CALLING ALL ARIES!! I WENT THRU THE PHONE! HELP!

Im a libra gal with a pisces moon. My guy is a March Aries (Mar 23rd). Im 23 and he's 21. I don't know his moon sign. Anyway, we've known and liked one another since around age 10. We just recently started kicking it heavy this past July. He was getting out of something, no gf but he did say she was close, and I was in the same situation. . Anyway after 6 mths of talking heavy, hanging out briefly, and laying with each other (no sex) just talking till wee hrs of the morning, he say's he's never layed w/a woman just to talk and hold her. And he surely never waited so long to become physical. Anyway, long story short recently we finally crossed the line and had sex (2x). He's been pretty much the same. He's still affectionate, and talks of us being together, which is currently on hold because he owes money to the state, and is working non stop to pay them off in the next two mths. He says he wants to get somethings in order so I wont have to want for anything (like his car, and apt) and he's always busy and he doesn't want me to feel neglected, so he's asking for patience in that area. I let it ride??_for now. I've read that aries man don't like to be controlled or bossed around, so I figure my best bet is still make sure he knows what I want, and if he doesn't give it in time, I'll be hurt but I'll just leave. But recently he left his phone in my car, I know I shouldn't have done it, but I did. I was curious. Basically he reached out to some girl he used to kick it with back in the day. It didn't bother me that they had sex 2x a while back according to the text, it didn't even really bother me that he reached out to her, what bothered me is that he told her he wants things to change between them so they can talk more. He told her he needs time. (SAME SHIT HE TOLD ME!) Of course I haven't told him about it. I simply acted sweet like I never saw it. Because right now, he's not the least bit sneaky about his phone or anything else for that matter. One time he let me go through it front of him (And he didn't have a heads up to hit that "delete all" button either.lol). I felt if I flipped my canon like I wanted to, then that's when the passwords, and codes on everything would start, and I'd probably scare him off. Besides the text is a month old, and even though we weren't beefed out he was becoming impatient on and off with me because he wanted to take our relationship physical and I didn't at the time.

LOL. I guess i should've put that...Im sorry. I need help with the entire situation. Ever since i went through the phone, i question his sincerity. I dont want to get hurt. I've read that libra and aries are good together, due to opposites attracting, but i dont know whether im coming or going with him. I've always been so sure of myself when it came to hime because we've known each other for so long, but now i dont know. I guess now that i've got deeper feelings for him, im owrried.

Sounds like you treat him as if you could take him or leave him .. your reactions to him are shoulder shrugs.

You bring nothing to the table to get his blood surging and yearning for you ...


Let me see if I have this right = you want him to show how much he passionately wants you, while you remain indifferent.




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I dont know his moon sign. His bday is March 23rd 1990. Hope that helps. But if not I appreciate the reply anyway.

@P-Angel, boy you really are an aries.lol. I'm not sure how i came off like i want him to do all of the work, that is certainly not my intention. Im an air sign, so i might be showing signs that im up in the air with my feelings, but i doubt it considering i've told him i love him. i never explained what that love means, but i told him long before we became physical so he wouldn't think its out of lust. My feelings are truly sincere. But im afraid of being hurt, plus he's young i dont want to overwhelm him. What do you suggest?

P-Angel is no Aries... she just has Aries envy :p
I suggest you don't justify or explain yourself to anyone. You don't need anyone's approval. Just be you and be fabulous at being you 🙂

It does sound like you're in a bit of a grey area with him though... Have you had "the talk" with him yet to establish whether or not you are actually in an exclusive arrangement with him or are you just kinda hoping that if you play it cool, that things will go that way for you?

If the latter is the case, then you've left yourself wide open to get hurt. NEVER assume you're exclusive with a man. It's like a get outta jail free card for them to turn around and say "we never said we were exclusive" if you catch him 'cheating'.

Thing is, with Aries, we are either all into someone or we're not into it at all. No in betweens. Except for sex. We are into sex and we'll play the game and go through the motions to get some action, but we get bored easily and move on to the next challenge very quickly. We also tend to fall 'in love' quickly, but out of love even quicker. You'll know when he's serious about you. There'll be no 'is he or isn't he into me?'. You'll know for sure because he'll make it clear. If you don't know whether you're coming or going with him, it should be a clear sign that he's not that into it. And it's not you. It's just how things are. Don't take it personally. And unless he's working 6 hours away, there's no reason to put his affections for you on hold just because he owes the state money. It's a lame excuse. Guys come up with the most ridiculous excuses to get rid of us. And being the loving, understanding creatures we are, we believe them and sympathise with them. Girls just want to love and guys just want to f@ck! Girls play with sex to get love and guys play with love to get sex. It's the ugly truth.

