes not gonna be pissed off that another guy took you out to Jack in a box...

I just had to get that out of the way to clear the air because I am all about the T and your sense of reasoning seems impaired, now I will share the T on this Aqua man.

First of all its not you, its him, it never has been and never will be about you......You made him feel envy and its something aquarian males have a hard time processing because it brings us down to the core of our humanity instead of being above the clouds where the air is crisp and we're in control we are down on the ground roiling in drama and smelling shit that we don't want to deal with so the person who dealt it needs to go.

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@AquariusJan25
11 Years

Once we make up our mind on something that's it...but it seems he's just in a negative rut atm and at any random time he could come running back IF the feelings burn as bright as they once did, it'll be on you to take him back or whatever.

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@WaterBearerer
11 YearsAquarius

just leave him alone lol u cant break his heart and be like all like "oh lets be friends"
he probably doesnst really like u as a person anymore because of the betrayal

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@only
11 Years

I hurt my Aquarius ex before really bad and it took him awhile to get over it but we have a child together and we finally communicate and told each other about our feelings we had then and now and realized we felt the same about each other we just never spoke it into existence or communicated our feelings properly which messed up a lot of years, only if we would have spoken and communicated better we could have fixed things and been happy all the years we wasted..... still love my Aqua guy though _?'