Aries Anger

So Iwas with my aries friend for a couple of days...He annoyed me one day and I just got a little distand and had an attitude. I decided to let it go since we dontsee each other much..So when I tried to get close to him again he shut me out. He got eally angry and told me I would not treat him th way was used to treting others and he int know what was used to but I was not gonna flip back and forth with him, etc. He said he went out of his way for me and I was acting shitty. Well the thing is I did have a reason why I was acting the way I did. I tried to tell him but he would night lighten up..so that made me have another attitude...I tried to makeup with him again and this man would NOT budge..he even got Irate. After I left I sent him atext and explained to him whyI had an attitude..and he said it was okay, and that when he isnt happy he just learned to shut his mouth because he doesnt want to say anything mean because you cant take that back. But the thing is this..Ihad NEVER seen this side of him...and I was like wtf? Is this normal?

LOL... didnt know what hit me....

So, I was with my aries friend for a couple of days...He annoyed me one day, and I just got a little distand and had an attitude. I decided to let it go since we don't see each other much..So when I tried to get close to him again he shut me out

He got eally angry and told me I would not treat him th way was used to treting others and he int know what was used to but I was not gonna flip back and forth with him, etc. (--Can you rephrase this part? I don't think I quite understand what you are trying to say)


He said he went out of his way for me and I was acting butterty. Well the thing is I did have a reason why I was acting the way I did. I tried to tell him but he would night(?) lighten up..so that made me have another attitude...I tried to makeup with him again and this man would NOT budge..he even got Irate.

After I left I sent him atext and explained to him whyI had an attitude..and he said it was okay, and that when he isnt happy he just learned to shut his mouth because he doesnt want to say anything mean because you cant take that back (yes, this is normal aries behavior. It looks like he really appreciates/appreciated you as a friend but whatever you did really hurt him. I'd suggest give him some time, and do not respond aggresively to his behavior, that would only make things worse if you want to continue being his friend. What's your sign?).

But the thing is this..Ihad NEVER seen this side of him...and I was like wtf? Is this normal?

I guess ima little confused as to whether or not we are still really cool. Cause that was wild to me.

Posted by softy
I guess ima little confused as to whether or not we are still really cool. Cause that was wild to me.

Well, I think only he knows the answer to that. All you can do is to continue to be yourself.

He said that I needed to know how to treat him...And I would not treat him they way I have other men. That I couldnt act one way, and then decide it was okay to act another....He said he is Tit for Tat. wow

Oooh, I see... Aries is offended and dissapointed. That's bad. I usually don't go back to people who make me feel that way. But, since he has let you know what you did to him and how he feels, he might be willing to give you a second chance... I would say, give him space and sometime (meaning weeks/months) to let the whole thing cool down. On the mean time I wouldn't recommend overwhelming him with explanations, questions or attention. Just let him be. If he initiates contact within the first weeks, that a good sign. He's cool with you.

Well.Yes. But he did some things I didnt like too, and instead of telling him....my attitude came through. I explained to im after I left what had bothered me. I told him that sometimes its hard for me to verbalize certain things and thats why I behaved that way. He said it was all goodand explained to me why he shut down. at this point I left it alone and giving him space. I was kinda shocked because I had been confused on how he felt about me or what his angle was, becaus healways seemed so shy....until this..lol

I was quite offended and disappointed as well. I feel like it was a good learning experience for us both. Not sure how he looks at it. I told him he hurt my feelings..and he said I hurt his. I'm not a very open person...and I'm thinking he needs expression.

"I'm not a very open person...and I'm thinking he needs expression."

^^^Yep, this is it. If you have a problem we need to hear it right away. We (or I) hate those who retreat or disappear without knowing what is going on. It might be that Aries tends to react fast to slights so we expect other people to do the same. It is something we need to learn that not many people react to things the way we do. You both have different ways of dealing with things so it comes down to understanding. Hopefully you can get there.

I hope we can too. what an experience.

when they get mad...walk away and give them space to work it out, settle down, and then talk. They won't hear a word you say when they are mad. And their anger doesn't always last long but when it happens..it happens big!

yeah...it was big.

Thanks Amethyst

I honestly didnt know he cared as much to even get that angry. Now I know.

you have grazed his passion.

Can you elaborate on that Bluemoon. Whatexactly does that mean

Yes. For certain things and people. I just ddnt know what you meant when you said I had "grazen his passion..and not to take Aries lightly". I just want to fully understand.

Yes..Because he always seemed kinda shy too me..... So yeah. It did take that in this case.

Im a Cancer. And I am always very cautious when it comes to relationships. I'm not clingy at all. I'm usually reserved. The reason I gotan attitude in the first place was because I had gotten jealous regarding something, and the feeling took me by surprise. After I left...I explained to him what I was feeling, and told him at the time it was hard for me to verbalize.

@Details...No I dont feel better. I feel bad.

I don't believe I'm too weak for aries or any sign for that matter. I just have to know where he is coming from. There are different boundaries for different people.

Posted by bluemoon2
Yes, it is normal.

Aries are ruled by Mars, the god of war. We all have an anger and we are aware of our anger. The more wiser ones of us will control and direct our anger, which is related to our passion. Our anger is our dark side. Just to let you know the force and devastation our anger can cause...

Anger has sent nations to war.
Anger destroys relationships in the heat of passion.

For many Aries, our anger is dormant. It does not mean it is not there. It is just dormant. It honestly takes a lot to provoke the devastating side of my anger... namely betrayal.

Anger is not just limited to Aries though.

This is so poetic 🙂

Thanks Bluemoon.

it's normal. when im angry i never yell, i get stone quiet and won't talk until i feel like it (pressure makes me stubborn)

We Aries do tend to be a bit of drama queens from time to time. Well I admit I do. I shout, scream, cry, slam doors but it all goes away the next morning. Give him time and space, don't take it personal. Be sweet and gentle and he will forgive you. Hopefully 😉

Thanks Mary Jane.