They also love using the same line on every chick to get rid of them. (Of course I'm generalising here... there are some decent guys out there, but he doesn't sound like one of them. Sorry) He probably doesn't want to hurt you because he's still talking about 'wanting to be' with you, but using a lame excuse to not see you. He's probably also not being straight with you and keeping you on a leash by telling you all this in case he wants to have sex with you again. Guys are also notorious for that too.

Sorry if I've upset you. I suggest you don't contact him again and see if he comes running. If he does, then you know. If he doesn't, then you'l

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..., then you'll know too. I know it'll hurt if he doesn't and that sucks, but at least you'll be able to move on with your life and be a bit wiser to the ways of guys. You'll still have your pride in tact and be able to walk away with your head held high because you didn't grovel or chase him. That stuff can really go to their head and make them douchebags!!

I don't think this has much to do with him being Aries though. I think it's just men!

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@P-Angel, boy you really are an aries.

No she is not. Why do people say that?

Lotuslily: Thanks! You are more than right. However, yes I've already had the talk with him a couple times long before we even made it physical. He's been saying the same thing since day one. "He's not ready for a relationship, he wants to get some things in order first" I knew this before I made that step. And although I don't regret my actions with him, It still doesn't stop me from wanting to play my cards right. Im thinking of backing all the way off until he's ready for a relationship, because deep down that's truly want I want. I want a commitment. I'm actually tired of dating. I know what I want. I went into this with my eyes open, I can honestly say he hasn't gamed me once, never changing his story like most. But like I said, perhaps I should back up. Normally if we go more than 2-3 days without talking he'll come running. And that was before the sex too. Now that we are physical or at least have been twice, I don't feel bad about it, but I feel myself growing more attached. I don't want that knowing what I know. I read that aries men love to chase more than the average male, so I guess im afraid that if I back off he might go with someone else??_what do you think? I know I shouldn't want him anyway if he does that. So I dunno??_what are your thoughts??_

and im sorry you guys my grandma, fav cousin, and sister is an aries. she fussed just like them, so i just assumed. And the way she took the post a completly different way made me think, must be an aries. sorry but to me they tend to take stuff wrong, and secretly seem a little sensitve. The aries in my fam overract to every darn thing. lol

Posted by impresswho
LOL, I think she was being sarcastic.

ooops, my bad.

*Must. Get. Coffee*

I believe he is trying to keep his options open...which isn't a bad thing on its own...HOWEVER he has already acted like he is in love with you and the two of you even had sex.

And now he is trying to reestablish a relationship with this other woman behind your back.
Which raises a few questions in my mind: Why did he have to act like he was so in love with you? Was it all just a game to him? Why did he have to have sex with you if he wasn't planning on committing himself to you? Perhaps he just changed his mind about you? Is he going to change his mind THIS quickly about everything? Can he be trusted at all?

Whatever the reason, I see red flags. It could be that I'm overanalyzing the situation but his actions nonetheless don't seem all that innocent to me.

agree with brittannie. he's sleazy. i wouldn't trust him.
seems like he wants to juggle numerous girls at the same time.

Posted by bluemoon9043834
Thing is, with Aries, we are either all into someone or we're not into it at all. No in betweens. Except for sex. We are into sex and we'll play the game and go through the motions to get some action, but we get bored easily and move on to the next challenge very quickly. We also tend to fall 'in love' quickly, but out of love even quicker.

It is true that we are into someone or we are not. However, depending on other placements in the chart, the rest may or may not be true. There is much more to a personality than the sun sign. I don't have sex for the sake of having sex because it feels empty and meaningless for me. I also do not see it all as a challenge... or conquest. But like I said, it depends on the chart as a whole.

Ha ha.. I'm a leo moon and scorp rising... they could both be responsible for my insane libido right? Although... Impresswho is my astro twin and she seems like a total lady... so maybe I'm just a natural born tramp! haha.

