Aries in Relationships with Detached Zodiac Signs

I set my own pace and agenda. Once I have determined that you don't behave in a consistent manner, I quit trying to please you, because I know I can't. I find it to be much better for me to do what I think is best, in the way I think is best in these situations. At least I am happy that way, you see.

Well I have come from the other end of the scale where being tooo patient has been my problem and I have probably missed out on opportunities of meeting The Real Guy because I was waiting for someone to get their life sorted (or let me know he was just using me/whatever.)
Now I am very quick to dismiss the wrong guys (or maybe they are just easier for me to spot after all my bad experiences!)

I think just go with what feels right for you. Remember if guy thinks you are a great gal he will not let you go.
He will move up or down to your speed.

I see this trait in a lot of Aries friends as well as myself - worrying too much about how the other party will feel.

The lesson I think is to look after you. Nobody else will.

Aries moon here....

I have never had a problem with signs that are "detached" by nature, infact I prefer them; then again, I have alot of air in my chart, so that tempers my impatience a bit and also makes me "detached" As far as patience goes, if a man has shown me that he is worth my time and would like to take things slowly, then I can be very patient 🙂

In the mean time, I just do my own thing and I also set my own pace. If a potential mate can recognize this, give me my space,and respect that I do what is best for ME in my life depending on the situation at the time...bonus! He can make suggestions, paint a different picture and if I choose to oblige, so be it, if not, here is a tissue for ya! (Usually, the only ones that can do that pretty well are the Aquas, but I have a heavy Aqua influence, so it's hard for me to keep a straight face when they do that 😛)

From my experiences with Aries, I would suggest keeping yourself busy and try not to worry too much about the detached nature. Most of the time, we are trying to figure out our feelings about you and/or the relationship, or we're involved in our own world.

Detached signs can go jump off a cliff. I don't have time for their lack of the capability to bond like a normal human being. I have better things to worry about. When their handicapped asses finally catch up, they know where to find me.

lol...

Posted by xxnightbynight
Oooh la la. Something I've been dealing with lately... I've decided to set my own pace as well. As impatient as I get... I've been keeping myself busy and putting myself #1. Making plans with friends etc etc... Always communicate with your partner of interest whenever you begin to feel uncomfortable though - and if it begins to feel like a struggle, stop putting all your eggs into one basket.

Agreed....

I have to agree with everyone...sometimes the detached signs are worth the patience if they show they are worthy but then sometimes I have to say..."seriously, why can't you just bond like a normal human being?" as well. It's hard as hell sometimes to exercise the patience for us Aries, no doubt, that's when we have to focus on ourselves and being true to ourselves comes in to play. I wish others knew how hard it can be for us sometimes in relationships.

Posted by Run262
I have to agree with everyone...sometimes the detached signs are worth the patience if they show they are worthy but then sometimes I have to say..."seriously, why can't you just bond like a normal human being?" as well. It's hard as hell sometimes to exercise the patience for us Aries, no doubt, that's when we have to focus on ourselves and being true to ourselves comes in to play. I wish others knew how hard it can be for us sometimes in relationships.

I said what I said because I've been patient in the past. I just got dragged through their emotional bullshit and ended up getting burned. Waiting around for someone to make up their mind is bullshit and a rule of dating that shouldn't be broken- you don't wait around for someone. ESPECIALLY when they show classic signs of being detached and unable to bond normally like a normal human being. You could be missing out on someone/something better while you sit and twiddle your thumbs for this fool.

Again, I'm gonna go do my thing, and when they decide to get their shit together, they know where to find me.

Posted by aries415
I always read how others say do your own thing if you are in a relationship with a hot and cold person, but sometimes doing your own thing can lead to doing someone else. I can't see how those type of people don't think otherwise when they are dealing with fire signs and even Scorpios who demand affection from their mate. I have a feeling that they get dumped a lot, which makes them even worst in relationships.

100% agree I was recently with an Aqua who by trait was hold/cold here then there & eventually it did lead me to stray off & date others despite how much I liked him but it was because he never gave me a relationship so technically I was free to do what I wanted but never really did--in a whole year I never had a desire to because I wanted to be with him... & yet because of his ways I would stray to make myself feel better but it was him who would lead me to...

Just recently finally walked away from the 1/2 @ $ $ ed relationship.... hurting but I know it was the right thing to do.

What sign are we even best suited for? I cant seem to get this straight!

Cant handle a huge amount of detachment, although I too am Detached only in small doses though. I like to miss the person I'm with but also know they care and are thinking of me. Don't be too clingy or detached. Also I've been single long enough im not gonna get into a relationship just to feel alone i do that well enough on my own.

"I like to miss the person I'm with but also know they care and are thinking of me. Don't be too clingy or detached."

+1

Perception from a detached sign's point of view:

When you guys move too fast, we wonder about your sincerity and whether you are genuine. We look at it as "how can you love me after one or two months - you don't really, really know me; by golly, I'm still on good behavior here!". Also, when we feel we are being pushed, it scares us because we really haven't figured out how we feel about you yet. I won't say it if I don't mean it. I might feel it, but I have to decide if its real or not before I say it. And when you are impatient, it makes us wonder about your motives and maturity. And we definitely won't tolerated being pushed, forced or bossed.

Just sayin'. I think most of the caps would agree with me.

Attachment:

Good: We talk light and in depth
Bad: I love 20000 times, smooch, smooch, huggy, hug

Detachment:

Good: I have things to do so do you lets meet tomorrow at 2.
Bad: Never meeting, spratic meeting, not being a person of your word.