Aries Man dating multiple people....

I dont think its a good thing to ask in the early stages, what the other wants.... because the just say something (specially Aries, they just blur out whatever)..

I wouldnt take it seriously, but I think you made at least 2 mistakes in my opinion:

1. you asked him, you had the "what are we talk" - how can you know this after 2 months? (sometimes you know it from the beginning, but then its not necessary to ask what are we.... because there is no need to ask)

2. your answer: "I let him know that if that’s the case, we should just reach out to each other when we want to have sex" - OMG, how big lie is this, is the same category, answering hastily and hurtly

the thing is, if you had to start the "what we are" conversation, it means you are insecure and HE is the one to define, what you are.... why give him so much power?

there are some ladies, who advocate the "what are we" talk very early..... and that is why they are all happily married and in a committed relationship 🙂

For the moment, the most important thing is, how you behave.... your answer was very bad, considering you really want him.....

Posted by Pandora101
I dont think its a good thing to ask in the early stages, what the other wants.... because the just say something (specially Aries, they just blur out whatever)..

I wouldnt take it seriously, but I think you made at least 2 mistakes in my opinion:

1. you asked him, you had the "what are we talk" - how can you know this after 2 months? (sometimes you know it from the beginning, but then its not necessary to ask what are we.... because there is no need to ask)

2. your answer: "I let him know that if that’s the case, we should just reach out to each other when we want to have sex" - OMG, how big lie is this, is the same category, answering hastily and hurtly

the thing is, if you had to start the "what we are" conversation, it means you are insecure and HE is the one to define, what you are.... why give him so much power?

there are some ladies, who advocate the "what are we" talk very early..... and that is why they are all happily married and in a committed relationship 🙂

For the moment, the most important thing is, how you behave.... your answer was very bad, considering you really want him.....

I know it was kind of early but I wanted to know where his head was.....I’ve done the whole “go with the flow and see what happens” thing and it’s always turned to shit for me. I wouldn’t say I was insecure about it, I just wanted to know before I got ahead of myself.

I figured that only talking for sex would allow me to get what I want without shit getting crazy....

Now that I know what’s up I can have no expectations....I often get into my head and overthink so I had to know....

Posted by Mutabull
You obviously want more and he isn’t at the same place as you. Are you ok with him sleeping with other people at the same time as you? You are basically going to be a friend with benefits or a booty call with someone you wanted a relationship with... sounds like disappointment waiting to happen.

Why would he pursue you? If you don’t give him sex, he has other options.. don’t hold your breath.

I wouldn’t say I wanted a relationship cause it was too early to know that...but I’m okay with a fwb situation....I’ll date and get sex when I want 🤷🏾‍♀️ Only contacting each other for sex will keep it uncomplicated.

Well you got your answer. Since he is seeing other people he is clearly not that interested in you and if you become friends with benefits nothing will happen. You’ll just be a fuck friend. Your changes of becoming his girlfriend are low.

From experience I’m saying that if you become fuck friends you’re gonna end up having strong feelings for him ( you’re already almost there )

Instead of telling him about calling you when he wants to fuck, you should have told him that you’d rather stop here than continue with your fuck friend thing. You’re not a challenge for him anymore and he got bored. He has you where he wants you so he can play with you like a doll and boss you around. He already has other chicks around and you’re not any different than them at this point. Besides you already said you wanted to be serious with him. Maybe you should have told him that instead in a subtle way than agree with just the sex thing. I mean it’s up to you if you’re okay with being fuck friends without catching feelings.

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Posted by Mutabull
You obviously want more and he isn’t at the same place as you. Are you ok with him sleeping with other people at the same time as you? You are basically going to be a friend with benefits or a booty call with someone you wanted a relationship with... sounds like disappointment waiting to happen.

Why would he pursue you? If you don’t give him sex, he has other options.. don’t hold your breath.

I wouldn’t say I wanted a relationship cause it was too early to know that...but I’m okay with a fwb situation....I’ll date and get sex when I want 🤷🏾‍♀️ Only contacting each other for sex will keep it uncomplicated.

As long as you think you will be ok with it... i couldn’t do that with someone i really liked, enough to have “the talk” with.

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I felt myself starting to like him so I was like you know what? Let me see what’s going on before I allow feelings to develop....

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Posted by Mutabull
You obviously want more and he isn’t at the same place as you. Are you ok with him sleeping with other people at the same time as you? You are basically going to be a friend with benefits or a booty call with someone you wanted a relationship with... sounds like disappointment waiting to happen.

Why would he pursue you? If you don’t give him sex, he has other options.. don’t hold your breath.

I wouldn’t say I wanted a relationship cause it was too early to know that...but I’m okay with a fwb situation....I’ll date and get sex when I want 🤷🏾‍♀️ Only contacting each other for sex will keep it uncomplicated.

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"but I’m okay with a fwb situation....I’ll date and get sex when I want 🤷🏾‍♀️ Only contacting each other for sex will keep it uncomplicated."

Famous last words....

Sounds horrible

What an annoying situation I’ve been there...

Read why men love bitches and never bring up relationships again with a man.

Try to detach and live your best life. You’re a goddess you’ll find someone better hunny.

Quick update....we were supposed to link up twice and he “fell asleep” both times... ever since then, when ever he texts me or snapchats me I read it and don’t reply. He contacted me and said he’s at a loss for words and when I asked why he said “cause of how you act sometimes”. I asked how do I act and he said “never mind” I’m figuring he doesn’t like being ignored....

Posted by Orange_dreams
What an annoying situation I’ve been there...

Read why men love bitches and never bring up relationships again with a man.

Try to detach and live your best life. You’re a goddess you’ll find someone better hunny.

Started that book but never finished. I’ll have to revisit. Ugh, men are so annoying lol thanks for the kind word ❤️

Hahahaha that’s the typical relationship between aries and gem when trust issues come into the game. It happened the same with my aries. How do you know he didn’t really fall asleep? And if he didn’t what’s the problem? I mean you were ok with being fuck friends knowing he’s sleepig with other girls as well. You’re not no.1.

He did exactly what my aries did. Mind games.”cause how you act sometimes” means because you’re confusing because you switch moods and pull a 100 on him and you’re inconsisten so he doesn’t know what to believe.

You are getting attached. I mean you told him you’re ok with being fuck friends, he doesn’t want to sleep with you at that point, you get mad and stop texting him on purpose. Like for real? I think he is either getting bored or mad by your attitude because you told him you want to be fwb. I mean it’s ok to ignore him from time to time if you’re busy or whatever and say “hey you know im not in the mood tonight” but ignoring him on purpose when he was honest with you in the first place is not ok. You can either start being mature or loose him because eventually he’ll get bored of your games and so on.

I mean that’s my opinion and that’s how I see it based on my experience. And that’s me being blunt and straightforward haha

Posted by beebeeN
Quick update....we were supposed to link up twice and he “fell asleep” both times... ever since then, when ever he texts me or snapchats me I read it and don’t reply. He contacted me and said he’s at a loss for words and when I asked why he said “cause of how you act sometimes”. I asked how do I act and he said “never mind” I’m figuring he doesn’t like being ignored....

Tell him when he reaches out for sex again that you are seeing your other fwb