Posted by starlover
Unless i am mistaken, he has moon, venus, mars in Aquarius....forget him he is a headfuck

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Posted by Brittannie
I believe he is trying to keep his options open...which isn't a bad thing on its own...HOWEVER he has already acted like he is in love with you and the two of you even had sex.

And now he is trying to reestablish a relationship with this other woman behind your back.
Which raises a few questions in my mind: Why did he have to act like he was so in love with you? Was it all just a game to him? Why did he have to have sex with you if he wasn't planning on committing himself to you? Perhaps he just changed his mind about you? Is he going to change his mind THIS quickly about everything? Can he be trusted at all?

Whatever the reason, I see red flags. It could be that I'm overanalyzing the situation but his actions nonetheless don't seem all that innocent to me.

Thank you! If he was trying to re-establish a relationship with the girl I cant honestly get mad, which is one reason why I wish I never went through his phone. Because now I question everything. I've been proven wrong a couple times, like the other day he and my cousin were at his house, and my cousin asked me to come get him from over there. I pulled up and there was a car parked out front. I know how everybody's car looks that lives there, (from being over there so much, Im no stalker??_lol) Anyway so instantly my radar went off. Im like if he doesn't come out w/my cousin then its probably a girl's car. So out walks him and my cousin, and his aunt walks out to the car and got in. I felt dumb.lol. Then later that night around 11:00pm he was texting when I went in the room, radar again. Then less than 3 seconds later I get a text from him, it was me he was texting "Asking me what I was doing because I was in a different room than him". I need to get a grip. When he reached out to the girl it was a month ago (2 mths now that is December), I don't know how many times he reached out to her, because I only had his phone for less than 23 hrs. lol. But the text was a month old, and the month he did it he and I were on outs. I had told him we could just be friends, because I wasn't ready for a physical relationship w/him. He's never told me he loves me, I just think he cares about me because we grew up together, and our families are close. And it was my decision to take it to the next level. He never changed his story. It's stayed the same. So he hasn't lied and I don't feel manipulated like I

Posted by bluemoon9043834
Because right now, he's not the least bit sneaky about his phone or anything else for that matter. One time he let me go through it front of him (And he didn't have a heads up to hit that "delete all" button either.lol)

Because he had nothing to hide, to feel guilt or shame for... perhaps there wasn't anything going on with them? But you started the problems...

LOVE YOUR COMMENTS!! And your right, i shouldn't have went through the phone. Because before that day I would tackle him if he touched my phone. My bestfriend thinks that when I asked him if he's talking to anyone else on a serious level and he said "no" that I should've brought up what I saw in the phone. I think she's NUTS! What do you think?? I don't want to tell him, because that when he'll start hiding stuff and putting codes on everything. Right now he's comfortable around me. Plus we are not committed and he never said we were. The only thing that bothers me is that he told her the same thing he told me which was "I just need time" I went home an slept on it, and im thinking im going to leave him be. It will be hard because I love him, but I honestly feel he would break my heart (unintentionally of course) but he'll do it when I look up and months have passed and we still aren't official. So I rather back out now, before I get hurt. I have to admit my biggest fear is that he wont come after me ??

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Posted by starlover
Unless i am mistaken, he has moon, venus, mars in Aquarius....forget him he is a headfuck

^^^^ This right there.

Oh boy...

If you want this guy, you're going to have to have patience and put in some work. Aqua placements = work. They're tough eggs to crack.

anything worth having is worth working for. 😉

i love aqua placements, personally. besides isn't the OP a libra? libra and aquarius are trine, so a good match, yes?

there's a lot of aqua moon/venus that happens on this board in general. it's pathetic that people try to bully on those placements. my best friends all have either moon or venus in aqua, and i wouldn't trade them for anything else in life.

you just have to be patient, as you said.

they're not evil. they're not trying to play games. their feelings just work a bit differently than the feminine sign ones.

anyone that says otherwise is projecting their bad experiences onto you, or is trolling.

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Hi there! Thanks for your post. I've delt with aquarius before they were both wonderful. The only thing I couldn't get with were the disappearing spells. I hated it! I later found out he was just going ghost on me but everyone around him. My ex bofriend in high school was an aqua male. Sweet, funny, caring, and very generous. WHEN HE WAS AROUND that is??_lol. My current aries love just recently told me that he's be distant from everyone lately, and that when he gets mad he will get ghost for a couple days and NO ONE not even his mother can get ahold of him. He says he be needing to clear his head. I love this aries guy. He's very cool, and down to earth and when we're together we talk and laugh for hrs about everything under the sun. We just have one problem, im ready for something real, I wont go as far as marriage but im definitely ready for a warm caring and loving FUN committed relationship. He obviously is not ready for multiple reasons which is fine. Just not what I want. I want more, and I'd fight for him if I thought I was going to get what I wanted out of it. But deep down in my heart I don't think he's rea

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Posted by bluemoon9043834
Thing is, with Aries, we are either all into someone or we're not into it at all. No in betweens. Except for sex. We are into sex and we'll play the game and go through the motions to get some action, but we get bored easily and move on to the next challenge very quickly. We also tend to fall 'in love' quickly, but out of love even quicker.

It is true that we are into someone or we are not. However, depending on other placements in the chart, the rest may or may not be true. There is much more to a personality than the sun sign. I don't have sex for the sake of having sex because it feels empty and meaningless for me. I also do not see it all as a challenge... or conquest. But like I said, it depends on the chart as a whole.

Ha ha.. I'm a leo moon and scorp rising... they could both be responsible for my insane libido right? Although... Impresswho is my astro twin and she seems like a total lady... so maybe I'm just a natural born tramp! haha.

LOL, lady in the streets freak under the sheets 😛. I do like to bend ova and touch my toes, lord knows when I do that??_.I luv to make it rain, hehe.

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Hahaha! That is funny! I always tell my girlfriends "my mom said i should keep my knees together, but that doesnt mean i cant bend over and touch my toes!" we're sounding a bit more alike now, so i don't feel like i became little miss promiscuous on my own accord anymore. Maybe our sun/moon/rising is to blame for our nymph naughtiness afterall 😄 either way -- i'm happy with my attitude towards sex. Too many beautiful men out there to just stay home every night eating the same piece of meat for dinner for the rest of my life! I like sampling all the exotic dishes out there in the world.

I do understand it's not for everyone though so no judgement on those who don't like empty experiences. As long as no judgement is passed on those who can do it.

OH LOTUSlily!!lmbo!! Tell me ALL aries dont think like this...nevermind, because my cousin is a aries, and she used to shock me on the things she used to do for husband. Im like uh oh!! lol. I'm spontaneous myself, quick question my girls will think im crazy for asking but im curious, my aries crush told me i be showing out when we (you know) that he be trynah keep up. Says if it wern't so personal he'd tell me mom she raised me right! lol. This is good coming from the fiery aries male right? I mean i know they like to be in control in everything. I dont want him thinking im trying to out do him, shoot i be in the zone. Libra's are fiesty in the bedroom too!lol. Only when it's deserved of course 😉

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Posted by starlover
Unless i am mistaken, he has moon, venus, mars in Aquarius....forget him he is a headfuck

ha ha ha.....today's word is 'headfuck'

Help spread today's word🙂

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I always think that "Today's Word" should be legs....

I didn't read all of this thread all that closely, but it would be my opinion that he is in it just for the sex. He will you give nothing more than you already have. If this is not what you really want, time to cut your loses and run, cause it ain't gonna' get any better.

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Posted by starlover
Unless i am mistaken, he has moon, venus, mars in Aquarius....forget him he is a headfuck

ha ha ha.....today's word is 'headfuck'

Help spread today's word🙂

I always think that "Today's Word" should be legs....

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usually it is🙂

Are you quite sure we didn't go to school together? Tutenkhamun High?

Sorry but I kinda agree with the straight-forward answer, P-Angel gave.

If you love him and want to be with him and you are sincere then you wouldn't be in this jam. You would know to be respectful of him and his intentions. If you DON'T like the fact that he is relaxed and you DON'T like that he doesn't want a relationship then that means you DON'T like him and you are barking up the wrong tree.

He has told you time and time again that he doesn't want to be in a relationship at this time.

He has been honest and open with you.

I can see why he is so dreamy as a person, to you he seems like such a catch. He just might be. But every person deserves their own life of their choosing.

He is his own person, with his own wants and needs. Men shouldn't have to be under the thumb of a woman who desires him.

This is a pivotal time for all Aries, and so many of us are shaping our futures right now during these major astrological transits. Why is he wrong for wanting to do as he pleases?

Believe it or not there are people, both men and women, who can relate to humans, have sex with each other, or just flirt and not get so attached to the person that they are wondering what they last tweeted.

When I love someone I want to do my part. What I see going on with so many folks that come to the boards and complain about some Aries guy in their life that doesn't want a relationship right now, is that the poster can't seem to understand that love is an action word, a giving experience, not some leash you get to put on your man. I know this sounds crass, but seriously: that doesn't sound like something an Aries wants to be with.

People who can't understand that friendships and flirts and life's acquaintances can be just that. Without agenda. Just living life and not trying to nail down some kind of contract before you see them next on day-7.

Try a little tenderness. Try to be a better version of you. Why is the Aries male asked to bend and break or fit a mold and be something they are not in order to make you happy? Jealously, obsessiveness, laziness, stalking, and desperation doesn't appeal to me and probably a lot of guys being harassed in this manner.

The OP was regarding seeking advice. I can't see what more to say as an Aries male, other than: try giving us some understanding. Please stop trying to make us into some groomed, cleaned-up, classier version of ourselves.

If you regret having sex with someone then stop it. And d

*And don't blame him all the time for everything. If you can't stand to be with him, move on. You want to have control and power over certain things, but maybe your best, as in everything that involves people, is to cooperate.

Posted by ALibra
OH LOTUSlily!!lmbo!! Tell me ALL aries dont think like this...nevermind, because my cousin is a aries, and she used to shock me on the things she used to do for husband. Im like uh oh!! lol. I'm spontaneous myself, quick question my girls will think im crazy for asking but im curious, my aries crush told me i be showing out when we (you know) that he be trynah keep up. Says if it wern't so personal he'd tell me mom she raised me right! lol. This is good coming from the fiery aries male right? I mean i know they like to be in control in everything. I dont want him thinking im trying to out do him, shoot i be in the zone. Libra's are fiesty in the bedroom too!lol. Only when it's deserved of course 😉

Again, i cant speak for everyone, but in general: We are a naughty bunch behind closed doors and the naughtier our playmates are, the better. But we don't do it FOR our playmates. We do it for ourselves. Always do things for yourself. Never try and win the approval of someone else with your actions. Chances are, whatever you're doing to win their approval is not true to you. If that person happens to like what ur doing, then bonus. If not... Oh well!

Don't worry about showing an Aries up in bed dear! We'll love it and since we're very competitive, we'll just take it as motivation and inspiration to unleash our kink even more to get one up on you. We love good lovers and great sex is bound to keep us coming back for more. But! Like heroic Guy said, if you regret having sex with someone, don't do it again. And don't carry on doing it just to get them to keep coming back. He'll clock what ur up to and then he'll be out the door before you know what's hit you.

Heroic Guy speaks a lot of sense (to me anyway) and he's a dude.... And an Aries.... You should take heed of his messages. Don't try and change someone's minds for them. If he's told you he doesn't want a relationship, then that's exactly what he means. Guys tell us exactly who they are and what they want all the time. We just choose not to hear it or listen to what they're telling us because we Want something different. It's a bit of a selfish thing humans have going on. Just because you might want love doesn't mean you should dismiss what the person ur into wants or doesn't want. There's nothing worse than feeling trapped in a situation you don't want to be in. That's when you'll come off second best

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Because that's when we'll start bucking and kicking our cage doors in and doing what we need to do to break free.

After everything that's been said here, the bigger picture is telling me you need to let go of this dude and find someone who does want to be in a relationship and see if you two are compatible and want the same things from life. It sounds a bit shitty, but you kinda need to treat choosing a partner the same as you would when you're looking for something to wear to a special occasion. Once you've tried it on, you need to assess and prioritize whether or not it's a proper fit for you, whether or not it goes with the rest of your outfit and whether or not it's appropriate for where you want to go. If not, toss it aside and look for something else that would match up better. You don't cling to mismatched outfits.... Don't cling to mismatched relationships either.

Sounds like you know what you want (A relationship) and if you've expressed that to him and can't wait then I'd tell him that when he's ready he should come find you. But until then you should try to find someone who will be on the same page with you.

I say this because I was with a leo for several years and I wanted a relationship, but he just was never ready. So finally this scorpio comes along and he wants to be on the same page with me. It was a hard decision because I really care for the leo, but in the end I had to go with the person who wanted what I wanted. Now if you really care for him and you're willing to wait then go for it. You probably weren't going back and forth with the same crap for 4 yrs with this guy so maybe you'd be more lenient. Just don't settle for less than what you want. You deserve to be in a relationship if that's what you want

Posted by happykitsune
Sounds like you know what you want (A relationship) and if you've expressed that to him and can't wait then I'd tell him that when he's ready he should come find you. But until then you should try to find someone who will be on the same page with you.

I say this because I was with a leo for several years and I wanted a relationship, but he just was never ready. So finally this scorpio comes along and he wants to be on the same page with me. It was a hard decision because I really care for the leo, but in the end I had to go with the person who wanted what I wanted. Now if you really care for him and you're willing to wait then go for it. You probably weren't going back and forth with the same crap for 4 yrs with this guy so maybe you'd be more lenient. Just don't settle for less than what you want. You deserve to be in a relationship if that's what you want

ok - this is totally off topic but I am doing a survey...
Are you 100% in love with the Scorp?
Is the the scorp 'The One'?
or just 'The One that was there at the Time'?
Do you still pine for the Leo?


No judgement, just curious.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by happykitsune
Sounds like you know what you want (A relationship) and if you've expressed that to him and can't wait then I'd tell him that when he's ready he should come find you. But until then you should try to find someone who will be on the same page with you.

I say this because I was with a leo for several years and I wanted a relationship, but he just was never ready. So finally this scorpio comes along and he wants to be on the same page with me. It was a hard decision because I really care for the leo, but in the end I had to go with the person who wanted what I wanted. Now if you really care for him and you're willing to wait then go for it. You probably weren't going back and forth with the same crap for 4 yrs with this guy so maybe you'd be more lenient. Just don't settle for less than what you want. You deserve to be in a relationship if that's what you want

ok - this is totally off topic but I am doing a survey...
Are you 100% in love with the Scorp?
Is the the scorp 'The One'?
or just 'The One that was there at the Time'?
Do you still pine for the Leo?


No judgement, just curious.

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Sure I don't mind answering.

I'm not in love with the scorpio. He's a great guy and so far everything I've ever hoped for in a man. He has come the closest to "The One", but no one knows who the one is until time has passed. I've had other options throughout the time I've been with the leo, but none of them had the wow factor that took me away from the leo. I decided to be with him because after thinking I would still stay with the leo this scorpio began to slowly become someone I wanted to be with and someone I could really see myself with. At one point I had thought the leo was the one for me, but the scorpio proved to be what I wanted and more, and he was on the same page as me. No I don't pine for the leo anymore. I still think about him every so often as he often had trouble with poverty, but I know his friends won't let him starve so I don't contact him

Thanks babe. As long as you are a happykitsune, then all is well.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Thanks babe. As long as you are a happykitsune, then all is well.

Hahaha... I want to know about this survey! It sounds entertaining.

And blegh!!! Choosing a scorp over a Leo sounds like an awful idea to me! Hahaha.... Leos are my favzies and scorps are on the top of my shitlist!

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Thanks babe. As long as you are a happykitsune, then all is well.

I am very happy, but I'm in charge of my happiness, not him. He does help a little tho 🙂

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Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Thanks babe. As long as you are a happykitsune, then all is well.

Hahaha... I want to know about this survey! It sounds entertaining.

And blegh!!! Choosing a scorp over a Leo sounds like an awful idea to me! Hahaha.... Leos are my favzies and scorps are on the top of my shitlist!

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Hehe I get along with both so doesn't really matter to me. I just understand scorpios a little better cus my chart is filled with it. Besides it's not really about the sign, but about whether he respects you and you share common interests to build a friendship/relationship on

there's good and bad all over the zodiac - you gotta call'em as you see 'em



the survey thing is a long story

Being a sensible DXP chick I know not to put my life on hold waiting for a guy to short his shit out to my satisfaction so my quest for Love goes on....

I am wrestling with the question - What happens if I settle for Mr Not Exactly What I Want But He'll Do and suddenly the Love of my Life reappears deciding that I am suddenly ringworthy?
Do I stay with Mr Not Exactly because that is the right thing to do?
Do I leave, hurting Mr Not Exactly which isn't fair to him - he has done nothing wrong

All rhetorical because I don't know if I will ever meet anyone else who 'gets' me.
Of course I assume that the guy I love hates me because he isn't married to me, so why would he suddenly change one day?
But I have decided it is ok to muse about him because that will not stop an even better guy from asking me out, will it?

Gives me something to think about instead of grumbling that I am not having hot steamy Taurus sex every night.
Ignore me. I am a wreck. totally un-Arian😢 I am a disgrace!

This is how I read it (the original post). Please feel free to correct me if I have interpreted it incorrectly...

After 6 months of talking heavy, hanging out briefly —he wanted to take our relationship physical and I didn't at the time?? but they did the wild thing anyway.
OK

He's still affectionate, and talks of us being together, which is currently on hold because he owes money to the state, and is working non stop to pay them off in the next two mths. He says he wants to get somethings in order so I wont have to want for anything (like his car, and apt) and he's always busy and he doesn't want me to feel neglected, so he's asking for patience in that area.
OK

I interpret that as they will be a couple? (?engaged/not sure)— just as soon as he sorts some shit out.
I hear him asking for time to get organized, not that he doesn't want to couple up with OP.
OK

Dude is telling another chick the same thing?
Not Ok.

You should track her down, ring him on a conference call and both dump his ass.

Okay now that last one about tracking them down on conference call had me bursting out laughing and im at work! lol. But goodmorning, and thanks everybody for the comments, even the ones that off topic.lol. I love it! As far as me and my aries, i love him to pieces and not just as someone im interested in but as a friend. A long time friend. and in No way in hell do i regret having sex with him...oh no no..that was fun.lol However being the type of woman i am, after so long i will get emotional and thoughts will start to ring. I've decided not to worry myself to a bloody polp over what he said to the other girl, its obvious he feels he's free to say and do whatever he wants since he's not in a relationship, hence even though ive decided not to worry about it, i surely wont forget that he did it.

And to Heroic guy, YOU ROCK! Thanks. I know guys dont like commenting on this zodiac stuff, so i really appreciate the input. and your right. I dont want to change this aries guy, he almost buckled once and gave me the relationship but he didnt really want to. He made that clear. and i didnt want him to be with me and start cheating or neglecting me because in honesty he wasn't ready and made that clear. I told i've told him i respect the fact that he want to get his life in order and that its one of the things that attracts me so much. I am willing to let him get himself together, and in an effort to protect my heart while he does that, i prefer to be his friend. Someone he can count on, and talk to without all the mushiness, and pressure. If we end up together, then EXCELLENT...if not, then we still have our friendship. I have to admitt im hoping im the one he chooses in the end and its a little scary right now because things are up in the air, but im goign to bring them back down and just be cool with him. DO you think this will help? Even if you say no, im gona do it.lol. but i just want to hear your opinion.

by the way, i hadn't talked to him in 2 days which is somewhat normal, so i texted him "good morning, and i hope he has a good day (with a smiley face)" and that i'll talk to him later. General nice gesture dont you think? Im sorry im a libra and if you haven't noticed we think ALOT!!! lol

I will 🙂

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
there's good and bad all over the zodiac - you gotta call'em as you see 'em



the survey thing is a long story

Being a sensible DXP chick I know not to put my life on hold waiting for a guy to short his shit out to my satisfaction so my quest for Love goes on....

I am wrestling with the question - What happens if I settle for Mr Not Exactly What I Want But He'll Do and suddenly the Love of my Life reappears deciding that I am suddenly ringworthy?
Do I stay with Mr Not Exactly because that is the right thing to do?
Do I leave, hurting Mr Not Exactly which isn't fair to him - he has done nothing wrong

All rhetorical because I don't know if I will ever meet anyone else who 'gets' me.
Of course I assume that the guy I love hates me because he isn't married to me, so why would he suddenly change one day?
But I have decided it is ok to muse about him because that will not stop an even better guy from asking me out, will it?

Gives me something to think about instead of grumbling that I am not having hot steamy Taurus sex every night.
Ignore me. I am a wreck. totally un-Arian😢 I am a disgrace!

You can worry about the other person being wronged, but in the end you're the one who has to live with the person you choose. Obviously if the person you're with isn't what you hoped for and something better comes along you shouldn't settle. Those who settle will probably be unhappy because they think "if I just would have gone with that guy". It's not wrong to want what you're looking for. He's done nothing wrong, but neither did you or I when our exes decided we weren't the right ones and left us. We have to look at it logically and realize that if the person you're with isn't up to your standards (assuming you have realistic standards) you will probably find someone better. Nothing wrong with that. We date so that we can find Mr. Right. Don't shortchange yourself to please someone else because you won't be happy in the long run.

@ happykitsune i couldn't agree more. Which is why im willing to be his friend, and back off. Best believe im going to date, and continue to search. I wont be waiting for him romantically, but we started out as good friends and thats how i'd like for it to end, IF it has to end. You know...

Sounds like he`s just using you. If he didn`t want relationship why did he have sex with you?
Heh, "He is His Own Person" The fuck? It doesn`t mean he can use women for his physical need.

Alibra, Yes he has his own wants and needs and rights BUT how about responsibility?

LMBO AT KALIBRA!! He cant use me. I enjoyed what we shared, i went in with my eyes wide open. Im'a grown woman. He cool peoples. I just needed to get a grip, and I have this forum and all you wonderful people to thank for bringing me back down to earth. Us libra's can be so mushy and emotional, and tend to float to a fantasy world from time to time. Im good now tho. If i ran into another aries i wouldn't hesitate to date him, especially since i know what to do now 😉

OK, never mind. For a grown woman you sound lil naive.
*shrug*

How do i sound naive??Now Im confused.

All i said is i dont feel used. Using me would be telling me he wants a relationship, and then afterwards making up excuses on why he cant be in one. And if i were being naive i wouldn't even being on the forum nor would i be backing off to go date other people. I'd be waiting on him and hanging on his every word. So please, feel free to explain where i was being naive? I'd just love to know.

@RNAP

King Tut High!!!!! I remember it all so well!!!!


Remember "Embalming" class in the burial chamber of the Great Pyramid? Ha, the only thing I embalmed was myself. *snickering*


How about a rousing round of the old school battle song!!!!

^^^^^

Hmmm, doesn't like my link.

Try

Posted by dofacc

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by starlover
Unless i am mistaken, he has moon, venus, mars in Aquarius....forget him he is a headfuck

ha ha ha.....today's word is 'headfuck'

Help spread today's word🙂

I always think that "Today's Word" should be legs....

I didn't read all of this thread all that closely, but it would be my opinion that he is in it just for the sex. He will you give nothing more than you already have. If this is not what you really want, time to cut your loses and run, cause it ain't gonna' get any better.

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Sorry,but I agree with^^^^ this post.
You two had sex, the next day he told you he needs time, and you found out that he`s been sleeping with another girl, also whom he said the same shit 'he needs time'?? Is it really what happened?

Would you answer my questions from my previous post?
Why did he sleep with you if he wasn`t ready for commitment? Did you ever ask him this question?

The text message I saw was a month old, and he and I were on the outs at the time he sent it. We were not committed, and we were not having sex when he sent it. And according to the text, they had sex only 2 times and the last time was a minute ago. And in regards to your previous question (my bad if I skipped it) but, at first he wanted to cross the line claiming that it would just be another step bringing us closer, that he KNEW for a FACT that he wanted to be in a relationship with me once he got things in order. I understood, but I was still scared. So when he backed off, and respected my decision I decided "why not", and I MYSELF, initiated it. The day I went there, he even said we don't have to because I don't want you thinking that's all I want, because I've never waited this long, or would have waited this long if I didn't care. So I went there. But like I said, I don't regret crossing the line with him. Now I just want to protect my emotions and feelings by backing up off the relationship thing with him. I'm going to take you all's advice and date others that are looking for the same thing as me. However I'll remain cool with the aries, because I don't see that he played me or tricked me in anyway. Do you??

Come to think of it, thats probably why ole girl thinks im naive...I dont know. Maybe yall can see something i cant. I appreciate the input anyway 🙂

Posted by dofacc
@RNAP

King Tut High!!!!! I remember it all so well!!!!


Remember "Embalming" class in the burial chamber of the Great Pyramid? Ha, the only thing I embalmed was myself. *snickering*


How about a rousing round of the old school battle song!!!!

Remember it like it was yesterday.

You guys on the chariot team......crazy jocks

Posted by starlover
Unless i am mistaken, he has moon, venus, mars in Aquarius....forget him he is a headfuck

Wow, that's never a good combo. Been there. Run for your life.